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Life in your 40s can hit hard, and if you're feeling the weight of it all right now, you are not alone. In this episode, Abby gets real and personal about a difficult situation she's been navigating with one of her kids, and how the stress of it has started to feel like so much more than just "situational anxiety." Between caring for our families, keeping up with the house, showing up at work, and being everyone else's emotional rock, it can feel impossible to also take care of ourselves. But here's the thing: it IS possible, and it looks different for everyone. Key Topics Covered: What situational anxiety actually is and how it can slowly start to feel all-encompassing.Why our 40s often bring a wave of hard life events, for us and the people we love most.Amy's observation about why Abby handles stress better than almost anyone she knows.The difference between situations we can't avoid and ones where we actually do have a choice.Practical things we do to take care of ourselves when life feels overwhelming.Why our brains crave predictability and what to do when life refuses to give us that. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast INFRARED SAUNA: https://amzlink.to/az05Rg8T8ZNO5  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

What does it really take to create lasting behavior change, especially in the middle of busy motherhood? In this conversation, our friend and behavior change expert Karin Nordin shares a refreshing, research-backed approach rooted in compassion rather than discipline. Drawing from her background in health communication and her own personal struggles, Karin breaks down why traditional advice around habits often falls short and what to focus on instead. This episode offers a practical and realistic framework for moms who want to follow through on their goals without burnout, all while embracing a more flexible and sustainable way to create change. Key Topics Covered: The trampoline metaphor and how it helps reframe all-or-nothing thinking.Why the word “habit” may be overemphasized and commonly misunderstood.The difference between discipline and conscientiousness and why it matters.Real-life examples of what qualifies as a habit and what does not.Coaching strategies for implementing a consistent morning workout routine.How to approach changes in eating patterns without relying on restrictions.What a ritual check-in is and how to use it effectively.Why routines should stay under 30 minutes.The shift from focusing on consistency to prioritizing frequency. Get your free Procrastination resource here: https://bodybrainalliance.com/herself Follow Karin on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/karinnordinphd/ Karin’s Website: https://bodybrainalliance.com/ For more information on Karin's programs: bodybrainalliance.com/change-academy LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

What actually creates deep, meaningful friendships? In this episode, we explore the idea of radical honesty and why it might be the missing piece in your closest relationships. Inspired by a therapist’s take and rooted in Amy’s long-held belief, we unpack what it really means to show up truthfully with the people in your inner circle.  Key Topics Covered: • Why radical honesty is essential for deeper friendships. • The impact of people pleasing on adult relationships. • Navigating anxious attachment and overthinking. • Recognizing and breaking co-dependent patterns. • The role of tone and delivery in honest conversations. • Simple, practical one-liners to start being more honest today. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Long-term relationships often come with recurring challenges that don’t fully resolve, no matter how many times you revisit them. In this episode, we open up about the patterns that keep resurfacing in our own relationships and what it looks like to navigate those tensions with more awareness and intention. From communication differences to division of responsibilities, we share how we’re learning to approach these sticking points differently, including adjusting expectations, asking for what we need, and recognizing when support might need to come from outside the partnership. Differences between verbal processing and internal processing in communication.Navigating humor versus emotional support in sensitive moments.The tendency for partners to jump into problem-solving mode.Identifying when to lean on friends or therapists for deeper support.Perceived imbalance in household and family responsibilities.The role of recognition and appreciation in partnerships.Gaining perspective through shared experiences and role reversal.The added strain of parenting a child with special needs on a relationship. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Listen to Episode #333: Our Holy Grail Advice for Relationships : https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/333-our-holy-grail-advice-for-relationships/id1489878793?i=1000761069923 HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Reflecting on the past ten years feels especially meaningful as Abby turns 40 and we both hit a decade of motherhood. While there’s no version of the last ten years where everything would’ve been done “perfectly,” there’s so much growth, perspective, and beauty in what we’ve learned along the way. This conversation is your reminder to look back on your own journey with a glass-half-full mindset because you’re likely doing better than you think. From redefining rest and challenging the idea that your best years are behind you to letting go of the “start next week” mindset, we’re sharing the lessons that have shaped us and the ones we wish we had embraced sooner. Topics We Cover: Why rest doesn’t have to be earned and how to actually make time for it.Letting go of the “work for the weekend” mindset.The reality of building meaningful, trustworthy friendships in your 30s and 40s.Why “starting next week” isn’t a strategy.Abby’s journey with binge eating and the importance of starting now.The reminder that it’s never too late to change your habits or lifestyle.Honest reflections on early motherhood and what Amy wishes she knew.The power of asking for help and leaning on your support system.Simple resets, including the impact of a 20-minute break.Real-life topics like period cups and navigating everyday womanhood.Encouragement to reflect on your own growth over the past decade. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Colorsciene Sunscreen Affiliate Link: https://www.amazon.com/Colorescience-Protection-Shield-Formula-Medium/dp/B093W7CDWD?th=1 Sunrise Alarm Clock Affiliate Link: https://amzlink.to/az0mx4hp4zKiA Shark Cordless Vacuum Affiliate Link: https://amzlink.to/az0HIXET6uL3Y Menstrual Cup Affiliate Link: https://amzlink.to/az0ocHaD6vc3l Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

This week, we’re answering your questions straight from Instagram, and a clear theme emerged: relationships. From navigating constant arguments after the kids go to bed to figuring out how to move forward when you and your partner feel completely out of sync, we’re sharing honest insights, personal experiences, and practical mindset shifts that have made a real difference in our own marriages. We talk through what it looks like to step into your partner’s perspective, why some relationship challenges aren’t actually “fixable,” and how to approach them in a way that works for your unique dynamic. We also open up about intimacy, including the factors that impact sex drive and why this conversation matters more than we often admit. Topics We Cover: • A counterintuitive strategy that helped break the cycle of nightly arguments. • How differing timelines and priorities can create tension in relationships. • A mindset shift that can help you better understand your partner’s perspective. • What to consider when small annoyances start turning into constant nitpicking. • Why some household tasks may not be the best ones to delegate. • The difference between “equal” and “fair” when it comes to division of labor. • Why many relationship challenges aren’t fully solvable and how to navigate that reality. • The two types of sex drive and how they show up in long-term relationships. • Two common factors that can significantly impact intimacy. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Listen to Episode 21 with Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/21-herself-expert-vanessa-marin-sex-therapist-all-of-your-sex-questions-answered LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

This episode was inspired by a post from one of our favorite Instagram therapy accounts, @millennial.therapist, titled “Let’s Stop Postponing.” It sparked an honest conversation as we walked through each point and reflected on how these patterns show up in our own lives. From expressing appreciation to making decisions, navigating emotions, and leaning into joy, we share where we feel confident, where we are still growing, and how these small shifts can create meaningful change in our everyday lives. Key Topics Covered: Letting people know what they mean to you and the impact of expressing appreciation in real time.Navigating big decisions with more trust and less hesitation, with different personal perspectives.Allowing space for emotional release instead of holding everything in.Taking accountability and offering genuine apologies when needed.Asking for support and clearly communicating personal needs.Approaching hard conversations with more confidence and emotional maturity.Wearing clothes that make you feel good instead of saving them for later.Exploring hobbies and rediscovering what feels fun and fulfilling.Celebrating small, everyday moments instead of only major milestones. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Follow Dr. Sara Kuburic on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist/ BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

After Amy sparked a conversation on Instagram about expecting more independence from her boys, it became clear just how many moms are wondering the same thing: when do you start, and how do you actually follow through? In this episode, we’re sharing how we’ve gradually increased expectations in our own homes, why contributing to the household matters, and how to get your kids involved in a realistic, sustainable way.. Key Topics Covered: When to start expecting more independence from kids.Why contributing to the household builds confidence and responsibility.The importance of predictable routines at home.Practical ways kids can help with laundry, kitchen tasks, and shared spaces.Managing clutter in mudrooms and sports bags.How to handle different expectations for siblings of different ages.A helpful mindset shift for explaining responsibilities to kids.How personality types can influence chores and participation.Why starting small leads to long-term success for both kids and parents. LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Hormones, sleep, nutrition… or something else entirely? When your body starts to feel “off,” it’s not always easy to pinpoint what’s actually going on, especially during perimenopause. In this episode, we are so excited to sit down with Dr. Mary Claire Haver; board-certified OB/GYN, Certified Culinary Medicine Specialist, Certified Menopause Provider, and the founder of The ‘Pause Wellness, a private medical practice that focuses on women in midlife. She is the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The New Menopause and The Galveston Diet. In our conversation she breaks down what’s really happening in your body, how to recognize the signs of perimenopause, and what you can start doing today to feel better. Key Topics Covered: How to tell if you’re in perimenopause vs. dealing with poor sleep or nutrition.Why there’s no definitive test for perimenopause.Early vs. late perimenopause and what to expect in each stage.Surprising symptoms like heart palpitations, lung changes, and asthma.The connection between hormones and sleep disruptions.Practical, free strategies to manage cognitive and physical symptoms.Why hormone testing isn’t always recommended.Barriers to accessing quality women’s healthcare.A positive perspective on life after menopause. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Get Your Copy of Dr. Mary Claire’s Book, The New Perimonopause: https://amzlink.to/az0qY10JJZQNx Visit Dr. Mary Claire’s Website: https://thepauselife.com/ Follow Dr. Mary Claire on Socials:  TikTok: @drmaryclaire Instagram: @drmaryclaire Facebook: @drmaryclaire YouTube: @maryclairehavermd8473 LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Our Favorite Perimenopause Products: Affiliate Links  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself to other women and feeling jealous, intimidated, or like you’re somehow behind. But what if you could shift that mindset and instead feel genuinely inspired by the success around you? In this episode, we share a recent real-life experience from a mastermind we attended with highly successful business owners and how it challenged us to see comparison differently. Instead of letting the “small fish in a big sea” feeling discourage us, we used it as proof of what’s possible. We talk about the mindset shift that helped us move from comparison to inspiration, why personal growth plays a huge role in that process, and how surrounding yourself with the right people can change the way you view your own potential. In this episode, we discuss: What it felt like walking into a room full of highly successful entrepreneurs.The surprising common habits we noticed among women operating at a high level.Why taking care of your physical health often supports long-term success.The “highlight reel vs. inner life” trap and why it distorts how we see other people’s journeys.Questions to ask yourself when someone else's success triggers comparison.The hidden sacrifices and personal work that often sit behind visible success.Practical ways to shift from jealousy to curiosity and inspiration.Why your mindset about others’ success can either hold you back or move you forward.How getting support, such as a mindset coach, can help you break out of negative thought patterns.The powerful question to ask when a negative thought about someone else pops up. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Mom guilt has shaped so many seasons of our motherhood journeys, but it does not hold the same power it once did. In this honest and reflective conversation, we look back on what used to weigh heavily on our hearts and compare it to the much shorter lists we carry today. From work-related guilt and feeling torn between responsibilities, to struggling to fully enjoy our kids while managing the chaos of daily life, we share the real-time challenges we are still navigating. We also open up about the pressure of meeting different needs within the same family and how growth, perspective, and practical shifts have helped us loosen guilt’s grip. Our hope is that hearing where we have been and how far we have come helps you peel back a layer of guilt in your own motherhood story. Key Topics Covered: Amy’s early fears about bonding, attachment, and whether her firstborn would recognize her after returning to work.The internal struggle around justifying time with friends during the early years of motherhood.Abby’s vulnerable admission of questioning whether she was cut out for motherhood during a difficult phase.The specific work pressures that tend to trigger guilt in this current season.Navigating overlapping sports schedules and creating a fair system when multiple kids need to be in different places at once.Wanting meaningful one-on-one time with each child but feeling stretched thin.The emotional load of managing kids versus enjoying them.Parenting a spirited child whose needs require extra time and attention.Practical mindset shifts that have helped us move from shame toward self-compassion. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Listen to Episode 12. Mom Guilt: How We’re Working Through It: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/12-mom-guilt-how-were-working-through-it HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Editing your life doesn’t require a dramatic overhaul, it starts with small, intentional shifts every single day. In this episode, we explore what it really means to take an “edit” mindset into your routines, your responsibilities, and even the expectations you carry. From closets to calendars to long-held commitments, we share how thoughtful adjustments can reduce overwhelm and create more breathing room in this season of life. If you’ve been feeling stretched thin, this conversation will help you step back, reassess, and take ownership of what stays and what goes. Key topics covered: Practical strategies for deciding what to donate, sell, or keep in your wardrobe.How trends influence buying habits and how to shop more intentionally.Four closet decluttering challenges you can implement immediately.Why overcommitting can crowd out what matters most.Navigating guilt around volunteering and kids’ activities.Managing group text dynamics and communication overload.Evaluating whether networking events align with your current season.Understanding “legacy commitments” and reassessing past obligations. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Some comments linger longer than they should. A tone, a look, an offhand remark from your partner, your child, or a friend can spiral into a story in your head before you even realize it. This conversation unpacks what it really takes to not take things personally, especially in the relationships that matter most. From defensiveness and truth triggers to slowing down your reactions and separating someone else’s mood from your responsibility, we share practical mindset shifts that create more peace at home and in your friendships. Key Topics Covered: • The connection between defensiveness and hidden truths. • Why pausing before reacting changes everything. • Separating your partner’s emotions from your own sense of worth. • The role tone plays when giving and receiving feedback. • Helping kids regulate before expecting repair or apology. • Teaching children awareness of how their words impact others. • Navigating the sting of feeling like a means to an end as a parent. • Modeling reciprocal conversations and emotional awareness at home. • How past friendship wounds shape present reactions. • Real life examples of working through friendship conflict without escalation. LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

No one really tells you how much parenting shifts once your kids reach school age, and there are a few things we deeply wish we had known sooner. The early years are all-consuming and survival-focused, which makes forward thinking feel nearly impossible. Now on the other side of that stage, we reflect on the bigger transitions kids experience once they enter school and the areas that deserve a little more intention. Key topics covered: What changes once kids enter school and why it can feel like a whole new parenting phase.How friendships evolve from “everyone is invited” to more complex social dynamics.Coaching kids through hard friendship moments, apologies, and repairing relationships.Why it’s important to remember your child’s experience may look different from your own.The impact of words and helping kids understand how their choices affect others.How to handle notes home from school and why the truth often lives in the middle.The value of volunteering at school and gaining perspective on a teacher’s day-to-day.Being pro teacher and why believing the teacher matters.Managing the overwhelm of school paperwork, sign-ups, and assignments.Creating systems at home so responsibilities don’t fall through the cracks.Teaching kids to apologize with intention, not just to avoid consequences.Why school-aged parenting can be challenging and incredibly fun at the same time. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We turned the conversation over to you and asked one powerful question: In what ways do you struggle with comparison? The overwhelming response was the realization that comparison shows up far more often than we think, especially around money, careers, bodies, relationships, and even our kids. We unpack why comparison feels so loud today, how much of what we see is a highlight reel, and why everyone’s starting point, values, and circumstances are completely different. From navigating career shifts and body image to friendships, marriage, and parenting, this episode is a reminder that you are not behind, broken, or doing life wrong. You are simply living your own version of it. In this episode, we talk about: The sneaky ways comparison shows up, especially the thought of “What am I doing wrong and how can everyone else afford this?”Why social media hides financial stress, marriage struggles, and real life challenges.How different values and priorities shape what people choose to spend money and energy on.Career comparison and promotions, including Abby’s experience leaving the corporate world and redefining fulfillment.Why your job might not be the problem and how finding fulfillment outside of work can change everything.Body comparison, genetics, and why not everything is meant to come easily or naturally to everyone.The truth behind our friendship and why working together skews what people see.Comparing kids, milestones, achievements, and even siblings within the same family. LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF AMAZON STOREFRONT: https://amzlink.to/az0BrkLl5pX9u  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Parenting in a village isn’t anything new. It’s a necessity for many families, especially when extended family isn’t close by. In this episode, we talk candidly about what it really looks like to build and rely on a village of friends, neighbors, and other families. If you’ve never done this before, know that it can feel intimidating at first. Trusting others with your kids, your schedule, and your needs takes time and practice but it gets easier, and it’s worth it. Key Topics Covered What it means to build a parenting village when family isn’t nearby.Why relying on others often starts out of necessity.How to ask for help clearly, specifically, and in a way that feels fair.Making drop-off birthday parties work for your family.When and how to incorporate paid support into your village.The impact of unexpected support and paying it forward.How building a village models healthy relationships and help-seeking for kids.Letting go of what you thought your village would look like and getting creative.Abby’s go-to coaching prompt for asking for help. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

What if the missing ingredient in your marriage, friendships, and parenting isn’t more fixing, but more fun? In this episode, we explore a powerful shift inspired by a viral quote: instead of always focusing on what’s wrong, what happens when we intentionally prioritize joy and play in our relationships? We reflect on how fun often comes naturally in dating but slowly fades as responsibilities, exhaustion, and parenthood take over. Through our honest stories, we unpack why fun is essential, how to bring it back in small, realistic ways, and how it can transform not just your marriage, but your friendships and your experience of parenting. In this episode, we cover: Why having more fun can be just as important as therapy for long-term relationships.How marriage dynamics shift after kids and why fun is often the first thing to disappear.Simple questions to help you take inventory of what actually feels fun and energizing right now.The difference between fun that happens away from your kids and fun you can create with them.Why shared experiences are key to deeper adult friendships and the power of being the one who sends the invite.A simple question to ask your kids to uncover when they feel most connected to you.Realistic, everyday ideas for adding more fun into parenting, even in busy seasons.Fun isn’t optional. It’s often the thing that restores energy, strengthens connection, and makes this season of life feel lighter and more sustainable. LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Friendship doesn’t stay the same as we move through different seasons of life. Many of us grow up with built-in friends from childhood or college, but as we move, build careers, get married, and have kids, our relationships naturally shift. In this episode, we’re not talking about casual friendships or surface-level connections. We’re diving into the deeper, dependable friendships that truly support us, especially as we near 40. We share four key elements that define meaningful adult friendships. First, we talk about the importance of genuinely being proud of the people closest to us. True closeness often goes hand in hand with how someone makes us feel in our body and nervous system. The friends who help us feel calm, safe, and comfortable tend to be the ones who take relationships to the next level. We also explore the value of friends who celebrate our wins. Everyone deserves people they can run to with exciting news, knowing it will be met with genuine joy. If a relationship consistently feels one-sided or competitive, it may be a sign that it’s not meant to be a deeply close friendship. Life inevitably brings hard seasons, and we reflect on how powerful it is to have friends who show up when things get tough. We discuss how small acts, like following up when someone is going through something important, can leave a lasting impact and strengthen trust over time. We also remind listeners that no friendship is perfect. A single comment or moment doesn’t have to define an entire relationship. When something doesn’t sit right, honest conversations can create deeper understanding and connection, especially when the friendship is built on mutual respect. Finally, we talk about staying open to new friendships. You may not have met your future best friend yet. So many people are looking for meaningful connection, but it often takes courage, vulnerability, and someone willing to take the first step to make it happen. Molly Millwood’s Book: https://amzlink.to/az0iWvIxqfuUD  Listen to HERself episode #10 with Molly Millwood: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/10-herself-expert-molly-millwood-on-motherhood-marriage-and-the-modern-dilemma  LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Decision making doesn’t get easier as life gets fuller and for many women, the constant stream of choices can feel exhausting. In this episode we unpack what decision fatigue really looks like, how it shows up in work and family life, and why trusting yourself is often the most important part of the process. Abby kicks things off by breaking down what actually makes a “good” decision, drawing from her coaching background and education at UW–Madison. She reminds us that we’re always making the best decision we can with the information we have at the time, and explains how the nervous system and personal values play a bigger role in decision making than we often realize. Amy shares behind-the-scenes insight into a recent work decision and reflects on how she gives herself more grace than most women do when it comes to the decision making process. Together, Abby and Amy walk through real-life examples; from building a home, to managing family logistics, and highlight how two people can arrive at the same decision through very different paths. They also explore confidence, indecision, and when it’s helpful (or not) to bring other people’s opinions into the mix. The episode wraps with a few simple, practical ways they’ve each reduced daily decision fatigue - small shifts that have made a big difference. If you’ve ever felt stuck, second-guessed yourself, or wished decisions felt a little lighter, this episode is your reminder that you already have what you need. Trust yourself. LINKS AND RESOURCES: FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location MEDICUBE: https://amzlink.to/az0zgEJC7OXMu HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

HERself is officially six years old, and we can hardly believe it. In some ways the time has flown by, and in others, it feels like every lesson, challenge, and conversation has been earned. Podcasting is not easy, and most shows don’t make it this far, which makes this milestone incredibly meaningful to both of us. This podcast has been such a special part of our lives, and we’re just getting started. To celebrate six years, we’re recreating one of our very first episodes by revisiting the questions we answered back then and sharing how we would respond today. Over the past six years, we’ve grown in our marriages, in motherhood, and as individuals, and this episode is an honest reflection of that evolution. We begin by revisiting the question: What is your biggest struggle in marriage? Abby shares that six years ago her answer was score-keeping, but today her biggest challenge is around apologizing. Amy reflects on how her biggest struggle used to be the constant time crunch while juggling a nursing job, multiple businesses, and motherhood to three young kids. While that season has eased, her current challenge is navigating moments when both she and Drew are low on patience. Next, we revisit guilt in motherhood. Amy shares that her guilt once came from always feeling mentally pulled in different directions, while Abby reflects on how bedtime routines were once her hardest moment. Today, Abby’s guilt shows up during their busy nighttime family routines, as packed schedules often leave her wishing for more quality time with her kids. We then dive into the realities of being a working mom. Both of us share how difficult it is to find boundaries between work and family, especially when so much of our work overlaps with our personal lives. The struggle to protect time, avoid burnout, and not feel like we could always be working is still very real. We also open up about finances, reflecting on the debt we carried six years ago and the progress we’ve made since then. From there, we discuss body image and insecurities. Amy shares how she reached a place of true body confidence and developed a healthy relationship with food, while Abby reflects on navigating body dysmorphia during the early years of the podcast. Finally, we revisit the question of our proudest moments. Amy shares how her definition has shifted toward raising kind, thoughtful kids, while Abby laughs at her former answer and reflects on how much her perspective has changed. If we’re lucky enough, we’ll sit down and record this episode again when we’re 46. Thank you for being part of this journey with us—for growing, reflecting, and evolving alongside HERself. Here’s to the next six years. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

As the year winds down, it’s easy to jump straight into planning what’s next. But before you rush ahead, this episode of HERself is your reminder to pause, look back, and reflect on what this past year has held for you. Reflection isn’t about judgment, it’s about recognizing growth so you can move forward with clarity and excitement. Abby and Amy kick things off by sharing a simple reflection exercise they encourage every listener to try. As millennial women who work hard and tend to be hard on themselves, they know how easy it is to overlook what’s actually going well. To help spark that awareness, they each share three things they feel proud of and are doing well right now. Abby opens up about how much her morning routine impacts her entire day. Amy shares her growth around financial transparency with her husband, Drew. Abby also talks about the role supplements play in her health, particularly in managing her autoimmune disease. Amy shares her deep commitment to protecting her sleep, even if it means excusing herself from social situations. The conversation continues with Abby’s concept of “tomorrow prep” — thinking beyond meals to identify small things you can do today to make tomorrow smoother and less stressful. Later in the episode, Abby and Amy reflect honestly on areas where they want to improve. Amy notices herself slipping back into the habit of rushing through breakfast, while both hosts explore their relationship with food in a candid, unplanned conversation. It’s a reminder that growth isn’t linear and self-awareness is an ongoing process. This episode is an encouraging reminder that you can reset at any time. Reflection doesn’t mean dwelling on what didn’t go well, it means honoring what did, learning from what didn’t, and giving yourself permission to move forward with confidence. LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Happy holidays HERself listeners. We know many people are busy with their friends and families this week. So we are throwing it back to one of our favorite episodes that we know is going to meet many of you with so much solidarity. Janelle Teves is one of those women who when you talk to her you instantly feel better. Not only does she know  and respect that we are juggling a lot but she reminds us that we are doing an amazing job. Jeanelle Teves, is the Chief Commercial Officer of Bugaboo. She is also a speaker, a wife, and a mom of two kids; ages three and six. Jeanelle is crushing it in corporate America and has a stay at home partner. We cover both of these topics in our interview and we touch on confidence. Jeanelle shares how she built her own and how she fully embodies it. We know lots of our listeners have times in their lives where they contemplate a career move. Maybe you’ve thought about leaving your job all together and being a full-time stay at home parent? Jeanelle shares how she knows when it is time to make a change. She also manages a fully remote team and knows that for moms who are working from home, it can be easy to blur the lines between professional and mom. She shares her tips on how to set some boundaries both at home and with your work place. In Jeanelle’s family, she is the breadwinner and her husband is the full-time stay at home working parent. Jeanelle talks to us about how they came to this decision as a family and what she does to support her husband in finding time for himself outside of all the household work he puts in.  Finally, we know that a lot of women can struggle with confidence at times. If this has been you, tune in to hear how Jeanelle is so unapologetic about her successes and the tips she has on how you yourself can grow in this area. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Follow Jeanelle on Instagram - @jeanelleteves Follow Jeanelle on LinkedIn  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

This week, we’re getting honest about something we know so many of you are feeling too: the mental load of the holiday season. Even as two high-functioning women in very different ways, this stretch of the year has us struggling. Between the busy season in our industry—podcasting, affiliate links, end-of-year pushes—and the nonstop holiday commitments, we’ve both been feeling behind and overwhelmed. And if you’re there too, we want you to know: you’re not alone. We walk through the real mental load moms carry right now—coordinating gift lists, keeping track of school dress-up days, navigating volunteer asks, and trying to make everything magical on top of everyday life. So we talk about giving yourself grace, slowing down, and putting the load on paper so you can actually see what you’re carrying. We also dive into how differently we each cope. Amy checks in with herself more intentionally this time of year, especially because being overwhelmed means little comments from others can sting more than usual. Abby talks about being a natural ruminator—and how bringing things up with safe people, sooner rather than later, can bring so much peace of mind. Family dynamics during the holidays can get complicated, too. Amy shares the powerful reminder that she can’t control how other people experience the holiday. And if anxiety is creeping in, communicating that with the people closest to you can make all the difference.  We also share how we balance two totally different approaches to managing the mental load. Abby swears by writing everything down. Amy has always found the idea overwhelming… but she’s giving it a try. And Abby walks through how to take that practice a step further once it’s all out of your head and on paper. A big takeaway for both of us? Choose one thing and complete it from start to finish. The more we multitask, the more scattered we feel. Slowing down and focusing on a single task has been grounding for us both. Toward the end, we highlight some incredibly helpful tips from our friend Kate Borsato of @theperinatalcollective (linked below). This community has walked alongside us for almost six years now, and we hope today’s episode helps you feel supported, understood, and a little lighter during such a busy season. You’re doing your best—and that’s enough. LINKS AND RESOURCES: JONES: https://www.jonesdairyfarm.com/ LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF The Perinatal Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theperinatalcollective/ Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We’ve had Eli Weinstein on the podcast before (episode 182), where we focused on the postpartum period. Today, we’re talking about the next phase of parenthood—one that brings its own growing pains, relationship shifts, and a whole new set of expectations. In his new book, Eli introduces the “holy trinity” of relationships: expectations, perception, and reality. He walks us through how easy it is for these three to get misaligned. One example almost every parent can relate to: when one partner works from home, the expectation is that more will get done around the house. When it doesn’t happen, the perception becomes that the partner is lazy, when the reality is that no one ever clearly set the expectation in the first place. If you’ve been here for a bit, you know about Amy and Drew’s weekly meetings. Amy is honest—she doesn’t always look forward to them—but they’ve drastically improved clarity around roles and tasks. If you’re trying to bring something like this into your own relationship, Eli shares one simple 15-minute daily practice that can soften resistance and rebuild connection. We also get into a feeling many of us have had at some point: “Why does my spouse feel like another child I have to remind all the time?” Eli normalizes the frustration. Giving your partner direction—even if it seems obvious—is better than simmering in resentment later. Think of it as a reset: just like teaching a child how to walk, sometimes our partners have never been taught certain systems, and clarity is an act of kindness. Eli also breaks down his “import and export” lists. This framework helps families intentionally remove what no longer serves them while protecting what does. And of course, gratitude comes up—Eli shares why small, frequent expressions of appreciation might be the most powerful shift you can make in your marriage. Eli closes the conversation with a grounding reminder: every couple is navigating this same transition. You are not alone. It’s never too late to reset, reconnect, and focus on your relationship with more compassion and clarity. LINKS AND RESOURCES: VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Listen to episode #182 - Eli Weinstein with a Male’s Perspective on Partnership After Kids and Sharing the Mental Load: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/eliweinsteinmentalload Pre-order his new book "From I Do to We Do" AND get a free workbook: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/book Eli’s Website: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/ The Dude Therapist Podcast: https://www.eliweinsteinlcsw.com/podcast Follow Eli on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/eliweinstein_lcsw/ Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Friendship is one of the topics we get asked about most, so we brought back Dr. Marisa Franco, one of the world’s leading voices on human connection. We dive straight into the heart of modern friendship and start with something that influences every relationship we have: attachment styles. Marisa explains how these patterns begin in childhood, how they show up differently in adulthood, and why none of us fit neatly into one category.  We explore one of the biggest questions we hear from listeners: if you tend to be anxious or avoidant, do you end up attracting friends with the same tendencies? Marisa shares one of her biggest challenges in her research—secure people continue to find each other easily, while those who struggle with connection often repeat the same patterns with similar types of friends. Since many of you are new moms or navigating school-aged seasons, we ask Marisa what to do when a friend needs more from you than you can realistically give. She reminds us that it’s okay to say no and that saying no with kindness helps preserve the relationship. Although friendship looks natural from the outside, we share honestly that it hasn’t always been effortless for us either. Amy opens up about how isolating early motherhood felt and why making new friends during that time was unexpectedly hard. If you’re in a season where friendship feels like it has to fall to the bottom of the list, Marisa offers a powerful reminder of why connection still matters—and what small steps can help bring it back to the forefront. Finally, we talk about the hardest part of friendship: knowing when it’s time to end one. Should you let the relationship fade or have a more direct conversation? Marisa shares how to discern which path is right, and she gives guidance on something we rarely talk about—grieving a friendship. LINKS AND RESOURCES: Listen to HERself episode #145 Dr. Marisa Franco on the Importance of Adult Friendship; https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/adultfriendship Read Dr. Marisa Franco’s Book; Platonic: https://amzlink.to/az0lb2DLKWeWk  Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmarisagfranco/ Dr. Marisa’s Website: https://drmarisagfranco.com/ HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

The holidays are here, and before the chaos kicks in, we wanted to sit down for a cozy reset with you. Think of this as the pep talk we all need—the kind you can take with you on a walk, a drive, or while you hide in the pantry for a minute of quiet. Today we’re sharing the mindset shifts and simple strategies that help us move through the holidays with more ease, compassion, and actual enjoyment. We talk about why we both love one big open-invite approach to Thanksgiving, what it’s like hosting when your family has complicated dynamics, and how to offer grace to your partner if they come from a divorced family. Abby opens up about growing through the disappointment of people not showing up, and Amy shares a grounding reminder for anyone juggling multiple households. We also dig into the lighter stuff—like food. Hosting doesn’t mean you have to do it all. Press the easy button, buy the pie, ask guests to bring what they need, or pack your own if you’re visiting. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s presence. And since tricky conversations happen, we share a few simple phrases you can keep in your back pocket when topics start going sideways. Getting your partner on the same page helps too, even if it doesn’t always work perfectly. As moms of three who often have 15+ people in our homes, we also talk about stepping away when you need a breather. Whether it’s a quick reset or heading to bed early—give yourself permission. Taking care of yourself helps you enjoy the holidays more, not less. Most of all, we hope this episode helps you craft the best holiday season you can have. And if it’s not magical? That’s okay too. Moms deserve joy this time of year, whatever that looks like for you. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Let’s be real — when it comes to chores, our kids could definitely be doing more. We’ve mentioned this topic before, but today we’re finally diving in headfirst: what are age-appropriate chores and responsibilities for kids? Inside the Kiefer and Green homes, things look a little different — and there’s room for improvement in both. In a world where everyone shows their highlight reels, we want to keep it honest. Yes, we have strengths, but we also have areas where we’re still figuring it out. Amy shares her goal of raising boys who can fully take care of themselves one day — the kind of men who know how to cook, clean, and do laundry without being asked. She doesn’t want any future partner looking at her like, “Who did you raise?” Abby opens up about the pressure she felt to be overly responsible as a child, and how she’s making sure her own kids don’t carry that same weight. Both agree: the men in our homes play a huge role in setting an example that everyone participates in keeping a household running. Then we get into one of the biggest debates — should kids be paid for chores? Amy shares exactly how much her boys earn for certain tasks and what’s still expected of them for free. Abby’s family takes a different approach, focusing on teamwork and shared responsibility — and she explains why that works so well for them. We also break down what age-appropriate chores actually look like — from toddlers learning independence through simple tasks, to preschoolers pitching in with supervision, to elementary-aged kids taking real ownership around the house. And for those preteens? You might be surprised by just how capable they are when given the chance. As you listen, think about what your family is doing well. Celebrate that! And then take one small step toward helping your kids grow their confidence and independence through everyday responsibility. Listen to Episode #308. Our Core Parenting Pillars We Stand By: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/episode-308-core-parenting-pillars Website where we found these lists of age appropriate chores: https://childdevelopmentinfo.com/chores/the-ultimate-list-of-age-appropriate-chores/ LINKS AND RESOURCES: HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself JONES: https://www.jonesdairyfarm.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today we’re welcoming Claire Lerner back to the podcast! Claire specializes in helping parents understand and support big reactors—kids whose emotions and reactions tend to run higher and deeper than most. Our first episode with Claire was one of our most popular, so we knew we had to bring her back for round two. If you’re parenting a child with a sensitive temperament, this episode will leave you feeling seen and equipped with real strategies to help your family thrive. In this conversation, we dive deeper into what works—and what doesn’t—when parenting spirited kids. Amy opens up about what she used to do differently before learning more about emotional regulation, and why she no longer feels like there’s no hope. Claire reminds us that growth for these kids starts with growth in us as parents—and with the right tools, things really can get better. We talk about what to do when traditional talk therapy isn’t the right fit, and how to handle it when your partner isn’t on the same page. Claire also shares how to navigate the tricky moments when siblings point out that your big reactor seems to get “different rules,” and what to do when their emotions seem even bigger in public settings. She explains why confidence and praise can be complicated for deeply feeling kids, and how to shift your language so it encourages them. We even cover what to do when a big reactor crosses a line with a younger sibling. Claire brings in real-life examples from her work, and we include some of the listener questions you submitted ahead of time. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed or worried that things will never improve, this episode will remind you that progress is possible—it’s never too late to reconnect and help your child (and yourself) grow. Visit Claire’s Website: https://www.lernerchilddevelopment.com/ Follow Claire on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lernerchilddevelopment/ Listen to episode #157 with Claire Lerner: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/clairelerner Claire’s new book Big Reactors: https://amzlink.to/az00iZb3Kz7XS  LINKS AND RESOURCES: VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself  LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today’s episode looks a little different—Abby is solo behind the mic to share something that’s been weighing on her heart: the tug-of-war between loving motherhood and missing freedom. Freedom has always been one of Abby’s top core values, but motherhood changes everything. Overnight, the spontaneity disappears, replaced by structure, schedules, and responsibility. As much as we love our children, there’s this deep ache for autonomy—time to just be without worrying about what someone else needs next. In this raw and relatable conversation, Abby shares real-life reframes and practical strategies for moms who feel like they’ve lost themselves in motherhood. She opens up about the moments when she wonders, “How did I even get here?” and how she’s learning to shift her focus from what’s been lost to what’s been gained. From navigating kids’ sports schedules to redefining productivity, Abby brings honesty, humor, and heart to this discussion. She reminds us that while this season can feel long and heavy, it’s also fleeting—and filled with growth, love, and unexpected joy. LINKS AND RESOURCES: FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest - https://www.eatforage.com/ HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

You already know we’re open books around here, so when we sat down to record an episode of things you might not know about us, we quickly realized… this was harder than it sounded! We share so much on this podcast, but we did manage to find a few fun and unexpected things that even our most loyal listeners may not have heard before. Amy kicks things off by sharing one about Abby—let’s just say Abby sometimes thinks the rules don’t apply to her. If she doesn’t agree with a rule, she’s not likely to follow it. Meanwhile, Amy’s perspective on rules might surprise you. We also dig into how each of us handles stress and uncertainty. Amy’s not particularly attached to things and has a grounded belief that unless something bad happens to someone she loves, everything will be okay. Abby, on the other hand, tends to think in terms of the worst case scenario—if something goes wrong, her first thought is usually, “How much work is this going to cause me?” We also compare our spending habits. When you think of a “big purchase,” what amount comes to mind? Amy shares her number—and it might not be what you expect. While Amy is more cautious about bigger buys, she is also the queen of small, repeated purchases. Whereas Abby, even if she’s hungry, she’ll wait until she’s home to eat what’s already there. You’ll also hear why Abby is easily influenced, how Amy falls down the doom-scrolling rabbit hole, and which one of us prefers multitasking while watching TV versus doing things in total silence. And finally, Amy shares what she means when she says she has a calling to be a wild and free animal. This one’s lighthearted, real, and full of those behind-the-scenes stories that make us who we are. Tune in for laughter, a few surprises, and maybe a deeper understanding of why we each do the things we do. LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In a world of all kinds of parenting information Abby and Amy have really honed in on what their true core values are when it comes to raising their kids. In today’s episode they dive into their core parenting pillars. In this episode, you’ll hear heartfelt stories and practical parenting tips centered around defining family values, embracing differences, and fostering inclusion. The conversation covers how both families value the importance of safety measures like wearing helmets, promoting healthy lifestyles through balanced meals and regular movement, and teaching sportsmanship and respect to adults and peers on and off the field. Abby and Amy also discuss encouraging independence, building resilience by allowing their kids to solve age-appropriate problems at home or school, and finding balance with screen time to promote a healthy relationship with tech and foster more family connection.  The hope with today’s episode is that you take away the fact that every family can have different core pillars and values, and that’s okay! Finding what you feel strongly about and standing firm in those values that drive your everyday decisions is what is important!  LINKS AND RESOURCES: COZY EARTH: 20% off with code HERSELF https://cozyearth.com/ CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself PATREON: Join our exclusive community where we drop a bonus episode every single week: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

The subject of in-laws is one that hits home for many of us—and today’s conversation with Dr. Tracy D goes deep. One of our most downloaded episodes ever featured her, and we knew we had to bring her back to talk about what’s changed, what hasn’t, and how to navigate these tricky family patterns in new seasons of life. You didn’t just marry your partner—you married into their family’s patterns. Where’s the line between accepting those patterns and creating healthy boundaries? Dr. Tracy helps us understand the balance between acceptance and self-protection, reminding us that you are not the bad one for noticing the pattern. If you’ve ever felt frustrated, guilty, or misunderstood in your in-law relationships, this episode will leave you feeling seen, grounded, and hopeful about what’s possible. Connect with Dr. Tracy D: Book: You, Your Husband, and His Mother (coming soon!): https://www.drtracyd.com/ Instagram: @drtracyd Listen to past HERself episodes with Dr. Tracy: Episode 16: HERself Expert: Psychologist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish on Managing Anxiety in a Pandemic: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/16-herself-expert-psychologist-dr-tracy-dalgleish-on-managing-anxiety-in-a-pandemic Episode 17: HERself Expert: Dr. Tracy Dalgleish - Psychologist and Couples Therapist on How to Keep Your Relationship Healthy During Social Distancing: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/17-herself-expert-dr-tracy-dalgleish-psychologist-and-couples-therapist-on-how-to-keep-your-relationship-healthy-during-social-distancing Episode 93: HERself Expert: Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 1: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/93-herself-expert-tracy-dalgleish-on-all-things-in-laws-part-1 Episode 94: HERself Expert: Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 2: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/94-herself-expert-tracy-dalgleish-on-all-things-in-laws-part-2 Episode 198: Dr. Tracy D on Reconnecting with Your Partner: https://www.herselfpodcast.com/listen/tracydreconnectingwithyourpartner LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast

Aging has been on our minds a lot lately. At 39, we’re standing on the edge of a new decade, and with that, we continue to have more  conversations around perimenopause, energy levels, and taking care of our bodies. In this episode, we’re opening up about what aging looks and feels like for us right now—the struggles, the science, accepting it, and the ways we’re finding strength in this next chapter. Abby shares her personal journey with hormone replacement therapy (HRT) after her doctor recommended it to help with fatigue, weight fluctuations, and low energy despite healthy habits. She explains what the process has been like, why she finally took the leap, and how HRT has impacted her day-to-day life. We also talk about why perimenopause isn’t linear and how that affects women differently—including why pregnancies are still common in your early 40s. If you’re in a similar phase of life, we bring you really tangible ideas and where to start. . From magnesium and supplements to lifting weights and prioritizing sleep, we dive into the small but powerful habits that can set us up for long-term success. Amy shares why she credits weightlifting for her energy at age 39, how her college years shaped her approach to fitness, and why she plans to keep lifting into her 80s. We also touch on NAD+ injections, the role of fiber in our diets, and why working out isn’t about chasing a certain look—it’s about creating a body that can carry us into our future. As women, it’s easy to fall into comparison traps—whether it’s against the version of ourselves 20 years ago or the highlight reel of another woman’s life. But aging has taught us to focus less on the scale and more on how we feel. Our habits are catching up with us now more than ever, and that’s not a bad thing—it’s a chance to make meaningful, lasting changes. At the heart of this episode is a reminder: aging is a blessing. It’s a privilege to grow older, to share life with the people we love, and to keep finding new ways to take care of ourselves. We hope this conversation leaves you inspired to embrace aging with curiosity, compassion, and the courage to take even one small step forward. Follow @dramyshah on Instagram  The health and wellness products we swear by: Affiliate Link LINKS AND RESOURCES: GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Parenting school-age kids comes with a unique set of challenges—from overflowing backpacks and sports schedules to snacks, lunches, uniforms, and the endless drop-offs and pick-ups. It’s a lot to manage, and the truth is: no one can do it all alone. We open up about what it looks like in our households to share the parenting load and how we’ve learned to find balance with our partners over the last 10 years. You’ll hear the different ways our families divide responsibilities—whether it’s one partner planning while the other executes, or one person taking a task from start to finish. Abby also shares how Colin’s work travel adds another layer to family dynamics, but the systems they’ve created together help keep things running smoothly. The conversation also dives into helicopter partnering, letting go of control, and trusting that even if your partner’s way looks different (or happens on a different timeline), the important thing is that the task gets done. We also lean on our community—asking for help when needed and offering support in return. This episode is a reminder that building independence in kids, sharing the load with your partner, and proactively communicating can make family life feel more balanced and joyful. If you’re navigating the busy school years and wondering how to better share the load at home, this episode will give you both perspective and practical takeaways. LINKS AND RESOURCES: COZY EARTH: 20% off with code HERSELF https://cozyearth.com/ PATREON: Join our exclusive community where we drop a bonus episode every single week: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast JONES Dairy Farm: High quality, responsibility sourced meats you can feel confident feeding to your family. Check them out: https://www.jonesdairyfarm.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Have you ever caught yourself sounding just like your parents? Today we reflect on the lessons—both spoken and unspoken—that our parents, coaches, and role models left with us, and how they’ve shaped the women and moms we are today. From confidence and community to money and independence, these life lessons are now the ones we’re passing down to our own kids. Amy shares how her mom’s approach to appearance built her confidence from the inside out, while Abby opens up about her mom’s influence around food, body image, and community involvement. Amy also remembers her dad’s encouragement to always be financially independent, and Abby gets vulnerable about what money represented in her childhood—a story she’s never shared before. We also chat briefly about the latest reality TV drama (yes, the new Bachelorette!) before diving back into what it really means to carry these lessons forward. Whether the wisdom came from parents, coaches, or mentors, it’s worth reflecting on the positive examples you had growing up and how you’re creating that same legacy for your own children today. Tune in and reflect with us—you’ll be reminded that the work you’re doing as a mom matters, in ways your children will carry for life. LINKS AND RESOURCES: CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself PATREON: Join our exclusive community where we drop a bonus episode every single week: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Marriage is a constant journey of learning, growth, and reminding ourselves of the basics—especially during stressful seasons. In this week’s episode, we’re taking you behind the scenes of our own marriages to share the top three lessons we’ve each learned with our spouses over the years. We kick things off with a little chit chat (thanks to Colin for the idea!) about what we’ve been reading and watching lately before diving into the heart of the episode: the relationship lessons that continue to shape our marriages. Here’s what you’ll hear in today’s episode: Amy’s #1: Why standing by your core values matters, even when it feels uncomfortable—especially when it comes to finances. Abby’s #1: The power of speaking up when it matters most (without nitpicking everything). Amy’s #2: Shifting your perspective from “me vs. you” to “us vs. the problem.” Abby’s #2: Embracing the reality that we all change over time—and learning to love your spouse as they grow. Amy’s #3: Letting your partner positively influence you (this one gets spicy!). Abby’s #3: Why having dreams together matters—and how to let your spouse in on yours. If you’ve been craving real, honest conversations about what makes marriage work, this episode will give you tangible reminders, relatable stories, and encouragement to keep building a strong foundation with your partner. Let us know what resonates most with you! Share your biggest takeaway from this episode over on Instagram @herselfpodcast—we love hearing from you. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Conflict is a natural part of every relationship—whether it’s in marriage, friendship, family, or work. In this week’s episode, we’re diving into the 5 different conflict styles (the accommodator, the avoider, the compromiser, the competitor, and the collaborator) and exploring how they show up in our lives. We share personal stories and examples of how conflict plays out differently in our marriages versus our friendships. Abby opens up about realizing her conflict style might not be what she originally thought after reflecting with her husband, Colin, who leans more toward the “need to be right” style. Amy talks about how she used to lean heavily on avoidance but, through therapy, has been growing into a more collaborative approach. Inside this episode, you’ll learn: What the 5 conflict styles are and how they show up in relationships. Why saying “we never fight” might actually mean you’re not speaking up for yourself. Why our conflict styles can look different in marriage vs. friendships. How to decide which relationships are worth working through conflict for. Remember: the goal isn’t to avoid conflict altogether, but to understand how you (and those around you) approach it so you can move toward healthier resolutions. Read the article on the 5 conflict styles here. LINKS AND RESOURCES: GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Since it’s a holiday here in the U.S., we’re bringing back one of our most downloaded and loved episodes of all time—with none other than the incredible Shrink Chicks, Emmalee and Jennifer, co-founders of The Therapy Group. These two women are experts in relationships, and in this conversation, we dig deep into what happens after kids enter the picture. From navigating conflict and working through small disagreements to building healthier communication patterns, this episode is packed with strategies you can use at every stage of your relationship. To be honest, it felt like we were sitting in on our very own couples therapy session—except thousands of you were right there with us, nodding along to the truths being shared. What you’ll learn in this episode: How to navigate conflict in a way that strengthens your relationship. Tools to move through disagreements without disconnecting. Why communication patterns matter more than winning an argument. The importance of seeking support instead of trying to “fix it all” on your own. Important note: The guidance shared in this episode is meant for those in safe, healthy relationships. If abuse is present, these tools won’t apply, and we encourage you to seek professional resources and support. One of the most powerful takeaways from this conversation is that you don’t need to figure out your relationship struggles alone. Resources, therapy, and the right tools can transform your partnership—and your life. We’d love to hear your biggest “aha” moments after listening. Share your takeaways with us on Instagram and tag @shrinkchicks and @herselfpodcast so we can connect with you. LINKS AND RESOURCES: VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself  LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

As moms, we know every season brings new challenges, and summer can be one of the hardest to navigate. In this week’s episode, we share an honest summer recap—the wins, the struggles, and the lessons we’re carrying into fall and beyond. From childcare challenges to balancing marriage and motherhood, we open up about the good, the bad, and the messy parts of parenting during the summer months. Childcare struggles & solutions: Amy shares what she learned when their nanny left for college in August and how she’s planning ahead with summer camps for next year. Abby talks about what worked (parent swaps) and what will have to change as Owen transitions out of daycare. Parenting & relationships: Many parents find themselves burnt out by the end of summer, especially when one parent carries more of the load. Amy and Abby talk about how this impacts relationships—and why it’s important to ask for help before you’re drowning. Practical takeaways: From childcare swaps, community programs, and after-school care, to making small changes at home, Amy and Abby share the strategies that are helping their families run more smoothly. Personal edits: Amy admits she’s working on bringing more positivity to family check-in meetings, while Abby is finding balance between her love of open weekends and Colin’s need for structure. This conversation is a reminder for every parent: check in with yourself often. Needs change, kids grow, relationships evolve, and your routines should too. Don’t stay stuck—start making small edits now to set yourself up for a smoother season ahead. We also want to take a moment to celebrate a very special milestone today; this is our 300th episode! We couldn’t be here without the support of each and every one of you. Thank you for tuning in, listening week after week, and sharing the episodes that resonate the most with you. Here’s to 300 more! LINKS AND RESOURCES: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Happiness. For some, the word sparks joy. For others, it feels complicated. In this episode, we’re unpacking what happiness truly means — and why our own perspectives on the word itself are surprisingly different. Inspired by research from a UC Berkeley professor who studies happiness, we explore three key factors proven to boost your well-being: Human connection — why in-person connection is essential for joy. Expressing gratitude — how appreciation shifts your mindset. Volunteering — the surprising way giving back benefits you, too. We also share personal stories and simple practices we use to spark happiness in our own lives — even on hard days. If you’ve ever wondered why happiness can feel so elusive or how to cultivate more of it, this conversation is a heartfelt mix of science, personal reflection, and actionable tips you can try today. LINKS AND RESOURCES: FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In this episode, we're answering your questions—everything from serious parenting dilemmas to fun, rapid-fire get-to-know-you questions. We kick things off by digging into thoughtful, vulnerable topics like: How to help kids develop a tolerance for discomfort. What to do when someone you care about is in a toxic relationship. How to respond when family members ignore birthday invitations. Parenting children with developmental delays. When to let go of a long-term friendship. How to make meaningful friendships that aren't just “mom friends”. Later in the episode, we switch gears and get into the lighter stuff, answering questions like: Who is more hygienic? Who needs more sleep? Who is more of a homebody? Who is pickier about food? Who takes longer to get ready? What do we admire most about each other as parents? Who is more confrontational? Who has the wilder spending habits? Spoiler alert: One question made us both emotional—so be sure to listen all the way through! Whether you're navigating parenting, family drama, or just want to get to know us better, this episode has a little something for everyone. If you loved this Q&A format, let us know—we'd love to make this a recurring thing! LINKS AND RESOURCES: GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself  LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

If you're raising a child who feels everything deeply and expresses it loudly, this episode is for you. Today, we’re diving into a topic that sparked our biggest listener response ever—first explored in Episode 157 with Claire Lerner—and it’s all about parenting children with big reactions. Both of us are moms to what we lovingly call “big reactors.” These are the kids whose emotional outbursts and transitions hit differently. They're intense. They're spirited. And traditional parenting advice? It usually doesn’t work. We talk about: What we learned from our game-changing conversation in Episode 157. Why big reactions are often wired into your child’s DNA. The reality that gentle parenting isn’t always effective with these kids. How transitions can be a major trigger—and how we’ve learned to navigate them. Amy’s experience taking her whole family to therapy (and what actually helped). The critical role of one-on-one attention for highly sensitive or strong-willed kids. The surprising ways these kids ask for love—even when it doesn’t feel like love at all. This episode is here to remind you—you’re not alone. And while parenting a big-feeling kid can be exhausting and confusing, it’s also deeply rewarding. The bond you can build is incredible when you find what works and stay consistent. If you’re raising a spirited child, a highly sensitive kid, or a little one with intense emotional reactions, this episode is a must-listen. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Is sibling fighting driving you up the wall lately? You’re not alone—and this episode is straight from the heart of our community’s requests. In this conversation, we're diving into real-life strategies to help parents navigate sibling conflicts with more confidence and less chaos. First things first: sibling fighting is normal! In fact, sibling relationships are the training ground for learning how to navigate friendships, handle conflict, and set boundaries. The goal isn’t to eliminate fighting altogether—it’s to help our kids learn from it in healthy ways. We’re sharing: Why zero sibling conflict isn’t a realistic goal. How to step out of the referee role and what to do instead. Why you shouldn’t automatically side with the younger sibling. Tools and scripts that help during transition times like after school. Our honest take on using screen time as a sibling conflict tool. What to do in the moment when the fighting actually starts. You’ll walk away with tips that are practical, parent-tested, and rooted in advice from top parenting experts. If you're a parent looking for real solutions and a little solidarity—you’ll love this episode. LINKS AND RESOURCES: CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Are youth sports taking over your calendar? You’re not alone. In this episode, we—two moms raising three kids each in a sports-loving community—open up about the challenges and joys of navigating youth sports with kids aged 9, 7, 6, and 4.5. We get real about what it means to be a sports family, how our own upbringings shape our decisions, and why it’s okay to press pause and ask: “Is this still working for our family?” You’ll hear: Why your childhood experience with sports might be influencing your parenting. The important questions we always ask before signing up for a new season. The emotional and logistical load of youth sports (and how we try to split duties with our partners). Our take on whether parents should coach their kids' teams. How to re-evaluate your family’s priorities when sports start to take center stage. Whether you’re a seasoned sports mom or just entering the world of practices, tournaments, and team snacks, this episode will offer perspective, reassurance, and a whole lot of solidarity. Tune in if you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by the sports schedule, wondered if you're doing it “right,” or just need to hear that you’re not the only one Googling “how much is too much?” when it comes to youth activities. LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Heads up: This episode contains adult content—pop in your earbuds if the kids are around! We are excited to dive into a topic we haven’t discussed in a while: intimacy. Whether you're newly postpartum or deep in the trenches of parenting, we know that maintaining a healthy sex life with your partner can feel complicated—and sometimes like just another thing on your to-do list. We’re sharing what has worked for us personally, how our sex lives have shifted through different seasons of motherhood, and how we’ve learned to reconnect with our partners along the way. In this episode, we discuss: How sex changes during different stages of parenthood (especially postpartum). The impact of hormonal and physical shifts on your desire for intimacy. The difference between spontaneous vs. responsive sex drives—and why understanding yours matters. Tips for improving communication in the bedroom (hint: start with what you do want). Easy ways to rekindle connection and feel more like a team again. And make sure you stay tuned to the end—we polled our community and we share your amazing, real-life recommendations for improving intimacy that you won’t want to miss. Whether you're looking to reignite the spark or simply feel closer to your partner, this episode offers practical advice and heartfelt insight to support your relationship. LINKS AND RESOURCES: GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location SPICY BOOKS LIST- curated by us and all our listeners! Affiliate Links Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

If you’re parenting little ones now, the idea of raising pre-teens or teenagers might feel far off—or a little intimidating. These years often come with a tough reputation, but what if they didn’t have to? In this insightful episode, we’re joined by pediatrician Dr. Hina Talib to talk about how we can start preparing now to enter the teen years with more confidence, connection, and compassion. Too often, teens get labeled as the problem, when in reality, it's our job as parents to prepare and empower them to navigate the challenges ahead. Dr. Talib shares powerful tools to help our kids feel more respected during this season of life—including the importance of putting ourselves in their shoes, approaching situations with curiosity (not judgment), and creating a safe space for open conversation. We dive into: Why starting family traditions now creates strong connection later How to foster independence in preteens to build confidence and resilience Body image and how to talk about our kids’ bodies in ways that don’t focus on weight The truth about teen mental health—and the most important (and surprising!) thing we can do to support it Whether your kids are in preschool or approaching middle school, this is a must-listen conversation that will leave you feeling more prepared for what’s ahead—and more empowered to raise confident, connected teens. Follow Dr. Talib on Instagram and LinkedIn LINKS AND RESOURCES: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: http://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

In this heartfelt Amy and Abby episode, we’re diving into a topic that’s close to both of our hearts: our health and our relationship with our bodies. If you’ve been a long-time listener, you know how important this conversation is to us — and how complex it can be. We begin by sharing pivotal moments from our high school years—each involving a coach’s comment that stuck with us for decades. One of those memories was encouraging, while the other left a lasting wound. These stories opened the door to a much deeper conversation about how our bodies have changed—through motherhood, aging, and personal growth. Between us, we’ve carried and birthed six children. Our bodies have stretched, healed, and transformed in ways we never could have predicted. Amy opens up about a time when she didn’t feel at home in her body, and gets emotional as she reflects on how that same body carried her through some of the hardest seasons of her life. Abby shares her own experience with body fluctuations and the frustration of not seeing immediate results—even when making significant changes to her diet and lifestyle. The message we hope you carry with you from this episode is this: Work with your body, not against it. Be gentle. Show gratitude. And remember—aging is a gift. No matter where you are on your wellness journey, we hope this conversation encourages you to treat your body with care, kindness, and respect. Links & Resources: CORNBREAD HEMP: 30% off with code HERSELF cornbreadhemp.com/herself GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Last week, our partners Drew and Colin joined us to talk all things partnerships—and they’re back today, but this time we’re diving into the world of parenting. We know many of you love hearing a father’s perspective, and in this episode, Drew and Colin share candid insights, relatable struggles, and plenty of wisdom from their own parenting journeys. We talk about what’s going well for us as parents right now and the areas where we’re still learning. If you’re parenting multiple kids with different personalities, you’ll definitely relate to the challenges—and joys—of finding balance. With summer in full swing, we’re also sharing what we’re most excited about this season and what’s already proving to be a little tricky. Between practices, games, and trying to carve out true downtime, it’s a lot—and we’re talking about how we’re navigating it all. Our kids range from 5 to 9 years old, and we reflect on what’s working at this stage and what continues to challenge us. Plus, we open up about how we keep work stress from seeping into family time and the way we approach big parenting decisions as a couple—especially when we don’t initially see eye to eye. This is a great episode to share with your partner. If you enjoyed it, be sure to send it to them so the two of you can learn together. Links & Resources: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We are excited to have our husbands back on the podcast today. If you are new to the show, Drew is Amy’s husband and Colin is married to Abby. We have both been married for 11 years and the guys tend to be a crowd favorite around here.  Today we are focusing on our partnerships. The men truly have no problem getting deep with their answers and hold nothing back! They share what’s working well, what’s NOT going well and some self-reflection/areas for improvement. They also share the ways they work to continue prioritizing quality time during this full season of life.  We also get into the hot topic of health - how can we actually have a conversation with our partner if they’re struggling to take care of themselves? Make sure you listen all the way through to hear their advice on this sensitive topic!  Be sure to tune in next week for part 2 when we bring the guys back to talk about all things parenting!  Links & Resources: GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself VUORI: 20% off first purchase at: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out your nearest location Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Summer takes on a whole new feeling when your kids are school aged, and today we’re breaking down our tips and lessons learned. We honestly didn’t understand why summer felt so stressful for parents until we entered this phase of life, and so we are talking about what this transition has looked and felt like. As we emphasize the importance of being present in the moment, setting realistic expectations for summer activities, and the role of community & support systems. Our conversation covers how we manage schedules, budget for activities, and the significance of building connections with other parents. Each of us share what we are looking forward to most this summer and reflect on some of our favorite memories as a family from past summers! If you guys have something that you are looking forward to this summer, let us know! Tag us in your Instagram stories or share this episode with a friend who might need an extra boost of encouragement as she preps for the summer months ahead. Links & Resources: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF MAUINUI: mauinuivenison.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We are so excited to tell you about the direction we are taking the HERself podcast for the summer! If you like this new format, be sure and let us know. You, the listeners, are such an integral part of what we do here at the HERself podcast and we want to make sure we are creating content that resonates with you. In this episode we delve into the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the challenges women face in expressing their wants and needs. We discuss the dynamics of accountability and communication in partnerships. This convo highlights the fears women have about being less agreeable and the necessity of asking for what you need in your relationships.  Through our own personal situations we explore how assumptions have led us to misunderstandings and we discuss the importance of recognizing the mental load carried by each individual within a partnership. We share strategies that have worked for us in regards to managing household tasks and emphasize the significance of open dialogue to foster a supportive and balanced partnership. Links & Resources: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

With this being a holiday weekend, we invite you to relisten to one of our most listened to episodes! We had so much positive feedback when this episode went live since it was one of the first times we had a male perspective on the podcast. If you haven’t listened yet, it’s a great alternate perspective and a great one to pass along to your male partners! Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn’t afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style. Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a dad, including his perspective as a dad going through loss and infertility. As women, we often ask ourselves if dads ever feel the same weight of the mental load. Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it’s like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren’t as comfortable with it. We hope that by revisiting this episode, you hear a new piece of wisdom to take away. Or, if you’re new and hearing this for the first time, we hope you find this episode just as helpful as we did! And don’t forget to share this with your partner! Links & Resources: 30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’ Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Follow Eli Weinstein Instagram  Eli’s Website Listen to Eli’s Podcast: The Dude Therapist Podcast Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

*trigger warning, abusive relationships* We feel it’s important to have open and honest discussions about heavy topics in this safe space that is the HERself podcast. In today’s episode, we will be asking the hard questions about narcissism with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, licensed clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic abuse. Dr. Jaime will help us understand the difference between a person with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, narcissistic tendencies, or defensiveness. If you think you may be a child of a narcissistic parent, Dr. Jaime shares ways to navigate that relationship. And if you’re the friend of someone you feel may be in an intimate narcissistic abusive relationship, Dr. Jaime has some insights on how to be a supportive, available friend.  Love bombing - sounds great, but is it really a good thing? Dr. Jaime will give us the details of love bombing and why you should be wary of this tidal wave of infatuation. All of the information Dr. Jaime shares with us today is eye opening and important to hear. Whether you’re in the dating world or a committed relationship, you’ll be given the tools to prevent getting into a narcissistic relationship, how to identify if you are in one, and know how to get out. Healing is important to us, so we’ve linked Dr. Jaime’s resources down below if you or someone you love needs them.  Links & Resources: 20% off at Vuori Clothing Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Get a free pack of Goodwipes! Follow Dr. Jaime Zuckerman on Instagram Dr. Jaime’s Website and therapy group, The Z Group  Listen to Dr. Jaime’s Podcast, Next Up: Narcissism with Dr. Z  Purchase Dr. Jaime’s Workbooks; “Find Your Calm”, and “Find Good Habits” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyro

Modern day friendships - why do they feel so hard? Did you know each of your friendships have an “about” section for your origin story? Why do I still feel lonely even though I have close friends? Friendships enrich our lives so much, but we understand that it can be hard to maintain old friendships and find the time to make meaningful new ones as busy moms! We are so pleased to have author, speaker, and seasoned journalist Anna Goldfarb on today’s episode to share her perspective on modern day friendships. While you may have several groups of friends (think friends from growing up, work friends, mom friends), those groups seldom overlap. Anna dives into WHY this has caused the new age problem of leaving us feeling lonely or isolated in friendships. We loved this idea she brought up about everyone having an “about section” for each of your friendships, and why that can actually help you to better understand your current friendship status and relationships with others. This episode is such a fun and energetic take on adult friendships that had us laughing along the way! We’ve talked about friendship plenty of times in other episodes, but this episode brought some new ideas forward. We’d love to hear what your takeaways were from today’s episode, and don’t forget to reach out to a friend and tell them you love them! Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT 10% off at BetterHelp Join us on Patreon for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! Follow Anna Goldfarb on Instagram Anna’s Website Join Anna’s Substack, Friendship Explained with Anna Goldfarb Purchase Anna’s Book; “Modern Friendship: How to Nurture Our Most Valued Connections”  And check out this free excerpt of the book! Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

As our kids continue to age, the topic of bullying is becoming more front and center. Especially with our pre-teens as they enter what our guest refers to as, “the crucial years”, ages 5-12, where they are rapidly developing into complex people. The conversation today with Dr. Sheryl Ziegler, Licensed Clinical Psychologist and author of the book titled, “The Crucial Years” provides an honest conversation for how we can raise empathetic and kind children who understand the implications of bullying. We’ll cover everything from how to talk to your kids about bullying, how they can learn to respond if they see someone being bullied, and what to do if they’re being bullied themselves.  Dr. Sheryl shares techniques, prompts, and scripts to encourage conversation with your kids surrounding bullying that we found SO helpful. We also talk about keeping the lines of conversation open when it comes to puberty and our developing kids.  This episode is jam packed with amazing information, and we would love it if you shared what hit home for you in your Instagram stories or share the episode with a friend! Links & Resources: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Check out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection! Check out your nearest Forage Kitchen Follow Dr. Sheryl Ziegler on Instagram Dr. Sheryl’s Website Startwiththetalk.com  Listen to Dr. Sheryl’s Podcast: Dr. Sheryl’s PodCouch Preorder Dr. Sheryl’s Book; “The Crucial Years”, releasing on May 6th Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Whether you stay home with your family, work at home with kiddos, or are out in the workplace, we strive to bring guests that cover all lifestyles. That’s why we are so excited to have Dr. Anne Welsh on today’s episode to focus on the working parent. As a mother of 4, Dr. Anne is an expert on transitioning from working person to working parent. She is also a psychologist who started her career at Harvard, now working as an executive coach and consultant with a deep passion for empowering women. Throughout this episode, Dr. Anne explains why the stress of being a working parent is a systemic issue, not just an individual issue and some strategies to reframe stress as a working parent to keep you focused on your beliefs, boundaries, and bandwidth. We talk through how shame and guilt come into play when you're feeling like you’re not giving enough to your career or home life, and why asking for help from your village is SO important (and how to do it!). Lastly, we discuss finding your “glimmers”, the things that bring you joy everyday and drive resiliency against future stress. We really wish we had these tools when we started out in working motherhood, but are glad to have now heard the information. We hope you also feel inspired and would love it if you would share this episode with a working parent in your life! Links & Resources: First pack of Goodwipes for free! Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT 30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’ Follow Dr. Anne Welsh on Instagram Dr. Anne’s Website Message Dr. Anne, mention you listened to this episode and tell her what stuck with you to get a bonus discount on her next group cohort! Emily Nagoski’s book, “Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We know our community has been asking for more Amy and Abby episodes lately so we hope this one hits home. We are both sharing our top three lessons that we’ve learned over time. We cover avoidance and how it’s rarely the answer, the importance of getting the basics down when it comes to your health, and how self-awareness is the number one step for positive change. You know that friendship is an important topic around here and we share the lessons that we’ve learned around that, explain how you can’t change someone else’s perception of you, and discuss decision making; are you in decision making fatigue?  If any of these life lessons resonate with you, share this episode on Instagram. That is a great way to support our show and get these episodes in more ears. Links & Resources: BETTERHELP: 10% off first month at: http://betterhelp.com/herself GOODR: Free Shipping with code HERSELF: https://goodr.com/herself FORAGE KITCHEN: Check out their website to find a location nearest you! Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Do you find yourself feeling dysregulated more often than you’d like? Dr. Amber Thornton, licensed Clinical Psychologist, is on the show today to talk with us about how we can recognize and work with the different triggers that can set us off. If you are someone who tends to stress about worst case scenarios that “might” happen, she has some tips for you. Or maybe you dread the infamous 2nd shift of parenthood; that time between school/daycare and bedtime? Dr. Thornton shares some strategies to help us cope with the overwhelm that can come at that time of day. She leaves us with realistic expectations we should be setting for ourselves and reminds us that at the end of the day, we aren’t going to be able to meet every single one of our child’s needs, and that’s okay.  Links & Resources: LMNT: Free Sample Pack with purchase:  drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  MAUI NUI: mauinuivenison.com/herself CYMBIOTIKA: 20% off and free shipping on first order  https://partners.cymbiotika.com/HERSELF Follow Dr. Amber Thornton on Instagram Dr. Amber’s Website Order Dr. Amber’s Book; A Parent’s Guide to Self-Regulation Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Dr. Morgan Cutlip, relationship expert, is no stranger to the HERself Podcast and we are so excited to have her back for another episode! Together we will be tackling “mental load” with tangible strategies that can actually work for you, your relationship, and your home. We talked with Dr. Morgan in episode 162, and in episode 163 we shared how we implemented her wisdom. But today, we’ll be diving deeper into our relationships to understand why sharing the mental load can prevent burnout and resentment and how to keep the spark alive to have a satisfying sex life. Like Amy and Colin, we know some of you in our community travel for work or have a spouse that travels for work. We acknowledge that this dynamic makes sharing the mental load challenging, and Dr. Morgan has some strategies to consider to foster communication while apart. Intimacy can play a major role in feeling connected to your partner too, so we encourage you to take to heart the details of Dr. Morgan’s interview with us today to nurture your relationship and feel connected outside and inside of the bedroom! Links & Resources: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ 20% off at Vuori Clothing Join us for Book Club starting soon, plus so much more in our private Patreon community! Follow Dr. Morgan Cutlip on Instagram Dr. Morgan’s Website Order Dr. Morgan’s Book; “A Better Share: How Couples Can Tackle the Mental Load for More Fun, Less Resentment, and Great Sex” HERself Episode 162 - Dr. Morgan Cutlip Answers Our Top Relationship Questions  HERself Episode 163 - Real Partnership: How We Implemented Dr. Morgan Cutlip’s Relationship Wisdom Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today on the podcast, we are talking about a vulnerable topic and human experience: shame. While we know it’s not always comfortable to talk about, we also know we aren't alone in our experiences and that sharing is how we all learn and grow. To help us walk through the topic of shame, we have invited Dr. Zoe Shaw on to today’s episode. Dr. Zoe is a psychotherapist, author, podcast host, and speaker who is passionate about helping women through difficult relationships and helping them overcome complex shame and codependency. Dr. Zoe talks us through the difference between simple and complex shame, people who may be more inclined to experience complex shame, the part that shame may play in our romantic relationships, and how codependency can impact our shame cycles. Today’s episode is unlike any other episode. It is truly impactful and we will be thinking about this episode for weeks and months to come. Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  Team SuperCrew use code ‘HERSELF’ for 10% your purchase PLUS free gift 10% off at BETTERHELP Follow on Dr. Zoe Shaw on Instagram Dr. Zoe’s Website Listen to Dr. Zoe’s Podcast: Stronger In the Difficult Places Preorder Dr. Zoe’s Book; “Strong In the Difficult Places…”’ Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Relationships are at the foundation of our everyday connections. Friendship, family, and romantic relationships take dedication for both sides to feel validated and loved. We know relationships are hard, which is why we invited Dr. Thema Bryant to share with us her incredible knowledge and expertise. Dr. Thema is a psychologist, author, professor, and President of the American Psychological Association. Through her work as an educator, podcast host, and her newly released book, “Matters of the Heart”, Dr. Thema is leading the way in creating healthy relationships, healing traumas, and helping others overcome stress and oppression. This episode gave us a new way of thinking about our own relationships and we walked away with so many insightful new ways to shift our mindsets surrounding love and relationships. Dr. Thema’s answers to our deep and personal questions were so well spoken, we know you’re going to take away a lot from today’s episode too! (Trigger warning: emotional and sexual abuse discussed) Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT 30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’ Get your first pack of Goodwipes for free! Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Follow Dr. Thema Bryant on Instagram Dr. Thema’s Website Listen to Dr. Thema’s Podcast: The Homecoming Podcast Purchase Dr. Thema Bryant’s Book; “Matters of the Heart” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Join our exclusive community for bonus episodes, extra video content, book club and more! HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today’s episode was inspired by our personal experiences and a blog post from The Gottman Institute all about perpetual versus solvable problems in long-relationships. As close friends, we’ve had a front seat to the common disagreements and issues that we each have in our 10-year long marriages. We often will talk through something and try to see the other partner’s side, while also working towards solutions - which is what you’ll get to hear in today’s episode. The Gottman blog post was so interesting to us because it made us realize that what may be a solvable problem for Abby and Colin, may be a perpetual problem for Amy and Drew and vice versa. According to The Gottman Institute, 69% of problems in relationships are perpetual with the most common topics being household chores, parenting, sex, and in-law relationships. We are digging into a couple of these topics today and breaking down whether this is a perpetual or solvable problem in our own relationship and what we’ve done to work on it together as a couple. We hope that from listening to our personal experiences in today’s episode, you’re able to reflect if your marital arguments are perpetual or solvable problems in order to evolve with your partner and be in a really happy marriage. Links & Resources: 20% off your order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  20% off your first order at Vuori Clothing Check out the Maui Nui Venison products we’re loving! The Gottman Institute Blog Post, “Managing Conflict: Solvable vs Perpetual Problems” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We know a lot of listeners in our HERself community are busy moms, including us! We've got households to run, kids to take care of, careers to advance, spouses to love, and friends to support. Today on the podcast Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein, licensed clinical psychologist and mom of two, is here to deep dive into stress and burnout, something that is unfortunately common amongst moms. Dr. Carolyn is passionate about supporting moms in finding their worth, helping them embrace the human experience not just with evidence-based strategies, but also with deep compassion and understanding. While stress may be a normal human response, unmanaged and compounding stress without intervention can lead to inevitable burn out. We hope that through today’s episode, you are able to learn the signs and symptoms of burnout and feel prepared with some strategies that Dr. Carolyn shares. Today’s episode was eye-opening knowing that if we just pause and evaluate, it’s possible to take small steps in the right direction to avoid burnout. Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Check out LeVillage on Instagram and their website to find a location near you, and be sure to grab tickets to our event at the new Des Plaines location on March 21st! 10% off at BETTERHELP Follow Dr. Carolyn Rubenstein on Instagram Dr. Rubenstein’s Website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today’s conversation is all about…conversation! We are happy to have Dr. Alison Wood Brooks joining us on the podcast. Alison is a behavioral scientist as well as a professor and Faculty Fellow at Harvard Business School. She created and teaches a course called “TALK” and has now taken her research and published it in her new book also titled TALK! Many of us as parents want our kids to grow and learn in the area of communication - communicating with us, with their friends, with teachers or coaches, etc. Whether you have extroverted or introverted kids - this episode is for you. We touch on things like how to help your extroverted child find balance in discussions by letting others participate, and teaching introverted children how to feel comfortable in conversations to create strong friendships and excel at school. We also discuss how to approach difficult topics, especially with our significant others. And we end the episode elaborating on the importance of apologies and why this comes easily to some, not so easily to others, and some techniques to help bridge that gap.  Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  Use code ‘HERSELF’ for 10% off your Team SuperCrew purchase, PLUS free gift! Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Follow Dr. Alison Wood Brooks on Instagram Alison’s Website Purchase Alison’s Book; “Talk: The science of conversation and the art of being ourselves” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We all have twenty four hours in a day. And when your plate is full with things like a romantic relationship, kids, a career, keeping up your home and taking care of pets, friends, and other obligations, every piece on that plate gets a designated amount of your time. Some seasons of life, the time you have for friends is plentiful - thinking back to our youth with school friends, college friends, and friends at your first job. Friendships came easily then because you had the time to pour into them. Now as adults, it can be hard to find the time to create new and meaningful friendships or keep existing friendships going. Today on the podcast, we are sitting down to have a conversation about our experiences with friendships through our seasons of life. We share the concept about friendship “tiers” and how that relates to our new and existing relationships, our most important values in friendship, and what we feel about friendships with the opposite sex. Our goal is that after listening to today’s episode, you feel hopeful that whether your friendship cup is big or small for your current season of life, that your cup can be full! Links & Resources: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ 20% off your first purchase of Vuori Clothing Check out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection 30% off your first order of Cornbread Hemp using code ‘HERSELF’ Episode “59: HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on the Challenges and Triumphs of Adult Friendships” KU Med professor, J. A. Hall’s article, “How many hours does it take to make a friend?” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

The winter season can feel long for a number of reasons, especially if you live in a cold climate like us! Illnesses going around at school or daycare seem to be constant and our kids are always catching something. That’s why we are so excited to have Dr. Kelly Fradin on the podcast today to talk with us about how to keep our kiddos healthy during this season, when to seek additional help for issues such as tonsils and sleep problems, and we even touch on our children’s mental health too. As a pediatrician and mother of two, Dr. Kelly shares the concerns of keeping our children healthy. Having graduated from Harvard College and Columbia College of Physicians and Surgeons and years of experience working in public health and schools, we knew Dr. Kelly’s outstanding credentials would make her the perfect guest to share tips and tricks to help keep our kiddos healthy, mind and body, during this cold and flu season! Be sure to share this one with a friend in solidarity and share on your socials, tagging us @herselfpodcast!  Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT 10% off your first month of BETTERHELP Follow Dr. Kelly Fradin on Instagram Dr. Kelly’s Website Purchase Dr. Kelly’s Book; “Advanced Parenting: Advice for Helping Kids Through Diagnoses, Differences, and Mental Health Challenges” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Here at HERself, we love wellness in all aspects of life whether it’s your sleep, relationships, parenting, self-care, even digital wellness. Today on the podcast, Amy Blankson is joining to help us discern what digital balance can look like in our everyday lives. Amy is the Co-founder of the Digital Wellness Institute and author of “The Future of Happiness” and she shares how to cultivate happiness and well-being in a hyperconnected world. We know there is lots of talk about our children and tech, but we want to utilize this episode as a way for us to reflect as adults on our own digital usage and be proud of the way we use our screen time. Amy shares a great exercise that helps us all tailor our screen time to our personal values and reminds us about the importance of reflecting on these values often. We are also going to talk through what digital boundaries look like for our home life, work life, in relationships and how to decide what a healthy balance looks like for you! We know that in this day and age, it is hard to be completely away from our phones and the digital world, but we hope that today’s episode helps you focus on your values when it comes to tech and helps you set a healthy balance that supports your overall wellness! Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Follow Amy Blankson on Instagram and LinkedIn Amy’s Website and The Digital Wellness Institute Website Amy’s LinkedIn Course Purchase Amy’s Book; “The Future of Happiness” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Dr. Kelly Vincent, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, and founder of the holistic mental health practice Nourished Wellness Group, helps women in all walks of life with their mental health journey. She is most passionate about caring for the mental health of mothers, female entrepreneurs, and other young professionals, which we know describes a lot of our listeners! Keeping you all in mind, we thought Dr. Kelly would be an excellent expert to bring on the show to share her knowledge on the body’s state of dysregulation, anxiety and high-functioning anxiety, and the “fawning” response. We discuss why so many of today’s parents feel dysregulated, overstimulated, and experience sensory overload more often than parents of previous generations. Kelly really gets to the root of why so many women feel the way they do and walks us through strategies that we can do to help feel more regulated. We hope you find this conversation with Dr. Kelly insightful, and that her actionable tips empower you to create a more regulated parenting experience. Links and Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Look for Goodwipes on Amazon or in your local grocery store! Follow Dr. Kelly Vincent and Nourish Wellness Group on Instagram Dr. Kelly’s Website, and Nourish Wellness Group Website “How to Map Your Nervous System” Blog Post Purchase Dr. Kelly’s “True You: A Self-Discovery Journal”  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

HERself turned 5 years old this month! Join us, Abby and Amy, today to hear the HERself Podcast inception story, the bumps and growth that happened along the way, and some of our all-time favorite guests and moments from the last 5 years. We know none of this could be possible without our incredible listeners, so truly, from the bottom of our hearts, thank you for being a part of it! It started with an idea and has grown into this beautiful, supportive community where women can come together to get the best information from the best experts and we are so happy to be sharing this space with you all! We hope you hear some of your favorite past episodes and quotes - or that you’ll go back and re-listen to the ones that meet you where you are today. Cheers to 5 years and many more episodes to come! Links & Resources: 10% off at BETTERHELP Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Check out Maui Nui Venison and the limited HERself collection! 3. Bring on the Men: Our Husbands on Being True Partners 10. HERself Expert: Molly Millwood on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma  213. Greatest Hits: HERself Expert: Kristin Neff on Self Compassion and Calming Your Mean Inner Critic  103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries 157. Real Parenting: What To Do When the Script Doesn’t Work with Claire Lerner 178. Discipline, Fostering Resilience, and Finding Your Confidence as a Parent with Dr. Aliza Pressman 21. HERself Expert: Vanessa Marin, Sex Therapist. All Your Questions, Answered. Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

You all know by now that here at the HERself podcast, we love and prioritize our sleep - our guest even deemed us sleep advocates! Which is why we are beyond excited to bring you today’s episode with Dr. Fiona Baker, Director of SRI International’s Human Sleep Research Program. She is a leading sleep expert who graciously joins us for today’s interview where we ask her questions we received straight from you all, our HERself community! Today we will discuss aspects of sleep like the differences between men and women, how our partners impact our sleep, what to do about sleep disturbances, and more. Because sleep touches all areas of our lives, Dr Fiona shares some great tips on how we can improve our sleep too to set ourselves up for a successful day. Whether you sleep well or are a light sleeper, we hope you find some key takeaways from this episode and have a great night’s sleep! Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping 20% off at VUORI Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Follow Dr. Fiona Baker on LinkedIn SRI International Website National Sleep Foundation Website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We are so pleased to have Dr. Tammy Schamuhn on the podcast today! Tammy started her professional career in the classroom as a teacher in inner-city schools in Canada. While she enjoyed teaching, it was clear to her that teaching was not her passion. What she DID love was caring for her students with behavioral issues like anxiety. Tammy went back to school to earn her Master’s Degree in Psychology and now combines her love of teaching with her love of being a therapist on a daily basis by helping children and parents with her platform, Institute of Child Psychology, and her play therapy practice. Tammy is here today to guide us and talk us through all things related to childhood anxiety. We are answering questions like is it normal for children to have anxiety? What does anxiety look like in kids? And when should we, as parents, intervene? We found today’s interview to be SO educational and FULL of mindblowing information. It really hit home for us! If you love today’s episode too, we’d love it if you would share this episode with a friend who needs to hear Tammy’s knowledge! Links & Resources: 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Use code ‘HERself’ on Amazon for 25% off your purchase of Goodwipes Follow Dr. Tammy Schamuhn on Instagram, Facebook, and Youtube Dr. Tammy’s Website Purchase Dr. Tammy’s Book; “The Parenting Handbook: Your Guide to Raising Resilient”  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: 

If you’re a long time listener, you know we love talking about all things health and wellness. We are very open about our own health journeys here at the HERself Podcast, including our thyroid journeys. Which is why we are so excited to be interviewing Alisha Knicely today! Alisha is a mother of two and a Registered Dietitian and Integrative & Functional Practitioner specializing in hypothyroid conditions. Alisha understands what it's like to both live with and effectively manage Hashimoto’s and hypothyroidism as she’s struggled with both first hand. Lisha will share so much knowledge with us today that is comprehensive and holistic in nature; helping listeners to see the immense positive impact that lifestyle and nutritional changes can have on managing not only this condition, but other autoimmune conditions as well. It is clear that Lisha has a true passion for helping others and we are excited to share this episode with you all today! Whether you are here to learn more about hypothyroidism and are searching for solutions, love someone with a thyroid condition, or you are here as one of our avid listeners filling up your cup, we hope you find some new knowledge from today’s episode and are able to take away some solutions to apply to your health and wellness journey. 20% off your first order of Cymbiotika PLUS free shipping  10% off at BetterHelp Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Follow Alisha on Instagram Alisha’s “Hashimoto Travel Tips” IG post Alisha’s Mini Courses Alisha’s FREE Thyroid Support Guide Sign up to work 1:1 with Alisha Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today’s episode will be the last of the year! We thought this would be the perfect opportunity to discuss moving into 2025 with a healthy mindset. Social media can make it really easy to get swept into the pressure of making New Year’s resolutions or extreme goals of starting a diet and exercise routine. We, Abby and Amy, have learned over the years how to start the new year with sustainable changes and mindset shifts that actually matter to us and our lifestyles. We are going to share our experiences from years past and the things we are shifting for 2025 to help make this our best year yet! We hope today’s episode is helpful for you as we start a new year, and would love it if you could share this episode with a friend!  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Happy holidays! This week, we wanted to revisit one of our most popular episodes as we not only are in the holiday season, but also sick season.  This time of year, we are exposed to so many germs and may end up dealing with sick kiddos which can be a really stressful time for parents! Today’s guest is Dr. Anjuli Gans, a board-certified pediatrician and educator who runs the platform Resilient Rascals. She’s a trusted and compassionate provider who empowers parents with the knowledge and tools to tackle sick season.  Dr. Anjuli reveals how we as parents can deal with our kids being sick, and what she shares is not only honest, but her tips and advice on this topic is both realistic and practical. We are in this with you, as we’ve certainly been in situations where our kids have been sick and have experienced the impact it has on everyone in the family. We learned so much from Dr. Anjuli today, and we’re so excited for you to learn and use this information as well! Links & Resources: Use code ‘HERself’ on Amazon for 25% off your purchase of Goodwipes Follow Dr. Anjuli on Instagram  Dr. Anjuli’s Website Her Resource, Your Baby’s Health Handbook Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

A few weeks ago we interviewed our husbands with YOUR questions sent in on our Instagram page. What we were not expecting to receive was a lot of questions about navigating in-law relationships! Since so many of you sent in questions on this topic, we thought we’d dedicate an entire episode diving into how our relationships with our in-laws have changed over the years and how we’ve navigated being daughter-in-laws. When it comes to in-laws, everyone has a different story. We’ve seen these relationships go all sorts of directions in our friends’ lives and also in our own. If you’re feeling like your in-law relationship is hard as a parent of young children, you’re not alone. These relationships can be hard! We’ve been there. We’ve learned over the years that in-law relationships are a journey. We understand that today’s episode may not apply to everyone’s situation, and we want to hold space for you if that’s the case. However, if you feel it's appropriate, we hope you find our simple tips about managing expectations and boundaries, communication, and how to deal with the holidays (and more!) helpful and use them to nurture and grow your in-law relationships.  Links & Resources: $5 off your first order of Goodr Try LMNT’s chocolate medley pack! Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today on the podcast, we are happy to be hosting Dr. Menije, licensed Psychologist and founder of Embracing You Therapy which specializes in perfectionism, OCD, addiction, and anxiety. Dr. Menije is passionate about turning judgement into compassion, and pain into purpose. She loves helping people explore behavior changes to support their new way of thinking and utilize action goals.  This episode will be a deep dive into perfectionism; the addiction to it, why it can create anxiety, and more. With the holidays approaching, we all can fall victim to the feeling of needing to be doing it ALL or MORE. This episode is a great listen for someone who is a perfectionist themselves and wants to learn better strategies to manage their tendencies. On the flip side, this episode also takes a look into relationships where your partner might be the perfectionist, and ways that you can work together to help them process and better cope with their perfectionist ways. Whether you deal with perfectionism, or you love someone who has perfectionistic tendencies, we hope from today’s interview that you learn some practical tools and methods to apply to your everyday stressors or you learn how to support someone you love!  Links & Resources: 20% off at Vuori Clothing 20% off your purchase of Thorne Check out Forage Kitchen’s new specials, starting in December! Follow Dr. Menije on Instagram Dr. Menije’s Website Purchase Dr. Menije’s Book; “I Am Enough; Adult Coloring Workbook” Check out Dr. Menije’s Free Overcoming Perfectionism Course! Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

You asked, we answered! Today, the husbands are back to answer your burning questions on our relationships, parenting, how life has changed since their last sit down with us, and more. Drew and Colin get vulnerable with their honest answers, which is why we love them so much! Whether you want to hear how our families handle filling in our social calendar with sports, parties, and other activities OR you’re here to find out what REALLY goes on behind the scenes of the Green and Kiefer households, we’ve got it here for you. We felt this episode was good timing considering the holiday season is upon us. We all can utilize this time to reflect on our 2024, to recognize the areas in our lives we can improve and the areas we excel. We hope you find today’s episode to be fun, but that you also take away something valuable!  Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT 10% off at BETTERHELP Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

With the holiday season here upon us, we thought it would be the perfect time to revisit our interview with Erica Djossa of @momwell as our “Greatest Hits” episode this Thanksgiving week. We feel like her mission and our mission here at the HERself podcast to get women the best information possible really align! During this incredible episode with Erica we discussed the invisible load in motherhood, what causes the feeling of being on edge, toxic positivity and so much more. These topics could not be more relevant during the hecticness of the holiday season. At the end of the episode, Erica speaks to the fathers of our children. We get asked so often, from you, about how your partner/husband can get resources. We wanted to make sure we covered that inside this interview as well because we all know dads and partners struggle too. We hope revisiting this episode highlighted something new for you to reflect upon as we enter this busy season at the end of 2024! Links & Resources: $5 your first order at GOODR  Follow Erica on Instagram Erica’s Website Get Erica’s Reconnect Bundle Listen to Erica’s Podcast: The Momwell Podcast 169. “A Conversation with Erica Djossa of @momwell…” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We know finances and discussing budgets can be major pressure points in romantic relationships, and here at the HERself podcast, we want to cover these difficult topics and bring you the best experts and best information! Today we have Hannah Rein, CPA, financial educator, wife, and mother of two on the show today. Hannah’s goal on her platform, Financially Engaged, is to help people find the balance between living in the now while also investing for the future. She loves helping couples who want to make good money choices, but aren’t exactly sure where to start. Hannah is going to answer our hard-hitting questions like how often to have a budget meeting with your partner, where to begin investing if you’re in your 30s, how to deal with upcoming holiday spending, and more! We close out our interview with some rapid fire questions all about money we think you should know. Hannah has some really great financial resources and courses we think could be valuable to you, our listeners, so be sure to check out her website linked below for more information! Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT - try the new hot chocolate medley!  20% off at Vuori Clothing Check out Forage Kitchen Follow Hannah Rein on Instagram Hannah’s Website Sign up for Hannah’s free Newsletter here HERself listeners can use code HERSELF20 for 20% off any of Hannah’s products like Cash Dash, Debt Payoff Plan, and Investing for Beginners Course (available on Friday 11/22)! Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Inspired by our recent project together, today’s episode is all about how we tackled decluttering Amy’s house! Amy felt her house was bursting at the seams in all the wrong ways - think overflowing closets, dresser drawers, toy storage, etc. In comes Abby to save the day! Having read all the books and listened to all the podcasts, Abby has taken all the information she’s learned over the years to create her own manageable and flexible method of decluttering to keep her home, and now Amy’s, a space that is clutter free and easy to keep tidy. We’re tagging it the “Abby Green Method” and she’s going to share her 4 decluttering steps with us during today’s discussion! Whether you’ve also read all the books like Abby and feel like an experienced declutterer, or you’re totally new at this and feeling overwhelmed with where to begin, our hope is that you are able to take away some of the tips from this episode and apply them to your own decluttering journey! Links & Resources: 10% off at BETTERHELP 20% off your purchase of Thorne 20% off your first order of WILD with code HERSELF20  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Dr. Jasmine, our guest on today’s episode, did everything she could to check off her boxes on her timeline. But after struggling to conceive her first child, she expected motherhood to be smooth sailing from there. However, after the birth of her baby, Dr. Jasmine suffered from debilitating postpartum depression, anxiety, and insomnia. With her background as a clinical pharmacist with a doctorate in Pharmacy, Dr. Jasmine felt that even though she was clinically prepared to be aware of the signs and symptoms and treatment of PPD, it still didn’t make sense to her why she was walking through that hardship. Once she accepted her feelings, she sought help from a perinatal mental health therapist and decided to pursue studies to obtain her own perinatal mental health certificate to better understand what she and so many other women were struggling with.  Now through that storm, she hosts a podcast called “Healing the Tigress” where she focuses on conversations and stories around Asian American Pacific Islander (AAPI) mental health. Her presence online has created a safe and honest space for other women to share their experiences and celebrate the meaning of “One and Won”. Today on our show, Dr. Jasmine is so vulnerable about her postpartum depression, anxiety, and insomnia experience and also shares with us how she came to the conclusion that one child was the best fit for her and her family. She explains how the societal saying of “One and Done” can be perceived and instead, provides a new and fresh reframe of “One and Won” to celebrate the joy of having one child. This concept leaves room for families to change their minds if they decide to expand their family in the future. We are so grateful for the honesty and openness Dr. Jasmine brings to today’s episode and hope you share this with someone you love who may need to hear today’s message.  Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT - try the chocolate salt, perfect for fall! Use code HERSELF20 for 20% off First order of Wild  Follow Dr. Jasmine on Instagram Dr. Jasmine’s Website Listen to Dr. Jasmine’s Podcast: Healing the Tigress Dr. Jasmine’s Newsletter and most popular article, “One and Won…” Check out the Office of Women’s Health “Talking PPD” campaign! Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We shared in our last check-in episode that this school year was going to bring big changes to both of our family’s lives. Today, we, Amy and Abby, wanted to revisit those changes and discuss how things are going now that we are a few months into the school year, as well as talk about how we practice self care during this season of motherhood.   While today is a shorter episode, we still wanted to bring you, our listener, some tangible tips that we feel have made a big difference with prioritizing self care in our everyday lives. We talk about leaving space for quality family time, creating time to move your body and how that movement may vary during different seasons of motherhood, and how to tweak your daily routine by adding or removing habits that can support your well-being.  We want to be good examples for our kids. And our kids watching us pour into them with an empty cup doesn’t set the greatest example. Fill up your cup mama, however you feel will fill you up best, and then pour into your family with renewed enjoyment and excitement for motherhood. Whether you are a stage ahead of us in motherhood, or a stage behind, we hope you found today’s episode helpful in some way! Links & Resources: 10% off at BETTERHELP Check out Forage Kitchen! Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

You cannot miss this episode! Cindy Hovington, PhD, mother of three, and creator of Curious Neuron is our guest on today’s episode. Cindy specializes in mental health and emotions and has made it her mission to support parents in developing skills and habits that will allow them to nurture their own well-being. She also helps parents to develop leadership skills, coaching skills, and learn science-based well-being tips to encourage parenting and emotional intelligence. We are diving into some deep and heavy topics today with Cindy, but you know here at HERself, it’s our passion to bring you the best information from the best experts.  Soccer practice, dance class, play dates…the list goes on and on of the activities we do for our children. Cindy reminds us that the studies show if we continuously say “there isn’t enough time!” that it will eventually have negative effects on our mental and physical health. It’s so important to be mindful of how your family spends their time and find the balance that works for your family. Setting boundaries, knowing your limit, and having open communication with your family is key. Gentle parenting has been a trending parenting style for the past several years. Cindy has really great insight to help us find the balance between being too permissive and being too authoritarian. Finding that balance is not only best for your children, but best for your mental health as the parent. Cindy has a special offer just for HERself listeners, so check out the links in the show notes for more information! Links & Resources: 20% off at Vuori Clothing $5 off your first order of GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ 20% off your first order of WILD with code ‘HERSELF20’ HERself Episode 97 with Kristin Neff Follow Cindy Hovington on Instagram and Facebook Cindy’s Website Listen to Cindy’s Podcast: Curious Neuron Curious Neuron FREE Parental Well-Being Kit Join the Curious Neuron membership using the code HERSELF30 to get 30% off!  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

We get into it ALL in today’s episode with Dr. Heather Finley! After struggling with her own digestive issues for nearly 20 years, Heather completed her training to become a registered dietitian and also has a doctorate in clinical nutrition. She understands first hand the impact that nutrition, lifestyle, and mindset all have on digestive health and now uses her passion for nutrition to help people struggling with bloating, constipation, and IBS find relief from their symptoms and feel excited about food again.  Social media is constantly showing us the newest elimination diet, anti-bloating pill, or inflammation-friendly health trend. But is it really that easy? Heather gives us her expert opinion on what “normal” GI health should look like, factors that may be impacting your overall gut health, and how to help your bloating. Travelling seems to always bring on constipation due to many external factors like dehydration, less movement, diet change, etc. Heather gives us her favorite tips and tricks to ease your tummy problems while on your trips, but they are also totally applicable to at-home use too!  Decreasing inflammation and elimination diets seem to be big trends online right now. We talk with Heather about how the gut can impact a lot of areas of our health, how to know if you’re experiencing inflammation, and whether or not you should try that new trendy elimination diet. The good news is that there is help from experts like Heather if you are experiencing any of the symptoms we talked about in today’s episode AND there is so much research happening surrounding gut health! Follow Heather for an expert’s guidance and the most up-to-date information on these topics!   Links & Resources: 10% off at BETTERHELP 20% off your purchase of Thorne Follow Dr. Heather Finley on Instagram and DM her “Mocktail” for her free mineral mocktail recipe guide! Visit https://guttogetherprogram.com to book a discovery call with Heather and her team and start improving your digestive symptoms today! Heather’s Website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

This episode is a bit different from our norm! Today we have a couple on the show! Stranz and Mallory Wolfgramm host the podcast “Make Marriage Work” and are here to talk with us about what they’ve learned as a couple over the years and techniques we can take away to have successful arguments and conflict resolution in our relationships. Mallory is a licensed therapist with a private practice who specializes in couple’s therapy and is the perfect guest to talk about this topic!  We want you to know that every relationship has a conflict cycle and it’s perfectly normal to have arguments! And to really prove that theory, Abby and Amy get vulnerable and share some areas of conflict in their marriages and relationship challenges to get Mallory’s expert advice.  We also talk through Mallory’s controversial Instagram post about how she feels we should know our partner’s phone passcode. We really enjoyed today’s talk with Mallory and Stranz and feel this could have gone on much longer than time allotted for! Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Follow Mallory on Instagram Mallory’s practice, The Marigold Practice  Listen to Stranz and Mallory’s Podcast: Make Marriage Work Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Parenting in the digital age can be confusing and scary. We know a lot of our listeners have the same questions that we do when it comes to technology and our kids! Today on the podcast, we are interviewing Dr. Devorah Heitner who has a PhD in Media/Technology and Society, is a parent, author, and screentime expert. She brings a lot of passion to this topic and answers all our questions with a new perspective surrounding social media, devices, and screentime when it comes to our kids! Every family will have a different take on screentime. Instead of judging others for their comfort zones and boundaries, Dr. Devorah encourages us to talk about screentime with friends and family to see the ways other families approach the use of tech in their homes. Dr. Devorah gives us her insight on wearable devices that have gained a lot of popularity with younger kiddos. We also ask the question “when is it the right time to give my child a cell phone?” Many factors go into this answer and Dr. Devorah breaks them down for us.  Most importantly, we need to mentor our children on how to conduct themselves online and on their devices. Having the hard conversations about the content they view and conversations they have with their peers will help lead them in the right direction. There is no blueprint, but Dr. Devorah does give us a lot of insight into things we should discuss and think about before giving our children access to being online and devices. Links & Resources: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Try Forage Kitchen! Follow Dr. Devorah Heitner on Instagram Dr. Devorah’s Website Purchase Dr. Devorah’s Books; “Screenwise” and “Growing Up in Public” Substack Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Society pressures women to stay youthful, but our guest on today’s episode, Tanya Dalton, has a motivating message that will encourage you to embrace aging gracefully and love the wisdom that comes with having more birthdays! Tanya is a bestselling author, motivational speaker, wife, and mother who is going to share with us why we should be excited about getting older! Several other cultures revere their older adults and grandparents are often seen as the wisest family members! However, in America, women in their 50s and older are seen as the “wicked stepmother” and the “old crone” tropes that come with negative connotations. Tanya explains why aging could not be further from this comparison and why it is in fact a beautiful thing that should not be feared!  We know a lot of our listeners are entering their 40s soon, so we talk with Tanya about why your 40s can be exciting and a time for deep self exploration. Getting to know your true self over the years and quieting your ego will leave room for your intuition to speak and help you make life decisions more easily. Knowing what you truly want out of your life and doing the things you love will not only make YOU happier, but those around you as well. Let’s all celebrate our next birthdays with enthusiasm for another year of beautiful life worth living! Links & Resources: 10% off at BETTERHELP Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Tanya’s Website  Listen to Tanya’s Podcast: The Intentional Advantage Purchase Tanya’s Books; The Joy of Missing Out and On Purpose Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Mom guilt can feel SO heavy in one season of life, and lighter in others. If you’ve yet to feel one of the lighter seasons, today’s episode is for you. We are here to tell you that we see you and we hope that today’s episode helps to open up the conversation about mom guilt. In today’s episode we both share how our mom guilt has changed over the years from when our children were infants to their ages now. For Abby, mom guilt currently shows up with her children’s involvement in sports and being able to spend time at practice and games with all the other life things going on creating schedule conflicts. Amy shares that having one child who is a deep feeler and big reactor requires a lot of hands-on parenting and how that has affected her other children and the guilt that comes along with making each of her three children feel special.  Something both of us can relate to is the guilt that comes along with being a working mother. Amy finds encouragement thinking about the other working moms in her life that are both amazing career women AND amazing mothers! Seeing the proof you can be both at the same time and reminding yourself that your work is important for your family makes the guilt a little less heavy. Whether you are a stay at home mom or a working mom, working to release the mom guilt will lead to a happier life! Links & Resources: 20% off your purchase of Thorne 20% off at Vuori Clothing HERself Episode 12 - Mom Guilt: How We’re Working Through It Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Divorce is a heavy topic, but it happens and that’s why we thought it was important to bring you this episode. We are so lucky to have Kate Anthony as our guest for today. Kate is a divorce coach who helps women decide if they should stay or leave their marriages and is a wealth of knowledge of the divorce process. Whether today’s episode applies to you personally or not, it could be helpful for your sister, friend, or other family member. We hope you take what you need from today’s interview with Kate and pass this episode along to someone you know who may need the information too. There are two big common misconceptions about divorce that Kate breaks down for us. Lots of people think that couple’s therapy may be the first step towards reconciliation. However, it is not always the answer and Kate tells us which marriage scenarios should actually avoid it. If divorce is the route you choose, Kate shares with us how she thinks you should go about the first steps of the process as well as some important “do’s and don’ts” of divorce.  If you, our listener, is living in an unhealthy marriage, we want you to know that you deserve to be happy. Reach out to a marriage coach, someone like Kate, who can help you discern what your next steps should be and utilize their resources. You deserve happiness and we support you!  Links & Resources: Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT 10% off at BETTERHELP Follow Kate on Instagram Kate’s Website Listen to Kate’s Podcast: Divorce Survival Guide Podcast Purchase Kate’s Book; “The D Word” Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

As we are closing the chapter on this year’s summer season with the celebration of Labor Day here in the US, we thought it would be perfect to revisit our conversation with clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy from episode 146. Besides being a psychologist, Dr. Becky is also a mother of three and founder of Good Inside, the expert-guided, community-powered platform equipping parents with a new way of seeing and solving challenges at home.  With a new school year starting, there will be many transitions for our kids. And for us as parents! Dr. Becky’s insight on parenting is so valuable as we go into this fall season. She opens up the conversation on a lot of topics that usually happen behind closed doors and has great advice on how to approach our children’s changing behaviors when going through transitional times like the start of a new school year. Dr. Becky encourages us that no matter where we are in our motherhood and parenting journey, it’s never too late to re-evaluate our behaviors and start to make a change. Follow Dr. Becky on Instagram Dr. Becky’s Website Dr. Becky’s Online Workshops Purchase Dr. Becky’s Book; Good Inside Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today is a more casual episode between us, your hosts, Amy and Abby, as we talk all about stress and the way it’s impacted our lives, our families and friends, and the techniques we’ve learned over the years to get through those stressful times. Our long term partners can get the brunt of our stress. Sometimes that means our stress can be triggering for them and vice versa! Every person deals with stress differently. Do you withdraw? Do you nitpick? Do you yell? Reflecting on your inner self, what are your triggers while you’re going through a stressful time? Knowing these triggers can help you pause in the moment and approach the situation differently. Try narrating how you’re feeling to your kids so they know you’re reaching your limit to prevent an explosion. And don’t forget to utilize your “village”. Whether that’s nearby family or friends, lean on them to support you in times of stress. Most of the time, they will happily help!  Work and friendship goes hand and hand for us as best friends who own a business together. Being open, honest, and direct about our stressors and what our needs are from each other has really helped us be on the same page with our expectations for the day-to-day workflow. We often check in with each other before unloading a heavy work-related topic just to make sure it can be given the proper attention it needs. Not taking things personally has really helped the way we respond to friends as well.  What we want you to take away from this episode is that we all experience stress and stressful situations. And we all express our stress differently. We can’t handle it perfectly every time, but the goal is to take a deep breath and be a little bit better each day.  Links & Resources: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT ShrinkChicks Podcast Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

This episode is a MUST listen! Today on the podcast we have Dr. Karen Tang. She is a board-certified gynecologist who is here to answer ALL of our questions about women’s health that we were never taught before! Her goal through her online presence is to help get rid of the stigma around women’s health so that women everywhere can live better. “Cycle syncing” is a popular trend going around online. Dr. Tang tells us that if it works for you to change your workouts and diet based on your cycle phase, then keep doing so! But it’s totally not necessary. Your flow can say a lot about your period health, so Dr. Tang covers how much flow is too little and also how much is too much and could be cause for concern. If you’ve been on birth control for several years and are wondering if it’s safe to continue, Dr. Tang breaks that down for us based on the types of birth control and the risk factors involved.  As we enter into our late 30s and 40s, women start experiencing symptoms of perimenopause. We talk with Dr. Tang about what we can do during this transitional time to improve our experience of perimenopause. Dr. Tang leaves us with the encouragement that if you feel something is not right, don’t wait to seek help while you suffer. Talk to your provider or get a second opinion to come up with a plan to help you live your best life. You’ve got this! 10% off at BETTERHELP Try Forage Kitchen Follow Dr. Karen Tang on Instagram Dr. Karen Tang’s Website Purchase Dr. Tang’s Book; It’s Not Hysteria, Everything You Need to Know About Your Reproductive Health (but Were Never Told) Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Today on the podcast we are happy to have Megan McNamee of Feeding Littles. Megan is a Registered Dietician Nutritionist who works specifically with babies, children, and their families to promote positive eating habits. Megan began teaching feeding courses at her local hospital after an unfortunate series of events before her first child was born. It was there that she fell in love with teaching families and babies and met Judy, an OT and feeding therapist, and created Feeding Littles together! Do you have a picky eater? Megan wants you to know that picky eating is normal in childhood! And it won’t last forever. You know your child the best, so the guidelines Megan shares with us today may not apply to every situation, but are a great starting place to help your picky eater.  We’ve all heard how beneficial it is for our children to sit as a family for dinner time because it is a time for connection. But we realize that our school-age children have activities that happen during the evenings. Not every family can sit down daily for a meal together, so just do it when you can! We also go through some tips about snacks before bed, easy protein sources, and how you as a parent can set a good example through food.  Making school lunches can get overwhelming. Megan and Judy’s new book, Feeding Littles Lunches, is the perfect inspiration you need to create simple, easy, and nutritious lunches for your kiddos. With beautiful photography and a list of easy swaps for allergies/diet needs, this book will be your saving grace this upcoming school year! We’ve been using it this summer for packing our kids’ lunches and loved all their ideas! Links & Resources: 20% off at Vuori Clothing 20% off your purchase of Thorne Free drink mix sample pack with purchase of LMNT Follow Megan on Instagram Megan’s Website Preorder Megan and Judy’s Book - available August 27th; Feeding Littles Lunches Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the Pivot Ball Change Network.

Lauren Goodwin, creator of Career Contessa, loves helping women navigate their careers. After having done all the “right” things, her first job after college left her wanting something more. After a long job search, Lauren became a recruiter. Now on the other side of the hiring process, she finally understood what employers were looking for. And from that, Career Contessa was born!  There are more women in the career world now than ever before! Lauren tells us that job flexibility and pay are the two main things we should be mindful of in our current careers. If you’re feeling burnt out, present your boss with a list of solutions to your desires that would give you more flexibility in your current role. Pay is always something we should be evaluating too, even if we are happy at our current jobs. Researching the open market for salaries of your same position at other employers can help you know your value and worth. Lauren goes over how to have a salary negotiation if you find you are being undervalued at a job that you love. Networking is everything! We know you’ve been told to network externally, but don’t forget to be relationally-minded within your current company. Lauren suggests keeping your Linkedin profile up to date even if you are taking a career break. It’s also never too late to pivot into a new career field if your priorities have shifted. And don’t forget, sometimes the “good enough” job allows us a better work/life balance than the “dream job”. To wrap up our interview, Lauren shares  her opinion on some popular career advice! Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Lauren on Instagram Lauren’s Website Purchase Lauren’s book, “Power Moves” Listen to Lauren’s Podcast: The Career Contessa Podcast 10% off at BETTERHELP Code ‘HERself’ for 25% off your purchase of Goodwipes Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was brought to you by the 

Today on the show we are talking with Dominika from Dog Meets Baby. Dominika is a certified dog trainer who works specifically with families who have a dog and are bringing home a new baby or have kiddos and are bringing home a new dog. She helps to make the transition smooth for both kiddos and canines!  Dominika’s first piece of advice if bringing a new baby home to the family dog is to have a plan - don’t wing it. If you are able to, practice! We go through some details of how to do this in today’s episode. Don’t forget to plan where your dog will go or who will stay with them while you are in the hospital for delivery! If you feel your family is ready to add in a canine companion, it’s important to choose a dog that will fit into your family’s lifestyle. Dominika shares her insight on several points to consider when picking a dog. Is there a magic age that your kiddos should be before adding a dog to the family? Dominika tells us the age, based on the research, and a bit of an explanation behind it.  The last thing any parent wants to happen is your dog biting your child. Dominika tells us that we should have safety rules set in place that will prevent bites. But also what to do if it does happen.  Ensure you have a safe and happy home set up for your kids and your dog to cohabitate with Dominika’s checklist we’ve linked for you down below. Children and dogs take a lot of care and attention, finding that happy balance spending time with both will create a happy dog and a happy family! Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Dominika on Instagram Dominika’s Website Dog Meets Baby Blog Post: How to Select a Dog for a Family with Young Kids Dog Meets Baby Preparation Checklist Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ 20% off your purchase at Thorne Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

(Trigger warning: secondary infertility, miscarriage) 1:8 couples will experience secondary infertility. Allie Karagozian, Occupational Therapist, momma, and founder of @holdingboth, always knew she wanted to be a mom. After using fertility treatments to conceive her first child, she was overjoyed to become a mother. When she and her husband were ready for a second child, they were met with secondary infertility troubles. From that hardship, @holdingboth was created with the mentality that it is okay to be thankful to have a child, but still grieve not being able to have another. Allie wants to bring more awareness to secondary infertility and through her business she provides support and a safe landing place for those families walking through it.  Allie wants you to know that it’s important to take care of your mental health during the journey of secondary infertility. She highly recommends that you and your partner seek therapy through any outlet you feel comfortable with, whether that’s through your insurance, BetterHelp, or support groups like the ones Allie hosts. And if you’re a friend of someone going through infertility, it can be hard to know what to say and ask. Allie gives us a great insight as to what thoughtful questions to ask to show you care without causing overwhelm. And if you are going through a pregnancy loss, we want you to know it’s okay to ask for help. Ask a friend or family to take your other children for the day so you can rest. And please give yourself some grace during this time. We understand this is a sensitive topic, and if listening to this episode is too much right now, we understand, and encourage you to tune back when the timing is right.  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Allie on Instagram Allie’s Website Listen to Allie’s Podcast: The Secondary Infertility Podcast The Miscarriage Doula on Instagram  Resolve Support Group for Men 10% off at BETTERHELP Free sample pack with purchase of LMNT Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

If you follow us on Instagram, then you may have seen our stories the day we got colonics. It was an interesting experience to say the least! A lot of you, our listeners, had questions and wanted more detail about the process, how it makes you feel, what to expect, etc. Spoiler, one of us had a little bit of a poopy situation! And one of us unfortunately had a not so pleasant experience. Today we’ll go in depth about our individual experiences during our colonics and share about what you can expect if you think a colonic procedure is right for you. Would we do it again? You’ll have to listen to find out! On a more serious note, Abby wanted to share more about her journey with Hashimoto’s disease. We have a real conversation about being aware of your body’s symptoms, knowing your triggers, and slowing down. Abby discusses her symptoms she was having when she was first diagnosed and how those have waxed and waned over time. Amy shares her concern over her heavy periods and that she is doing some hormone testing to see if any improvements can be made. If you have been experiencing symptoms similar to ours, or just not feeling yourself, we encourage you to get hormone testing done!  Over on the Expecting and Empowered Podcast, we interviewed the owners of Your Hormone Balance, a women-owned business that specializes in hormone testing and coaching. We are so excited to share that Your Hormone Balance has provided a discount code specifically for our listeners. Getting testing can be your first step to feeling better and getting back in control of your body and your life! Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Forage Kitchen: https://www.eatforage.com/ Your Hormone Balance; use code HERSELF for 10% off the “Build Your Own” Test Kit Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

After seeing some of Lindsay’s work through a friend, we knew we needed to have her on our podcast. Lindsay Bryan Podvin is a licensed social worker turned financial therapist, and the first of her kind in Michigan! As a financial therapist, Lindsay’s job is to look at the emotional side of money and help others with their mind/money connection. Money is a hot topic whether you’re single, partnered, or married. Sometimes we think we are doing worse financially than we really are. Lindsay’s work with individuals and with community groups has shown that you may not be as bad off as you think! It’s important that we understand our emotions behind money and understand things like why it may be hard to stick to a budget and why we feel the way we do about money. And it’s people like Lindsay that can help you figure that out! If you have a partner, discuss and get clear on what your financial goals are as a couple. And if one partner makes more than the other, it’s important to have a game plan on how your finances will be shared. Making sure that you are being transparent about your debts, salary, and spending habits is part of financial fidelity.  Lindsay touches on other trending topics like “loud budgeting”, 9 financial goals for couples in their 30s and 40s, her financial type quiz and book titled “The Financial Anxiety Solution”, and even gives us a mini therapy session! You won’t want to miss today’s episode, and you’ll probably want to pass this along to your partner too!  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Lindsay Bryan Podvin on Instagram Lindsay’s Website Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Mind Money Balance Purchase Lindsay’s Book; The Financial Anxiety Solution Lindsay’s What’s Your Financial Archetype Quiz  LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Goodwipes: code ‘HERself’ on Amazon for 25% off your purchase of Goodwipes Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We both have experience raising children who seem to not respond to gentle parenting and the other well known techniques. It has been frustrating for the both of us at times because it makes us feel isolated and exhausted. We are so excited to revisit episode 157 with Claire Lerner as our “Greatest Hits” episode over this 4th of July week. Claire shares her expertise with us and we feel it is just as helpful now as when this episode first aired.  Claire shares what to do if your child is wired differently during moments of aggression towards others. She explains that our children are not trying to be manipulative in any way, just that they need boundaries to help themselves regulate.  Have you ever wondered if timeouts are truly a thing of the past? Claire explains her concept of a safe space break and how this alone time can help kids get back to a place of calm.  With it being the summer season with lots of gatherings with family and friends, we know these gatherings can be major triggers for our kiddos who tend to be big reactors. Claire helps us navigate the conversations we can have with our friends and family.  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Claire on Instagram Claire’s Website Claire’s Book Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Whether you’re a teacher, a nurse, or a therapist, professional burnout is real. Our guest today, licensed psychologist and mother of two, Dr. Nancy Grechko, specializes in supporting women therapists and women working in the mental health field. And while Dr. Grechko’s main focus is with women in the mental health field, they are usually also mothers. The tips she offers in today’s episode are really relatable as busy mothers who want a healthy work/life balance. As mothers, we are caregivers. And sometimes it can be easy to over commit ourselves in our personal and professional lives to help meet the needs and care for the other people in our lives. We can squeeze in that play date on Thursday evening with friends, right? And we can squeeze in one or two more clients on Wednesday morning too? Well, Dr. Grechko tells us today that overscheduling can cause increased stress and resentment over time leading to burnout. It’s important for us to recognize our limits and set boundaries to prevent burnout from occurring.  A lot of us have flexible work hours or are able to work from home some days. However, this can make it harder for us to “turn down the volume” of work when we can see emails popping into our inboxes. Dr. Grechko reminds us that we need to be more mindful of being in one place at a time and create more separation between our work and home lives. She has some wonderful teachings to help us create that mindful space. Overall, the importance of recognizing, honoring, and communicating your limits to prevent burnout is what we want you to take away from today’s episode with Dr. Nancy Grechko. And remembering that we weren’t meant to do this motherhood journey alone. There are several tangible tips in today’s episode to help you work through things internally, with partnership, and with a greater support community.  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Dr. Nancy Grechko on Instagram Dr. Nancy Grechko’s Website Dr. Grechko’s Complex Trauma Online Course - use code HERSELF for $10 off LMNT; free sample pack with purchase at drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF  Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: 

We (Amy and Drew, Abby and Colin) just got back from our amazing trip to Kaui, Hawaii to celebrate our 10 year anniversaries. We had such a great time vacationing as separate couples exploring North Shore Kauai, and then also as a group enjoying the South Shore. The best of both worlds!  Coming home from Hawaii, we felt compelled to record this episode and talk about friendship. As busy moms, wives, and entrepreneurs, our schedules are pretty full. Which makes the time we dedicate to friendships very sacred. We have learned over the years that not only is time precious, but who you keep in your inner circle is just as important. Are you okay with the habits and behaviors of those friends and their children rubbing off on your kids? Do their values line up with yours? It’s important to choose wisely which friendships you nurture. Choose ones that will build you up and leave you feeling energized and happy instead of drained. Enriching friendships takes a lot of work. A new friend can’t be a best friend immediately. Maintaining surface level friends is okay, but digging deep, asking questions, and spending quality time together can get you to that best friend level. Being open to new friendships in our 30s and 40s may bring a new best friend (or two!) to walk through life with. We are so thankful to have developed our great friendship over these past years and witness each other's vow renewals in Hawaii. We encourage you to keep an open heart to new friendships as they may provide you with joy you didn’t know you were missing! Links & Resources: 20% off your Thorne purchase: www.thorne.com/u/herself Check out Forage Kitchen! 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We have some news to share today… Pursuing HER Purpose, our other business focused on helping entrepreneurial moms with our friend Kat, is officially closing its doors. As we mention in today’s episode, while PHP may be ending, we are bringing over the best of that brand to the HERself platform! Our consulting services and coaching courses will still be available on our website. In honor of one season ending and another beginning, we thought we would replay one of the most listened to episodes from the PHP podcast titled “The Episode You Need if You Are About to Return From Maternity Leave” for you today. The season of your maternity leave ending can be bittersweet. It can seem daunting to leave your infant just as you were getting the hang of being a new mom, or new mom again! In this episode we go through many tips and tricks to help you during this transition like what to wear to pump at work, how to prepare the night before for a smooth morning and daycare drop off, as well as how to lean on your partner during this season.  Beyond the physical things we can do to prepare to go back to work, we encourage you to embrace a mindset change too. Instead of feeling guilty for needing to step away from work for 15 minutes to go pump, changing your mindset to “I’m doing this for my baby” can help you stay motivated and empowered to go pump. Going back to work can be stressful, but reminding yourself that your role of providing for your family is important and your kids will be so proud of you for doing so! To wrap up, Kat shares with us a heartfelt letter she wrote to her children when her maternity leave was coming to an end. If you are coming over from the PHP podcast, thank you for your support over the years and your continued support here at HERself! Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Check out our newest partner Goodwipes  Follow Kat’s other business @theyesandco Pursuing HER Purpose website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today on the podcast, we are excited to welcome back Dr. Emily Jamea, who was last with us for episode 192. Dr. Emily is a sex therapist who works with couples and individuals to overcome relationship and sexual hurdles to enjoy more meaningful lives. She sits down with us today to discuss how we can talk with our kids about all things related to sex. Here at the HERself podcast, we plan on talking to our kids about sex, but understand that if this topic does not align with your beliefs, please feel free to skip this episode!  “Mom, where do babies come from?” If you haven’t already been asked, you will be at some point. And when is the right time to give our kids “the talk”? Dr. Emily points out that it is important to use proper anatomical terminology while she walks us through how to answer these questions with age appropriate responses.  She also emphasizes the importance of discussing different scenarios when sex may come into play with our older children. By helping them establish their personal sexual values, they will be better prepared for when those scenarios happen in real life. While privacy settings and activity monitoring apps can be useful on teen phones, nothing can replace the conversations we need to have with our kids about being safe online. We know this can be an uncomfortable topic to talk about, but we encourage you to get uncomfortable and have those conversations. We thank you for listening to today’s episode! Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Links & Resources: Dr. Emily’s Website Follow Dr. Emily on Instagram Order Dr. Emily’s book, Anatomy of Desire Listen to Dr. Emily’s Podcast Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

For today’s “Greatest Hits” episode, we are revisiting our interview with Dr. Morgan Cutlip. She joined us for episode 162 and episode 190. This episode we are focusing on how we take care of ourselves as mothers; how do we feel good inside motherhood? So many of her answers spoke directly to both of us. In her book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Morgan explains three core concepts moms face. She chats with us about these concepts including what we can do to help ourselves with the conflict of sacrificing our own identities in motherhood. We also discuss the core concept of idealization of motherhood and how intense our standards are on ourselves as parents.  Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner when it comes to sharing the load? Do you ask them for help but it never seems to go anywhere? Dr. Morgan shares actionable steps you can take when our own needs are not being met. She talks about how you can best manage all of our commitments and why that means you can’t be 100 percent committed to everything at once.  If the HERself podcast has made an impact on your life we would love it if you could help us in return. Leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts and while you’re there also hit the follow or subscribe button. That way we will land in your inbox every single Monday! Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’ Meet Dr. Morgan Cutlip Order Dr. Morgan’s Book HERE - out now! Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP HERSELF PATREON HERSELF INSTAGRAM MEET AMY MEET ABBY This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We’ve all experienced the feelings of happiness, sadness, fear, anger, etc. And if you are a mom, you’ve seen your children experience all of these emotions too.  But why is it that when our children are displaying anger, it makes us so uncomfortable? Today we are talking with Certified Parenting Coach, Leda Rawlins, about why anger in children is normal and what we, as parents, can do when our child is angry. Leda will walk us through how, and when, to teach our children how to react in a frustrating moment. We know that angry behaviors from our kids at home is stressful enough, so it’s normal to worry about those same behaviors while they are at school or extracurricular activities. Leda will explain when and who we should collaborate with to make the best team to support our child in those settings.  Sometimes as parents it can seem daunting to change our own behavior when responding to anger from our child. Leda acknowledges that the help of professionals can be beneficial and sometimes necessary to teach us the tools and strategies we need to help our child succeed. The main thing we want you to know is that it doesn’t take a perfect parent to implement the strategies Leda teaches us today. It’s about being better, and that’s what’s important! You’ve got this, mama! Leda’s Website Leda’s Instagram Leda's Newsletter Sponsor: Thorne; 20% off your purchase: www.thorne.com/u/herself Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Links & Resources: Leda’s “Smoother Transitions” Guide Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Have you ever gone through a rough stretch and it’s made you take a look at your life from a zoomed out perspective? Well that’s exactly where we’ve been lately. Both of us have gone through a stretch of illnesses for both ourselves and our kids that has made us reflect on what we want to stay in our lives and what we want to leave behind. And sometimes it takes going through a really hard period to notice these things. In this episode we talk about how most of us live such busy lives that we don’t have any margin for sick days. And that includes for ourselves. We talk about what we call the “10-minute” support person and how neither of us have that. But instead of wishing we did, we share how we have the necessary conversations with our partners and friends, so that when we do get that call from school saying our kiddo is sick, it isn’t always falling on just us. We want this episode to be the push you need to do some reflecting on your own life. What can you let go of? Where can you ask for help? What are your values and what can you do that is going to help you live in more alignment? Do you have the necessary margins that you need so that when something does come up, you’re set up to handle it in a way that feels best for you? Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Making new friends in our 30’s and 40’s can be tricky, especially as moms. Today, we have Danielle Bayard Jackson on the show to talk with us about how to maintain close friends while nurturing the surface level ones at the same time. Danielle is the friendship expert on Bumble’s new app; Bumble for Friends. She is here to share everything from what to do if your partner doesn’t get along with one of your friends to ideas on how to find those deep friendship connections if that’s what you're seeking. What is more important - the quality of the friendships you have or the quantity? Danielle gets into how many deep friendships we can sustain at a time but also pushes us to not discount the “weaker” ties that we have. She explains the pros and cons of both. And what are we supposed to do when those feelings of being left out creep in? Danielle offers some great tips on what you can do if loneliness seems to be a factor in your life right now. We know that many of you are moms and this can be one of the hardest stages to make or maintain friendships. But the value that they bring to your life is so rich. It’s not too late to find those deep connections. Be intentional with the new people you meet. Put in some effort and remind yourself that these types of relationships are going to take time and work! Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Danielle’s Book; Fighting for Our Friendships Danielle’s Website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Are you working on forming habits that will lead to positive behavior change? What’s the difference between a behavior change and an actual habit? Today, our guest Robyn Conley Downs, joins us to speak on all things habits! When it comes to forming new habits maybe you fall into the all or nothing category? Or perhaps you compare yourself too much or have that perfectionistic mindset? Well, Robyn is here to give you strategies that you can implement right away no matter what stage of habit formation you are currently in. Wanting to live a healthier lifestyle but not knowing where to start can be overwhelming. Robyn explains the power that momentum can have when we start small. She also reminds us to give ourselves credit for how far we have come. Robyn explains what a purpose habit is and why it is a key piece to the puzzle.  Are you one to focus on the outcome of a goal rather than the process? Robyn shares what shifting your goals to process goals versus outcome goals can do for you. She also breaks down the 80/20 rule and talks about the impact that becoming brilliant at the basics can have on your life.  Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Sponsor: Vivo; vivobarefoot.com - enter code ‘HERSELF’ at checkout for 20% off your first order Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Robyn’s Book; The Feel Good Effect Follow Robyn on Instagram Listen to Robyn’s Podcast; Whole Life Organized Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

In the past so many of you have requested more podcast episodes that are aimed towards dads. This one does just that. Our guest, Michael Perry, is a husband, dad of two young boys, and the founder of tech startup and household organization app Maple - which stands for Make All Parents Lives Easier. It is easy to hear Michael’s passion for his work. He talks about his values and how they show up both in and out of his household. Michael touches on how he and his wife share the load and the responsibilities he takes on as a father. He also offers tips on how to empower your partner to step up more and share more of the work that comes with parenting.  If you’ve implemented different strategies and systems to try to improve how your household functions but it doesn’t seem to be working, Michael offers suggestions on how a simple conversation about things can make the world of difference. We also know that at times, it can feel like we and our partner are giving each other the leftover version of ourselves. Michael touches on how we can bring the best version of ourselves to our families and how that might mean not giving 100% at work all the time. We know this episode is going to really resonate with our male listeners so be sure to share this one with your partner! Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Maple on Instagram growmaple.com Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Are you in a phase of your relationship where your partner feels more like a roommate? We know this is a challenge that many of our listeners in this community face. Today we are excited to have Sheina Schochet of @loveafterbaby back on the show. If you haven’t already, be sure to go back and listen to episode 170 when we first had Sheina on. Today’s discussion is infused with so many tips on everything from what to do if your partnership doesn’t feel like it’s in a strong place to some actions you can take if your partner isn’t open to going to therapy. Since Sheina’s last visit on the show, she has become a Gottman Bringing Home Baby educator and the insights she’s gained from this are tangible throughout our conversation. What we want you to walk away with from our discussion with Sheina is that being in a rut in your relationship is super common and it’s something that isn’t talked about enough. So if you’re feeling like you are in a low place right now, tune into this episode to learn how to reconnect with your partner and get back to a place where you are able to find the friendship & intimacy in your relationship again.  Sponsor: Vivo; vivobarefoot.com - enter code ‘HERSELF’ at checkout for 20% off your first order Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Thorne; 20% off your purchase: www.thorne.com/u/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Men Searching for Meaning The Mask of Masculinity Episode 170: Keeping the Love in Our Partnerships After Kids with Sheina Schochet @loveafterbaby Love After Baby Quiz Follow Sheina on Instagram Love After Baby Workshops Work 1x1 with Sheina Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF

This episode with Dr. Gloria Han is all about mindfulness. Gloria is a clinical psychologist but today we focus on how simple mindfulness can be yet at the same time, it’s not easy. Gloria gives us lots of ways we can plug mindfulness into our daily lives that will allow us to be more present and get more enjoyment out of this life. When we think about mindfulness we might think that it needs to be an uninterrupted time of meditating. Gloria explains how this isn’t true. She goes into details about how it can be something that we practice all day long and explains the three skills of mindfulness, including examples of each. She also gives us examples of things we can do that will only take 5-10 minutes but can have a huge impact.  There are both mental and physical benefits of mindfulness. Gloria talks about how the mind isn’t separate from the body and how the well being of the two are inextricably linked. She also differentiates between when judgment is good versus when it can be a negative thing and how living too far in the past or future can be detrimental to our minds. Finally, if you’re interested in how mindfulness can be beneficial to your kids, Gloria shares her favorite tools she uses as a pediatric pain psychologist to help children become more aware of their well-being. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Gloria on Instagram Gloria’s Website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Shanna Hutcheson has been a longtime listener of the HERself podcast. But what we love about our interview with her today is that she breaks down her dietitian knowledge into a way that every mom can understand. Shanna gives us snack ideas, breakfast ideas, and explains how to develop a healthier relationship with food so that we can be better parents and love ourselves more. Shanna’s honest answer about why she got into the field of nutrition and health will have a lot of you understanding where she comes from. Many of us struggle with our relationship with food and Shanna breaks down three simple things we can all aim to have in our diets to ensure we are nourishing and taking care of ourselves in the best way possible. As a mom of two, Shanna understands the struggle of feeling like you don’t have enough time to take care of yourself. She even shares a little bit of the behind the scenes of being a special needs parent and how that can feel even more demanding than normal. Shanna explains what has been helpful during her hardest months and shares what you can do if you, or someone you know, might be in a similar situation. Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Shanna on Instagram Shanna’s Website Listen to Shanna’s Podcast; Wellness for the Win Podcast  Expecting + Empowered Podcast Episode with Shanna; Navigating an Unplanned Diagnosis + NICU Stay with Shanna Hutcheson Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

As you might know, we love to push both ourselves and this community to think bigger and gain perspective. This entire episode is all about politics. And although this topic can be a touchy one, our guest, Reena Ninan, loves to take complicated world affairs and make them easy to understand. Reena has been a correspondent for CBS, ABC, and FOX. She has delivered news on some of the world’s most critical events. Reena covers why it is so important to be informed about current events and also shares her top, trusted resources on where we should be consuming this type of information. If politics are a touchy subject amongst you and your partner, or close family members, you are going to want to tune in to hear what Reena has to say on how you can decipher these conversations that can become heated at times. Some of us may have the goal to raise kids who are informed. We ask Reena how we can start to open up our children’s perception of the world and help them realize that there is more to it than just their little bubbles. It can be hard to decide when it is appropriate to talk about current affairs with our children but Reena leads us in the right direction on how we can start to bring up both the good and the bad that is going on in today’s world. Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Reena on Instagram Follow Reena on LinkedIn Follow Reena on Twitter Follow Reena on Threads Reena’s Podcast with Dr. Lisa; Ask Lisa Podcast  goodtroubleproductions.com Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Gretchen Rubin is someone that we’ve enjoyed listening to for years. She hosts the podcast HAPPIER with Gretchen Rubin with her sister. In her work Gretchen investigates unexpected truths about everyday life and identifies ways we can take happiness from the transcendent to the concrete. During our conversation with Gretchen she touches on ways we can make ourselves happier, how to identify our own self tendencies, and things we can improve on as we all seek to be just a little bit happier. Happiness is not one size fits all and Gretchen stresses that there are certain elements that will bring individuals more happiness than what might spark joy in someone else. She also explains the concept that she developed; the four tendencies. Gretchen talks through the fact that both the people we surround ourselves with and how well we know ourselves are the two main things that play a role in the level of happiness we feel for ourselves. We also discuss habits and how they play a vital role in our happiness. Another topic we cover is mindfulness and the positive impact that tuning into our five senses can have throughout our daily lives. Our conversation with Gretchen is sure to leave you feeling more enlightened about ways that you can start to live a more positive and happier life. Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Gretchen’s Website Gretchen’s Podcast The Happier App Follow Gretchen on Instagram Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

If you’ve been a longtime listener then you might recognize these voices. We have Emmalee and Jen from ShrinkChicks back on the show today. They are some of our favorite guests because they use their own life experiences when they’re talking about therapy. In this episode, we also give our own life experiences on times where we’ve taken things personally and how we’ve worked through them.  There are many reasons why we take things personally. Emmalee and Jen go through some examples and explain if these tendencies can be unlearned. A lot of it has to do with the way we were raised and now that most of us are raising kids of our own, we ask Emmalee and Jen how we can help our children not take things so personally themselves. If you’re currently stuck on something that you’ve taken personally, today’s guests walk us through some at-home therapy steps you can do to work yourself out of these types of situations. This episode is going to call you out and call you in in the best ways. Jen and Emmalee are a wealth of information and have a way of putting things so that they are easy for everyone to understand. If you struggle with taking things personally, you’re not alone and you’re going to want to tune into this one. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Thorne; 20% off your purchase: www.thorne.com/u/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow ShrinkChicks on Instagram Listen to the ShrinkChicks Podcast The Therapy Group Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

You guys are in for a treat today! Our husbands, Colin and Drew, are back on the show. We took questions from this community on things that you’re struggling with with your partners right now. We’ve had Colin and Drew on the show before but it has been a while. Most of the episodes that they’ve been on have been focused on the years when our kids were babies. But today it is great to have them back on now that our kids are a little older, we have new challenges and victories we’ve gone through, and we just know ourselves a little bit more. We cover the heavy topic of permanent birth control. Drew and Colin both share their thoughts on vasectomies and how each of them has dealt with the finality of that procedure. We also talk about intimacy and whether or not it has improved now that our kids have grown up a little bit. And we know that we all go through tough stretches in marriage so the guys share their insights on what actions they both take to try to get our marriages back on track. Finally, we finish with some fun, rapid fire questions that are not to be missed! Drew and Colin share their pet peeves and even give the inside scoop on the peaks + pits of being married to influencers. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We know many people in this community are looking for a career transition. That is why we are so excited to have our first ever career coach on the show today. Madelyn Mackie is a certified career management coach and she walks us through everything from how to build your resume, to how to network, and also how to get back into the workforce if you’ve been away for a while. Making a career change is a big decision and Madelyn starts off by sharing how common this shift is for women these days. She also explains how and where to start if you are feeling like you want to make a change to your current work situation. Madelyn covers the importance of making a list of the things you really enjoy doing as far as work goes and offers a suggestion on what to search for instead of a job title when it comes to hunting for new opportunities.  Have you heard of upskilling? Madelyn explains what this is and why it doesn’t just have to be seeking another degree. She also chats with us about how networking can change the trajectory of your career and gives her top tips on how to build a resume for the current job you are applying for.  Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: Magic Spoon; magicspoon.com/herself - enter code ‘HERSELF’ at checkout to save $5 Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Madelyn on LinkedIn Madelyn’s Website Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today’s conversation has been a long time coming because it is something that we’ve talked a lot about in the past but we’ve never really taken the time to fully dive in on this subject. And that’s the idea of how an introvert can make adult friendships. Our guest, Jessica Pan, is a journalist and the author of the book Sorry I’m Late, I Didn’t Want to Come. She is also a self-proclaimed introvert who took a year of her life to explore what being more extroverted might be like. If you too are in the position where you want to engage with more people, make new friends, or speak up more at work - she has some really valuable tips throughout this episode. We cover everything from defining the difference between an introvert and an extrovert to where to find other introverts who are also looking to meet new friends. Jessica shares whether or not she thinks being an introvert has to do with how you were raised and if she thinks you can change this personality trait. If you are in the beginning steps of trying to expand yourself, Jessica coaches you through three steps you can take to put yourself out there and meet new people! Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Sponsor: Thorne; 20% off your purchase: www.thorne.com/u/herself Sponsor: Magic Spoon; enter code ‘HERSELF’ at checkout to save $5: magicspoon.com/herself  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Jessica on Instagram - @jessypanpan Follow Jessica on Substack - @jesspan Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We get asked about today’s topic a lot; confidence. We both believe it is something you build, it ebbs and flows, you may have a lot of it in one area and may need to work on it in another. In this episode, we cover how we’ve built our own confidence in certain areas of our lives. Career confidence is where we start off. Even if you are good at something, have a degree in it, have done it for a long time, and maybe you even love it - that doesn’t mean you have to stay stuck in that job forever. However, it’s up to you to bring what you need to make a change. Abby shares some prompts to ask yourself if you are feeling this way. The next area we cover is body confidence. We talk about how it’s so important to not wait for someone else’s compliment to build your own confidence. You have to rely on yourself and having a neutral stance on your body could be a good goal. The main factors that we feel are the most important measurements of good health are making sure you’re eating enough of a nourishing diet, getting some movement in, making sure you’re getting enough sleep, and having ways to manage stress. And finally, we cover our relationship with alcohol. We know you might be wondering how this topic ties into confidence but hear us out. We feel that alcohol can be a direct factor into how you take care of yourself overall, and that can have an influence on your confidence. We feel like we have a fresh take on alcohol that lands somewhere in the middle and for us, that feels like a good place to be. We want you to ask yourself, do my habits align with my goals? We feel that confidence is built when you can align what you are doing with what you want your life to look like. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF free sample pack with purchase  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today’s guest, Jeanelle Teves, is the Chief Commercial Officer of Bugaboo. She is also a speaker, a wife, and a mom of two kids; ages three and six. Jeanelle is crushing it in corporate America and has a stay at home partner. We cover both of these topics in our interview and we touch on confidence. Jeanelle shares how she built her own and how she fully embodies it. We know lots of our listeners have times in their lives where they contemplate a career move. Maybe you’ve thought about leaving your job all together and being a full-time stay at home parent? Jeanelle shares how she knows when it is time to make a change. She also manages a fully remote team and knows that for moms who are working from home, it can be easy to blur the lines between professional and mom. She shares her tips on how to set some boundaries both at home and with your work place. In Jeanelle’s family, she is the breadwinner and her husband is the full-time stay at home working parent. Jeanelle talks to us about how they came to this decision as a family and what she does to support her husband in finding time for himself outside of all the household work he puts in.  Finally, we know that a lot of women can struggle with confidence at times. If this has been you, tune in to hear how Jeanelle is so unapologetic about her successes and the tips she has on how you yourself can grow in this area. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Jeanelle on Instagram - @jeanelleteves Follow Jeanelle on LinkedIn  Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We believe that whether you are a parent of a child with a disability, or not, it is important to open up this conversation and learn the terms and language surrounding kids with extra needs. Today, we sat down with our long time friend, Pam Beron, to discuss parenting a child with a disability or supporting a friend or loved one who just received this type of diagnosis for their child. Pam has 14 years of experience teaching special education in the classroom and has since transitioned to starting her own business, Highest Potential Pathways, where she consults with families that are navigating raising a child with disabilities. Pam educates us on the most inclusive language to use, how families with children with special needs can navigate the stigmas that come with this, and how to talk to your own child about their own special needs. As a parent, it can be difficult to explain to your own children without special needs why someone with a disability is different from them. Pam walks us through examples of how to have these types of conversations. We also know that parenting a child with special needs can have a major impact. We discuss how this affects a parent personally and what you can do to support a parent who may be going through something like this. Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D3K2 and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.drinkag1.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Pam on Instagram - @highestpotentialpathways Pam’s Website - www.highestpotentialpathways.com Pam’s Course - Pathway to Your Best IEP: A Guide for Parents + Guardians HERself Podcast Episode #22: The Best Ways To Support When A Loved One Needs You Let’s connect! HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Abby chats solo this week with Erica Neuman, a certified public accountant who specializes in how to talk to your kids about money. As a mom herself, Erica’s goal is to make finances approachable and to show young people the value of financial education. She’s also a wife and an accounting professor with over 12 years of experience. We cover the hot topic of chores. Should we have our kids do them and if so, should we pay them for their work? What about talking about finances in front of our kids? Is it appropriate? Erica shares why giving our kids hands-on experience with money is so empowering and what to do when kids are gifted money for things like holidays or birthdays. Maybe you’re not so confident when it comes to talking about money. If you don’t know where to start, be sure to tune into this episode. Erica shares where to begin, how to build your financial confidence as a parent, and the eight money conversations you’ll want to have with your kids before they turn 18! Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Visit SitkaSeafoodMarket.com code ‘HERSELF’ for $35 off your first order  Links & Resources: Erica’s Website Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

This episode is all about mindsets and other things that are inspiring us as we head into the new year. There is something about a fresh start and the passing of another year that allows us to gain some fresh perspective. Today we are asking ourselves what areas we feel like could use some changes and what areas of our lives feel really good? We both share a couple of words that we are focusing on this year. The first one being bold and how we can shift our perspective from what do others think of me to what do I think of me? The other word is embrace. Instead of looking forward to future goals, being sure to take the time to reflect on how far we have come. As you all know, our health is very important to both of us. We share updates on where we are on our health journeys and why we think it’s okay to continually have goals as far as our bodies go. We also discuss relationships. Are you in any relationships right now that are energy sucking? Maybe you need to make the conscious decision to end that relationship. We remind you that it’s a process, it will take time, and while you’re in the process of it all it might seem like the end of the world. But in the end, it’s worth it. Our hope with this episode is that by sharing the things that are working for us we inspire you to reflect in the same way. Ask yourself what is coming up for you? What is your gut saying? This is your one life to live so do you want to waste it complaining or can you make a change that is going to allow you to feel so much better? Sponsor: Thorne; 20% off your purchase: www.thorne.com/u/herself Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code herself: https://chomps.com/ Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Our friend, Elisabeth Emmerich, is on the show today. She is a mom of three, a licensed therapist, and a registered play therapist. We found this conversation exceedingly interesting because Elisabeth really shares ways we can support our children’s mental health. And by no surprise, we learned that our mental health is directly connected to our children’s mental health. It can be tough to tell when the right time is to seek out extra help for your kiddo. Elisabeth shares some signs to watch out for and explains when and why children are coming to her for therapy. We also know that resiliency in kids continues to be a popular topic. Elisabeth speaks on how we can foster this in our children and whether or not she thinks gentle parenting is hindering our kids from becoming as resilient as they could be. Maybe you’re not quite ready to put your child in therapy but you like the sounds of this play based therapy. Elisabeth shares some ideas of what you can do at home that would have a similar effect. It’s simple things like playing games with your kids, setting up predictable routines for them, and even helping them regulate their nervous systems but getting some exercise. Follow Elisabeth on Instagram  Elisabeth’s Website Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are sitting down with Christine Yu this week and she is talking with us about the science behind women’s health and how it relates to each of us as moms who want to be healthy examples for our children. Christine is the author of Up to Speed: The GroundBreaking Science of Women Athletes and she has a masters degree from Harvard University. Christine is also a mom and she shares real life examples of the changes that her body has gone through and the mindset shifts she has had to make when it comes to the type of exercise she can do as she ages. She educates us on the role that hormones play in the way they affect the amount of fatigue we can feel when exercising. Christine also explains why there is so much more research out there when it comes to men’s fitness compared to women’s and the direction that women’s research is going. We know that it is so important for our children to find a physical activity that they connect with when they are young. Christine talks about the importance of this, especially for young girls, and gives recommendations on what we can do as parents to foster this healthy relationship between our children and exercise. Even if you don’t have children yourself, you’ll be able to put yourself back in your shoes when you were a child and relate to so much of what we talk about throughout this episode. Follow Christine on Instagram Christine’s Substack Up to Speed: The Groundbreaking Science of Women Athletes Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Visit SitkaSeafoodMarket.com code ‘HERSELF’ for $35 off your first order  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We want to wish all of you a very Merry Christmas to those who celebrate. As we head into the New Year, this Greatest Hits episode with Kristin Neff is such an important one. That mean inner critic that we all have can speak really loudly at times. Sometimes we even start to believe that voice. During this episode Kristin encourages us to think past that mean voice and instead to think about what we are truly saying. We all know we should speak to ourselves kindly. But when we make a mistake, say the wrong thing, our kids are acting up, it’s easy to place blame and judgment on ourselves. Kristin is a pioneer in the self compassion space and has a wealth of knowledge on the “in the moment” things we can do to raise ourselves up and show kindness over anything else.  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Today’s topic idea came from a friend of ours. She explained that her partner is going through a rough stretch at work and it’s trickling into their home life. She was wondering how she can help him and how she can make sure this issue is not taken out on their kids. We decided to dedicate an entire episode to what happens if one of the two of you has a tough stretch of life. We give real life examples from both ourselves and our partners. Both of us have been there. We know what it’s like to go through tough seasons as individuals and what it’s like to have a partner go through a rough patch. We help break it down into three parts; finding the root cause, pulling the other person out of their rut, and how to stop their bad mood from bringing you down. A common theme that comes up throughout this episode is the importance of self-awareness. We get it that it’s not your responsibility to make sure your partner is happy all the time. It is up to them to recognize what their triggers are and to communicate with you what will help them during this tough time. And the way to help your partner out in times of need is going to be different for everyone.  You and your partner are two different people. When they are going through a rough patch it’s just not easy. We have to normalize that as humans we are going to go through hard things. It’s important to ask ourselves how can we help each other, how can we best support each other, and be there for one another? How can we take some things off their plate while also knowing that we exist outside of them too? Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D3K2 and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.drinkag1.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

This is a special episode that was originally recorded for the other podcast that Amy & I host; Pursuing HER Purpose. I (Abby) get behind the microphone with our other co-found of that business, Kat Herro, and together we share what it’s like to have a traveling spouse. May you are the traveling one or may it’s your partner, either way this episode is going to fill you with so much insight into what this lifestyle is all about.  We go through how often Kat and I’s partners are gone, what they do ahead of time to set the family up for success, and what the expectations are for both themselves and their partners when they are gone. Kat and Abby share what systems work best for them when their spouses are out of town including having something fun planned in advance, having groceries delivered, and even making bath time a longer than usual activity with the kids. Having a partner who travels for work can be taxing in more ways than one. But we want you to know that you’re not alone. It’s easy to slip into that angsty comparison place. We hope this episode not only gives you ideas for how to make the time your partner is away easier but also something that you can actually look forward to. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 30% off Blissy Pillowcases: https://blissy.com/pages/herself code: HERSELF Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Pursuing HER Purpose on Instagram; @pursuingherpurpose www.pursuingherpurpose.com Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Jamila Souffrant, from Journey to Launch, is on the podcast today. We’ve had financial experts on the show before and we know these types of episodes always hit! But we feel that you’ll especially vibe with Jamila. She is a mom of three, a money coach, a podcast host, and a certified financial education instructor. Her own journey with money and how she too is learning along the way is so relatable. There are different ways to approach your finances. Jamila explains that during different stages of life you may approach money differently. You could be an aggressive investor at one point versus extremely frugal at another. She explains things like what the FIRE acronym stands for and what her “guacamole lifestyles” mean in her new book; Your Journey to Financial Freedom. We know that finances can feel like an all or nothing approach. Jamila gives a fresh take on how you can look at a side hustle and how to get on the same page as your partner when it comes to still valuing each other's independent financial goals. Another thing our generation tends to think is that our parents didn’t teach us enough about money. If you want to start having money talks with your children, Jamila gives some advice on where to start. We loved so many of Jamila’s answers during this interview. You’ll be able to take her real life examples, implement them right away, and not feel overwhelmed while doing so. Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: Visit SitkaSeafoodMarket.com to Save 20% on All Holiday Specialty One-Time boxes. Enjoy  either Day Boat scallops, Dungeness crab or the Salmon Variety Box. Sale ends December 9.  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Jamila’s Podcast; Journey to Launch Order Your Copy of Jamila’s New Book, Your Journey to Financial Freedom Follow Jamila on Instagram; @jamiliasouffrant Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We have Dr. Sumi Raghavan on the show today. If you’ve heard of Dr. Becky Kennedy, who has been on the show before, Dr. Sumi consults for her parenting company. She also collaborates with other psychologists who support women and mothers. Throughout this interview Dr. Sumi does such a great job of empowering our listeners to feel confident and break free from mom guilt. She lets us know that if a system isn’t working for us, it’s not our fault. Instead, she gives us techniques we can use to move forward through community and finding support from the people around us. Dr. Sumi answers our questions on how we can create more space for rest and how we can help ourselves understand that rest is necessary. We live in a culture that loves to value being over-productive. Dr. Sumi explains how we can move away from this lifestyle. She also shares her concept of “anti-work Wednesday”; what it is and why she created it. Sponsor: Visit SitkaSeafoodMarket.com to Save 20% on the Sitka Seafood Intro Box! Get this 3 week trial for only $63. Sale ends December 9.  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D3K2 and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.drinkag1.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Dr. Sumi on Instagram Dr. Sumi’s Website Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are sharing the microphone with a married couple who also happen to be couples counselors specifically for parents. Erin and Stephen Mitchell join us today to talk about the tough decisions we have to make as parents, starting with do we want to have more kids? They go into their own story on this very subject and share the struggles they had to overcome to come to a final decision. Not only do they bring the humanity behind therapy, but also with Stephen’s PhD in medical family therapy and Erin’s masters in counseling and psychology, they’re able to bring in so much more.  We know that the decision of how many children to have shows up constantly for this community. Some couples can fight on this topic for months and months, some even years. Erin and Stephen share what you should be asking yourselves, as individuals, if this is a topic of tension in your household. And what about if you’re grid locked - one person is a no and the other is a yes. They share how you can move forward in this situation. Finances are another topic of discussion that cause stress for couples. Do you feel like you can never get on the same page as your partner when it comes to money? And what about a career change? How do you decide as a couple if this is the next right move for your family? Erin and Stephen bring forth the idea of asking what the truth behind the story we are telling ourselves is with these issues. They also share how to help your partner feel seen and heard when their opinion differs from your own. We both had so much to reflect on after this conversation. Erin and Stephen still have issues, even though they are experts in this area. We all have things that we can continue to work on inside our relationships. And, when we throw kids in the mix, it only elevates the demands and responsibilities we feel when making tough decisions. We hope this episode allows you and your partner to revisit some of the stories underneath the surface and that together, as a couple, you can understand each other just a little bit better and decision fatigue can be less of a burden. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Erin & Stephen on Instagram Erin & Stephen’s Website Erin & Stephen’s Podcast Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY

Many of us are craving our own holiday traditions yet we are trying to please our parents at the same time. When is it our turn to enjoy the holidays? We can’t be expending all our energy into others and expect there to be time to dedicate to our own families. Today we hope you leave this episode feeling inspired, with some new strategies to try this holiday season, and definitely with some solidarity. We understand that juggling the holidays is complicated. It’s so easy to say, “set a boundary. Say no.” But when other people’s feelings are at risk, it’s just simply not that easy. We share where we draw the line and say no. Being flexible when you can is key but also know what you’re going to hold near and dear to your immediate family. We reached out to our community and asked you what was the most stressful for you during the holidays. We go through your hot takes on topics such as gifts, kids being crabby, sleeping arrangements, perfectionism, and the mom’s mental load this time of year.  To make this holiday season a little bit more about you and less about everyone else you might have to have that hard conversation with your loved one or your in-laws. If anything, we suggest making your partner take some things off your plate! Keep it simple, delegate, and get ahead of what you can. Sponsor: 30% off Blissy Pillowcases: https://blissy.com/pages/herself code: HERSELF Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

This episode is all about step families, blended families and how to deal with exes. Even if that’s not your current situation, opening your eyes to the challenges that stepparents face is really important. And that’s exactly what today’s guest, Jamie Scrimgeor, helps us do.  Jamie has a background in psychology and social service work. She is now a certified life coach who specializes in step family dynamics. Jamie also hosts her own podcast, is a content and community creator, she’s a wife, a mom to three stepchildren and one of her own. In our conversation with Jamie she shares what she would like those of us who aren’t stepmoms to understand about those who are. She also shares what the most common challenges are that come up for stepmoms. We know that blending a family with stepchildren and an “ours” baby can bring up a lot of emotion. Jamie shares her own personal story with this and why it’s the best thing that has happened to her family. One topic that isn’t often talked about is the mental load of a stepmom. Jamie shares her insights on what contributes to stepmom mental load most often and also shares her reframes to help you release the guilt, shame, and judgment of others when it comes to divorce. Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Jamie’s Website Jamie’s Podcast Jamie’s Membership Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Did you know that your physical space can help you with your mental health journey? Today we are speaking with Anita Yokota, former mental health therapist turned interior designer. Anita shares her story of how practicing as a marriage and family therapist for over 20 years before pivoting her career into interior design allowed her to realize the importance of how your space feels. She is also the author of the best selling book Home Therapy. Do you feel insecure about your home? Are you nervous to do any improvements because you’re afraid you might ruin it? Or you want to do all the things because you're hosting this upcoming holiday season? Anita teaches you how to be somewhere in the middle. She also explains what the four domains are from her book and how we should be using them to find more peace and joy in our homes. Anita walks us through how we can feel good in our homes during the little kid years without breaking the budget. She recommends things like changing the paint color in a room to help a space feel more calm and less chaotic. She also touches on how you can compromise if you share a space with someone who has a different vision than yours when it comes to decorating. If this episode inspires you to make some changes in your home, we want to see! Be sure to tag both @herselfpodcast and @anitayokota in your Instagram stories so we can share in the joy of your home makeover.  Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Anita’s Book; Home Therapy Anita’s Website Follow Anita on Instagram Follow Anita on Tik Tok Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Do you lack confidence from time to time? Let us introduce you to Lydia Fenet. She is the world’s leading charity auctioneer and has single handedly raised over one billion dollars for over 800 different organizations and broken down countless barriers for women in our industry. In this episode Lydia teaches us how to step into our own confidence by focusing on the present. As moms we are forced to make so many decisions and with all of the options we have, we can struggle with the choices we make. Lydia explains how things influence us, both in positive and negative ways, and how we can start to tune out the outside world and trust our own instincts. She shares what the “strike method” is and how we can start using it today. Lydia also states that she has learned way more from her failures than her successes and how this has made an important impact on the lives of her three children as well. A lot of women in this community struggle with working mom guilt. Many of you have thought about leaving your careers completely because the stress of managing a household and kids gets to be too much. Lydia has some words of wisdom for you if you are stuck in this mindset right now. She also stresses the importance of understanding money, whether or not you’re the one bringing it in for your household. Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Lydia’s Book; Claim Your Confidence Lydia’s Book; The Most Powerful Woman in the Room Is You Lydia’s Podcast; Claim Your Confidence: The Podcast Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Did you know that there are more tools to measure your health progress than just a scale? Today, Jessica Kuchnia, from DexaFit Madison is here to explain to us what a DEXA scan is and what all it measures. We first met Jess when we walked into her business for our own scans. We all share the same passion for all things health, fitness, nutrition, and longevity. It can be so hard not to compare ourselves to other women. Especially in this social media era we are living in. Jess explains why it is important to focus on progress on ourselves and how focusing inward can be our best bet when it comes to living our healthiest lives. We also know that progress can be slow. Especially as we age and after we have babies. Jess explains what can help with this and why playing the long game when it comes to your health is best. One of our favorite pieces of advice that Jess shares is to beware of the “BLTs” of life - and they aren’t what you think they are! Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow DexaFit Madison on Instagram Follow DexaFit Madison on Facebook DexaFit Madison Website Email: [email protected] DexaFit Madison Fall Challenge Info: The challenge starts on October 16th, 2023 and ends on January 6th, 2024. It includes two DXA scans (baseline and follow up) and then 6, 3D scans to help stay on track throughout. Participants can also include an optional RMR for a discounted rate.  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Topics like fertility and menstrual cycles usually have a serious tone to them but our guest today, Dr. Danielle Lane has a way of bringing humor into these often stressful situations. Dr. Danielle is a board certified fertility specialist and you’ll learn why she has more information related to fertility issues than your Ob-Gyn might.  This episode covers everything from defining what a normal and abnormal menstrual cycle is to the difference between endometriosis and endometrial cancer. We hear the acronym PCOS, or polycystic ovarian syndrome a lot these days and Dr. Danielle explains what this is and what you can do if you suspect you might have it?  Unfortunately, many of our listeners are currently struggling with infertility. Whether it be you are trying to conceive for the first time, or maybe you are having issues a second or third time around. Dr. Danielle explains when you should seek out a fertility specialist and what to do if you don’t feel like you’re being heard from your current provider. We want so many women in this community to hear Dr. Danielle’s message. Even if you haven’t struggled with fertility issues, you can benefit from listening to this conversation. We cannot wait to hear what you have to say about this one. It’s definitely a must listen! Follow Dr. Danielle on Instagram Follow Dr. Danielle on TikTok CADE Foundation Compassionate Care ASRM SART Resolve Sponsor: PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Our conversation with Julie Menanno, therapist and mom of six, centers around secure and insecure relationships based on attachment styles. She educates us on what attachment theory is and what the different types of attachment styles are. Julie breaks down what happens when a couple has an argument and how to help get you back to the ultimate goal in any relationship: feeling safe. Do you wonder what attachment style you and your partner are? Julie walks us through how we can tell and what it means if you don’t identify with one attachment style over the other. She talks about why avoidant and anxious partners are often attracted to each other. Julie also explains why different attachment styles react differently when their partner is disappointed in them.  To conclude our talk with Julie, she gives us an example of what we can start doing today to create a home that has an attachment friendly environment. Doing this type of work is hard but it’s fulfilling. Remember, it’s not linear but it will be worthwhile. If you want to be in your partnership for life, you must figure out how to sustain it and nurture it. When you get to go through something like this with someone you love, you come out the other side feeling like a rockstar! Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Julie on Instagram Julie’s Patreon Pre-Order Julie’s Book; Secure Love Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are excited to have Dr. Whitney Casares back on the show today. She was first on the show back in episode 87; HERself Expert: Dr. Whitney Casares Talks Working Motherhood and Silencing Your Inner Critic. Dr. Whitney is a maternal child health expert, a pediatrician, a mom of two; one child has ADHD and the other has autism. She’s also the author of the soon-to-be released book - Doing It All. Today we are talking about how we can make working motherhood better for ourselves. Dr. Whitney explains how when she was doing it all, in the end, she was the one who was suffering the most. She shares her hot take on the word balance and offers a suggestion on what we could be seeking instead.  We cover everything from how to advocate for yourself and others in incremental ways at the workplace, what the term sandwich generation means, and what you can do if you fall into this category. Dr. Whitney shares how her and her husband split the household and parenting load & you’ll find her honest, personal answer refreshing.  In Dr. Whitney’s upcoming book, Doing It All, she talks about the centered life. In this episode she walks us through this concept, gives her own personal examples, and shares what you can do when your top priorities conflict with one another. We appreciate Dr. Whitney’s honest, realistic approach to working motherhood. We all want you to know that you deserve to feel good in this role and that even if you feel like you don’t have five minutes to reflect on your own needs, doing so will have a foundational impact on the rest of your life. Follow Dr. Whitney on Instagram Pre-Order Dr. Whitney’s Book; Doing It All www.modernmommmydoc.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are discussing a topic we’ve never really talked about before. And that is how to have the really hard conversations with our kids. In this episode we cover topics like death, funerals, losing a pet, and what to do when our child has completely lost it at an appointment. Our guest, Katie Taylor, is a certified child life specialist with over 12 years of experience. She supports kids and their families as they navigate challenging life events. Today, Katie explains to us that having  hard talks with our kiddos is a learned skill and why it is one that is so important to develop. In this conversation Katie gives us her tips on whether or not we should tell our kids the truth about what to expect in an upcoming appointment. She also walks us through what age appropriate conversations around the death of a pet or a close family member sound like and gives suggestions on the appropriate language to use to help explain these events to our kids. We both took so much away from our chat with Katie and know you will too! Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Follow Katie on Instagram Katie’s Podcast Episode on Funerals Katie’s Mastering Immunizations Course The Invisible String Sponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offer Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: LMNT; drinkLMNT.com/HERSELF Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

It is a well known fact that ⅔ of couples report decreases in their marital satisfaction in the first three years after having a child. Dr. Tracy Dalgleish is back on the show with us today to talk about what happens after those first three years. How do we reconnect with our partner?  Dr. Tracy is a mom to two kids, a wife, and has over 15 years of practice as a clinical psychologist. She gives us advice on how we can find the passion in our relationship again when we are in the thick of raising littles. And it doesn’t have to be these big extravagant date nights. It’s more about the little things like a text in the middle of the day to let your partner know that you’re thinking about them. Do you feel like your relationship with your partner is transactional? Or when you do get a chance to sneak in a date night - do you only talk about your kids? Dr. Tracy explains how we can go from the mundane conversation of, “how was your day” to the four “C’s”; curiosity, compassion, connection, and collaboration. What we love about Dr. Tracy is that she shares her own, personal experiences with us as well. Which is one of the touch points in her upcoming book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This. In her book Dr. Tracy writes about the importance of sharing the stories of other couples, and her own, to help her clients relate and feel less alone.  Episode 93; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 1 Episode 94; Tracy Dalgleish On All Things In-Laws - Part 2 Follow Dr. Tracy on Instagram Dr. Tracy’s Website Dr. Tracy’s Book; I Didn’t Sign Up For This Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

If you’re like us, we are celebrating Labor Day today! We are at the cabin, our kids are going back to school, and we’re getting together with friends. With everything we have going on we thought we would bring back one of our most listened to episodes with Nedra Tawwab all on boundaries. Nedra does such a good job of explaining boundaries, the need for them, and how to implement them into your life. Every time we listen to this episode we find ourselves saying “no” so much more often because it makes our “yeses” feel that much better! We read Nedra Tawwab’s book “Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide to Reclaiming Yourself” as a group in our Patreon Book Club and in this episode, we dive into the details of her book and boundaries in general. We have answers to the family member who gives you the guilt trip, the friend who keeps testing the limits, and also with finding the power within yourself to make the changes with boundaries needed in the first place.  Follow Needra on Instagram Needra’s Website Needra’s Book; Set Boundaries, Find Peace Needra’s Workbook Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

The whole idea of this episode is that, as women, we have to ask for what we need. And this takes practice. We were raised by a generation of women who did not speak up when it came to getting their needs met which is leading us to a lot of resentment and burnout. But today we talk through a few situations that have happened in our lives recently where we have stood up and asked for what we need. We cover what getting our needs met from our partners looks like. We think they can read our minds and this just isn’t true. If you are feeling resentful towards your partner, you have an unmet need. We both share some things that work for us with Drew and Colin and hope they might help you as well. The other two areas we cover are work and kids. You have to set boundaries with both. Whether you work inside or outside of the home, setting boundaries around these areas of your life will help you get what you need. We’ve recently implemented some changes with the role our kids play inside of our homes that will hopefully help aid them in becoming a more collaborative part of the family unit. With all the things we cover in today’s episode, make sure you do what feels right for you. But also, in the moment, when something doesn’t feel right, speak up. We’re sensing a shift for our generation. We are starting to get our needs met. We are starting to ask for what we need. And that is a really great thing! Sponsor: AG1; Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offer Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

It always feels good to get advice from those who are two steps ahead of us in life. And that’s exactly what today’s episode is. We have the pleasure of interviewing Dr. John Van Epp, developer of evidence based relationship programs. He also has his PhD in counseling and psychology. Dr. John Van Epp has over 44 years of marriage experience himself and has raised two daughters who are also in healthy marriages. You might even recognize one of his daughters; Dr. Morgan Cutlip, who has been on the show twice before! Have you ever been at a point in your relationship where it feels more challenging than other times? Dr. John Van Epp explains that this is completely normal. He gives us evidence based examples of when relationships tend to struggle the most and walks us through how to get through those tough times. For many couples, the same argument keeps coming up time and time again. Dr. John Van Epp talks to us about the importance of not making it a you versus me thing but rather to dig deeper by trying to act like the other person’s defense attorney in order to come up with a resolution. We loved our conversation with Dr. John Van Epp because it felt like he was giving us the wise advice that we all need. He is at a much different stage in life than most of us and it was refreshing to hear his take on things. If you loved this episode we would love it if you left us a rating and/or review wherever you listen to podcasts. lovethinks.com Mylovethinks.com Dr. John Van Epp’s Books Rock Solid Marriage Course Ramseries.com Follow Dr. John Van Epp’s daughter; @drmorgancutlip Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

It’s almost back to school time! Since we both have soon to be second graders, almost kindergarteners, and younger kiddos, we thought we would do an episode all about this big transition! This time around we feel a little more experienced and open up to you about how the process of sending our littles off to school has gone for us. In this episode, we start off by sharing our thoughts on the end of the summer pressure we put on ourselves as moms. We might feel like we haven’t done enough. But ask your kids what their favorite memory from this summer was. We think you might be surprised to hear that in their eyes, the little things are what matter most. We share what caught us off guard as first time parents of kindergarteners. We touch on how with school comes a whole new bag of unexpected responsibilities for not only your child but for you as the parent as well. If you’re part of a household that has two, full-time working parents, juggling this new school year schedule definitely comes with its challenges. We share how we’ve had to build a bigger village than just our own couplehoods in order to get the help that we need. With big transitions come big emotions. We want you to know that every feeling is valid. You and your little one have everything you need, you’re going to get through this, and don’t forget to have a little fun along the way! Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offer Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

This conversation is chock-full of great information that we are so glad we get to insert into our own lives right away! Melinda Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes, is our guest today. She is also the mom of two, contributing editor to Scientific American Magazine, weekly contributor to The New York Times and a faculty member in the science, health, and environmental reporting program at NYU. We sometimes tend to think that talking about emotions too much with our kids may lead to them not being able to stand up for themselves or might make them too sensitive. Melinda explains why this is not true and how research has shown that strong soft skills, like emotional awareness, directly improve hard skills. As a parent, we’ve all witnessed the dreaded scenario when our own kid treats someone else in a way that we are not proud of. Melinda coaches us through what to do in this scenario and how we can move forward from that. She also explains that saying sorry might not be the best solution, and what to foster instead. We know so many of you are on the same page as us - you want to raise kind humans. In today’s conversation we take a deep dive into how to do just that. We hope you enjoy! Melinda’s Newsletter www.melindawennermoyer.com Melinda’s Instagram Melinda’s Facebook How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are thrilled to have Dr. Emily Jamea on the podcast today. She sits down with us to talk all things sex and intimacy! Emily is a sex therapist who is also the mom of two. She also has a book coming out next year and hosts her own podcast: Love & Libido. It was important for us to talk to someone about this topic who was a mom because we know Emily truly understands the ebbs and flows that come with intimacy in parenthood. Sex is often the first thing that gets dropped by couples when life feels so full or gets super stressful. Dr. Emily coaches us on how we can make sex a priority if it has been put on the back burner. Or maybe sex feels like it’s too far gone? She walks us through how to even bring it up in conversation when it can feel too awkward.  There are a lot of things that can be mismatched between partners when it comes to sex; frequency, time of day, fantasies, etc. It can be hard to even get started when you are feeling so misaligned. Dr. Emily shares her evidence based facts on how you too, as a couple, can have great sex! Even after having kids! Follow Dr. Emily on Instagram Follow Dr. Emily on Facebook Dr. Emily’s Website Sex After Baby Workshop Top 10 Things I Personally Do To Maintain My Desire REEL Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Sponsor: Levels; Visit levels.link/herself for your special offer Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We hear it so often when we are about to become mother’s for the first time, “Oh, you’re not going to get any sleep!” But the problem is there’s not a plan in place for how the mom’s sleep is actually going to happen. And we think this is something that needs to be talked about more! Today we have Dr. Shelby Harris on the show. She is a mom, a clinical psychologist, and is board certified in behavioral sleep medicine by the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. We are absolutely obsessed with this interview! We go off script so many times, in a good way, because we ask all the follow-up questions that all of us have. Dr. Shelby answers our questions around whether or not women really do need more sleep than men, how to enhance the quality of sleep when more sleep is just simply too hard to come by, and how caffeine really affects our sleep. Do you ever wonder if naps are good for you?  What about the term “revenge bedtime” that we are seeing all over the internet? Should we be taking sleep aids? And what to do on those nights that you just can’t fall asleep, no matter what. Dr. Shelby answers those questions and so many more! Follow Dr. Shelby on Instagram Follow Dr. Shelby on TikTok Dr. Shelby’s Website Get Your Copy of Dr. Shelby’s Book HERE Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Dr. Morgan Cutlip is back on the show today. She first joined us for episode 162. Today we are focusing on how we take care of ourselves as mothers; how do we feel good inside motherhood? So many of her answers spoke directly to both of us. In her upcoming book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, Dr. Morgan explains three core concepts moms face. She chats with us about these concepts including what we can do to help ourselves with the conflict of sacrificing our own identities in motherhood. We also discuss the core concept of idealization of motherhood and how intense our standards are on ourselves as parents.  Ever feel like your needs aren’t being met by your partner when it comes to sharing the load? Do you ask them for help but it never seems to go anywhere? Dr. Morgan shares actionable steps we can take when our own needs are not being met. She talks about how we can best manage all of our commitments and why that means we can’t be 100 percent committed to everything at once.  If the HERself podcast has made an impact on your life we would love it if you could help us in return. Leave us a rating and review wherever you listen to podcasts and while you’re there also hit the follow or subscribe button. That way we will land in your inbox every single Monday! Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/pages/pod_herself_fa22_HO22 Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Meet Dr. Morgan Cutlip Pre-Order Dr. Morgan’s Book HERE Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

If you’ve been wanting to minimize the clutter and simplify your life, we have a podcast episode that’s going to hit today! We are speaking with Denaye Barahona who has her Ph.D. in child development, is a licensed clinical social worker, and a mom of two.  She shares her own journey when it comes to decluttering and simplifying her life. Denaye brings in the research side of things to help coach parents to adjust and eliminate the shame around feeling inadequate as a parent when you can’t say yes to everything. Struggle with all the “stuff” that comes along with raising kids? Denaye gives us her top three strategies for coping with clutter and simplifying our physical spaces. She explains how when the space around us is peaceful, it puts our minds at ease as well. Denaye’s Podcast: Simple Families The Podcast Denaye’s Website: www.simplefamilies.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: $150 off at Ice Barrel with code ‘HERSELF’: www.icebarrel.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We know that many of you might be in vacation mode this week due to the Fourth of July holiday so we thought we would do a more casual episode. We are answering your questions that you submitted via Instagram and we have not seen these questions beforehand so we are answering off the cusp! We talk about whether or not each of us takes naps and if the nutrition changes we have made have had an effect on how tired we get throughout the day. Things get a little spicy when we share what our favorite and least favorite quality of our spouses are.  Parenting is a roller coaster, as we all know. We dive into what the peak and pit of parenthood looks like for both of us and how we each built our confidence level as mothers.  If you enjoy this type of episode, know that we release ones just like this every month for our exclusive Patreon members only. Also, as part of our Patreon community, we do a monthly book club. This month we are reading The Midnight Library. If you’re interested in being a part of this, be sure to join by clicking on the link below! Join the HERself Patreon Community HERE! Eli Weinstein’s Episode 182 Eli Weinstein’s Episode 183 Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Are your kids starting to ask the really difficult questions especially when it comes to race? Then today’s episode is going to be a great one for you to learn from. Our guest, Dr. Traci Baxley is a cultural and race identity coach and she supports families in creating a safe place to have these types of conversations. Dr. Traci approaches all of the subjects we cover in a non-judgmental way. She explains how being an educator in the classroom for years and being a parent of five children has led her to the work she does with social justice parenting. Dr. Traci describes why shielding our children from the ugliness of the world makes it more difficult for them to empathize with the struggles other people are going through. She goes into details on why she coaches parents to acknowledge race and shares tangible examples of age appropriate ways we can talk about these things with both our school aged children and younger kiddos as well. Have you ever been in a situation where your child has asked a question right in front of another person? Dr. Traci walks us through what to do when this happens and explains how to go about handling that other person’s reaction as well. We know that today’s episode is going to help you grow both as a person and as a parent. We would love it if you shared this episode with a friend who you know would enjoy it as well. As always, thanks for being here. Dr. Traci’s Instagram Dr. Traci’s Website Dr. Traci’s LinkedIn Dr. Traci’s Twitter Social Justice Parenting Facebook Page  Dr. Traci’s Book: Social Justice Parenting Bonus: Reading Group Questions Guide Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.drinkag1.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Join Our Email List HERE Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Oftentimes as parents we focus so much on our kid’s emotions that we forget to give ourselves grace in this area. Today’s guest, Liz Fosslien is an emotions expert, an illustrator, and best-selling author of two books; No Hard Feelings and Big Feelings. Liz explains why it is so hard for us as adults to focus on our own emotional needs. She also talks about why demonstrating our emotions to our children is so important and why editing them all out isn’t a good idea. Liz touches on the touchy subject of regret and explains why it isn’t always a bad thing. Amy and I couldn’t help but feel the whole range of human emotions when we did this interview with Liz because not only does she allow that, she expects it. As women we often shove down emotions like anger or frustration when in reality those feelings should be invited. Having our kids see us work through those emotions is in fact very healthy! Meet LIZ www.fosslien.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 30% off Blissy Pillowcases: https://blissy.com/pages/herself code: HERSELF Sponsor: 25% off your first order at Athena with code ‘HERSELF’: https://www.athenaclub.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Destini Ann Davis is our guest today. She is a parenting coach, a working mom, and the author of Very Intentional Parenting: How to Raise Empowered Kids. She approaches parenting in a peaceful manner. Today, she talks with us about what this means and explains it in a way that we are all on the same team and we’re all trying to figure things out together. Destini focuses on the energy that we can bring to parenting to really help everyone be more positive and peaceful and in return, we can raise children who are the same. She answers our questions on whether or not peaceful parents are raising entitled children, what to do when our approach to parenting differs from our partner, and how to use reflection and intention setting in parenting. The continuing message throughout our conversation is centered around encouraging the parent and child to connect and communicate. If this episode resonated with you, we would love for you to share it on your Instagram stories and tag both @herselfpodcast and @destini.ann. Destini’s  Instagram Destini’s TikTok Destini’s YouTube Destini’s Website Destini’s Podcast Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: $150 off at Ice Barrel with code ‘HERSELF’: www.icebarrel.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We are bringing you something we’ve never really spoken about in the past. We are talking about adolescents and teenagers. We cover really hot topics including when it’s appropriate to give your child a cell phone. Our guest is Dr. Lisa Damour. She is a mom of two daughters, a psychologist, and the author of three New York Times best selling books that help parents untangle family life. Dr. Lisa answers our questions on when we should start laying the groundwork with our children so that they can be resilient and cope with the challenges that come with the adolescent years. She covers how we can help our kids develop a solid self-esteem even if they’re not one of the stars. Body autonomy, expressing feelings, and how to support your kids in school are just a few of the topics we cover in today’s episode. If you are the parent of an adolescent, or will be transitioning to this stage soon, you are not going to want to miss this episode! Be sure to tag both @herselfpodcast and @lisadamour on your Instagram stories and share this episode! Follow Dr. Lisa on Instagram Follow Dr. Lisa on Twitter Follow Dr. Lisa on Facebook www.drlisadamour.com Ask Lisa Podcast The Emotional Lives of Teenagers Under Pressure Untangled Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

The Dude Therapist is back with us today! We have Eli Weinstein on again, this time to focus on communication and conflict in relationships. This is a real conversation of what it’s like to be in a long term relationship with kids. There are challenges that come up and figuring out how to work through these and stay on the same page is so crucial. Eli walks us through how couples that stay together deal with conflict. He touches on how to deal with heated issues when kids are in the room and how to work around that feeling of wanting to solve an argument right now. Have you and your partner ever had the same disagreement over and over? Eli shares his tips on how to resolve this so that the same issues don’t keep coming up. If you’ve ever felt like your relationship is more transactional than anything else, tune in to hear what Eli recommends when things with your other half start feeling this way. Follow Eli on Instagram Eli’s Website The Dude Therapist Podcast Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY'S: http://rothys.com/herself Sponsor: 25% off your first order at Athena with code ‘HERSELF’: https://www.athenaclub.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are shaking things up today by bringing you a male voice from the therapy, personal development, relationship, and parenting space. Our guest, Eli Weinstein, is a Dad of two and a psychotherapist that isn’t afraid to give it to people straight. He has an honest, blunt, but always kind style. Eli has been working as a therapist for over eight years and shares some of the struggles he has faced since becoming a Dad. Him and his wife have experienced loss and infertility and Eli shares what that is like to go through as a Dad.  As women, we often ask ourselves if Dad’s ever feel the mental load? Eli shares his perspective on this and what advice he has for women who are feeling the mental load burden. We cover the topic of postpartum mood disorders in men, what it’s like to be the starting player versus the bench warmer in parenthood, and how we have to be able to switch on and off as the preferred parent even when our children aren’t as comfortable with it. You guys are always asking us for more episodes that center around a male’s perspective. This one's for you. You are going to want to share this with your male partner as well as any friend that you think might benefit from this episode! Follow Eli on Instagram Eli’s Website The Dude Therapist Podcast Sponsor: $150 off at Ice Barrel with code ‘HERSELF’: www.icebarrel.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: Purposeful Podcast Course: Use code ‘HERSELF’ at checkout for $50 off Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Dr. Corina Dunlap joins us for today’s conversation. She is a mom and a naturopathic doctor whose research is incredible. She focuses on hormones, mood, and gut health. Dr. Corina’s goal with each of her patients is to get to the root cause of their symptoms. We discuss what the most common symptoms of hormone imbalance are and what kind of foundational health habits we should have in place in order to function at our best. Dr. Corina answers our questions on how hormones affect our metabolism, why our thyroid is so crucial for overall well being, and how we can know if our gut is truly healthy.  If you’ve ever asked yourself questions like what do these symptoms mean or what changes can I make to feel better then you’re not going to want to miss this episode. Dr. Corina even gives those of us who have been putting our own health on the back burner the gentle nudge we need. Follow Dr. Corina on Instagram Dr. Corina’s Website: www.drcorinadunlap.com Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com/herself Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange

Megan and Lauren from The Matrescence are back with us today. If you’ve been around for a while then you know they were on previously in episode #112.  The Matrescence was born out of a desire to help other women navigate their personal experiences with motherhood while providing a community to support, uplift, and empower one another. Lauren is a licensed and trained registered nurse in the NICU and a mom of three precious little men. She is also now a board certified Psychiatric Mental Health Nurse Practitioner, focusing on women’s health and wellness. Megan splits her time developing marketing strategies for national brands and chasing three toddlers.  In today’s episode we cover everything from anxiety to depression to what this looks like inside motherhood and how we can keep ourselves mentally well. This month is mental health awareness month and as you guys know we think this is so important.  Lauren and Megan provide us with strategies on how we can cope with mental health challenges, explain how we can start to accept help for those of us who struggle in this area, and share their top wellness tips that they recommend every mom does. If you enjoyed today’s episode, please tag both @thematrescence and @herselfpodcast and share it to your Instagram stories. As always, thanks for listening. Follow The Matrescence on Instagram www.thematrescence.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: $150 off at Ice Barrel with code ‘HERSELF’: www.icebarrel.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange

This interview feels like a big hug. We sit down with Meghan Watson, a psychotherapist, writer, consultant & content creator, to talk about understanding emotions and giving ourselves compassion. We cover the steps of what building emotional awareness looks like, the topic of resentment - how it can be an emotional burden, and Meghan gives us prompts on how we can move past resentment even if we feel like the other player isn’t willing to make a change. We dive into how we can start to build self-trust and the role that social media plays on our ability to trust ourselves. This episode is both thought provoking and healing all at the same time. We would love it if you shared it in your Instagram stories tagging both @thrive_withmeg and @herselfpodcast. Follow Meghan on Instagram: @thrive_withmeg & @bloom_psychology Subscribe to Meghan’s Free Newsletter: Feelings, Healing: https://meghanwatson.substack.com/ Website: Bloom Psychology & Wellness www.bloompsychologyto.com  Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY'S: http://rothys.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange

We are honored to have Dr. Aliza Pressman back on the show today. She was a guest on episode #41 and also hosts her own podcast; Raising Good Humans, where she interviews very knowledgeable and renowned parenting experts. What we love about Dr. Aliza is that she parents the parent. She brings the latest research in child development and helps parents with the things that we deal with every, single day. Throughout this episode we bring in our own experiences and sift through ways to not only make parenting easier but also more enjoyable.  Dr. Aliza shares the through line that all her guests agree on and you might be surprised to hear that it’s actually way simpler than you might think. We cover how we can keep our information intake at a manageable level when we live in a world where we are bombarded with information overload. We talk about resilience and how we can help our kiddos self regulate, how we prevent passing on our own worries, and whether or not that should even be the goal. As always, we appreciate all the tags, ratings, and reviews. We are trying to grow our download numbers and every share helps us do just that. Thanks for listening. Follow Dr. Aliza on Instagram Dr. Aliza’s Substack Raising Good Humans Podcast Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself  Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code ‘herself20’ (try the brand new taco and habanero flavors!): https://chomps.com/ Sponsor: 25% off your first order at Athena with code ‘HERSELF’: https://www.athenaclub.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange

It’s Amy & Abby here this week. We are talking about five questions we’ve asked ourselves recently and we think everyone else should ask themselves these questions too. The whole point of this episode is that all of our answers will be unique. We will give you prompts, and share our own answers to the questions, but we want you to take them and  run with them. We hope that these questions give you something to think about and allow you to do the type of self reflection that you deserve. Sponsor: 30% off Blissy Pillowcases: https://blissy.com/pages/herself code: HERSELF Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Core Values Exercise Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

If you are in a romantic partnership of any sort you are going to love today’s conversation. We sit down with Elizabeth Earnshaw who is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She is also a mom, author, premarital counselor, and she’s the voice behind the very popular IG account @lizlistens. What we love about Liz is that she is an expert at navigating conflict in relationships. She not only teaches couples who are just beginning their partnerships but she also helps couples that have been together for a long time.  Liz shares tips on the nonnegotiables every couple must have in order for their relationship to be successful. She shares her best advice on how to solve conflicts we get into and how we can close the loop so that we can move forward in a healthy way. She also just affirms that sometimes we just need a little tough love and sometimes we just need a little change. We know you are going to love this interview! Liz’s Website: www.elizabethearnshaw.com Follow Liz on Instagram Follow Liz on TikTok OURS Inc.: www.withours.com @ours.wellness on Instagram Sponsor: Year’s Supply of Vitamin D and Five Free Travel Packs from AG1 with Your First Purchase: www.athleticgreens.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Do you identify as a people pleaser or an overfunctioner? Then this episode is going to hit home for you. Today we sit down with Yara Heary of the @lifeafterbirthpsychology Instagram account. Yara is a therapist, a speaker, and a coach who really likes to help women thrive on their journeys both as women and as mothers. Yara chats with us on how over functioning can affect us both short and long term. She gives us prompts to replace more work with actually taking a break. We cover how it is impossible to run on maximum capacity at all times and how it is a necessity to build in recovery time to our busy lives. If you are looking for a means to spend some time on yourself, be sure to check out the HERself Self Care Course. In it we give you a step-by-step tutorial on how to do things to actually make self care and recovery a priority. Follow Yara on Instagram Yara’s Website Yara’s Podcast: Life After Birth with Yara Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY'S: http://rothys.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Today we are so excited to have a conversation with Whiteny Goodman, the radically honest psychotherapist behind the very popular Instagram account @sitwithwhit. You may have seen her information and content in dozens of publications including the New York Times and New York Magazine. We love this interview because it takes the toxically positive environment that many of us are living in and it gives it a little bit of a shift. We don’t want to be walking around in complete negativity but there definitely is a balance and Whitney walks us through ways we can find that balance while helping ourselves and our relationships in the process. Whitney covers everything from why she got started with toxic positivity to how we can show up for a friend who is going through something we might not fully understand. She also helps us identify the connection between people pleasing and toxic positivity. If you haven’t already, we would love for you to leave us a review. Reviews are so important to podcasts and help us get our message across to new ears! Whitney’s Instagram Whitney’s TikTok Sitwithwhit.com Whitney’s Substack Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 30% off Blissy Pillowcases: https://blissy.com/pages/herself code: HERSELF Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

We are so excited to introduce today’s guest, Faith Broussard Cade. We have been long time fans of hers and she is the woman behind the movement of self-care. Faith’s handwritten notes that she shares online tend to go viral. She started writing these notes as a means to heal from a personal accident and in today’s interview she explains how her messages have helped many others heal as well. If you are someone who struggles with rest, Faith shares how we can turn that to-do list off in our head and actually take some time for ourselves. She shares a list of self-care items that we can benefit from that are inexpensive and tangible ideas to pull ourselves up from the bottom of our priority list. We would love for you to do two things for us this week. 1. Make sure you are subscribed to our show so these new episodes show up for you every week and 2. Leave us a review. Those help us get our important conversations, like this one with Faith, to more ears! Faith’s Instagram Faith’s Twitter Faith’s Facebook www.fleurdelisspeaks.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code ‘herself20’: https://chomps.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

With this episode we are going to take you behind the scenes. We usually do this type of thing over on Patreon but we know many of you are interested in more episodes where we are just being ourselves and talking about what we are going through. We would love to hear what you think about this type of episode and if you’d like to hear more like it. We go through what it is like for us to have different social needs than our partner. For Amy, it can be a struggle when she is more of a homebody and her spouse is more social. Or the opposite can be true as well. Abby tends to be more of a busy body and, at times, wishes her partner would have more real-life friends. Navigating these situations is tough and we chat about what works for us in these scenarios. If you’ve been a long time listener then you know that we both have been going through our own health journeys. As we enter our mid-thirties, we are finding that this season of life can be challenging. Especially if you’ve had children. Both of us give you an update on where we are currently at and what tools we use to help us feel our best. We are doing a book club this month, so if you aren’t a member of our Patreon community yet, be sure to head over there to join us for a monthly bonus episode and to participate in this month’s book; The Measure by Nikki Erlick. Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself   Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Our guest today is Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart. She is a pediatric psychologist, a parent coach, an author, and a speaker. And let us tell you, we wish we would’ve had this episode sooner in our parenting journeys. Dr. Lockhart walks us through actual, real-life scenarios we are going through with our kiddos. She also answers the tough questions that so many of us have. How do we handle our kid’s fears and anxieties? Where does rebellion come from and what can we do about it? How can we better understand a child who is lacking motivation? And, how do we help our kids not miss out on a commitment because they are nervous? Be sure to tag both the @herselfpodcast and @dr.annlouise.lockhart if you got some key takeaways from this episode! Dr. Lockhart’s Social Media Handles:  Website: www.anewdaysa.com  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.annlouise.lockhart/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.annlouise.lockhart/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCFQ6vJ7rhl_tos1_udGKVQA    Parent Courses: https://www.anewdaysa.com/parent-classes Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY'S: http://rothys.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen This episode was produced and edited by @pivotballchange.

Today’s guest is Sheina Schochet, a licensed mental health counselor who is the face behind the popular account @loveafterbaby. What we love about this interview is that she pulls in her own life experiences around how we can help partners stay connected for the long haul even after they have kids. We know that with children comes more challenges. After listening to this episode you’ll be able to directly apply Sheina’s simple, tangible tips to start improving the love in your relationship right away. Be sure to tag @herselfpodcast and @loveafterbaby on Instagram to show us your weekly check-ins or the date night you’re planning with your partner! Follow Sheina on Instagram: @loveafterbaby Loveafterbaby.com Love After Baby Membership Sponsor: 20% off at THIRDLOVE: http://thirdlove.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

You guys are in for a treat today because we have Erica Djossa; formerly known as Happy as a Mother, now known as Momwell, on the show. We feel like her mission and our mission here at the HERself podcast run side by side. We both try to get women and mothers the best information possible. Throughout this interview we nod our heads along with all the advice Erica gives on topics including the invisible load in motherhood, what causes the feeling of being on edge, toxic positivity and so much more. At the end of the episode, Erica speaks on Dads. We get asked so often, from you, about how your partner/husband can get resources. We wanted to make sure we covered that inside this interview as well. Because we all know Dads and partners struggle too. If you enjoyed this episode please tag both the @herselfpodcast and @momwell on Instagram!  MEET Erica Erica’s Reconnect Bundle Momwell.com Momwell Podcast Patreon: patreon.com/herselfpodcast Sponsor: 7 Day Free Trial at Paired Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We have two awesome guests joining our show today; Vanessa Bennett and Dené  Logan. They are therapists who do a deep dive into the psychology of the soul. They have their own podcast, Cheaper Than Therapy. Their whole point is to demystify, destigmatize, and desensitize what goes on both inside the therapy room and in daily life. This is the type of episode that is going to push you. It also challenged us. Vanessa and Dené  speak so vividly on why it’s important to have a sense of self throughout your entire life. They define what codependency is and how that compares to interdependence. We ask them the hard question of whether we should wait for our partners to change, should we try to change them or is it best to just accept them for who they are? In the three years of hosting this podcast, this episode is one of my (Abby) very favorites episodes. You’re not going to want to miss it! MEET Vanessa MEET Dené  Listen to the Cheaper Than Therapy Podcast @cheaperthantherapythepodcast on Instagram Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/pages/pod_herself_fa22_HO22 Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today we have Carly Hill from Debt Free Mom on. If you’ve ever been resistant to the idea of budgeting because it seems archaic, we’ve been there too. But we love Carly’s approach. She gives actionable, achievable steps to help you on your financial path. Carly is the mom of four who teaches women how budgets can help them gain more financial freedom and lower their stress. She covers whether or not we should be saving, paying off debt, and investing all at the same time or if we should be prioritizing one over the other. Carly breaks down what a budget is and why it’s important to have one.  If budgeting seems overwhelming to you, or you don’t even know where to start, Carly speaks on this as well. She talks about how money mindset comes into play with how we approach our finances and what it can look like when you are incentivized differently than your partner. There’s a lot of numbers talk in this episode, but don’t let that overwhelm you because Carly breaks it down. This is definitely an episode you’ll want to listen to with your partner and you might even want to listen to a few parts twice, depending on where you’re at in your financial journey. Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY'S: http://rothys.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Carly’s website: www.debtfreemom.co Free Budget Workshop: www.debtfreemom.co/workshop Carly’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debtfree.mom/ Stay tuned for Carly’s podcast, Debt Free Mom Podcast, launching February 6th: www.dfmpodcast.com Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Have you ever had that feeling that your child is behind in something? This week the two of us sit down and share some insight on what has been going on in our lives when it comes to feeling like we are letting our children down.  Abby shares a personal story on the weight that can come with having a child with special needs. Amy gets vulnerable on what it felt like when she was told her kindergartener was behind in reading. Oftentimes, as women, we take the load of the heavy issues. Today we talk about what our village looks like and how we can lean on them through these tough times. We know that in moments like this it can feel like you might want to throw in the towel. But remember, you are allowed to have these ups and downs. You’re allowed to have success and the hard days. We hope that you have a village of support where you feel like you can be honest about your relationships, parenting, and the things that are really, really tough. Sponsor: 7 Day Free Trial and 25% off subscription at Paired Sponsor: 20% off at THIRDLOVE Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today we are so excited to have Jess from @nurturedfirst (formerly Our Mama Village) back on the show. Jess is a registered psychotherapist who shares her expertise on all things sibling relationships. This is an episode we wish we had before we had multiple children! Navigating sibling conflicts can be exhausting. As parents we are trying to help our children thrive as individuals but we also want to foster the relationships they are developing with their brothers or sisters. Jess helps us by providing things we can do or say as parents to support these healthy relationships among our kids. We love hearing what you as listeners are pulling from these episodes. Tag @ourmamavillage and @herselfpodcast and share something you learned from this episode. Update March 2023: Our Mama Village is now Nurtured First! Check Jess out on Instagram @nurturedfirst, and check out her new website here: nurturedfirst.com. Together, let's create a generation of children, parents, and caregivers who are nurtured first.  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/pages/pod_herself_fa22_HO22 Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We have the pleasure of speaking with Cassie from @thecaffeinatedclean this week. Whenever we talk about decluttering and organizing, we get such a positive response from this community. We know that a messy house or space leads to a messy mind. Cassie walks us through ways that we can start decluttering our lives. She talks about cleaning our cleaners, organizing and how we can get our kids on board to make our lives more streamlined by having them step up into their own independence. We also get into details on Cassie’s recent divorce. If you are someone who is contemplating divorce or are recently separated Cassie gives her heart and helps us figure out this tough transition. Be sure to tag both @thecaffeinatedclean and @herselfpodcast to show us all your before and afters. We love to see them! Follow Cassie on Facebook Follow Cassie on Instagram Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code ‘herself20’: https://chomps.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

This week we are talking about how we implemented some of the things Dr. Morgan Cutlip talked about in last week’s episode. We have tried a few of her tips in our own relationships and we share what is working and what is not working so well. We hope this episode normalizes that in this season of life with all of the demands it can lead to some moments where you wish you would have acted differently or you wish your partner would have acted differently and that's just the truth of the matter with how much stuff we all have going on. We hope that you can take something from this episode. Whether it's the strategy of using, “the story I’m telling myself is…” as a way to start tough conversations and help your partner understand you better. Or maybe it is in the idea of helping yourself and your partner feel more visible and valued by giving really specific compliments. Whatever you need today, we hope you are able to take it with you. Check out Dr. Morgan Cutlip's Gifts to Moms guide: https://www.mylovethinks.com/moms-gifts/ Sponsor: 20% off at THIRDLOVE: http://thirdlove.com/herself Join our improved exclusive membership PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Dr. Morgan Cutlip sits down with us this week to discuss all things relationships and  partnerships. She is a wife, a mom to two spirited kiddos and has a PhD in psychology. We open up about our own struggles with our partners and this episode feels like a real time therapy session for the both of us. We are sure that the issues that we go through will apply to you as well. Dr. Morgan walks us through what to do when our partners give us the silent treatment and when they have issues apologizing. She takes the things we know we should be doing to improve upon our relationships and adds another element to them.  You can start using Dr. Morgan’s practical relationship strategies today! MEET Dr. Morgan Cutlip: https://www.instagram.com/drmorgancutlip/ and her FREE Gifts for Moms: https://www.mylovethinks.com/moms-gifts/ Dr. Morgan’s website: https://www.mylovethinks.com/ Dr. Morgan’s book available for presale: Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code ‘herself20’: https://chomps.com/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

It is right in the middle of the holidays so if you are traveling this week it is the perfect time to listen to one of our most downloaded, re-shared episodes of 2022. This week we are re-airing our episode with Susie from @busytoddler. The biggest takeaway you will have from this episode is to give yourself credit for making it through the hard days and to give yourself a pat on the back for the incredible job you are doing as a parent. We could not be more excited to talk with our special guest today, because we have Susie Allison from Busy Toddler with us! Susie is a former kindergarten and first grade teacher turned stay-at-home mom. She is an author and one of Instagram’s favorite moms, because she gives us so many tangible tips to help us navigate the “little kids years” and what to do to keep our children happy, thriving, and frankly, entertained. If you enjoyed this episode with Susie too, we would be absolutely honored if you tagged @busytoddler and @herselfpodcast so we can see you enjoying it!  MEET Susie: https://www.instagram.com/busytoddler/  Sponsors: 15% off at Beck Hill Co: https://beckhillco.com/ 30 Days Free on the Homer Learning App: https://glnk.io/04kp/ameskiefer Links & Resources: Susie’s Website & Instagram  Her Book, Busy Toddler's Guide To Actual Parenting: From Their First "No" to Their First Day of School (and Everything In Between) Susie’s Posts, I Don’t Do Housework at Naptime&What If You Hate Messy Play HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

What is the difference between worry and anxiety? And how do we recognize when our thoughts are causing a negative impact on our everyday lives? This week we are bringing Kate Borsato back on the show to discuss this matter. Kate is a therapist who specializes in anxiety, especially in motherhood. She talks to us about what exactly worry is compared to anxiety and offers great suggestions on what we can do if we recognize some of these problematic symptoms in ourselves. Kate guides us through different exercises including how to surrender to our anxious thoughts and focus our attention on what we do want to be thinking about instead. She encourages us to write down what a good mother means to us and to make sure we are including ourselves on that list. Even things like deep breathing are exercises that can help get us out of that  worrisome headspace and back to where our feet are planted. So many of us can relate to the struggle we have when we are able to watch our partners participate in a mindless, relaxing activity for a few hours at a time when we ourselves simply cannot. Kate goes into details about how society puts this pressure on moms to constantly be productive and suggests that we take a page right out of our partner's playbook by allowing ourselves to participate in activities that make us feel creative.  If you worry that your anxious tendencies are going to be passed on to your children, listen in. Kate explains that those of us who are more prone to anxiety can be caused by many factors including childhood trauma, abusive romantic relationships, or we may just be genetically more prone to worry. Kate Borsato’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kateborsato/ Sponsor: Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Adult friendships are hard. We hear this over and over again from our community. That is why we are so excited to sit down with Dr. Miriam Kirmayer today to discuss what we can do to foster, build, and maintain these special relationships in our lives. Dr. Miriam is a clinical psychologist, writer, speaker, and friendship expert who has spent a decade researching the science of friendship and social connection. She shares with us her expertise on how we can build new friendships as adults and how we can stay connected to our friends once we become parents. If your friendships have taken a back burner since you became an adult, this episode will strike a cord. Dr. Miriam goes into simple techniques we can use to make sure there is a match between the type of support that’s being given from our friends and the type that we are really looking for. She helps us navigate the tough situation of ending long term friendships and identifying when they are no longer serving us. We can only entertain so many friendships at once. Dr. Miriam helps us recognize when it's time to let friendships go so we can make room for new ones.  If adult friendships have been a struggle for you, know that you are not alone. We hope this episode helps you get some ideas on how you can better your relationship with your current friends and put yourself out there to make new ones! MEET Dr. Miriam Kirmayer: https://www.instagram.com/miriamkirmayer/ Dr. Miriam’s Website: https://www.miriamkirmayer.com/ Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Sponsor: 20% off at Vuori Clothing: https://vuoriclothing.com/pages/pod_herself_fa22_HO22 Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

This week we are trying something new. We’ve decided to implement the things that we learned from our interview with Claire Lerner last week. We both have children who we consider to be big reactors. So we took our insights from our conversation with Claire and put them into action in our own homes! One of Amy’s biggest takeaways was that each of her children might need individualized things. Her big reactor needs to be parented differently than his brothers. Continual praise and more time are a coping mechanism that seem to help. Abby realized that when these types of kids have these big reactions they aren’t trying to cause a challenge. They are just trying to react in a way that their own body needs. They’re more sensitive, more empathetic, and look at the world in their own unique way.  The thing that we want you to know is that we don’t get it perfect every time. We are learning right alongside you. We are both, everyday, normal moms who aren’t experts. We struggle through this parenting thing as well. And it does get better. Both of our big reactors are around age five now and it has taken us a little longer to learn what parenting techniques work. We are making progress and hope this episode helps you do the same. If you missed last week’s episode with Claire Lerner, be sure to listen here: 157. Real Parenting: What to Do When the Script Doesn't Work with Claire Lerner Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY'S: http://rothys.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We both have experience raising children who seem to not respond to gentle parenting. It has been frustrating for the both of us at times because it has made us feel isolated and exhausted. We are so excited to have Claire Lerner on today to share her expertise in this area. Claire shares what to do if your child is wired differently during moments of aggression towards others. She explains that our children are not trying to be manipulative in any way, just that they need boundaries to help themselves regulate. Have you ever wondered if timeouts are truly a thing of the past? Claire explains her concept of a safe space break and how this alone time can help kids get back to a place of calm. With it being the middle of the holiday season, we know that these large family gatherings can be major triggers for our kiddos who tend to be big reactors. Claire helps us navigate the conversations we can have with not only our friends and family members, but with our children's teachers as well. And next week, we will both share our learnings from implementing Claire's strategies into our own households. So be sure to tune in to hear how these teachings are helping us with our own personal situations at home. Meet Claire. Visit Claire's website. Free Shipping at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

This week we are answering your questions you submitted on Instagram. We know several of you are probably busy with your families this week and we wanted to keep this episode lighthearted and fun. We know as business partners that it can be hard to get along all the time. We dive into whether or not we fight a lot and what we appreciate the most about one another. Another relationship several of you had questions on was the ones we have with our spouses. Tune in to hear what we are both currently working on in our marriages. As many of you know we have both been on health journeys and we share where we are at when it comes to our mental and physical wellbeing. Amy shares details on how she is focusing on her nutrition whereas Abby gets into the nitty gritty on her journey with SSRIs.  We go into what each of our families do as rituals around the holidays and what our typical morning routines look like. You’ll be surprised to hear that Abby’s changes on a daily basis. If you have been with us since the beginning of this podcast, we want to thank you for following along. Many of you are wondering if or when a HERself podcast event is in the making? Tune in to this week’s episode to learn more about where we are at with that! Sponsor: 20% off at CHOMPS with code ‘herself20’: https://chomps.com/ Sponsor: Our direct link to ROTHY’S: http://rothys.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

With the holidays quickly approaching, we want to bring you an episode that we hope will help you to stay sane during this busy time! As you know, we are both moms of three kids each, and this is our 7th year of having children during the holidays. Needless to say, we have learned so much throughout our own journeys and we’re here to share the tips and tricks for what to do, as well as what not to do, during the holiday season.  A lot of what we talk about today will not only help you this year in the moments of overwhelm you might experience, but we want it to make future holidays easier for you, more streamlined, and to give you the space that you need so that you can actually be present and enjoy the time with your loved ones!  We love hearing where you are when you listen to our podcast!  Are you on a walk, on a break, or listening somewhere else? Tag us over on Instagram, @herselfpodcast and let us know, and if you found this episode helpful in planning for the holidays, we would be so grateful if you shared it with others!  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself  Sponsor: 20% off at VUORI: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Links & Resources: Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course 103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

You’re in for treat today, as our special guests are Emmalee and Jennifer from the Shrink Chicks, who are also the co-founders of The Therapy Group. In this episode, they share their expertise on conflict resolution and communication strategies to use in your romantic relationship. We really felt like we were getting couples therapy in front of thousands of people during this conversation, as they covered so many of the issues that many of us face in our relationships! Before diving in, we want to give the disclaimer that what we talk about here is for people that are in healthy relationships, and if there is any sort of abuse happening, these things won’t apply to your relationship.  A key message that we took from what Emmalee and Jennifer had to share is that we really don’t need to be having these conversations on our own. Go seek the resources and get the right tools in place so that you can have a better life and stronger relationship with your partner!  As always, we want to hear your feedback and the biggest takeaways from what you heard in this episode, so please share your thoughts on Instagram and tag us, @shrinkchicks and @herselfpodcast. MEET Emmalee and Jennifer: https://www.instagram.com/shrinkchicks/ Sponsor: 15% off at GOODR with code ‘HERSELF’: https://goodr.com Sponsor: 15% off HERself Self-Care Course with code “15OFF: https://herself.teachable.com/    Links & Resources: ShrinkChicks Website, Instagram & Podcast  The Therapy Group Website & Instagram Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course The New Rules of Marriage by Terrance Real  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We are releasing this episode because we know that in addition to us, so many other people need it too. Today’s guest is Dr. Anjuli Gans, a board-certified pediatrician and educator who runs the platform Resilient Rascals, and in this episode, we’re diving into all things kid sickness.  Dr. Anjuli reveals how we as parents can deal with our kids being sick, and what she shares is not only honest, but her tips and advice on this topic is both realistic and practical. We are in this with you, as we’ve certainly been in situations where our kids have been sick and have experienced the impact it has on everyone in the family. We learned so much from Dr. Anjuli today, and we’re so excited for you to learn and use this information as well!  As always, we want to hear your feedback and the biggest takeaways from what you heard in this episode, so please  share your thoughts on Instagram and tag us, @resilientrascals and @herselfpodcast.  MEET Dr. Anjuli: https://www.instagram.com/resilientrascals/  Sponsor: 45-Day Free Trial of HOMER:  https://glnk.io/04kp/ameskiefer  Sponsor: 20% off first order at THIRDLOVE: http://thirdlove.com/herself Links & Resources: Dr. Anjuli’s Website &  Instagram  Her Resource, Your Baby’s Health Handbook Enroll in the HERself Self-Care Course Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today we are excited to speak with Libby Ward from Diary of an Honest Mom, as so many of you have reached out and asked us to have her on the podcast!  Libby is a digital creator, speaker and mental health advocate with a deep commitment to breaking the cycles of trauma. She is known for talking about the hard things that mothers face through storytelling, while using humor and a lot of vulnerability. Her mission is to help other women realize that they are good moms, just as they are! We feel the reason that Libby resonates with so many people, and so deeply too, is that she shares with a level of honesty that we’re just not used to hearing today. We hope that you find this interview as inspirational and inspiring as we did, and we’d be so happy if you shared it on Instagram, tagging us @diaryofanhonestmom and @herselfpodcast. MEET Libby: https://www.instagram.com/diaryofanhonestmom/  Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY’S: http://rothys.com/herself Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Libby’s Website , Blog, TikTok & Instagram Get Libby’s Free Honest Mom Journal  Her Instagram Reel, An alternative take on the first four years Fair Play & Find Your Unicorn Space by Eve Rodsky  HERself Self-Care Course 150. Overwhelmed? This One’s for You.  Roadmap: if you like this episode, make sure to listen to these:  117: HERself Expert Larissa Geleris on Overstimulation in Parenthood 114: HERself Expert: Stephi Wagner on the Mother Wound 106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Before we jump into this episode, we wanted to let you know that it is longer than our usual episodes, and we talk about some heavy stuff in this one. In fact, this might be the type of episode where you take a couple of breaks while listening, and one that you send to your partner to check out. Today, we’ll be talking about what would happen if we should die, which is a topic that could take a while for you to process, because as you’ll hear, there is a lot to consider here.  Our expert guest today is attorney Eric Christoffersen, who has been with the law firm Grams & Christoffersen for 13 years and counting. He started as a law student, clerking for Founder, David F. Grams who established the firm nearly 30 years ago. After graduating law school, cum laude from the University of Wisconsin Law School, he became an associate attorney and then later a shareholder. Now with 11+ years of practice experience he is the Managing Shareholder of Grams & Christoffersen, S.C., leading a great team to serve their clients into the future. We think this episode with Eric is a really important one, and we discuss something that a lot of people will go through in their lifetimes. We feel that thinking about the future is worth having an entire episode on, and we hope you get a lot from this interview with Eric, who was in charge of helping Amy plan for her future.  If you found this episode informative and helpful, we would love it if you shared it with your friends and loved ones, and let us know your biggest takeaway by tagging @gcestatelaw and @herselfpodcast on Instagram!  MEET Eric: https://www.instagram.com/gcestatelaw/  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself  Sponsor: 20% off at VUORI: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Links & Resources: Eric’s Company’s Website & Email  Their Instagram & Facebook Website:  www.dfgrams.com Email: [email protected] Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/gcestatelaw/ Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today’s episode expands on the feelings of burnout and overwhelm that we’ve been talking about, and our hope is that it will give you some tangible tools and ideas for how we’ve worked through it in different seasons of our lives.  Both of us are moms of 3 children, with careers, partners, houses and laundry. We get it! We’ve been through all the tough seasons where we just weren’t asking for help or accepting it from others. In this episode, we reveal some personal stories of times where we were really overwhelmed, and we share what worked, what didn’t quite work, and how we have been able to get to where we are today in this area.  As you may know by now, our self-care course is live, and you can go to https://herself.teachable.com/ to register now! We have made this course to help women take better care of themselves by using research, quotes from experts, what our community has told us and from our own experiences. We’ve built this course to be something tangible that you can use not only today, but for days and weeks on end! If you go to https://herself.teachable.com/ and use the code ‘earlybird’, you’ll get 30% off the price of the course, which is the biggest discount we will offer on it, but hurry as this code will expire next Monday, October 17th, 2022! We can’t wait to start this journey with you, to a more fulfilled you!  We’d love it if you could share this episode and message with anyone you feel could benefit from it, because overwhelm is such a relevant topic today for so many people. Don’t forget to tag us, @herselfpodcast, and let us know what resonated the most with you!  Get 30% off our Self-Care Course with code ‘earlybird’ at https://herself.teachable.com/  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself  Sponsor: 15% off at GOODR with code ‘herself’: https://goodr.com Links & Resources: Register for our Self-Care Course now (and get 30% off with code ‘earlybird’) 149. Amelia Nagoski on Overcoming and Preventing Burnout 106. HERself Expert: Author Eve Rodsky on Sharing the Load at Home  Big Little Feelings Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today we are diving into the all-too-familiar topics of stress and burnout with our special guest, Amelia Nagoski. Amelia is an author, speaker and conductor who holds a Doctorate in Music from The University of Connecticut. She wrote the New York Times bestseller, Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle, with her identical twin sister, Emily. The book contains science and stories for people, especially women, who have felt exhausted and overwhelmed by everything they have to do, yet they still feel like they’re not doing enough.  This conversation with Amelia is a reminder to take yourself seriously and to start listening to that voice inside of you. You won’t be able to show up fully in this world until you begin taking this thing called burnout seriously, and by figuring out what your needs truly are!  We’d love it if you could share this episode and message with anyone you feel could benefit from it, because burnout is such a relevant topic today for so many people. Don’t forget to tag us, @burnoutbookgroup and @herselfpodcast, and let us know what resonated the most with you!  MEET Amelia: https://www.instagram.com/burnoutbookgroup/  Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself  Sponsor: 15% off at GOODR with code ‘herself15’: https://goodr.com Links & Resources: Get Your Copy of Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle  Amelia’s YouTube Channel, Autistic Burnout Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny by Kate Manne Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Is clutter holding you back? Would you like to have less clutter in your life? This is something many of us face, and we have a super tangible and relatable episode for you today about this topic! Katy Wells is a declutter expert who has turned her own life from cluttered to peaceful using the practical tips that she shares today, along with giving herself a ton of grace in the process. She’s helped thousands of families gain control of their households through solving their clutter problems at the root. She’s also helped them generate momentum towards building a home they love, and that allows them to focus on what really matters.  It is our hope that this conversation with Katy inspires you to tackle one room, or even just part of a room in your house today! Tag us, @katyjoywells and @herselfpodcast, with your pics of these projects because we want to see the transformations we can all start to make not only in our homes, but also our mental space. After listening to what Katy shares, you’ll see that decluttering truly can impact our lives for the better!  MEET Katy: https://www.instagram.com/katyjoywells/  Sponsor: 20% off first order at THIRDLOVE: http://thirdlove.com/herself Sponsor: $20 off first purchase at ROTHY’S: http://rothys.com/herself Links & Resources: Katy’s Website, Instagram & Facebook Her Courses Katy’s Podcast & The No-Think Solution to Simplify your Wardrobe Episode  Artkive Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Welcome to this bonus episode of HERself! It is our dream to someday bring you two episodes each week, so today is the test for that. What you might not see behind the scenes is that our amazing sponsors want a certain amount of downloads, so we have an ask of you. If we do go to two episodes a week, it’s important that you keep listening and sharing these episodes to help us accomplish this dream! With that being said, we’re excited to continue providing you with the best resource that we can to support you along your journey.  Today we want to reflect on Episode 146 with Dr. Becky, because Dr. Becky is someone who meets people where they are, and she’s not the type of expert who will shame you by pretending there is a “perfect” way to parent. Rather, she is trying to come alongside you and to help wherever you are.  Implementing some of the things that we talk about in this episode can make such a difference in helping you and your kids to get through the tougher times, by you providing support but not solving every problem for them. It might not show up at that very moment, but little by little you’ll start to see that all these hard conversations will lead to some really amazing transformations!  Again, we would be so grateful if you could text, email, and share this episode so that we can bring you even more content weekly. As always, we want to hear your biggest takeaways and how this has helped you, so please tag us at @herselfpodcast!  Feeling burnt out? Longing for more time and energy for yourself? Don’t know where to start? We’ve been there. Let us help you navigate this busy season while making yourself a priority. Go to https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6324c8a1821b5d8e1a7d5466 and be the first to know when the doors open on our new self-care course!  $20 off first purchase at ROTHY’S: http://rothys.com/herself Tune into The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos at https://podcasts.pushkin.fm/thls5?sid=herself Links & Resources: Join the Waitlist for Our New Self-Care Course!  146. HERself Expert: Clinical Psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy on How You and Your Child can Feel Good Inside & Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

You are in for a treat today! We are so excited to be bringing you our conversation with Dr. Becky Kennedy, who is a clinical psychologist, mom of three, and founder of Good Inside, the expert-guided, community-powered platform equipping parents with a new way of seeing and solving challenges at home.  Dr. Becky meets parents where they are at, and it’s so refreshing to get her insight on parenting, because a lot of these conversations are often happening behind closed doors. Today’s episode is a reminder that wherever we are in motherhood, we can start over right now by re-evaluating and changing our behaviors. By doing so we’ll not only help our kids, but we’ll start to help ourselves in the process.  We encourage you to visit Dr. Becky’s website at https://www.goodinside.com/ and check out all the amazing resources that she has available for moms, and if you enjoy this episode, we’d be so honored if you shared it on Instagram, tagging @drbeckyatgoodinside and @herselfpodcast.  MEET Dr. Becky: https://www.instagram.com/drbeckyatgoodinside/  Sponsor: 25% off at Expecting and Empowered with code ‘herself25’: https://app.expectingandempowered.com Sponsor: 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Dr. Becky’s Website & Free Weekly Newsletter Her Instagram  Pre-Order Dr. Becky’s Book, Good Inside  Join Her Good Inside Membership Sign Up for Dr. Becky’s On-Demand Workshops  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

One subject that comes up over and over again with our community is friendship, so we’re excited to bring Dr. Marisa Franco, a psychologist and friendship expert, back on the podcast today! Some of the things we cover in this episode include keeping friendships healthy when we’re in a busy season of life, tools for navigating conflict in friendship (and why conflict isn’t necessarily a bad thing), and ways to approach ending a friendship if the time comes for this to happen. Dr. Marisa also shares her best tips for making new friends, what to say when first engaging with new people, how strong friendships benefit our overall well-being, and so much more.  We really want to make friendship uncomplicated for you and meet you where you are, because it’s normal to feel nervous about these topics. If friendships are something that you’re working on, like we are, we are proud of you because we recognize that this can be hard!  If you enjoy what Dr. Marisa shares today, you’ll want to get a copy of her brand new book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends, which is available now! As always, we also want to hear your biggest takeaways from this episode, and you can tag us on Instagram, @DrMarisaGFranco and @herselfpodcast. We’d love for you to share this information with others, because it’s so important for us to work on and build the friendships we all have in our lives!  MEET Dr. Marisa: https://www.instagram.com/DrMarisaGFranco/  10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself 20% off at VUORI: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself Links & Resources: Dr. Marisa’s Website, Speaking Page & Instagram Take Her Platonic Friendship Questionnaire Get Dr. Marisa’s Book, Platonic: How the Science of Attachment Can Help You Make--and Keep--Friends (available now)!  59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

In the United States this week we are celebrating Labor Day, and we know that many of you may be with friends and family and won’t have as much time for your normal Monday morning podcast listen. For this reason, today we are bringing you a Greatest Hits episode, and one that will be especially important if you are with your in-laws this week!  Dr. Tracy Dalgleish joins the HERself Podcast to talk about in-law dynamics as it relates to children. Yes, this is your time to be a parent and your children are so important to you, but also this is the time where your in-laws can shine as grandparents. There will be a learning curve and some challenges involved, but getting through it together in a way where everyone can be happy is what Tracy D focuses on in this episode.  If you like what she shares, you’ll want to tune in Episode 94, which is the second part in this two-part series. In it, we go into in-law dynamics as it relates to the adults in the relationship, because we want you to make sure that you can keep the peace while maintaining your boundaries!  MEET Dr. Tracy D: https://www.instagram.com/drtracyd/ 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself 15% off at GOODR with code ‘herself’: https://goodr.com Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Hi, it’s Amy here, and today is one episode that I’ve been wanting to do for a long time now! In this episode, you’ll hear me share about my own health journey that I’ve been on for the past year and a half, and I reveal what has happened during this time, where I am today, and more.  Joining me is Sammie Gollup, who is an incredible dietician, to make sure that we have a safe and scientific conversation. With that being said, if hearing about weight gain or weight loss is triggering for you, please sit this episode out and take care of yourself first. In this conversation, we try to be very conscious of the way that we present these topics, but I want you to be aware of your own boundaries and needs, as always.  Today, we want to have a really honest talk about weight gain and how it can impact a person mentally, and then give you the tools that can help you work through this. This episode is meant to be educational through storytelling. In it, I tell my story and Sammie gives some of the science behind it and background from her experience working with many patients. It’s going to be really interesting and informative, and we hope you get lots from it!  We would love it if you shared this episode to get these important messages heard by more women and mothers. When you do, please tag us on Instagram, @anti.diet.mama and @herselfpodcast with your biggest takeaways from this episode!  MEET Sammie: https://www.instagram.com/anti.diet.mama/  $20 off first purchase at ROTHY’S: http://rothys.com/herself 20% off first order at THIRDLOVE: http://thirdlove.com/herself Links & Resources: Sammie’s Instagram  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

We’re so excited to have Yasmine Cheyenne on the show today! Yasmine is a self-healing educator, author, speaker and mental wellness advocate who helps people learn how to cultivate daily practices to build healthy and joyful lives.  In this episode, Yasmine reveals how you can create emotional and mental health boundaries, compromising with others, and the ways to begin using your own intuition in your daily life. She also talks about her powerful “sugar jar” concept, (which we love!) and how it will allow you to start checking in with yourself. Yasmine shares several prompts and activities that you can pull from this episode, and we want you to try them and let us know how you make out. We would love it if you tagged us on Instagram, @yasminecheyenne and @herselfpodcast with your biggest takeaways from this episode!  MEET Yasmine: https://www.instagram.com/yasminecheyenne/  20% off at VUORI: https://vuoriclothing.com/herself 10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself Links & Resources: Yasmine’s Website & Instagram  The Sugar Jar Podcast & The Sugar Jar® Community App Yasmine’s TEDx Talk, How Boundaries Make Space For The Sweet Things In Life 103. Nedra Tawwab on Reclaiming Yourself Through Setting Boundaries 128: HERself Expert: Therapist Kaitlin Soule on Becoming a Little Less of a Hot Mess in Motherhood  Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today’s episode is all about relationships, and specifically the power of those in-person friendships that mean so much. We’ll be sharing some of the things that we’ve been going through ourselves lately, but one thing we strongly believe in at  HERself is that you need to have good friends in your life that you can absolutely count on.  Real relationships take time to nurture and the process can’t be rushed, but we want you to be open to the idea of making new friends. During this season of life, there are times that you will need those people close to that you can lean on!  We’ve been thinking about how we can help our listeners grow their roots, and that’s why we want to invite you to join the HERself Podcast Patreon Community, where we take these conversations deeper in our private Facebook Group. Recently, we talked about mom guilt and where it shows up, and in this community we talk about the shame and secrecy that comes with mom guilt, as well as the wins that we don’t normally celebrate with each other. You can join at one of three different tiers to support us as creators, and be part of an exclusive community of over 100 women who are also navigating this crazy thing we call life, at https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast.   15% off at GOODR with code ‘herself15’: https://goodr.com 20% off at VUORI: https://vuori.com/herself  Links & Resources: Join the HERself Podcast Patreon Community!  140. The Mom Guilt Episode 59. HERself Expert: Dr. Marisa Franco on The Challenge and Triumphs of Adult Friendships Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

Today we are tackling the topic of mom guilt, which is something we talked about way back on Episode 12 of the podcast. This is important to mention, because what we say today is coming from a place of it being two years later. Back then, mom guilt was something that we were struggling more with, which led to both of us doing a lot of work in this area, and we want to share our insights and what we’ve learned with you today.  Motherhood is a journey, and we realize that mom guilt shows up differently in all of us. We think that a lot of people just accept their mom guilt in a way that really holds them back, and we feel that your goal shouldn’t be focused on being selfless, but rather to demonstrate to your children that you are a healthy person.  We hope this episode provides a nudge for you to dive deeper into these feelings of mom guilt, and as always, we’re here for you every step of the way. If you enjoy this episode and get something from it, we would love it if you shared it with a friend. This message on mom guilt needs to be shared with as many people as possible, and don’t forget to tag us on Instagram, @herselfpodcast and let us know your biggest takeaways!  10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself 20% off at THIRDLOVE: http://thirdlove.com/herself Links & Resources: 12. Mom Guilt: How We’re Working Through It 121: Shame vs Guilt and The Human Experience 139: Molly Millwood on Finding Your Voice in Motherhood and Marriage Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com  HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast  HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen

It would be an understatement to say that we have been looking forward to having today’s guest, Dr. Molly Millwood, back on the podcast! If you’re a long-time listener of HERself, you undoubtedly remember when Molly was with us for Episode 10, which is actually our second most listened to episode of all-time, and one that Amy still receives the most personal messages about.  In this episode, Molly reminds us that not every part of motherhood is going to be enjoyable, and it’s ok to voice this out loud. She also helps us get a new perspective on the invisible load faced by so many women and mothers today, along with revealing why it really is time for us to start prioritizing our female friendships again, and a whole lot more.  If you enjoy this episode, we would love it if you shared it with a friend. Molly’s message is definitely one that needs to be shared with as many people as possible, and don’t forget to tag us on Instagram, @molly.millwood.phd and @herselfpodcast and let us know your biggest takeaways!  MEET Molly: https://www.instagram.com/molly.millwood.phd/  10% off at BETTERHELP: http://betterhelp.com/herself $20 off first purchase at ROTHY’S: http://rothys.com/herself Links & Resources: Molly’s Website & Instagram Her Book, To Have and to Hold: Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma 10. HERself Expert: Molly Millwood on Motherhood, Marriage, and the Modern Dilemma Year of Yes: How to Dance It Out, Stand In the Sun and Be Your Own Person by Shonda Rhimes & I'll Show Myself Out: Essays on Midlife and Motherhood  by Jessi Klein Man 'amazed' by miracle soap dispenser that 'never runs out' Why parents — especially new parents — need to nurture their friendships Let’s connect! HERSELF SHOP: https://herself-podcast-favorites.myshopify.com HERSELF PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/herselfpodcast HERSELF INSTAGRAM: http://instagram.com/herselfpodcast  MEET AMY: http://instagram.com/ameskiefer  MEET ABBY: http://instagram.com/abbyrosegreen