Celebrate Kids Podcast with Dr. Kathy

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the significant concerns parents have regarding their children's mental health in today's digitally connected world. Host discusses a recent Pew Research Center report revealing that 40% of U.S. parents are extremely worried about their children struggling with anxiety or depression, surpassing fears related to physical dangers such as kidnapping or substance abuse. Dr. Kathy explores the impact of these worries on parental behavior and the importance of focusing on the light amidst the darkness. Join us as we unpack the balance between natural parental fears and the hope found in a supportive, faith-based perspective.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we dive into the important topic of boredom and its impact on children. Dr. Kathy discusses the challenges parents face when their kids experience boredom and how this can lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms, including substance use. Recent research highlights the necessity of teaching children to manage boredom effectively, as it is a natural part of life. Dr. Kathy also examines the shift in reasons behind teen vaping, noting that many now turn to it as a means of relaxation amidst rising stress levels. This episode offers valuable insights and strategies for parents to help their children build resilience and navigate feelings of boredom in a healthy way. Join us as we explore these crucial issues and equip ourselves to lead our kids well.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the emotional weight of the sandwich generation, parents raising children while also caring for aging parents. They offer encouragement to humbly ask for help and to trust God with seasons that feel too heavy to carry alone.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about how financial and medical stress, as well as family pressure, affect children. They reflect on how parents can be honest without overwhelming kids, and how security in God helps families mature through hard seasons.

Argentina is taking a strong stand to show dads how they want them to behave. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the responsibility of fatherhood and why engaged dads matter deeply to children. They reflect on culture and the biblical picture of a father who keeps watching for his children.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the growing presence of screens at family meals and why the dinner table matters for belonging. They explain how an undistracted presence helps children feel known and loved.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we dive into the importance of fostering a love for reading in children, especially during the summer months. Wayne Stender discovers insights from Dr. Kathy, highlighting research that shows reading is crucial for summer learning and can significantly impact children's reading achievement, particularly for those from low-income families. Recent surveys reveal a concerning decline in the number of kids who read for fun, with only 42% of nine-year-olds and just 17% of 13-year-olds engaging in daily reading. Tune in for practical tips on how families can encourage reading habits and create enjoyable reading experiences together.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids daily podcast, "Facing the Dark," we explore the profound joys and fears of parenting, particularly around helping children discover their true identities as created by God. Dr. Kathy discusses insights from a recent Summit Ministries blog that examines the modern identity crisis, linking it to a historical trend of Western individualism and the questioning of truth. The conversation highlights the importance of understanding how choices are presented to children and the significant impact this has on their self-identity. Tune in as we delve into these critical topics and reflect on the balance between guiding our kids and allowing them to become who they are meant to be.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the concerning trend of negative self-perception among kids today, which is often exacerbated by societal narratives labeling them as an anxious generation. She explores the implications of these self-definitions, questioning their healthiness and how parents and educators can respond effectively. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of speaking truth, positivity, and encouragement into the lives of children to counteract these negative labels. Additionally, she highlights the partnership with Summit Ministries, a program that offers engaging camps where teens can explore significant questions in a supportive community, fostering both personal growth and friendship. Tune in for valuable insights on nurturing resilience and self-esteem in today's youth.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the complexities of technology, particularly cell phones, and their impact on children. Reflecting on a poignant conversation about hopes for the next generation, she explores how kids recognize the negative aspects of technology but feel compelled to keep using it due to societal pressures. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of not just banning technology, but also providing meaningful alternatives to fill the void. Additionally, she highlights the support from their ministry partner, Summit Ministries, which offers a two-week worldview camp that helps kids engage with cultural dynamics and personal development. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating technology in today's world.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the essential qualities that contribute to children's success, inspired by an article from CNBC by Susan Domenez. The episode highlights five key elements identified in successful children's stories: the importance of optimism, the need to understand and tailor motivation to each child, the idea that learning and empowerment can occur in any environment, the value of a genuine love for knowledge alongside hard work, and the role of parents as loving coaches. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the significance of applying knowledge, which she defines as wisdom, as a crucial component of this journey. Join us as we explore how to cultivate these traits in children to help them thrive.

In this episode, Wayne Stender explores the profound idea that a good life is more important than simply having a good job. He and Dr. Kathy define a good life as one filled with fulfillment, connection, joy, commitment, growth, service, and learning. Dr. Kathy encourages listeners to reflect on what a "good job" means to them, emphasizing aspects like providing for family, flexibility, and personal maturity. The conversation aims to deepen the understanding of how our careers can align with our overall life satisfaction and personal development. Additionally, Wayne highlights the importance of awakening different smarts in children through art, mentioning the work of Creating a Masterpiece, which offers structured art education to help kids thrive creatively and emotionally. Tune in for insights on prioritizing life fulfillment while navigating career choices.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses a concerning trend revealed in a recent HarperCollins survey from the UK, which shows a significant decline in the interest of parents reading aloud to their children. Less than half of parents of kids up to 13 find reading aloud fun, and only 29% of children aged 5 to 13 view reading as enjoyable rather than just a school subject. The episode highlights alarming statistics showing a decrease in literacy rates in the U.S., with nearly 28% of adults ranking at the lowest literacy levels. Dr. Kathy discusses the critical importance of reading aloud for children's development, emphasizing how it fosters a love for reading and helps children navigate challenges in life with the understanding that there is always a conclusion. Tune in to learn more about the impact of reading on children's growth and the urgent need to reinvigorate the joy of reading in homes.

In this episode, we delve into the changing landscape of teen employment, noting a significant decline in the percentage of teens working since the late 1970s. Recent statistics reveal a slight recovery post pandemic, with around 38% of teens aged 16 to 19 actively seeking jobs as of May 2024. Surveys indicate that part-time work is beneficial for youth, helping them understand budgeting and financial responsibility. Join us as we discuss these themes and share insights on how to support children in their financial journeys.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the concerning trend of negative self-perception among today's youth, highlighting how many kids define themselves through a lens of anxiety and mental health challenges. She explores the implications of this self view and its potential to become a self fulfilling prophecy. Listeners are encouraged to consider effective ways to speak truth and positivity into this generation's lives. The episode also features a special mention of Summit Ministries, a partner organization that offers enriching two week camps for teens, providing them with an opportunity to engage with peers, ask important questions, and build community through both educational and fun activities.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Wayne Stender introduces a heartfelt discussion with Dr. Kathy on the challenges faced by children of divorce and their parents. They explore the feelings of disconnection from faith that often arise during such tumultuous times and emphasize that God understands the pain associated with divorce. The episode encourages listeners to recognize that not every light in their lives will guide them positively, urging caution and reflection in their journeys. Tune in for insightful perspectives and support for navigating these difficult emotions.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the national conversation about gender identity, children, medical care, and parental responsibility. They explore why parents must speak truth with compassion, and help children build a secure identity rooted in Christ.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the importance of getting kids outside and engaging with nature, especially during the summer months. The discussion arises from concerns parents face when their children prefer indoor activities, like reading, over outdoor play. Dr. Kathy explores the benefits of nature for children's health and development, referencing a recent study from Finland that shows significant advantages for kids who play in natural environments compared to those in urban daycare settings. Listeners are encouraged to think critically about how to inspire their children to appreciate the great outdoors. Tune in for practical insights on fostering a love for nature in our children!  

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about the growing concern around declining reading scores and the rise of screen based learning. They explore why reading is more than an academic skill and how it forms attention, imagination, empathy, wonder, wisdom, and identity.

In this episode of Celebrate Kids, Wayne Stender discusses the importance of nurturing different intelligences in children. Dr. Kathy then emphasizes how giving kids opportunities to explore new and challenging activities can help them discover their capabilities and prepare for future success. The episode highlights the value of creativity and artistic expression, featuring the resource Creating a Masterpiece, which offers step-by-step guidance for parents and children to engage in various art projects. By awakening different "smarts," especially visual-spatial intelligence, families can foster growth and self-discovery. Tune in to learn more about embracing challenges and the significance of art in development.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about the tension parents feel when raising independent kids in an anxious culture. Using stories of children walking to the library, running errands, and practicing small responsibilities, they explore how competence, confidence, character, and resilience grow through wise, supported independence.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about a neighborhood using simple WiFi "tin can phones" to help kids call friends and build real life connection without smartphones. Together, they explore why conversation skills must be taught, why belonging grows through practice, and how parents can help kids develop confidence and relational maturity in a screen shaped world.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch step into one of the most common and uncomfortable parenting conversations: How do we explain where babies come from without confusing or misleading our kids? The discussion is sparked by a popular podcast moment in which a celebrity mom offers a simple explanation: "When two people love each other enough, their love gets them a baby." While well-intentioned, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why answers like this, though emotionally appealing, can quietly create confusion or misunderstanding in a child's mind. Using a memorable ice-skating analogy, the episode acknowledges how slippery these conversations can feel for parents. But avoiding them doesn't make kids safer; it just sends them elsewhere for answers. Dr. Kathy explains why parents must be the trusted authority on questions about bodies, intimacy, and life, and why clarity matters even when the details are age-appropriate and gradual. Rooted in Psalm 139, the episode reassures parents that a child's worth is never defined by how they were conceived, but by who created them. When kids eventually learn the fuller story of biology, relationships, or even painful family circumstances, honest foundations help them feel secure rather than misled. Wayne and Dr. Kathy encourage parents to speak the truth with care, to name body parts accurately, to explain intimacy appropriately, and to always frame life as something intentionally crafted by God. Kids can handle reality when it's delivered with love, wisdom, and patience. This episode equips parents to step onto the ice with confidence, helping their children grow in understanding without fear, and letting truth become a bright light that cuts through confusion later in life.

Screens do more than entertain children; they shape habits, identity, attention, and belonging. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack new health concerns about rising screen use among kids and teens while exploring the deeper heart needs driving attachment to technology. They discuss why screens often become substitutes for security and identity, while offering parents practical ways to rebuild rhythms that strengthen real connection and healthy character formation.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore one of the most challenging conversations parents are navigating today: helping kids build healthy identity in a culture filled with competing voices. Drawing on insights from Raising Gender Confident Kids, they discuss why identity confusion often runs deeper than surface level questions and how parents can become intentional builders of security, identity, belonging, purpose, and confidence in their children.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy respond to recent reports of teen violence in public spaces and ask what may be happening beneath the behavior. They discuss anger, emotional regulation, isolation, authority, and why parents must move toward kids with truth, courage, accountability, and compassion before culture pulls away from them.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the pressures teenagers face to be exceptional, referencing a 2024 study from the University of Indiana. The study reveals that over half of surveyed teens feel pressured by expectations surrounding their achievements, future plans, and even their appearance. As graduation approaches, the conversation often shifts to what comes next for students, amplifying this pressure. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the dangers of these expectations and encourages a shift in perspective, highlighting the benefits of being average and the importance of allowing kids to explore their paths without the burden of needing to be extraordinary. Tune in for insights on how to support kids during this pivotal time in their lives.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of "dry texting," which refers to minimal responses in text conversations that lack depth and engagement. She discusses how this trend may lead to conflict-averse behavior and poor communication skills in children. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to elaborate on their thoughts and feelings rather than settling for one-word answers. She suggests using more engaging questions, such as "What intrigued you today?" to foster richer conversations and help children practice effective communication. Tune in to learn how to cultivate better dialogue with your kids and support their emotional development.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses how to determine when children are ready for more responsibilities and how to adjust our conversations and interactions with them as they mature. She addresses the various societal benchmarks like getting a driver's license, voting, and registering for the military, and offers guidance on approaching these discussions. The episode also features a sponsorship message from Summit Ministries, a ministry focused on shaping the hearts and minds of young people with a biblical worldview. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating the journey of raising children and helping them mature in their understanding of themselves and their faith.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of launching children into adulthood and the importance of broadening their definition of success. Drawing from a recent article by Jamie Richardson in Business Insider, she discusses the benefits of having adult children live at home, particularly in helping them navigate unfulfilling careers and relationships. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the value of redefining success beyond traditional metrics, focusing instead on health, wisdom, and happiness. This broader perspective encourages young adults to connect with their true selves and articulate their own definitions of success as they prepare to launch into the world. Tune in for insights on parenting and guiding kids toward meaningful adulthood.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the concerning statistics surrounding children affected by parental substance abuse. With nearly 19 million children in the United States having at least one parent with a substance use disorder, the episode emphasizes the emotional and psychological impacts on these kids, who may feel undervalued and unimportant. The discussion highlights the need for pediatricians to screen for mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and ADHD in these children, as they are more prevalent in this demographic. Dr. Kathy also notes the various forms of addiction parents may struggle with, including alcoholism and marijuana use, underscoring the urgency to address these issues and support affected families.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Wayne Stender delves into the evolving landscape of education, emphasizing the importance of fostering a love for learning over traditional metrics like grades and GPAs. Drawing from Proverbs 4:13, Dr. Kathy stresses that instruction and a desire for knowledge should be the focus, rather than the pressure of achieving honor roll status. The discussion touches on the historical shift towards standardized education and critiques the current free market approach, highlighting a recent interview with Arne Duncan, former Secretary of Education, who pointed out the lack of coherent educational goals and strategies at the national level. Dr. Kathy encourages parents and educators to prioritize meaningful learning experiences for children amidst the complexities of modern education.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the importance of getting children outside to play and engage with their environment. She highlights a long-term study linking physical activity in teenagers to lower symptoms of depression, emphasizing that those who maintain or increase their activity levels are less likely to experience mental health issues. Dr. Kathy explores the challenges some kids face in enjoying outdoor play due to sensory sensitivities and other barriers, offering insights into how parents can encourage outdoor activities in a positive way. Tune in for practical tips and a deeper understanding of the connection between physical activity and mental well-being in children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the critical issue of student engagement in education. She highlights the findings from a recent Brookings Institution survey revealing that only one-third of children are enthusiastic about school by age 13, contrasting sharply with parents' perceptions. Dr. Kathy addresses the reasons behind children's boredom and disinterest in learning, emphasizing the importance of making education relevant and beneficial. She also explores how parents can respond to their children's frustrations with school, acknowledging that while some level of boredom can build resilience, it can also lead to a diminished love for learning. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering enthusiasm in education and maintaining a positive learning environment for children.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about how teens are forming opinions through social media and AI, even while doubting the credibility of what they find. They unpack why uncertainty affects security, identity, and confidence, and how parents can teach kids to evaluate truth with wisdom.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about teens who say "not every home is safe" and why some kids seek belonging in risky places. They unpack how parents can build homes marked by safety, attention, correction without criticism, and meaningful connection.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the common habit of using screens to calm kids in cars, restaurants, airports, and other stressful moments. They explore why screens can weaken emotional regulation over time and how parents can gradually help children build patience and self control.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about Pizza Hut's returning Book It program and whether rewards help or hurt a child's love of reading. They explore how parents can motivate reluctant readers, make reading relational, and build habits that last longer than the reward.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss rising reports of sadness and hopelessness among teens and what those struggles can look like in everyday family life. They explore how parents can notice changes without panic and guide children toward the steady truth of who they are in Christ.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the significant benefits of outdoor play for children. Dr. Kathy discusses how spending time outside can alleviate anxiety and feelings of loneliness in kids, while also providing them with a broader perspective on life by encouraging them to look towards the horizon. She joins the conversation to offer insights and encouragement for parents struggling to get their kids off devices and engaged with nature. The episode emphasizes the importance of outdoor activity, highlighting a recent NPR report that suggests spending at least two hours outside each day can greatly protect children's eyesight. The episode also features a brief mention of Summit Ministries, a two-week camp designed to deepen teens' understanding of a Christian worldview. Tune in for valuable tips on fostering a love for the outdoors in your children!

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the significant benefits of outdoor play for children. Dr. Kathy discusses how spending time outside can alleviate anxiety and feelings of loneliness in kids, while also providing them with a broader perspective on life by encouraging them to look towards the horizon. She joins the conversation to offer insights and encouragement for parents struggling to get their kids off devices and engaged with nature. The episode emphasizes the importance of outdoor activity, highlighting a recent NPR report that suggests spending at least two hours outside each day can greatly protect children's eyesight. The episode also features a brief mention of Summit Ministries, a two-week camp designed to deepen teens' understanding of a Christian worldview. Tune in for valuable tips on fostering a love for the outdoors in your children!

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the vital role of reading aloud to children and its profound benefits on their development. Citing research from the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study, she highlights that a significant percentage of four-year-olds are not read to regularly, which can impact their vocabulary, reading comprehension, and motivation. Dr. Kathy shares insights on the positive outcomes linked to parents reading to their kids as young as one to two and a half years old, emphasizing that reading at least five books daily can expose children to an impressive 1.4 million words by the time they enter kindergarten. Tune in for practical tips on how parents can easily incorporate reading into their daily routines, fostering a love for reading and enhancing their children's literacy skills.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the idea of preparing children for the challenges of the world by intentionally placing them in difficult situations. Host discusses the overwhelming amount of social science research available to help parents and adult leaders navigate the mental health crises and emotional challenges faced by kids today. The conversation highlights the importance of fostering mental toughness and resilience in children, encouraging them to embrace struggles as opportunities for growth. Featuring insights from Dr. Kathy Cooke, the episode offers practical advice for Christian parents on equipping their kids to face inevitable challenges with confidence and strength. Tune in to discover how to transform fear into readiness for life's obstacles.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the importance of remembrance in education. Wayne discusses the overwhelming pressure students face today, with numerous graduation requirements and expectations. Drawing on research and biblical concepts, the segment emphasizes the need for students to take time to reflect on their learning and the positive experiences they've had. Dr. Kathy highlights Connecticut's graduation requirement, which asks students to assess their own learning growth over four years. This episode encourages parents and educators to facilitate moments of remembrance, shedding light on the significance of acknowledging past achievements and God's influence in students' lives.

What happens when a parent's identity becomes built around being needed? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about the quiet crisis many parents face as children grow older and need them differently. They explore the difference between identity, purpose, and competence, why parenting must be rooted in Christ rather than control, and how parents can model a whole, healthy life for their children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenges faced by today's children and the pressures they encounter in various environments, including school, church, and family life. She reflects on the shifts in children's behavior and performance over the years, sparked by a Reddit discussion among teachers about the noticeable changes they have observed since they began teaching. With insights on how to communicate positively and supportively with our kids, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of understanding and guiding them through these complex cultural moments. Join us as we explore ways to encourage our children and cultivate resilience in the face of modern life's pressures.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender discuss the challenges parents face when trying to nurture their children's faith, especially when it seems like their efforts aren't yielding the desired results. They emphasize the importance of having meaningful conversations that go beyond faith discussions, engaging with kids on various topics that interest them. The episode features insights from Dr. Kathy, who highlights findings from George Barna's American Worldview Inventory Report. This report reveals that many adults are open to the idea of God under certain conditions, presenting both a troubling reality and a powerful opportunity for fostering faith in children. The conversation aims to equip parents with the understanding that having a trusted person in a child's life is crucial for building their faith. Tune in to explore how to guide children in their spiritual journey without overwhelming them. The insights from this podcast reference Dr. Kathy's work Start with the Heart>>

As debates over gender identity and medical care for minors grow louder across the country, parents are left asking a deeper question than politics alone can't answer: how do we help our children know who they are? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss identity formation and why parents must be the clearest, most trusted voices in their children's lives. This is a conversation about speaking truth with love and helping kids find their identity in Christ rather than confusion.

Some children seem easy to raise. They do not ask for much, and they rarely create conflict. But what if that "easy" child is not thriving at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why quiet, low maintenance children are often overlooked, how unmet needs can hide behind calm behavior and what parents can do to make sure every child feels seen and deeply loved.

In a world that constantly pushes kids toward the next thing—next assignment, next achievement, next version of themselves—what if the most important habit we could teach them is to pause and look back? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the power of remembrance. Drawing from research, real-life parenting moments, and biblical truth, they unpack why reflection is one of the most overlooked tools for building identity, resilience, and faith in kids today. You'll discover why today's kids rarely evaluate their own growth, how simple rhythms like "highlights and lowlights" can transform your family conversations, and how remembering what God has done prepares your child for the hard moments ahead. If you've ever wondered how to help your kids grow deeper, not just faster, this episode will give you practical and meaningful ways to start.

When kids say school feels boring, parents can be tempted to panic, rescue, or simply push harder. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why relevance matters so much in learning, why boredom can become dangerous when kids disconnect, and how parents can coach children to stay engaged even when school feels hard or uninteresting.

In this episode, we explore the challenges of parenting preteens and teens, focusing on the shift in dynamics as children enter their teenage years. Many young people express feelings of being scrutinized by their parents, questioning why they suddenly feel like they are under an interrogation just because they've turned 13. We discuss the importance of support and understanding in the parent-child relationship, emphasizing the need for open communication. The episode also touches on how parents can effectively support their kids during this transformative phase, even when it feels like their efforts are not being recognized. Join us as we navigate these complex emotions and work towards fostering a nurturing environment for our growing teens.

Just because a child is older does not always mean they are more mature. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between chronological age and character age, why maturity should shape freedom more than birthdays, and how parents can wisely adjust their expectations as children grow.

Some of the loneliest kids do not look lonely at all. They have friends and plenty of social activity, yet still feel deeply unknown. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between being alone and being lonely, why emotional loneliness is often hidden, and how parents can help children feel truly known, not just constantly connected.

Writing does more than capture thoughts. It can calm the brain and organize emotions, which helps kids grow in resiliency. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why putting thoughts on paper matters, how journaling helps children process hard moments, and why handwritten words may still be one of the most powerful tools for clarity and growth.

Artificial intelligence can make life faster and easier, but what if it also makes our kids more fragile? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why failure and curious critical thinking still matter, and how parents can raise resilient kids in a world that keeps trying to remove struggle.

As our kids grow, something powerful replaces control. That something is influence. And influence is built on relationship. Influence grows where conversations feel safe. It deepens where respect is mutual. It strengthens when our kids know they are valued not just for what they do, but for who they are. This shift mirrors a beautiful picture from Scripture. In 1 Thessalonians, Paul describes his relationship with others not through authority, but through gentleness, encouragement, and shared life. He speaks as both a nurturing mother and an encouraging father, showing us that lasting impact comes through relational investment. When we move from controlling behavior to cultivating connection, we position ourselves to remain a meaningful voice in our children's lives. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack how parents can move from control to influence and respond when adult kids name old hurts in ways that build relationships that stay strong for the long haul. GET Dr. KATHY'S NEW BOOK>>

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the challenges and struggles that come with parenting, especially for those who are also caring for aging relatives. With an estimated 1.3 million "sandwich carers" in the UK, this segment addresses the pressures faced by individuals juggling multiple responsibilities. Dr. Kathy discusses the feelings of isolation and doubt that can arise during tough times, reminding listeners that it's essential to acknowledge the reality of life's struggles rather than promoting a false narrative of perfection in faith. Tune in for insightful advice on navigating these complexities while raising children and supporting loved ones.

In this episode, we delve into the insights shared by Dr. Kathy, focusing on the concerning trends highlighted by author Jonathan Haidt in his book, "Anxious Generation." Haidt discusses the alarming increase in high school seniors who feel their lives are useless, with the percentage doubling since 2010. We explore the impact of storytelling on youth, emphasizing the moral order present in narratives from previous generations and how this contrasts with the current environment. Additionally, we highlight the importance of nurturing creativity in children through resources like Creating a Masterpiece, which offers guided art projects that inspire and awaken their creative potential. Tune in to learn more about these critical issues facing today's youth and the tools available to support their emotional well being.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the ongoing discussions surrounding gender identity within the church, particularly in light of a leaked training video from North Point Community Church. The video showed a ministry director instructing leaders to use affirming language for transgender students aged 11 to 14. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of truth in guiding youth, expressing concern over the confusion that can arise from misleading ideas propagated by leaders. She offers insights on how to navigate these challenging conversations with children, highlighting the necessity of making sure that the church remains a place of truth while ensuring that all students feel safe and supported. Tune in as Dr. Kathy shares helpful strategies for parents and leaders facing this complex issue.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the importance of self-efficacy in children and how daily chores contribute to this vital character quality. Drawing on research conducted by pediatrician Rebecca Schraff at the University of Virginia Medical School, Dr. Kathy discusses the findings that children who regularly participate in household chores develop a stronger sense of capability compared to those who do not. This episode delves into the benefits of assigning age-appropriate responsibilities to kids, emphasizing how chores can foster independence, confidence, and a positive mindset about their abilities. Tune in for insightful tips on how to integrate chores into family life in a way that feels rewarding rather than burdensome.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Dr. Kathy discusses the importance of building resiliency in children amidst a societal focus on ensuring their happiness. She emphasizes the need for parents to model resilience by overcoming challenges rather than complaining about daily struggles. Dr. Kathy highlights the role of negative experiences in personal growth, drawing from her own journey of faith and resilience. She addresses the concerns surrounding children's mental health and the tendency to create overly protective environments, urging listeners to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. Tune in for insights on how to help kids develop the skills they need to face life's obstacles with confidence.

Online platforms like Roblox promise fun, creativity, and connection, but for millions of kids, those promises are breaking. In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack the rise of digital gaming and the dangers hidden behind "safe" online play. From lawsuits and predatory risks to the loss of imagination, they contrast artificial worlds with the kind of real play God designed to shape hearts, build courage, and foster identity. Drawing on the story of David's childhood play and its role in forming his bravery, Dr. Kathy reminds us that kids don't just need entertainment; they need formation. Discover why parents stepping in to set boundaries isn't control; it's love, and how playing together as families restores joy, resilience, and faith in a distracted age. Visit today's sponsor, Summit Ministries at: summit.org/celebratekids Use the code celebrate26 at checkout for some great discounts and gifts.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id="e2c409a2-2e3a-4d96-8323-ff6200a99fa8" data-testid="conversation-turn-58" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn="assistant"> When your son or daughter says, "I'm just not good at math," it's easy to focus on the subject, but the real issue often runs deeper. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack why math struggles are rarely just about numbers and more often about identity, mindset, and connection. They explore how culture, family language, and learning styles shape a child's confidence, and why interest, not pressure, is the key to growth. You'll discover practical ways to make math meaningful in everyday life, how to shift from performance to progress, and why learning to do hard things matters far beyond the classroom. Plus, they'll walk through how the 8 Great Smarts can unlock your child's ability to engage math in a way that actually makes sense to them. If you've ever wondered how to help your child move from frustration to confidence, this conversation will equip you with both perspective and practical next steps.    

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the complex impact of social media on children and the potential consequences of removing access to these platforms. She emphasizes that simply taking social media away from kids may not be enough to address the underlying issues they face. Instead, she advocates for a proactive approach where parents and educators step in to teach children about the challenges posed by social media. The discussion touches on the increasing number of lawsuits against major social media companies, highlighting concerns about their effects on youth and the strain they place on resources in schools. Dr. Kathy provides valuable insights to help parents better understand the topic and navigate the challenges of raising children in a digital age.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenge of entitlement in children and offers valuable strategies for parents. She begins by sharing her frustration with entitled behavior in her own kids and emphasizes the importance of helping children learn to tolerate frustration instead of removing it. Drawing from insights by Dr. Becky, she highlights the significance of acknowledging and validating children's feelings when they face challenges. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to resist the urge to immediately solve their kids' problems, allowing them the opportunity to wrestle with difficulties and develop resilience. Tune in for practical tips on fostering a healthier mindset in your children and guiding them toward a more appreciative attitude.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the prevalent issue of anxiety in children and explores innovative methods to support them. Traditional cognitive behavioral therapy has been the go-to approach, but Dr. Kathy considers a new technique known as Childhood Independence Therapy, developed by the nonprofit Let Grow. This therapy focuses on fostering independence in children by encouraging them to take on new challenges on their own, with parental permission but without direct involvement. The discussion highlights the benefits of this approach, including reduced anxiety, increased confidence, and enhanced independence, providing parents with practical strategies to help their children navigate anxiety both now and in the future. Tune in to learn how these methods can serve as a form of preventative medicine for your child's emotional well-being.

Culture tells kids to "find strength within," but what if that's not enough? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack inner strength, self efficacy, and why true confidence is built on Christ rather than self.

Test scores say kids are falling behind, but is that the full story? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack post-COVID learning gaps, the power of reading, and why curiosity, not scores, may be the real measure of success.

Are today's kids really falling behind, or are we measuring the wrong things? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack the debate around intelligence and what truly matters. Discover why "People Smarts" may be the most important skill your child can develop in today's world.

New research shows that when parents play with their kids, their brains actually sync. But this isn't just science, it's a powerful reminder of how God designed connection. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how play, shared rhythms, and presence build belonging and lifelong bonds.

Location tracking apps promise safety and peace of mind, but are they quietly undermining trust and confidence in our kids? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the tension between protection and control and how parents can use technology wisely without damaging relationships.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the significance of everyday moments spent with our children, particularly during car rides. Wayne reflects on a cherished experience with his family, emphasizing how these simple interactions can create lasting memories and foster connections. Dr. Kathy joins the discussion, highlighting the positive impact that mundane engagements have on children's identity and sense of purpose. Inspired by a Men's Health article by Ben Falcone, the episode delves into the joys and challenges of parenting, encouraging listeners to appreciate the little moments that shape family life. Tune in for insights on nurturing relationships and building connections through everyday activities.

In this episode, we explore the fascinating trend of "kidults," adults who are rediscovering their love for toys and play. Dr. Kathy discusses how companies like Hasbro are tapping into this nostalgia driven market, with adults investing in intricate Lego sets, trendy plush toys, and even matching outfits with their American Girl dolls. We delve into the implications of this phenomenon on adult culture and consumer behavior, highlighting how play is not just for kids anymore. Sponsored by Creating a Masterpiece, the episode also emphasizes the importance of encouraging creativity in children through art projects and trainings. Join us as we unpack the intersection of play, nostalgia, and creativity in today's society.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the important topic of building resiliency in children. As parents increasingly seek guidance on this subject, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of "panda parenting," a style that emerges from permissive parenting. This approach emphasizes a balance of warmth, support, and the encouragement of exploration and independence, allowing children to navigate challenges with minimal rules or boundaries. While some experts argue that this method can be detrimental, others believe it fosters self-confidence and resilience. Dr. Kathy provides valuable insights on how to effectively guide children in developing these essential life skills, enhancing their ability to face adversity. Tune in for practical advice on nurturing resilience in the next generation.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Dr. Kathy addresses the challenges parents face when their children struggle with friendships or are influenced by negative peers. Drawing on the importance of self-awareness and shared experiences, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the need for parents to communicate their hopes and strengths for their children while teaching them discernment in choosing friends. The segment, titled "Facing the Dark," provides valuable insights to help guide kids toward positive friendships and community involvement. Additionally, Dr. Kathy touches on a recent event where Melania Trump advocated for a bill aimed at protecting individuals from the non-consensual posting of intimate imagery online, highlighting the relevance of consent in the digital age.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the nuances between normal anxiety and chronic anxiety in young people. She highlights the alarming statistics surrounding depression among teens, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe environment for open conversations about mental health. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to foster courage in discussing these sensitive topics, reassuring them that while it may lead to uncovering troubling issues, engaging in these conversations is crucial for supporting their children's well-being. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating mental health discussions with your kids.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of parenting beyond merely raising well-behaved children. She challenges the notion that the primary goal of parenting should be to produce obedient kids who do the right things at the right times. Instead, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to be comfortable in their own skin and to embrace their true selves. Drawing on insights from Elizabeth Tenty's article in Motherly, the discussion highlights four key practices of parents with well-behaved kids: listening to their children, validating emotions, explaining decisions, and maintaining consistent boundaries. Join us as we explore a more holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing individuality and self-acceptance in children.

Gentle parenting has become one of the most popular parenting trends among millennials. But when warmth replaces structure, experts warn it can backfire. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between permissive and authoritative parenting and why boundaries are one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.

Remember when teens spent weekends wandering the neighborhood and doing things just for fun, without documenting it online? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy reflect on what young people have lost in the age of constant connectivity and why kids still need unstructured time, real relationships, and room to grow in independence.

Artificial intelligence is quietly entering children's toy boxes. New reports show dozens of toys marketed to kids using AI systems, despite restrictions meant to keep children away from these technologies. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss how AI toys shape identity and relationships, and why parents must pay attention.

Nearly 80% of high school students report getting less than the recommended amount of sleep. Is it puberty, caffeine, busy schedules, or digital distraction? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the causes and dangers of teen sleep deprivation and how Psalm 127 reframes sleep as a gift from God.

Broadband internet expanded rapidly in the early 2010s, and teen mental health concerns rose alongside it. Is the internet the problem? Or is loneliness the deeper issue? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack research, rural broadband history, teen identity formation, and what Psalm 42 teaches us about longing and connection.

More parents are pushing back against school issued devices, citing distraction, inappropriate access, and concerns about learning loss. Should schools count classroom screen time differently from recreational use? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the formation question behind technology and what the Tower of Babel teaches us about tools and pride.

Why are so many kids picky eaters today? Is it selfishness, fear, lack of exposure, or something deeper? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack cultural food trends, parenting pressure, restaurant frustration, and what the Israelites' craving for Egypt teaches us about control and growth.

In this special Saturday Q&A episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy answer real parent questions from a Be Bold for Jesus event in Spokane. Topics include teenage hormonal rages, foster child grief, loud and goofy personalities, advanced toddlers, adult word-smart debates, and how the 8 Great Smarts apply for a lifetime.

Americans are marrying later than ever. But is delaying marriage actually costing young adults something deeper? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack Brad Wilcox's warning about the "Midas mindset," the difference between marriage and idolatry, and how to talk to kids about family without making it an idol.

A new Institute for Family Studies report (surveying nearly 24,000 parents and more than 40,000 children, including 2,600 teens) argues that modern culture quietly rewards one kind of parenting: keeping kids quiet, often by putting them in front of a screen. In this conversation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk honestly about the moment we all recognize, when a baby cries in a restaurant, or a kid is "being a kid" in public, and why our irritation may reveal a deeper cultural drift toward convenience over community. Then they pivot to hope: why real world practice (restaurants, church, airports, sidewalks, teams, trees, and yes, even scraped knees) is one of God's most practical tools for building resilient kids.

February can bring a slump, low motivation, heavier workloads, gray skies, and frayed tempers. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how parents can respond wisely to midwinter mood dips and meet core needs before pushing harder conversations.

Many parents want to give their children the childhood they never had. But can parenting from past pain unintentionally create new problems? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how trauma, overcorrection, discernment, and security in God shape healthy parenting, and how to break cycles without parenting from fear.

At the time of recording, Norway was leading the Olympic medal count, and one Norwegian leader said it was because of how their society's structures of work and leisure operate. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore what happens when families plan both discipline and delight, how structure builds security, and why "organized joy" might be one of the most overlooked parenting tools today.

Books are disappearing from kids' lives, and so is something sacred. In this episode of Celebrate Kids: Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore startling new data showing that only 30% of eighth-graders read at or above proficiency, and that over 30% of teens hardly ever read for fun. Together, they unpack why reading has declined over the last 40 years and how technology has quietly taken its place. Dr. Kathy, whose Ph.D. is in reading and educational psychology, explains that kids don't just learn from books, they learn through them. Reading shapes imagination, memory, empathy, and even spiritual understanding. From a dad's nightly reading routine full of laughter and silly voices to the ancient call in Deuteronomy for God's Word to be read aloud to every generation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy remind parents that reading isn't just an academic exercise; it's identity formation. Discover how reading together restores belonging, deepens faith, and invites our kids to see the world through God's story, not just a glowing screen.  

Every parent knows the morning rush can swing from peaceful to chaotic in seconds. But new research suggests that what we do in those early minutes may shape much more than how fast we get out the door, it may shape our children's resilience, emotional stability, and sense of belonging. In today's Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a study highlighting nine morning habits practiced by parents who raise happy, resilient kids. They unpack why connection matters more than control, how mornings imprint identity, and why some "chaotic kids" just think differently, not worse. With humor, real family stories, practical tools, and Scripture, this episode reimagines mornings not as a battleground, but as one of parenting's most powerful windows of influence.

In this sobering episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy address recent violent tragedies involving individuals struggling with gender identity and mental health. With compassion and clarity, they explore the link between identity confusion and misplaced hope, and how parents can respond with prayer and character formation in a confusing cultural moment.

More teens are turning to AI chatbots for friendship and emotional support, but can artificial companionship replace real relationships? In this episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why self-reflective kids are especially drawn to AI, what we lose when we prioritize efficiency over embodied friendship, and how parents can guide children toward real, life-giving connection. Before diving in, Wayne shares about our partnership with Summit Ministries. Dr. Kathy will be speaking at Summit's summer sessions, powerful two-week worldview intensives for students ages 16 through college. If you want your teen grounded in biblical truth before stepping into adulthood, visit: summit.org/celebratekids Use code celebrate26 for a discount.

Grief is heavier for kids today. Divorce. Death. Global crises. Friendship fractures. Family instability. Even exposure to constant news cycles. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk honestly about what it looks like to help children process grief, without rushing them, fixing them, or forcing conversations they're not ready to have.

In this special Q&A episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, Wayne and Dr. Kathy answer real questions from Christian school leaders and teachers at Linville Hill Christian School in Paradise, Pennsylvania and Hillcrest Academy in Minnesota. These questions aren't theoretical. They come from classrooms, dorm rooms, and dinner tables. Here's what they tackle: How do we teach empathy, especially toward students who are hard to love? Dr. Kathy explains that empathy begins with self-awareness. If children can't identify and manage their own feelings, they will struggle to recognize others' emotions. Discernment matters. Service matters. Prayer matters. And sometimes empathy grows not by fixing someone's pain, but by simply acknowledging it. Are we fooling ourselves about technology addiction? Screens are addictive. The dopamine cycle is real. But the deeper issue isn't just devices, it's the lies we attach to them: "I deserve to be happy all the time." "I need constant choice." "I'm the center." Technology amplifies those lies. The solution is formation. Sabbaths. Boundaries. Stewardship. Teaching children that they are created on purpose and cannot afford to waste their time. What about kids using AI to write their papers? This isn't just about cheating. It continues our conversation about formation. Writing is not simply information transfer; it is character development. Wrestling with ideas, revising drafts, struggling through clarity, that's where growth happens. AI might save time. But what if the point wasn't speed? The question becomes: What kind of human are we forming in our writing? How do we help perfectionist students who freeze under pressure? Perfectionism often grows from home culture. It can reflect unrealistic expectations, fear of mistakes, or conditional approval. Dr. Kathy reminds us: Perfect has already been done. His name is Jesus. Progress matters more than flawlessness. Struggle builds endurance, character, and hope. Perfectionism paralyzes. Grace frees. Why should we let kids struggle? Because resilience only grows through recovery. James 1 and Romans 5 remind us that perseverance produces character. If we rescue children too quickly, we risk raising fragile adults. Victory after struggle builds deep confidence. Struggle isn't failure. It's formation. So, this episode is packed with practical wisdom to guide kids and parents to deeper faith and stronger conviction. If you'd like to bring Dr. Kathy to your school, church, or community, visit CelebrateKids.com and click "Book Dr. Kathy." Have a question you'd like answered in a future Q&A episode? Email Wayne at [email protected]. We're grateful you're here. And we're honored to help you celebrate kids well.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a fascinating report published in Science examining nearly 35,000 elite performers. The surprising conclusion? Many of the world's most accomplished musicians, scientists, athletes, and chess masters were not early prodigies. In fact, early specialization often predicts burnout rather than lifelong excellence. That challenges modern parenting. In a culture that pushes optimization, early reading programs, elite travel teams, and accelerated academics, many parents feel pressure to help their children get ahead and stay ahead. But what if early polish is not the same as deep potential? What if rushing specialization actually limits exploration? Dr. Kathy unpacks the deeper motivations behind our desire for prodigious children. Sometimes it's fear. Sometimes it's pride. Sometimes it's a longing for ease. And sometimes it's the subtle temptation to tie our identity to our children's performance. The conversation moves beyond academics into identity formation. When competence becomes the foundation of a child's worth, the pyramid flips upside down. Security, not performance, must come first. Children thrive when they know they are loved unconditionally, when their identity is anchored in Christ, and when their gifts are discerned rather than demanded.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a growing trend among so called "TV Moms," parents who allow television freely but restrict personal devices like iPads and phones. Is there really a difference? Or is all screen time the same? Drawing on current research and practical parenting experience, Dr. Kathy explains why screens are not created equal. Television can become communal and conversational when used intentionally. Personal devices, however, are engineered for individual consumption and often create emotional ownership that's harder for kids to relinquish. But even TV loses its value when it becomes constant background noise. The deeper concern isn't just screen exposure, it's what screens are replacing. Quiet. Conversation. Boredom. Creative play. Relational engagement. In a culture where something is always on, children are losing the natural rhythms that form identity: sitting, walking, listening, asking, and wondering. When noise fills every space, wisdom has no room to rise. Dr. Kathy reminds parents that quiet is not empty. Quiet is formative. It's where discernment grows, where creativity sparks, where the Holy Spirit speaks. Identity is shaped not by constant input but by repeated relational moments in which children feel known and guided. This episode challenges parents to reconsider not just how much media their kids consume, but whether screens are crowding out the spaces where character, connection, and confidence are built. Check out Dr. Kathy's book on this topic, Screens and Teens, here>>