Celebrate Kids Podcast with Dr. Kathy

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy respond to recent reports of teen violence in public spaces and ask what may be happening beneath the behavior. They discuss anger, emotional regulation, isolation, authority, and why parents must move toward kids with truth, courage, accountability, and compassion before culture pulls away from them.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the pressures teenagers face to be exceptional, referencing a 2024 study from the University of Indiana. The study reveals that over half of surveyed teens feel pressured by expectations surrounding their achievements, future plans, and even their appearance. As graduation approaches, the conversation often shifts to what comes next for students, amplifying this pressure. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the dangers of these expectations and encourages a shift in perspective, highlighting the benefits of being average and the importance of allowing kids to explore their paths without the burden of needing to be extraordinary. Tune in for insights on how to support kids during this pivotal time in their lives.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of "dry texting," which refers to minimal responses in text conversations that lack depth and engagement. She discusses how this trend may lead to conflict-averse behavior and poor communication skills in children. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to elaborate on their thoughts and feelings rather than settling for one-word answers. She suggests using more engaging questions, such as "What intrigued you today?" to foster richer conversations and help children practice effective communication. Tune in to learn how to cultivate better dialogue with your kids and support their emotional development.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses how to determine when children are ready for more responsibilities and how to adjust our conversations and interactions with them as they mature. She addresses the various societal benchmarks like getting a driver's license, voting, and registering for the military, and offers guidance on approaching these discussions. The episode also features a sponsorship message from Summit Ministries, a ministry focused on shaping the hearts and minds of young people with a biblical worldview. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating the journey of raising children and helping them mature in their understanding of themselves and their faith.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of launching children into adulthood and the importance of broadening their definition of success. Drawing from a recent article by Jamie Richardson in Business Insider, she discusses the benefits of having adult children live at home, particularly in helping them navigate unfulfilling careers and relationships. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the value of redefining success beyond traditional metrics, focusing instead on health, wisdom, and happiness. This broader perspective encourages young adults to connect with their true selves and articulate their own definitions of success as they prepare to launch into the world. Tune in for insights on parenting and guiding kids toward meaningful adulthood.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the concerning statistics surrounding children affected by parental substance abuse. With nearly 19 million children in the United States having at least one parent with a substance use disorder, the episode emphasizes the emotional and psychological impacts on these kids, who may feel undervalued and unimportant. The discussion highlights the need for pediatricians to screen for mental health issues such as depression, anxiety, and ADHD in these children, as they are more prevalent in this demographic. Dr. Kathy also notes the various forms of addiction parents may struggle with, including alcoholism and marijuana use, underscoring the urgency to address these issues and support affected families.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Wayne Stender delves into the evolving landscape of education, emphasizing the importance of fostering a love for learning over traditional metrics like grades and GPAs. Drawing from Proverbs 4:13, Dr. Kathy stresses that instruction and a desire for knowledge should be the focus, rather than the pressure of achieving honor roll status. The discussion touches on the historical shift towards standardized education and critiques the current free market approach, highlighting a recent interview with Arne Duncan, former Secretary of Education, who pointed out the lack of coherent educational goals and strategies at the national level. Dr. Kathy encourages parents and educators to prioritize meaningful learning experiences for children amidst the complexities of modern education.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the importance of getting children outside to play and engage with their environment. She highlights a long-term study linking physical activity in teenagers to lower symptoms of depression, emphasizing that those who maintain or increase their activity levels are less likely to experience mental health issues. Dr. Kathy explores the challenges some kids face in enjoying outdoor play due to sensory sensitivities and other barriers, offering insights into how parents can encourage outdoor activities in a positive way. Tune in for practical tips and a deeper understanding of the connection between physical activity and mental well-being in children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the critical issue of student engagement in education. She highlights the findings from a recent Brookings Institution survey revealing that only one-third of children are enthusiastic about school by age 13, contrasting sharply with parents' perceptions. Dr. Kathy addresses the reasons behind children's boredom and disinterest in learning, emphasizing the importance of making education relevant and beneficial. She also explores how parents can respond to their children's frustrations with school, acknowledging that while some level of boredom can build resilience, it can also lead to a diminished love for learning. Tune in for valuable insights on fostering enthusiasm in education and maintaining a positive learning environment for children.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about how teens are forming opinions through social media and AI, even while doubting the credibility of what they find. They unpack why uncertainty affects security, identity, and confidence, and how parents can teach kids to evaluate truth with wisdom.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about teens who say "not every home is safe" and why some kids seek belonging in risky places. They unpack how parents can build homes marked by safety, attention, correction without criticism, and meaningful connection.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss the common habit of using screens to calm kids in cars, restaurants, airports, and other stressful moments. They explore why screens can weaken emotional regulation over time and how parents can gradually help children build patience and self control.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about Pizza Hut's returning Book It program and whether rewards help or hurt a child's love of reading. They explore how parents can motivate reluctant readers, make reading relational, and build habits that last longer than the reward.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss rising reports of sadness and hopelessness among teens and what those struggles can look like in everyday family life. They explore how parents can notice changes without panic and guide children toward the steady truth of who they are in Christ.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the significant benefits of outdoor play for children. Dr. Kathy discusses how spending time outside can alleviate anxiety and feelings of loneliness in kids, while also providing them with a broader perspective on life by encouraging them to look towards the horizon. She joins the conversation to offer insights and encouragement for parents struggling to get their kids off devices and engaged with nature. The episode emphasizes the importance of outdoor activity, highlighting a recent NPR report that suggests spending at least two hours outside each day can greatly protect children's eyesight. The episode also features a brief mention of Summit Ministries, a two-week camp designed to deepen teens' understanding of a Christian worldview. Tune in for valuable tips on fostering a love for the outdoors in your children!

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we delve into the significant benefits of outdoor play for children. Dr. Kathy discusses how spending time outside can alleviate anxiety and feelings of loneliness in kids, while also providing them with a broader perspective on life by encouraging them to look towards the horizon. She joins the conversation to offer insights and encouragement for parents struggling to get their kids off devices and engaged with nature. The episode emphasizes the importance of outdoor activity, highlighting a recent NPR report that suggests spending at least two hours outside each day can greatly protect children's eyesight. The episode also features a brief mention of Summit Ministries, a two-week camp designed to deepen teens' understanding of a Christian worldview. Tune in for valuable tips on fostering a love for the outdoors in your children!

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy discusses the vital role of reading aloud to children and its profound benefits on their development. Citing research from the Early Childhood Longitudinal Study, she highlights that a significant percentage of four-year-olds are not read to regularly, which can impact their vocabulary, reading comprehension, and motivation. Dr. Kathy shares insights on the positive outcomes linked to parents reading to their kids as young as one to two and a half years old, emphasizing that reading at least five books daily can expose children to an impressive 1.4 million words by the time they enter kindergarten. Tune in for practical tips on how parents can easily incorporate reading into their daily routines, fostering a love for reading and enhancing their children's literacy skills.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the idea of preparing children for the challenges of the world by intentionally placing them in difficult situations. Host discusses the overwhelming amount of social science research available to help parents and adult leaders navigate the mental health crises and emotional challenges faced by kids today. The conversation highlights the importance of fostering mental toughness and resilience in children, encouraging them to embrace struggles as opportunities for growth. Featuring insights from Dr. Kathy Cooke, the episode offers practical advice for Christian parents on equipping their kids to face inevitable challenges with confidence and strength. Tune in to discover how to transform fear into readiness for life's obstacles.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the importance of remembrance in education. Wayne discusses the overwhelming pressure students face today, with numerous graduation requirements and expectations. Drawing on research and biblical concepts, the segment emphasizes the need for students to take time to reflect on their learning and the positive experiences they've had. Dr. Kathy highlights Connecticut's graduation requirement, which asks students to assess their own learning growth over four years. This episode encourages parents and educators to facilitate moments of remembrance, shedding light on the significance of acknowledging past achievements and God's influence in students' lives.

What happens when a parent's identity becomes built around being needed? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk about the quiet crisis many parents face as children grow older and need them differently. They explore the difference between identity, purpose, and competence, why parenting must be rooted in Christ rather than control, and how parents can model a whole, healthy life for their children.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenges faced by today's children and the pressures they encounter in various environments, including school, church, and family life. She reflects on the shifts in children's behavior and performance over the years, sparked by a Reddit discussion among teachers about the noticeable changes they have observed since they began teaching. With insights on how to communicate positively and supportively with our kids, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of understanding and guiding them through these complex cultural moments. Join us as we explore ways to encourage our children and cultivate resilience in the face of modern life's pressures.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy and Wayne Stender discuss the challenges parents face when trying to nurture their children's faith, especially when it seems like their efforts aren't yielding the desired results. They emphasize the importance of having meaningful conversations that go beyond faith discussions, engaging with kids on various topics that interest them. The episode features insights from Dr. Kathy, who highlights findings from George Barna's American Worldview Inventory Report. This report reveals that many adults are open to the idea of God under certain conditions, presenting both a troubling reality and a powerful opportunity for fostering faith in children. The conversation aims to equip parents with the understanding that having a trusted person in a child's life is crucial for building their faith. Tune in to explore how to guide children in their spiritual journey without overwhelming them. The insights from this podcast reference Dr. Kathy's work Start with the Heart>>

As debates over gender identity and medical care for minors grow louder across the country, parents are left asking a deeper question than politics alone can't answer: how do we help our children know who they are? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss identity formation and why parents must be the clearest, most trusted voices in their children's lives. This is a conversation about speaking truth with love and helping kids find their identity in Christ rather than confusion.

Some children seem easy to raise. They do not ask for much, and they rarely create conflict. But what if that "easy" child is not thriving at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why quiet, low maintenance children are often overlooked, how unmet needs can hide behind calm behavior and what parents can do to make sure every child feels seen and deeply loved.

In a world that constantly pushes kids toward the next thing—next assignment, next achievement, next version of themselves—what if the most important habit we could teach them is to pause and look back? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the power of remembrance. Drawing from research, real-life parenting moments, and biblical truth, they unpack why reflection is one of the most overlooked tools for building identity, resilience, and faith in kids today. You'll discover why today's kids rarely evaluate their own growth, how simple rhythms like "highlights and lowlights" can transform your family conversations, and how remembering what God has done prepares your child for the hard moments ahead. If you've ever wondered how to help your kids grow deeper, not just faster, this episode will give you practical and meaningful ways to start.

When kids say school feels boring, parents can be tempted to panic, rescue, or simply push harder. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why relevance matters so much in learning, why boredom can become dangerous when kids disconnect, and how parents can coach children to stay engaged even when school feels hard or uninteresting.

In this episode, we explore the challenges of parenting preteens and teens, focusing on the shift in dynamics as children enter their teenage years. Many young people express feelings of being scrutinized by their parents, questioning why they suddenly feel like they are under an interrogation just because they've turned 13. We discuss the importance of support and understanding in the parent-child relationship, emphasizing the need for open communication. The episode also touches on how parents can effectively support their kids during this transformative phase, even when it feels like their efforts are not being recognized. Join us as we navigate these complex emotions and work towards fostering a nurturing environment for our growing teens.

Just because a child is older does not always mean they are more mature. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between chronological age and character age, why maturity should shape freedom more than birthdays, and how parents can wisely adjust their expectations as children grow.

Some of the loneliest kids do not look lonely at all. They have friends and plenty of social activity, yet still feel deeply unknown. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between being alone and being lonely, why emotional loneliness is often hidden, and how parents can help children feel truly known, not just constantly connected.

Writing does more than capture thoughts. It can calm the brain and organize emotions, which helps kids grow in resiliency. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why putting thoughts on paper matters, how journaling helps children process hard moments, and why handwritten words may still be one of the most powerful tools for clarity and growth.

Artificial intelligence can make life faster and easier, but what if it also makes our kids more fragile? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why failure and curious critical thinking still matter, and how parents can raise resilient kids in a world that keeps trying to remove struggle.

As our kids grow, something powerful replaces control. That something is influence. And influence is built on relationship. Influence grows where conversations feel safe. It deepens where respect is mutual. It strengthens when our kids know they are valued not just for what they do, but for who they are. This shift mirrors a beautiful picture from Scripture. In 1 Thessalonians, Paul describes his relationship with others not through authority, but through gentleness, encouragement, and shared life. He speaks as both a nurturing mother and an encouraging father, showing us that lasting impact comes through relational investment. When we move from controlling behavior to cultivating connection, we position ourselves to remain a meaningful voice in our children's lives. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack how parents can move from control to influence and respond when adult kids name old hurts in ways that build relationships that stay strong for the long haul. GET Dr. KATHY'S NEW BOOK>>

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the challenges and struggles that come with parenting, especially for those who are also caring for aging relatives. With an estimated 1.3 million "sandwich carers" in the UK, this segment addresses the pressures faced by individuals juggling multiple responsibilities. Dr. Kathy discusses the feelings of isolation and doubt that can arise during tough times, reminding listeners that it's essential to acknowledge the reality of life's struggles rather than promoting a false narrative of perfection in faith. Tune in for insightful advice on navigating these complexities while raising children and supporting loved ones.

In this episode, we delve into the insights shared by Dr. Kathy, focusing on the concerning trends highlighted by author Jonathan Haidt in his book, "Anxious Generation." Haidt discusses the alarming increase in high school seniors who feel their lives are useless, with the percentage doubling since 2010. We explore the impact of storytelling on youth, emphasizing the moral order present in narratives from previous generations and how this contrasts with the current environment. Additionally, we highlight the importance of nurturing creativity in children through resources like Creating a Masterpiece, which offers guided art projects that inspire and awaken their creative potential. Tune in to learn more about these critical issues facing today's youth and the tools available to support their emotional well being.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the ongoing discussions surrounding gender identity within the church, particularly in light of a leaked training video from North Point Community Church. The video showed a ministry director instructing leaders to use affirming language for transgender students aged 11 to 14. Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of truth in guiding youth, expressing concern over the confusion that can arise from misleading ideas propagated by leaders. She offers insights on how to navigate these challenging conversations with children, highlighting the necessity of making sure that the church remains a place of truth while ensuring that all students feel safe and supported. Tune in as Dr. Kathy shares helpful strategies for parents and leaders facing this complex issue.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy explores the importance of self-efficacy in children and how daily chores contribute to this vital character quality. Drawing on research conducted by pediatrician Rebecca Schraff at the University of Virginia Medical School, Dr. Kathy discusses the findings that children who regularly participate in household chores develop a stronger sense of capability compared to those who do not. This episode delves into the benefits of assigning age-appropriate responsibilities to kids, emphasizing how chores can foster independence, confidence, and a positive mindset about their abilities. Tune in for insightful tips on how to integrate chores into family life in a way that feels rewarding rather than burdensome.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Dr. Kathy discusses the importance of building resiliency in children amidst a societal focus on ensuring their happiness. She emphasizes the need for parents to model resilience by overcoming challenges rather than complaining about daily struggles. Dr. Kathy highlights the role of negative experiences in personal growth, drawing from her own journey of faith and resilience. She addresses the concerns surrounding children's mental health and the tendency to create overly protective environments, urging listeners to embrace challenges as opportunities for growth. Tune in for insights on how to help kids develop the skills they need to face life's obstacles with confidence.

Online platforms like Roblox promise fun, creativity, and connection, but for millions of kids, those promises are breaking. In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack the rise of digital gaming and the dangers hidden behind "safe" online play. From lawsuits and predatory risks to the loss of imagination, they contrast artificial worlds with the kind of real play God designed to shape hearts, build courage, and foster identity. Drawing on the story of David's childhood play and its role in forming his bravery, Dr. Kathy reminds us that kids don't just need entertainment; they need formation. Discover why parents stepping in to set boundaries isn't control; it's love, and how playing together as families restores joy, resilience, and faith in a distracted age. Visit today's sponsor, Summit Ministries at: summit.org/celebratekids Use the code celebrate26 at checkout for some great discounts and gifts.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" data-turn-id="e2c409a2-2e3a-4d96-8323-ff6200a99fa8" data-testid="conversation-turn-58" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn="assistant"> When your son or daughter says, "I'm just not good at math," it's easy to focus on the subject, but the real issue often runs deeper. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack why math struggles are rarely just about numbers and more often about identity, mindset, and connection. They explore how culture, family language, and learning styles shape a child's confidence, and why interest, not pressure, is the key to growth. You'll discover practical ways to make math meaningful in everyday life, how to shift from performance to progress, and why learning to do hard things matters far beyond the classroom. Plus, they'll walk through how the 8 Great Smarts can unlock your child's ability to engage math in a way that actually makes sense to them. If you've ever wondered how to help your child move from frustration to confidence, this conversation will equip you with both perspective and practical next steps.    

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the complex impact of social media on children and the potential consequences of removing access to these platforms. She emphasizes that simply taking social media away from kids may not be enough to address the underlying issues they face. Instead, she advocates for a proactive approach where parents and educators step in to teach children about the challenges posed by social media. The discussion touches on the increasing number of lawsuits against major social media companies, highlighting concerns about their effects on youth and the strain they place on resources in schools. Dr. Kathy provides valuable insights to help parents better understand the topic and navigate the challenges of raising children in a digital age.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the challenge of entitlement in children and offers valuable strategies for parents. She begins by sharing her frustration with entitled behavior in her own kids and emphasizes the importance of helping children learn to tolerate frustration instead of removing it. Drawing from insights by Dr. Becky, she highlights the significance of acknowledging and validating children's feelings when they face challenges. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to resist the urge to immediately solve their kids' problems, allowing them the opportunity to wrestle with difficulties and develop resilience. Tune in for practical tips on fostering a healthier mindset in your children and guiding them toward a more appreciative attitude.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the prevalent issue of anxiety in children and explores innovative methods to support them. Traditional cognitive behavioral therapy has been the go-to approach, but Dr. Kathy considers a new technique known as Childhood Independence Therapy, developed by the nonprofit Let Grow. This therapy focuses on fostering independence in children by encouraging them to take on new challenges on their own, with parental permission but without direct involvement. The discussion highlights the benefits of this approach, including reduced anxiety, increased confidence, and enhanced independence, providing parents with practical strategies to help their children navigate anxiety both now and in the future. Tune in to learn how these methods can serve as a form of preventative medicine for your child's emotional well-being.

Culture tells kids to "find strength within," but what if that's not enough? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack inner strength, self efficacy, and why true confidence is built on Christ rather than self.

Test scores say kids are falling behind, but is that the full story? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack post-COVID learning gaps, the power of reading, and why curiosity, not scores, may be the real measure of success.

Are today's kids really falling behind, or are we measuring the wrong things? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack the debate around intelligence and what truly matters. Discover why "People Smarts" may be the most important skill your child can develop in today's world.

New research shows that when parents play with their kids, their brains actually sync. But this isn't just science, it's a powerful reminder of how God designed connection. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how play, shared rhythms, and presence build belonging and lifelong bonds.

Location tracking apps promise safety and peace of mind, but are they quietly undermining trust and confidence in our kids? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the tension between protection and control and how parents can use technology wisely without damaging relationships.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, we explore the significance of everyday moments spent with our children, particularly during car rides. Wayne reflects on a cherished experience with his family, emphasizing how these simple interactions can create lasting memories and foster connections. Dr. Kathy joins the discussion, highlighting the positive impact that mundane engagements have on children's identity and sense of purpose. Inspired by a Men's Health article by Ben Falcone, the episode delves into the joys and challenges of parenting, encouraging listeners to appreciate the little moments that shape family life. Tune in for insights on nurturing relationships and building connections through everyday activities.

In this episode, we explore the fascinating trend of "kidults," adults who are rediscovering their love for toys and play. Dr. Kathy discusses how companies like Hasbro are tapping into this nostalgia driven market, with adults investing in intricate Lego sets, trendy plush toys, and even matching outfits with their American Girl dolls. We delve into the implications of this phenomenon on adult culture and consumer behavior, highlighting how play is not just for kids anymore. Sponsored by Creating a Masterpiece, the episode also emphasizes the importance of encouraging creativity in children through art projects and trainings. Join us as we unpack the intersection of play, nostalgia, and creativity in today's society.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the important topic of building resiliency in children. As parents increasingly seek guidance on this subject, Dr. Kathy explores the concept of "panda parenting," a style that emerges from permissive parenting. This approach emphasizes a balance of warmth, support, and the encouragement of exploration and independence, allowing children to navigate challenges with minimal rules or boundaries. While some experts argue that this method can be detrimental, others believe it fosters self-confidence and resilience. Dr. Kathy provides valuable insights on how to effectively guide children in developing these essential life skills, enhancing their ability to face adversity. Tune in for practical advice on nurturing resilience in the next generation.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, host Dr. Kathy addresses the challenges parents face when their children struggle with friendships or are influenced by negative peers. Drawing on the importance of self-awareness and shared experiences, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the need for parents to communicate their hopes and strengths for their children while teaching them discernment in choosing friends. The segment, titled "Facing the Dark," provides valuable insights to help guide kids toward positive friendships and community involvement. Additionally, Dr. Kathy touches on a recent event where Melania Trump advocated for a bill aimed at protecting individuals from the non-consensual posting of intimate imagery online, highlighting the relevance of consent in the digital age.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy addresses the nuances between normal anxiety and chronic anxiety in young people. She highlights the alarming statistics surrounding depression among teens, emphasizing the importance of creating a safe environment for open conversations about mental health. Dr. Kathy encourages parents to foster courage in discussing these sensitive topics, reassuring them that while it may lead to uncovering troubling issues, engaging in these conversations is crucial for supporting their children's well-being. Tune in for valuable insights on navigating mental health discussions with your kids.

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, Dr. Kathy delves into the concept of parenting beyond merely raising well-behaved children. She challenges the notion that the primary goal of parenting should be to produce obedient kids who do the right things at the right times. Instead, Dr. Kathy emphasizes the importance of encouraging children to be comfortable in their own skin and to embrace their true selves. Drawing on insights from Elizabeth Tenty's article in Motherly, the discussion highlights four key practices of parents with well-behaved kids: listening to their children, validating emotions, explaining decisions, and maintaining consistent boundaries. Join us as we explore a more holistic approach to parenting that focuses on nurturing individuality and self-acceptance in children.

Gentle parenting has become one of the most popular parenting trends among millennials. But when warmth replaces structure, experts warn it can backfire. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the difference between permissive and authoritative parenting and why boundaries are one of the greatest gifts parents can give their children.

Remember when teens spent weekends wandering the neighborhood and doing things just for fun, without documenting it online? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy reflect on what young people have lost in the age of constant connectivity and why kids still need unstructured time, real relationships, and room to grow in independence.

Artificial intelligence is quietly entering children's toy boxes. New reports show dozens of toys marketed to kids using AI systems, despite restrictions meant to keep children away from these technologies. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy discuss how AI toys shape identity and relationships, and why parents must pay attention.

Nearly 80% of high school students report getting less than the recommended amount of sleep. Is it puberty, caffeine, busy schedules, or digital distraction? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the causes and dangers of teen sleep deprivation and how Psalm 127 reframes sleep as a gift from God.

Broadband internet expanded rapidly in the early 2010s, and teen mental health concerns rose alongside it. Is the internet the problem? Or is loneliness the deeper issue? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack research, rural broadband history, teen identity formation, and what Psalm 42 teaches us about longing and connection.

More parents are pushing back against school issued devices, citing distraction, inappropriate access, and concerns about learning loss. Should schools count classroom screen time differently from recreational use? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore the formation question behind technology and what the Tower of Babel teaches us about tools and pride.

Why are so many kids picky eaters today? Is it selfishness, fear, lack of exposure, or something deeper? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack cultural food trends, parenting pressure, restaurant frustration, and what the Israelites' craving for Egypt teaches us about control and growth.

In this special Saturday Q&A episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy answer real parent questions from a Be Bold for Jesus event in Spokane. Topics include teenage hormonal rages, foster child grief, loud and goofy personalities, advanced toddlers, adult word-smart debates, and how the 8 Great Smarts apply for a lifetime.

Americans are marrying later than ever. But is delaying marriage actually costing young adults something deeper? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack Brad Wilcox's warning about the "Midas mindset," the difference between marriage and idolatry, and how to talk to kids about family without making it an idol.

A new Institute for Family Studies report (surveying nearly 24,000 parents and more than 40,000 children, including 2,600 teens) argues that modern culture quietly rewards one kind of parenting: keeping kids quiet, often by putting them in front of a screen. In this conversation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk honestly about the moment we all recognize, when a baby cries in a restaurant, or a kid is "being a kid" in public, and why our irritation may reveal a deeper cultural drift toward convenience over community. Then they pivot to hope: why real world practice (restaurants, church, airports, sidewalks, teams, trees, and yes, even scraped knees) is one of God's most practical tools for building resilient kids.

February can bring a slump, low motivation, heavier workloads, gray skies, and frayed tempers. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how parents can respond wisely to midwinter mood dips and meet core needs before pushing harder conversations.

Many parents want to give their children the childhood they never had. But can parenting from past pain unintentionally create new problems? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore how trauma, overcorrection, discernment, and security in God shape healthy parenting, and how to break cycles without parenting from fear.

At the time of recording, Norway was leading the Olympic medal count, and one Norwegian leader said it was because of how their society's structures of work and leisure operate. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore what happens when families plan both discipline and delight, how structure builds security, and why "organized joy" might be one of the most overlooked parenting tools today.

Books are disappearing from kids' lives, and so is something sacred. In this episode of Celebrate Kids: Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore startling new data showing that only 30% of eighth-graders read at or above proficiency, and that over 30% of teens hardly ever read for fun. Together, they unpack why reading has declined over the last 40 years and how technology has quietly taken its place. Dr. Kathy, whose Ph.D. is in reading and educational psychology, explains that kids don't just learn from books, they learn through them. Reading shapes imagination, memory, empathy, and even spiritual understanding. From a dad's nightly reading routine full of laughter and silly voices to the ancient call in Deuteronomy for God's Word to be read aloud to every generation, Wayne and Dr. Kathy remind parents that reading isn't just an academic exercise; it's identity formation. Discover how reading together restores belonging, deepens faith, and invites our kids to see the world through God's story, not just a glowing screen.  

Every parent knows the morning rush can swing from peaceful to chaotic in seconds. But new research suggests that what we do in those early minutes may shape much more than how fast we get out the door, it may shape our children's resilience, emotional stability, and sense of belonging. In today's Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a study highlighting nine morning habits practiced by parents who raise happy, resilient kids. They unpack why connection matters more than control, how mornings imprint identity, and why some "chaotic kids" just think differently, not worse. With humor, real family stories, practical tools, and Scripture, this episode reimagines mornings not as a battleground, but as one of parenting's most powerful windows of influence.

In this sobering episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy address recent violent tragedies involving individuals struggling with gender identity and mental health. With compassion and clarity, they explore the link between identity confusion and misplaced hope, and how parents can respond with prayer and character formation in a confusing cultural moment.

More teens are turning to AI chatbots for friendship and emotional support, but can artificial companionship replace real relationships? In this episode, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why self-reflective kids are especially drawn to AI, what we lose when we prioritize efficiency over embodied friendship, and how parents can guide children toward real, life-giving connection. Before diving in, Wayne shares about our partnership with Summit Ministries. Dr. Kathy will be speaking at Summit's summer sessions, powerful two-week worldview intensives for students ages 16 through college. If you want your teen grounded in biblical truth before stepping into adulthood, visit: summit.org/celebratekids Use code celebrate26 for a discount.

Grief is heavier for kids today. Divorce. Death. Global crises. Friendship fractures. Family instability. Even exposure to constant news cycles. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy talk honestly about what it looks like to help children process grief, without rushing them, fixing them, or forcing conversations they're not ready to have.

In this special Q&A episode of The Celebrate Kids Podcast, Wayne and Dr. Kathy answer real questions from Christian school leaders and teachers at Linville Hill Christian School in Paradise, Pennsylvania and Hillcrest Academy in Minnesota. These questions aren't theoretical. They come from classrooms, dorm rooms, and dinner tables. Here's what they tackle: How do we teach empathy, especially toward students who are hard to love? Dr. Kathy explains that empathy begins with self-awareness. If children can't identify and manage their own feelings, they will struggle to recognize others' emotions. Discernment matters. Service matters. Prayer matters. And sometimes empathy grows not by fixing someone's pain, but by simply acknowledging it. Are we fooling ourselves about technology addiction? Screens are addictive. The dopamine cycle is real. But the deeper issue isn't just devices, it's the lies we attach to them: "I deserve to be happy all the time." "I need constant choice." "I'm the center." Technology amplifies those lies. The solution is formation. Sabbaths. Boundaries. Stewardship. Teaching children that they are created on purpose and cannot afford to waste their time. What about kids using AI to write their papers? This isn't just about cheating. It continues our conversation about formation. Writing is not simply information transfer; it is character development. Wrestling with ideas, revising drafts, struggling through clarity, that's where growth happens. AI might save time. But what if the point wasn't speed? The question becomes: What kind of human are we forming in our writing? How do we help perfectionist students who freeze under pressure? Perfectionism often grows from home culture. It can reflect unrealistic expectations, fear of mistakes, or conditional approval. Dr. Kathy reminds us: Perfect has already been done. His name is Jesus. Progress matters more than flawlessness. Struggle builds endurance, character, and hope. Perfectionism paralyzes. Grace frees. Why should we let kids struggle? Because resilience only grows through recovery. James 1 and Romans 5 remind us that perseverance produces character. If we rescue children too quickly, we risk raising fragile adults. Victory after struggle builds deep confidence. Struggle isn't failure. It's formation. So, this episode is packed with practical wisdom to guide kids and parents to deeper faith and stronger conviction. If you'd like to bring Dr. Kathy to your school, church, or community, visit CelebrateKids.com and click "Book Dr. Kathy." Have a question you'd like answered in a future Q&A episode? Email Wayne at [email protected]. We're grateful you're here. And we're honored to help you celebrate kids well.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore a fascinating report published in Science examining nearly 35,000 elite performers. The surprising conclusion? Many of the world's most accomplished musicians, scientists, athletes, and chess masters were not early prodigies. In fact, early specialization often predicts burnout rather than lifelong excellence. That challenges modern parenting. In a culture that pushes optimization, early reading programs, elite travel teams, and accelerated academics, many parents feel pressure to help their children get ahead and stay ahead. But what if early polish is not the same as deep potential? What if rushing specialization actually limits exploration? Dr. Kathy unpacks the deeper motivations behind our desire for prodigious children. Sometimes it's fear. Sometimes it's pride. Sometimes it's a longing for ease. And sometimes it's the subtle temptation to tie our identity to our children's performance. The conversation moves beyond academics into identity formation. When competence becomes the foundation of a child's worth, the pyramid flips upside down. Security, not performance, must come first. Children thrive when they know they are loved unconditionally, when their identity is anchored in Christ, and when their gifts are discerned rather than demanded.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a growing trend among so called "TV Moms," parents who allow television freely but restrict personal devices like iPads and phones. Is there really a difference? Or is all screen time the same? Drawing on current research and practical parenting experience, Dr. Kathy explains why screens are not created equal. Television can become communal and conversational when used intentionally. Personal devices, however, are engineered for individual consumption and often create emotional ownership that's harder for kids to relinquish. But even TV loses its value when it becomes constant background noise. The deeper concern isn't just screen exposure, it's what screens are replacing. Quiet. Conversation. Boredom. Creative play. Relational engagement. In a culture where something is always on, children are losing the natural rhythms that form identity: sitting, walking, listening, asking, and wondering. When noise fills every space, wisdom has no room to rise. Dr. Kathy reminds parents that quiet is not empty. Quiet is formative. It's where discernment grows, where creativity sparks, where the Holy Spirit speaks. Identity is shaped not by constant input but by repeated relational moments in which children feel known and guided. This episode challenges parents to reconsider not just how much media their kids consume, but whether screens are crowding out the spaces where character, connection, and confidence are built. Check out Dr. Kathy's book on this topic, Screens and Teens, here>>

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "217955b7-5fd7-479a-ae95-4239381dfd0a" data-testid= "conversation-turn-202" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a sobering reality: up to 70–80% of young adults aging out of foster care face homelessness, incarceration, addiction, or mental health struggles within just two years. What happens when young people are forced to launch without a runway? The conversation moves from foster care to the everyday home. While many parents joke about 18 being the "launch date," real readiness isn't about a birthday; it's about preparation. Dr. Kathy unpacks how confidence and competence are built over time through identity formation, financial literacy, character development, and gradual responsibility. Launching isn't abrupt independence; it's scaffolded growth. Using the image of learning to ride a bike, from tricycles to training wheels to open pavement, this episode reminds parents that scars are part of growth. Falling while learning to walk didn't mean failure. It meant development. The same is true when young adults stumble in the early stages of independence. Ultimately, the deepest runway parents can build isn't dependence on mom and dad, but security in Christ. When identity is rooted in Jesus, young adults carry with them wisdom, conviction, companionship, and courage wherever they go. True launch readiness isn't just financial or emotional, it's spiritual. If you're wondering how to raise kids who can step into adulthood with clarity and resilience, this episode will give you both vision and practical encouragement.      

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch step into one of the most common and uncomfortable parenting conversations: How do we explain where babies come from without confusing or misleading our kids? The discussion is sparked by a popular podcast moment in which a celebrity mom offers a simple explanation: "When two people love each other enough, their love gets them a baby." While well-intentioned, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explore why answers like this, though emotionally appealing, can quietly create confusion or misunderstanding in a child's mind. Using a memorable ice-skating analogy, the episode acknowledges how slippery these conversations can feel for parents. But avoiding them doesn't make kids safer; it just sends them elsewhere for answers. Dr. Kathy explains why parents must be the trusted authority on questions about bodies, intimacy, and life, and why clarity matters even when the details are age-appropriate and gradual. Rooted in Psalm 139, the episode reassures parents that a child's worth is never defined by how they were conceived, but by who created them. When kids eventually learn the fuller story of biology, relationships, or even painful family circumstances, honest foundations help them feel secure rather than misled. Wayne and Dr. Kathy encourage parents to speak the truth with care, to name body parts accurately, to explain intimacy appropriately, and to always frame life as something intentionally crafted by God. Kids can handle reality when it's delivered with love, wisdom, and patience. This episode equips parents to step onto the ice with confidence, helping their children grow in understanding without fear, and letting truth become a bright light that cuts through confusion later in life.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack why Celebrate Kids has joined the "Greater Than Campaign," a broad coalition led by organizations like Them Before Us, Focus on the Family, and the Colson Center, all centered on one conviction: children's needs come before adult desires. Rather than framing the conversation as political or reactionary, Wayne and Dr. Kathy explain why this issue is fundamentally about children's wellbeing, identity, and long-term flourishing. Drawing from Scripture, research, and lived experience, they clarify that supporting children does not require hostility toward others, but it does require moral clarity and courage. The episode addresses one of the hardest tensions parents and Christians face today: how to affirm the dignity of every person while still advocating for what Scripture and evidence consistently show is best for kids, being raised, whenever possible, by a committed mother and father. Dr. Kathy emphasizes that this is not about attacking anyone's identity, but about being for children in a culture that increasingly asks them to absorb adult choices and consequences. Wayne and Dr. Kathy also speak honestly about the cost of silence. When Christians withdraw from difficult conversations, children are left without advocates. Drawing on Jesus' words in Matthew 19, the episode reframes this moment as one in which believers are called not to win arguments, but to steward the vulnerable, placing kids where Jesus placed them: at the center. This conversation offers parents the language, confidence, and steadiness to navigate these discussions with neighbors, friends, and even their own children. It reminds listeners that hard teachings are still loving teachings, and that standing for kids, even when misunderstood, is one of the clearest ways to reflect Christ in a confusing world. Listeners are encouraged to explore the Greater Than campaign through the show notes and prayerfully consider how they might support efforts that put children first.

What if the words we speak over our kids aren't just communication, but are actually creation? In this episode of Facing in the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy tackle a new claim from psychologist Dr. Chelsea Haug-Zavaleta that children should receive 100 compliments a day to thrive emotionally. Dr. Kathy challenges the research, explaining that it's not about the number of compliments, it's about the ratio of affirmation to correction and the meaning behind our words. She offers practical insights for balancing affirmation with healthy boundaries, showing how kids form identity through the voices they trust most. Together, Wayne and Dr. Kathy unpack what it means to parent fragile and resilient kids, share how correction can build character rather than shame, and connect the science of affirmation to the biblical power of blessing from Genesis 27. This episode reminds us that spoken love forms lasting truth, and that a few sincere words can build what a hundred empty praises never could.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy respond to a landmark legal case that is already reshaping conversations around gender, medicine, and parental fear. A 22-year-old woman, who identified as male as a teenager, was awarded $2 million after a jury found that medical professionals failed to follow standards of care when approving irreversible surgery while she was still a minor. The case raises sobering questions about pressure, fear, consent, and what happens when adults rush to solve a child's distress rather than fully understanding it. Rather than debating politics or policy, this conversation centers on parents, especially those who feel trapped between wanting their child to be safe, wanting them to be happy, and being told that immediate medical intervention is the only loving option. Dr. Kathy speaks candidly about how fear, particularly fear fueled by suicide narratives, can override discernment, silence conscience, create fear, and lead families to decisions they never imagined they would make. The episode explores a crucial distinction: dissatisfaction is not the same as identity. Many kids experience discomfort with their bodies, peer rejection, teasing, or confusion during puberty, but discomfort does not automatically require eradication. Dr. Kathy challenges parents to ask better questions, slow the process down, and help children understand why they feel dissatisfied before affirming irreversible conclusions. Drawing from Raising Gender-Confident Kids, the discussion reframes confidence not as denying struggle, but as building the moral and emotional "chest" that helps children hold discomfort without being swept away by fear or cultural pressure. Parents are encouraged to walk with their kids through seasons of confusion, offering presence, truth, protection, and endurance, rather than rushing to solutions that promise immediate relief but carry lifelong consequences. Rooted in Scripture, the episode reminds listeners that many temptations come dressed as compassion, offering partial truths without full disclosure of cost. Children are especially vulnerable to these narratives when adults bypass conscience in the name of urgency. True love, the hosts argue, does not panic; it shepherds. This episode offers parents courage, clarity, and hope: you are not cruel for slowing down, asking questions, or helping your child sit with discomfort. In fact, that steady presence may be the very thing that forms confidence, resilience, and lasting peace.

For years, success has been measured by degrees earned, income achieved, titles held, and recognition gained. But what happens when those markers keep shifting, leaving people exhausted and unsatisfied? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch wrestle with a growing cultural question: If we don't define success for our kids, who will, and will they like where it leads them? Drawing from a recent EdSurge reflection, the conversation explores how achievement based definitions of success often move the goalposts endlessly, leaving even high achievers feeling behind. Dr. Kathy challenges parents to recognize that children are always watching, not just what we say success is, but what we live as if it is. Our calendars, conversations, sacrifices, and celebrations quietly teach our kids what matters most. Rather than anchoring success to prestige or productivity, Dr. Kathy reframes it through a Christ centered lens: identity in Christ, lives marked by abundance rather than accumulation, and purpose expressed through service and sacrifice. Success, she argues, is not about becoming impressive, but about becoming who God created you to be and stewarding that calling with competence and faithfulness. Rooted in the biblical story of Bezalel, the craftsman called and equipped by God, this episode reminds parents that Scripture celebrates faithful skill and obedience far more than status or acclaim. When children are taught that success means living with integrity and purpose before God, they gain clarity in a world eager to define them by outcomes alone. This conversation invites parents to reclaim the definition of success, not as something to chase endlessly, but as a life of abundance and faithful stewardship.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "3abb279b-4b5e-4449-9ab3-92c186da07ee" data-testid= "conversation-turn-188" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> As conversations about banning phones and curbing screen use grow louder, parents are left asking an honest question: Is technology the problem, or are we? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new legislative efforts around screen limits and use them as a springboard for a much more personal conversation about parenting and formation. Dr. Kathy reframes the issue with clarity and grace: technology itself isn't the enemy, but when it becomes the primary way kids (and adults) cope with boredom or anxiety, something essential is lost. Parents are challenged to look inward first, recognizing that kids will struggle to give up screens if adults aren't willing to do the same. The episode explores why screens often become a refuge for anxious hearts, and why removing them without replacing them leaves kids unprepared to process life well. Rather than advocating for extremes, the conversation centers on coexisting wisely with technology. Parents are encouraged to build alternative rhythms that include quiet, prayer, creativity, play, conversation, and service, so screens aren't the default solution to every uncomfortable moment. Dr. Kathy also offers a clear, realistic vision for a family tech policy: visible alternatives, no devices in bedrooms, strong boundaries, character based decisions, and parents who are confident enough to say no without guilt. Grounded in Jesus' teaching about the Sabbath in Mark 2, the episode reminds families that limits are not punishments; they are gifts. Just as rest was designed to restore humanity, wise tech boundaries protect attention and relationships. When children learn that they are valued apart from constant stimulation or connection, they gain freedom rather than restriction. This episode equips parents to lead with humility and courage, helping technology return to its rightful place as a tool, not a ruler.

In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch unpack a surprising trend from a recent CDC report: many traditional adolescent risk behaviors are declining, but anxiety and fear are rising. While this may sound like good news on the surface, the conversation asks a deeper question: What happens when kids don't take the kinds of risks that help them grow? Dr. Kathy clarifies that this isn't about encouraging dangerous behavior, but about restoring appropriate, guided risk, the kind that builds confidence, competence, humility, and resilience. From trying out for a team to walking to the library alone, kids need chances to stretch, stumble, succeed, and recover. When parents remove every risk in the name of safety, children may internalize fear rather than strength. The episode also speaks directly to parents' hearts. Letting kids struggle is hard. Watching disappointment hurts. But our response in those moments, whether we frame the experience as growth or regret, shapes how children understand themselves. When kids know they are supported and not defined by outcomes, they grow into adults who believe they can handle life. Grounded in Jesus' parable of the talents in Matthew 25, this conversation reframes risk taking as stewardship rather than recklessness. Avoiding all risk doesn't preserve potential; it buries it. Parents are encouraged to know their individual child well and offer a longer leash when the stakes are manageable. In doing so, they help their kids develop the courage and resilience they'll need for the darker, harder moments that inevitably come later in life.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "26c66446-a078-4221-83fc-a943474a836f" data-testid= "conversation-turn-184" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch respond to a heartbreaking moment from American Idol, where a song written in memory of a young girl lost to suicide brings renewed attention to bullying, social media pressure, anxiety, and teen mental health. While the story is tender and sobering, the conversation moves carefully toward clarity rather than fear. Dr. Kathy helps parents distinguish between being anxious, a normal human experience, and clinical anxiety, which often develops when kids don't have the relationships or support to process worry well. Not every anxious child is on a path toward depression, but every child needs guidance in learning how to name and work through hard emotions. Parents are encouraged to stay observant without catastrophizing and engaged without hovering. The episode also addresses the reality that much of modern culture, especially social media, is designed to intensify comparison and emotional overload. Rather than blaming kids for struggling, parents are invited to come alongside them with truth, data, compassion, and hope, reminding them that what they're feeling is understandable and that they are not alone. Rooted in Psalm 42, this conversation reframes anxiety as an invitation to connection rather than a diagnosis to fear. When kids are allowed to express worry without shame and are guided toward resilience, faith, and support, anxious moments don't have to become anxious identities. This episode offers parents reassurance and practical encouragement to be a steady, hopeful presence in an anxious age.  

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "d9152fb2-8bc1-49be-bc28-1542c3b03a42" data-testid= "conversation-turn-182" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> What should parents do when public figures stir strong reactions, confusion, anger, fear, or frustration? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore a real world case from England where a teacher faced disciplinary action after showing political footage to older teens. Rather than taking a political stance, the conversation turns to a deeper parenting question: should teenagers be introduced to people and ideas that feel troubling or controversial? Dr. Kathy explains why shielding kids from difficult figures doesn't build maturity, but guided exposure does. Together, they unpack how discernment is formed through conversation, curiosity, humility, and relationship, not avoidance. Parents are encouraged to acknowledge what their kids already see, name emotional reactions honestly, and walk with them through anxiety or confusion when it arises. The episode also highlights the importance of parents modeling learning, sharing the books and thinkers that shape their own views, and explaining how they evaluate what's worth listening to. Grounded in Daniel 1, this conversation reminds families that God often forms wisdom not by isolation, but by engagement paired with conviction. When teens are given scaffolding instead of silence, they grow confident in their ability to think critically and live faithfully in a complex world.  

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "a8c6b819-8960-4d58-8ae6-ad1a9c0e5c24" data-testid= "conversation-turn-180" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Puberty can feel overwhelming for kids and parents alike. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research on pubertal self efficacy and why confidence, not avoidance, is key to helping kids navigate this critical season. Drawing from findings in the Journal of Adolescence, they discuss how teens who understand what's happening in their bodies and emotions experience less anxiety and depression. Dr. Kathy explains self efficacy as the belief that "I can handle what's being asked of me," and shows parents how this confidence is built through contribution, clear instruction, patience, and ongoing conversation. Together, they unpack why puberty is such a significant identity shaping moment and why kids don't need mystery or silence, but guidance and reassurance. Grounded in Luke 2 and Jesus' own growth into maturity, this episode equips parents to replace fear with formation, helping kids experience puberty not as something to endure alone, but as a God designed process they are capable of walking through well.

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "5a0e6d5b-4e63-4e3b-ba94-8a696d5938d1" data-testid= "conversation-turn-178" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> As Valentine's Day approaches, emotions around friendship, belonging, and affection naturally rise, especially for kids. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch help parents use this season as a teaching moment, not just a holiday. Together, they unpack what true friendship really is and how it differs from casual relationships. They dive into why not everyone belongs in the same place in a child's heart. Dr. Kathy introduces a simple yet powerful framework for understanding friendship levels, helping kids learn healthy boundaries and trust over time. The conversation also explores why self respect is essential for meaningful relationships, why kids must know their own God-given worth before they can love others well. Rooted in Jesus' command to love our neighbor as ourselves, this episode equips parents to guide children through affection, disappointment, conflict, and connection with wisdom, clarity, and grace, shining a steady light through the emotional complexities that Valentine's season can bring.      

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "04378a08-745d-40a3-94c5-615ea4461ad4" data-testid= "conversation-turn-176" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Are our kids actually becoming less capable thinkers, and if so, why does that matter? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore growing concerns about children's cognitive development, drawing on research from cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath. Together, they examine how increased screen use, especially in classrooms, may be reshaping how kids reason and learn. But this conversation goes deeper than test scores or IQ. Dr. Kathy reframes intellect as a muscle, one that fuels discernment, freedom, creativity, and wise decision making. They discuss why intelligence must be understood locally and relationally, not just nationally or digitally, and how parents can nurture thinking hearts by inviting kids into conversation, problem solving, boredom, and responsibility. Grounded in Solomon's prayer for a discerning heart, this episode reminds parents that raising intellectually capable kids isn't about academic pressure; it's about forming wise, free people who can love God with their minds and live faithfully in the world they're called to serve.    

In this episode of the Celebrate Kids podcast, hosts discuss the impact of weather-related school cancellations, particularly snow days, on children's education and well-being. They reflect on how traditional snow days have shifted post-COVID, with many schools opting for remote learning instead of allowing kids a break from schoolwork. Dr. Kathy encourages listeners to use these moments of disruption to consider broader questions about the educational system and to explore opportunities for character development throughout a child's schooling from preschool to grade 12. The segment aims to provide encouragement and insight into making the most of unexpected school closures. For more on the Christian boarding high school that incorporates discipleship and mentorship into a classical approach to education that Wayne mentioned in the show, visit www.gohillcrest.com

Are we helping our kids, or holding them back? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore the growing concern of overparenting and what truly drives it beneath the surface. Responding to research outlining common signs of overparenting, Dr. Kathy explains how fear and a parent's need to look successful often lead us to correct too often and trust too little. Together, they unpack the difference between guidance and control, love and fear. Using the image of Peter stepping out of the boat, this conversation reframes parenting as staying close without stepping in too soon, allowing kids to struggle, learn, and grow while knowing help is available. For parents who feel exhausted or unsure where the line is, this episode offers reassurance and a clearer vision: raising capable, resilient kids by learning when to step back rather than step in.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "8eec6507-c532-4f97-b712-30ca25f6674b" data-testid= "conversation-turn-172" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Why are teens and young adults suddenly drawn to reading, crocheting, sewing, walking, and other so-called "grandma hobbies"? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore why slower, quieter pastimes are resurfacing, and why they matter deeply for identity formation. Dr. Kathy explains how hobbies cultivate joy, perseverance, reflection, and self-awareness in a culture driven by speed, comparison, and constant stimulation. Together, they unpack the difference between fleeting happiness and lasting joy, why self-awareness is underdeveloped in today's noisy world, and how practices like crafting, reading, and walking help kids learn to be comfortable with their own thoughts. Grounded in Luke 2 and the ordinary rhythms of Jesus' early life, this conversation encourages parents to reintroduce quiet, purposeful activities, not as escape from life, but as a way for kids to inhabit it more fully.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "3b20914a-0802-4e62-946c-1a34b6f57967" data-testid= "conversation-turn-170" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Is social media always harmful for kids, or can we teach them to use it wisely? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Wayne Stender and Dr. Kathy Koch explore new research from Australia suggesting a "Goldilocks" window for social media use, where moderate engagement may support connection, but overuse or total avoidance can both undermine wellbeing. Together, they unpack why social media should be treated like any other powerful tool: taught, modeled, limited, and purposefully used. Dr. Kathy explains how parents can establish a healthy social media "diet," why real time relationships matter more than digital ones, and what kids lose when screens crowd out hobbies, service, and embodied belonging. Grounded in Acts 2 and identity formation, this conversation reframes social media not as a villain or a savior, but as something that must never bear the full weight of a child's belonging or identity.  

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "b8bb0470-e8b4-4fb4-84a5-5c5e80d0259c" data-testid= "conversation-turn-168" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender step carefully into a painful cultural moment following the death of Renee Nicole Good in Minnesota. Rather than debating politics, they explore how moments of public tragedy and unrest can quietly shape a child's identity, and a parent's emotional posture. This conversation unpacks how fear and uncertainty can begin to define who we think we are if we aren't grounded in something bigger. Dr. Kathy walks through the five key dimensions of identity, intellectual, emotional, social, physical, and spiritual, and explains how helping kids develop a big enough identity keeps cultural moments from swallowing them whole. The episode also offers practical guidance for parents who feel overwhelmed themselves: how to apologize when we overreact and how to teach children that sadness is a faithful response before anger. Grounded in the image of Jesus weeping with Mary and Martha, this episode reminds parents that sitting with grief is not weakness, it's formation.  

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "406bb266-3ffc-486a-8f1b-585d3ebfe839" data-testid= "conversation-turn-166" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Have playgrounds become too safe for kids to actually grow? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender take a thoughtful look at the increasing restrictions on playgrounds and recess, and what those rules may be costing our children. From banning running and roughhousing to removing swings altogether, today's playgrounds often prioritize control over exploration. This conversation explores why unstructured play matters for confidence, problem solving, self regulation, and social development. Drawing on child development and Scripture, Dr. Kathy challenges parents and educators to reconsider whether constant supervision and rigid rules actually help kids, or quietly undermine courage and judgment. Grounded in Jesus' invitation to "let the little children come," this episode invites adults to trade whistle-blowing for watchful presence and to see recess not as chaos to manage, but as formation in motion.      

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "eeda7058-bf59-4ca6-acc4-d8d7acc2cb63" data-testid= "conversation-turn-164" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Is creativity something to manage, or something to nurture? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender reframe creativity as far more than art projects or imaginative play. Drawing on research, classroom stories, and Scripture, they explore how creativity fuels resilience and character formation in children. From sticks turning into swords on a hike to invented words like fantabulous, this conversation shows how imagination helps kids problem solve, regulate stress, and engage the real world more deeply, not escape it. Rooted in Genesis 1, the episode reminds parents that creativity is part of what it means to bear God's image. Nature becomes the ultimate open ended classroom, inviting wonder, curiosity, and growth. If you've ever worried that creativity leads to chaos or distraction, this episode offers reassurance and practical wisdom for guiding, celebrating, and protecting your child's God-given creativity as it shapes both character and faith.  

What if something as simple as ordering dinner could shape your child's confidence for life? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore how everyday moments, like letting kids speak up, make mistakes, and try again, become powerful training grounds for resilience. Using a creative family practice as a springboard, they unpack how courage grows through support, not pressure, and why failure isn't fatal, it's formative. Drawing on child development wisdom and the biblical story of Moses' struggle with speech, this conversation reassures parents that hesitation isn't weakness and that embarrassment doesn't disqualify a child from growth. If you want to help your kids develop confidence, communication skills, and resilience without crushing their spirit, this episode offers practical guidance and deep encouragement for walking alongside them as they learn to stand back up and try again.

When children struggle with gender identity, it's rarely just about gender. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender respond to recent pauses in so-called gender-affirming care for minors and explore what real care for kids actually looks like. Drawing from counseling experience, research, Scripture, and deep compassion, they unpack why anxiety, depression, trauma, and confusion about the future often sit beneath gender distress, and why rushing to medical solutions can miss the deeper needs of the child. This conversation equips parents and loved ones with a posture rooted in compassion, hope, truth, and confidence, showing how to engage kids without rejection or oversimplification. If you love a child who is wrestling with identity questions and want to walk with them wisely and faithfully, this episode offers clarity and a path forward grounded in relationship rather than reaction.

We drill the ABCs. We practice math facts. But when it comes to kindness, we often expect it to appear fully formed, without teaching it. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the critical difference between politeness and true kindness, drawing on psychological research, parenting wisdom, and the biblical story of the Prodigal Son. They unpack why forcing apologies can create scripts instead of sincerity, how empathy is a muscle that must be taught and practiced, and why safety always precedes compassion. This conversation challenges parents to move beyond surface-level behavior management toward heart-level formation modeling mercy, curiosity, repair, and other-centeredness. If you want to raise kids who are genuinely kind, not just well-mannered, this episode will give you clarity, conviction, and practical direction.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "d1f64c8a-43ff-482c-8f64-4880ea222891" data-testid= "conversation-turn-156" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Is creativity something we should encourage or control? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the powerful role creativity plays in children's development and why time in nature may be one of the most underutilized tools parents have. Drawing from research, real parenting questions, and a biblical vision of creativity rooted in God's design, they unpack how imagination builds resilience, flexibility, and character, not chaos. From imaginary play and boredom to stress relief and problem-solving, this conversation reframes creativity as more than art projects or talent, it's a vital part of how kids learn to engage the real world well. If you've ever wondered whether letting your kids roam, wonder, or "get creative" is helping or hurting them, this episode will bring clarity, encouragement, and practical wisdom for raising kids who are both grounded and imaginative.

*]:pointer-events-auto [content-visibility:auto] supports-[content-visibility:auto]:[contain-intrinsic-size:auto_100lvh] scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "e76189e2-e803-4d11-8822-839000f282f6" data-testid= "conversation-turn-154" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> As states across the country move to restrict minors' access to social media, a deeper question emerges: Why does the government feel the need to step in at all? In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the growing wave of age-gating laws, parental consent requirements, and outright bans, and what they reveal about childhood, conscience, and cultural formation. Together, they unpack the tension between external guardrails and internal virtue, the developmental realities kids face online, and why laws may slow harm but can't form wisdom. Drawing on research, real parenting scenarios, and a biblical framework, this conversation equips parents to move beyond fear or passivity and toward intentional formation, helping kids learn discernment, self-control, and identity at home, long before a constable ever has to step in. If you're navigating screens, laws, and the pressure of modern parenting, this episode will give you clarity, courage, and practical next steps.  

*]:pointer-events-auto scroll-mt-[calc(var(--header-height)+min(200px,max(70px,20svh)))]" dir="auto" tabindex="-1" data-turn-id= "request-68c436b6-c164-832c-9422-c7a823071a31-2" data-testid= "conversation-turn-152" data-scroll-anchor="true" data-turn= "assistant"> Public language is getting louder, harsher, and more vulgar, and our kids are listening. In this episode of Facing the Dark, Dr. Kathy Koch and Wayne Stender explore the rising use of profanity in politics and public life and ask a deeper question: What does the way we speak reveal about our character? Together, they unpack the difference between freedom and license, why breaking rules isn't the same as courage, and how words shape virtue, dignity, and trust. Drawing from Scripture, cultural thinkers, and real parenting conversations, this episode equips parents to teach kids how to express strong emotions without dehumanizing others—and how to form character in a culture that often rewards outrage over wisdom. If you've ever wondered how to help your kids speak with conviction and compassion, this conversation is for you.