Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam

If your teen is hiding things or not telling you the full truth, it can feel like you’re losing them. And your instinct? Tighten the rules. Ask more questions. Stay on top of everything. But here’s the part most parents aren’t told: Teen secrecy isn’t usually about rebellion or disrespect. It’s about development. In this episode, I’m breaking down why teens keep secrets, what’s actually going on in their brain, and why common parenting reactions like punishment, pressure, or constant checking often make things worse.  WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teen secrecy does not always mean what you think it means The response that often makes teens hide even more What parents miss when they focus only on getting the truth How to become the person your teen comes to when it matters most 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create more episodes filled with real-life, practical strategies that actually work. 🔔 Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode. RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The COLLABORATE Method Parenting Program 👉 https://www.askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Teen Secrecy Feels So Scary 04:30 What’s Actually Going On in Your Teen’s Brain 09:00 Why Punishment Backfires 13:30 How to Make Honesty Feel Safer 18:00 Shifting from Control to Connection ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Each episode gives you practical tools to reduce conflict, build connection, and help your teen grow into a capable, confident adult. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teencommunication #parentingteens

What would you do if your teen told you a classmate was making threats? Most parents freeze — unsure whether to panic, dismiss it, or act. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Nicole Hockley, co-founder of Sandy Hook Promise and mother who lost her six-year-old son Dylan in the 2012 Sandy Hook tragedy, to talk about one of the most important skills a parent can develop: knowing when something is wrong with your teen before it becomes a crisis. Nicole has spent over a decade studying the warning signs that precede school violence and teen crisis — and what she shares might surprise you. The signs are rarely dramatic. They're quiet. Easy to explain away. And most parents miss them. In this episode, you'll learn: The difference between subtle and overt warning signs — and why the subtle ones are more dangerous Why dismissing your teen's feelings ("you're overreacting") actually makes things worse The single most powerful protective factor against teen crisis (hint: it's not monitoring) What to do when a peer reports something concerning about your child How to secure lethal means at home — and why this one step saves lives The tiered response framework that helps you stay calm and act appropriately at every level of concern A word from Nicole that every parent needs to hear: "I would much rather be embarrassed by being wrong than be horrified by being right." Connect with Nicole Hockley & Sandy Hook Promise: 🌐 sandyhookpromise.org 📘 facebook.com/SandyHookPromise 📸 instagram.com/sandyhookpromise 🐦 twitter.com/sandyhook 🎵 tiktok.com/@sandyhookpromise ▶️ youtube.com/channel/UCl5MxshIyRwoFNsFut6UZdA Resources mentioned: Sandy Hook Promise's UnTargeting initiative & latest report with Children and Screens: sandyhookpromise.org If you or your teen is in crisis: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988 Crisis Text Line: text HOME to 741741 Emergency: 911 Your instinct to reach out for help is never an overreaction. This episode could change how you see your teen — and how they see you.  

If consequences used to work… and now they just lead to more attitude, shutdowns, or the same fights on repeat—this episode will explain why. If you’re parenting a teen and struggling with defiance, power struggles, or constant pushback… you’re not alone. Because it’s not that your teen suddenly stopped caring. It’s that their brain has changed—and the tools that worked before don’t work the same way anymore. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Charle Peck, LCSW, M.Ed., an international keynote speaker, clinical therapist, and former educator who specializes in helping people stay calm and effective under pressure. Charle works with parents, educators, and professionals to transform high-stress situations into opportunities for growth using practical, science-backed strategies. Together, they unpack what’s really going on when consequences backfire—and the simple shift that can completely change how your teen responds. What you’ll learn in this episode: 👉 Why teens push back harder the more you try to control them 👉 What your teen actually needs in high-conflict moments 👉 The hidden reason your reactions may be escalating things 👉 A powerful question that instantly lowers defensiveness 👉 What to do instead of consequences to get better behavior If you’re tired of power struggles, walking on eggshells, or feeling like nothing is working anymore… this episode will give you a whole new way to understand—and respond to—your teen. Because your teen isn’t broken. They’re developing. And they need a different approach.   🎧 Enjoying the show? Follow and leave a quick review so more parents can find the support they need. Connect with Charle Peck: 🌐 Website: https://www.thrivingeducator.org/ 📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charlepeck 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charlepeck 🐦 X: https://twitter.com/CharlePeck   🎁 Resource Mentioned: Rapid Resets: https://www.charlepeck.com/pl/2148694979 Connect with your host, Dr. Cam: 🌐 Website: www.askdrcam.com 📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcamcaswell

Are you constantly worried your teen is making bad choices—and feel like consequences are the only way to “teach them a lesson”? You’re not alone. And you’re not wrong to care. But what if the very thing you’re doing to prevent bad decisions is actually making them worse? In this episode, we’re digging into one of the biggest parenting traps: punishing behavior instead of teaching the skills behind it. Because when your teen makes a risky, impulsive, or frustrating choice, it’s easy to assume they’re being careless, defiant, or just not thinking. But there’s something much deeper going on—and once you see it, everything about how you respond will start to shift. This isn’t about letting your teen “get away with it.” And it’s definitely not about lowering your standards. It’s about understanding what your teen actually needs in those moments so they can learn to make better decisions without you hovering, nagging, or constantly stepping in. Because the goal isn’t to control their choices forever… It’s to raise a teen who can think for themselves when you’re not there. If you’ve ever: Replayed a bad decision your teen made and wondered, “What were they thinking?” Felt stuck between being too strict or too lenient Worried that giving more freedom will just lead to worse choices This episode is going to give you a completely different lens—and a better way forward. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teens make choices that don’t make sense to you (but make perfect sense to them) The hidden reason punishment often leads to more lying, hiding, and disconnection What your teen actually needs in the moment of a bad decision (hint: it’s not a lecture) How to help your teen build real decision-making skills—without constant power struggles A simple mindset shift that changes how you respond immediately 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE ✨ The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system to help you stay calm, understand your teen, and guide better choices—without power struggles. www.askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Each episode gives you practical strategies, real-life scripts, and expert insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen—without yelling, nagging, or walking on eggshells. #parentingteens #teenbehavior #drcamcaswell

Teaching your teen to drive can feel terrifying. If your teen is nervous behind the wheel—or keeps delaying getting their license—you’re not alone. Many teens today feel anxious about driving, and the way parents approach practice can either build confidence… or make that anxiety worse. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam talks with Nigel Tunnacliffe, CEO and co-founder of Coastline Academy, the largest driving school in the country, about how parents can help anxious teen drivers feel more confident and capable behind the wheel. Nigel shares what professional driving instructors know about teaching teens to drive safely—and why well-meaning parents sometimes make the process harder without realizing it. If teaching your teen to drive has felt stressful, frustrating, or overwhelming, this episode will help you turn practice drives into confidence-building learning experiences instead of power struggles. What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why many teens today delay getting their driver’s license How parent anxiety can accidentally increase teen driving anxiety The biggest mistake parents make when teaching teens to drive How professional driving instructors build confidence in anxious teen drivers When teens are truly ready to start driving independently How to make practice drives calmer and more productive for both of you Why Teaching Teens to Drive Feels So Stressful Learning to drive is one of the biggest steps toward independence for teens—and one of the most anxiety-provoking moments for parents. When parents shift their role from critic to coach, teens learn faster, build confidence, and develop safer habits on the road. This conversation will help you approach this milestone with more calm, clarity, and confidence for both you and your teen. About Our Guest Nigel Tunnacliffe is the co-founder and CEO of Coastline Academy, the largest driving school in the United States. Coastline has helped more than 250,000 teens learn to drive safely across hundreds of cities. Nigel founded Coastline with the mission of reducing car crashes through better driver education and safer driving habits. Learn more: https://coastlineacademy.com Follow Coastline Academy: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coastlineacademy Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coastlineacademy Episode Chapters 00:00 Why Teaching Teens to Drive Feels So Stressful 00:53 Why Many Teens Are Delaying Their Driver’s License 03:41 Helping Anxious Teen Drivers Build Confidence 05:23 Encouraging Teens Without Creating Resistance 07:09 Managing Parent Anxiety During Practice Drives 09:56 Creating a Supportive Learning Environment 12:34 Celebrating Small Driving Wins 15:25 Teaching Through Observation and Empathy 19:02 Recognizing Responsibility in Teen Drivers 21:29 Building Safe Driving Habits 24:11 Helping Teens Gain Confidence Behind the Wheel 27:32 Setting Boundaries for New Drivers 29:19 Practical Tips for Safe Driving Practice Connect with Dr. Cam Website: https://www.askdrcam.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drcamcaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam   🎧 Enjoying the podcast? Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts. Your support helps more parents find practical strategies to strengthen their relationship with their teens. 🔔 Subscribe so you never miss another episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam.   parenting teens, teaching teens to drive, anxious teen driver, teen driving anxiety, parenting teenagers, helping teens gain confidence, teen independence, safe teen drivers

Is your teen acting entitled, ungrateful, or selfish — no matter how much you do for them? You’re not alone. And it may not mean what you think. In this episode, Dr. Cam explains why teen entitlement is often a normal part of adolescent development — rooted in brain changes, identity formation, and intense self-focus — not bad character. You’ll learn: • Why lectures and guilt trips about gratitude backfire • The psychology behind teen self-centered behavior • How to teach gratitude without shame or comparison • Practical ways to build empathy, responsibility, and perspective If you want to raise a grateful teen without damaging your relationship, this episode will give you a research-backed, connection-focused approach that actually works. Hit play to understand what’s really behind teen entitlement — and how to respond in a way that builds character, not resentment.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction to Teen Behavior and Entitlement 01:46 Understanding Self-Focus in Teens 04:27 The Role of Gratitude in Development 08:34 Building Perspective Through Experience 12:08 Teaching Gratitude as a Skill 13:33 Reframing Parental Responses to Teen Behavior 14:58 Conclusion and Next Episode Teaser   🎧 Enjoying the Show? Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss practical, research-backed strategies for parenting teens. If this episode helped, a quick review helps more parents find support.   🔗 Resource Mentioned The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system for building responsibility, gratitude, and maturity — without shame or power struggles. 👉 AskDrCam.com/collaboratemethod   Previous Episodes in Series: Episode 269: Attitude Episode 271: Refusing to do chores Episode 273: Arguing all the time about everything Next Episode Preview: Episode 5 will cover "Making risky and bad choices" and how changing your approach can improve your teen's rational decision-making abilities.   About the Podcast Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam blends brain science, practical tools, and real-life scripts so you can parent smarter — not harder.

Teen boys shutting down can feel like rejection, but it’s usually self-protection. If your teen son won’t talk, gives one-word answers, or avoids conversations completely, this episode will help you understand what’s going on—and what actually works. Dr. Cam Caswell (adolescent psychologist + certified parenting coach) and licensed professional counselor Jarrod Hoffman break down teen communication, emotional withdrawal, and trust-building strategies that help parents reconnect with teen boys. You’ll learn how to stop the lecture cycle, use reflective listening, and create emotional safety so your teenage son opens up again. What You’ll Learn: Why teen boys shut down emotionally during puberty (and why it’s not rejection) The #1 communication mistake parents make that pushes teen boys further away How to use reflection instead of rapid-fire questions to build trust The “10-Minute Play Rule” that strengthens parent-teen connection What to say when your teen goes silent (without panicking or lecturing) Why teens already know what they “should” be doing—and why more advice backfires How to build trust with your teenage son so he talks to you again Connect with Jarrod Hoffman: Website: jarrodhoffman.com Newsletter: Jarrod’s Monthly Newsletter Blog: jarrodhoffman.com/blog LinkedIn: Jarrod Hoffman Connect with Dr. Cam Caswell: Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam (search “Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam”) Enjoying the show? Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review so other parents can find the support they need. Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss a solution-packed episode. About the show: The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, each episode delivers practical parenting tools, expert insights, and real-world strategies to help you improve communication, reduce power struggles, and build a stronger relationship with your teen. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teencommunication #parentingteenboys  

If it feels like every conversation with your teen turns into a debate… you’re not alone. In this episode, Dr. Cam flips the script on what “talking back” really means. What if your teen’s arguing isn’t disrespect… but development? What if those debates are actually signs of growing critical thinking, identity formation, and moral reasoning? You’ll learn why shutting down arguments with “because I said so” may create more power struggles, not fewer—and how to transform daily battles into opportunities to build confidence, connection, and real-life skills. If you’re tired of feeling like the bad guy every time your teen pushes back, this episode will help you respond with clarity, authority, and calm—without losing your leadership. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teen arguing is often a sign of healthy brain development—not defiance The hidden cost of “because I said so” parenting How to separate disagreement from disrespect The difference between debatable topics and non-negotiable boundaries Phrases that keep conversations open without giving up authority How healthy arguing prepares teens to resist peer pressure and advocate for themselves   RELATED EPISODES IN THIS SERIES This episode is part of the series: “7 Teen Behaviors Parents Often Punish That Are Actually Signs of Healthy Development.” Be sure to check out: Episode 269: Attitude, eye rolls, and tone as signs of developing nervous systems Episode 271: Why teens resist chores (missing skills vs. laziness) Upcoming: Acting selfish and entitled as healthy development RESOURCE MENTIONED The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program A step-by-step system for parents who are tired of constant power struggles and second-guessing themselves. Inside, you’ll learn how to: Stay in charge without escalating Allow disagreements without losing authority Respond with clarity instead of reacting in frustration Learn more at: https://www.askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Healthy Development Behaviors 01:18 Why Arguing Feels So Frustrating 03:56 Arguing as Executive Function Development 06:36 Teaching Respectful Disagreement 09:51 Debatable vs. Non-Negotiable Topics 12:09 The COLLABORATE Method™ ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tools to make parenting teens easier—and more connected. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #TeenDevelopment #ParentingTeens

Fighting with your teen about screens doesn’t mean you’re failing. It usually means you’re focusing on the wrong thing. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by Stephen Balkam, Founder and CEO of the Family Online Safety Institute, who brings 30 years of experience helping families navigate online safety without fear or power struggles. We break down why traditional screen time rules backfire, why screen use matters more than minutes, and how parents can stay influential in a world where teens are using AI tools like ChatGPT and Claude for school, problem-solving, and decision-making. If you want to protect your teen online without losing trust or connection, this episode will help you rethink your approach. What You’ll Learn The biggest screen time mistake parents make (and what works better) Why quality of screen use matters more than quantity How the “co-pilot” approach keeps you involved without controlling Why involving teens in rule-setting increases follow-through What parents need to know about AI and critical thinking Simple boundaries that protect both safety and connection Resources Mentioned Family Online Safety Institute: https://www.fosi.org Seven Steps to Good Digital Parenting Digital Parenting Contract Template FOSI YouTube Channel AI tools discussed: ChatGPT, Claude Apps referenced: Pokémon Go, nature and star identification apps About the Guest Stephen Balkam is the Founder and CEO of the Family Online Safety Institute, a nonprofit working with major tech companies to make the online world safer for kids and families. He has been at the forefront of online safety for three decades and has witnessed the evolution from the early web to social media to today’s AI age. About the Show Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam helps parents stay calm, connected, and confident while navigating the challenges of raising teens. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach. 👉 Learn more and access free resources at AskDrCam.com 📱 For daily parenting tools, follow @DrCamCaswell on Instagram

If you’ve asked your teen to do a chore and they responded like you just requested a kidney… welcome. 🫠 Because here’s the thing: the chore battle usually isn’t about the chore. It’s about what happens after you ask—the stalling, the eye rolls, the “in a minute,” the sudden deep commitment to scrolling, and you repeating yourself until your voice hits a pitch only dogs can hear. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam breaks down the real reason chores blow up in so many homes—and why most of the common fixes (punishment, consequences, rewards, bribing, threatening, lecturing) often backfire long-term. You’ll learn the simple shift that can turn chores from a power struggle into cooperation—without begging, nagging, or doing it all yourself—plus the one mistake that accidentally teaches teens to avoid chores (and you) even more. If chores have become the hill your household dies on… this episode will change how you look at it—and what you do next. This is Part 2 of the series: 7 Behaviors Parents Often Punish That Are Actually Signs of Healthy Development. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why “clean your room” can feel impossible to a teen brain (even when they want to do it) The hidden reason punishment makes chore resistance worse over time The mindset shift that gets teens to help without the constant reminders How to build responsibility in a way that doesn’t destroy your relationship 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Website: https://www.askdrcam.com The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program – A step-by-step approach that helps you respond confidently to any teen struggle (chores, motivation, attitude, school stress, and more): https://www.askdrcam.com/collab CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell  YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam  EPISODE CHAPTERS: Why chores trigger so many power struggles The surprising reason your teen avoids starting (even when it’s simple) The parenting response that quietly increases resistance The “nag-free” strategy that changes cooperation How to build responsibility without resentment ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenchores #parentingteens

A lot of parents see the hours, hear the headphones, and picture the worst: strangers, predators, secret chats, and “Is my kid addicted to this?!” So in this episode, I brought in someone who actually knows what’s happening behind the scenes at Roblox: Tami Bhaumik, Vice President of Civility and Partnerships at Roblox. And let me tell you—this conversation will either calm your nervous system… or at least give you a real plan. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The one thing most parents misunderstand about Roblox… and why it matters for safety A major safety feature rolling out that could change how teens connect with others online The screen-time question parents obsess over—and what actually signals a real problem Why “play with your teen” isn’t cheesy advice… it’s a shortcut to better conversations and more honesty How to set limits that don’t instantly trigger eye rolls, blowups, or shutdowns 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Roblox Safety Center: https://corp.roblox.com/safety Parental controls, safety guides, video tutorials, and wellbeing resources for families. CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Tami Bhaumik Vice President of Civility and Partnerships, Roblox LinkedIn: @tamibhaumik   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: https://AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam  EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – Roblox: What It Really Is (And Why Parents Misread It) 05:41 – The Safety Stuff You Actually Need to Know 11:47 – The Parenting Move That Changes Everything 16:49 – Screen Time: What’s Normal vs. What’s Not 22:38 – How to Work With Your Teen on Safety 28:18 – Tools, Next Steps, and Where Parents Should Start   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this show gives you science-backed insights and real-life parenting tools you can actually use—so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start leading with more calm, clarity, and connection. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #Roblox #onlinesafety #digitalliteracy

Eye rolls. Heavy sighs. That sharp, snarky tone that flips your nervous system in half a second. If your teen’s “nasty attitude” instantly makes you think disrespect, defiance, or this needs to stop now, this episode will change how you see everything. In Episode #269 of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I kick off a brand-new series unpacking teen behaviors parents punish — even though they’re often signs of healthy development. And we’re starting with the one that triggers parents the fastest: attitude. Here’s the uncomfortable truth most parents were never told: What feels like disrespect in the moment is often your teen’s nervous system in overload, paired with a brain that’s wired for emotion but still learning regulation. When we shut it down with consequences or lectures, we don’t teach respect — we teach defense. And that’s where the power struggles, shutdowns, and distance begin. In this episode, I don’t just explain why this happens, I walk you through the critical choice every parent faces in those heated moments… and how one response builds walls while the other builds trust. I also introduce the response framework I teach parents inside my COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program — the approach that helps you hold boundaries without escalating, shutting down, or saying something you regret five minutes later. If you’ve ever wondered: Why does my teen get snarky over the smallest things? Am I accidentally making the attitude worse? How do I stop the tone without starting a war? This episode is your wake-up call. Because tonight’s “attitude” isn’t just about tonight. It’s shaping how safe your teen feels communicating with you tomorrow. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teen “attitude” often usually has nothing to do with disrespect — and everything to do with brain development The hidden reason even well-intended questions can trigger snark and shutdown The parenting response that escalates attitude (most parents default to it without realizing) The moment-by-moment choice that determines whether your teen opens up… or closes off  WHY THIS MATTERS MORE THAN YOU THINK Every time your teen gets mouthy, snappy, or sarcastic, one of two things happens. You either: reinforce fear, control, and emotional shutdown or teach regulation, communication, and real respect Most parents were taught the first path. In this episode, I show you the second and explain why it works even when your teen is not at their best.   🔑 WANT A STEP-BY-STEP PLAN FOR THESE MOMENTS? This episode gives you the why. The COLLABORATE Method™ Parenting Program gives you the how — across every teen challenge, not just attitude. Inside the program, parents learn how to: Stay calm and grounded when emotions run high Respond instead of react — even in triggering moments Hold boundaries without power struggles Build respect that actually lasts If you’re done guessing what to say and want a clear, repeatable system you can trust in real life, this is where to start. 👉 Learn more here: https://askdrcam.com/collaboratemethod UPCOMING EPISODE Next up in this series: Why “Not Doing Chores” Is Rarely About Laziness (and how nagging accidentally trains teens to avoid responsibility) ABOUT THE SHOW Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam is your go-to podcast for understanding teen behavior and responding in ways that build connection not conflict. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist, parenting coach, and “The Teen Translator,” each episode delivers science-backed insight and real-life parenting tools you can actually use.  Instagram: @drcamcaswell Website: askdrcam.com

Generative AI like ChatGPT is now woven into nearly every part of teen life, and many parents feel unsettled by how fast it all happened. Are teens using AI tools like ChatGPT or Google Gemini to learn, to cheat, or something in between? Are they turning to AI for emotional support? And what should parents actually be worried about versus reacting out of fear? In this episode, Dr. Cam pulls back the curtain on how teens are really using generative AI. You will hear what teens told researchers directly, what surprised even the experts, and why most parents are focusing on the wrong risks. Dr. Cam is joined by Alanna Powers-O’Brien, Research and Program Specialist at the Family Online Safety Institute and co-author of the national report Generative AI in Uncertain Times: How Teens Are Navigating a New Digital Frontier. Together, they break down what teen AI use looks like in real life, why many teens do not want to cheat, why 42% are using AI to talk through emotions, and what teens wish parents understood before reacting.   WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE   How teens are actually using ChatGPT and generative AI tools for school, learning, and everyday problem-solving Why many teens feel genuinely confused about what counts as cheating with AI The real reasons teens turn to AI for emotional support and what it does and does not replace Teens’ top concern about AI use and why it is not what most parents assume   Want support navigating tech, AI, and tough conversations with your teen? The Parenting Teens Academy gives you practical scripts, science-backed tools, and clear guidance to help you stay calm, confident, and connected, even when parenting feels overwhelming. 👉 Learn more at AskDrCam.com   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Share this episode with another parent who is worried about AI, screens, or tech. Leaving a rating and review helps more families find support and real answers. 🔔 Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode packed with practical strategies for modern parenting.   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Generative AI in Uncertain Times: How Teens Are Navigating a New Digital Frontier https://www.fosi.org/research Family Online Safety Institute https://www.fosi.org   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Alanna Powers-O’Brien Organization: Family Online Safety Institute Website: https://www.fosi.org   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: https://www.askdrcam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Teens and Generative AI Explained 01:03 Inside the Research on Teen AI Use 02:40 How Teens Use ChatGPT and AI Tools 05:22 AI and Cheating Concerns 08:22 Ethical Gray Areas Parents Should Understand 10:13 Teens’ Fears About Losing Critical Thinking Skills 12:05 AI and the Future Job Market 12:59 Why Teens Talk to AI About Their Feelings 15:59 Why AI Feels Human to Teens 17:16 Data Privacy and Safety Concerns 18:40 Why AI Is So Appealing to Teens 20:52 AI Dependency and Social Connection 24:16 Accessibility and Emotional Support 25:54 What Teens Wish Parents Knew 27:56 Practical Advice for Parents    ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers in today’s world. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, the show delivers real-world strategies, expert insight, and practical tools to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen. Each episode helps parents respond with confidence, reduce power struggles, and support teens’ emotional growth without shame or fear-based parenting. 👉 Learn more and explore resources at https://www.askdrcam.com/parenting-teens-podcast #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #ChatGPTandTeens #AIParenting #DigitalParenting

Struggling with your teen’s late nights, groggy mornings, and endless battles over bedtime? You’re not alone—and you’re not imagining it. In this powerful episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, certified Ayurvedic practitioner Nidhi Pandya breaks down why traditional sleep rules fail with teenagers and reveals a compassionate, science-backed approach that finally works. She explains how teen circadian rhythms shift during adolescence, why the 11 PM–2 AM “power hours” matter more than total sleep, and how stress—not screens—is the real culprit behind poor sleep. Nidhi shares practical tools rooted in ancient Ayurvedic wisdom and modern neurobiology, giving parents simple ways to reduce resistance, build connection, and help their teens naturally reset their sleep schedule—without nagging, yelling, or forcing bedtime.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why your teen's late nights are biological—not behavioral—and how to work with their changing circadian rhythm instead of fighting it The real reason screens aren’t the biggest sleep disruptor for teens (and what is sabotaging their rest instead) How to create calming evening rituals that reduce stress, strengthen connection, and help your teen unwind naturally The counterintuitive morning strategy that builds responsibility—and why parents must stop being the household alarm clock   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Whoop – Biometric tracker for sleep, stress, and recovery Resonance Breathing – Nasal breathwork with longer exhales Legs Up the Wall (Viparita Karani) Chamomile tea, magnesium balm, lavender essential oil NYT Crossword – Parent–teen connection activity   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Nidhi Pandya Website: nidhipandya.com Instagram: @my_ayurvedic_life Focus Areas: Ayurvedic wellness, nutrition, lifestyle practices, meditation, breathwork Framework: Inner Climate Framework – Rhythms-based Ayurvedic approach for families   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Teen Sleep Challenges 02:53 The Importance of Circadian Rhythms 05:39 Creating Healthy Sleep Environments 08:40 Negotiating Bedtime with Teens 11:28 Tools for Better Sleep 14:18 Building Trust and Cooperation 17:16 Morning Routines and Responsibility 20:03 The Role of Parental Influence 22:55 Practical Tips for Better Sleep 26:00 Creating a Supportive Home Environment   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert insights, and real-world tools to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with communication, motivation, behavior, or confidence, each episode is filled with actionable tips to make parenting easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the skills and confidence to thrive during the teen years. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teensleep #ayurvedaforteens 

Is your teen’s bathroom counter starting to look like a Sephora exploded? You’re not imagining it—the teen skincare craze is real, and TikTok is fueling it. But here’s what most parents don’t realize: all those trendy products, harsh ingredients, and 10-step routines can actually damage teen skin. In this must-hear episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Dr. Angela Casey, double board-certified dermatologist, skin cancer surgeon, mom of three, and founder of Bright Girl Skincare, to break down what teens really need (and absolutely don’t need) to keep their skin healthy. Dr. Casey brings the perfect mix of expert science and mom-level realness—giving parents the confidence to guide their teens away from harmful trends and toward lifelong skin health.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why 6–8 step “SkinTok” routines backfire The 3 products teens actually need: cleanse, moisturize, protect How to talk to your teen about toning down the trends (without a power struggle)   🌟 Get 15% off Bright Girl products My teen is obsessed with Bright Girl Skincare — and she finally stopped raiding my bathroom counter.  Dr. Casey set up a special discount just for our community so you can grab some for your teen too. They make perfect stocking stuffers. 👉 Discount link: https://brightgirl.com/discount/DRCAM 🌟 Use code: DRCAM   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Bright Girl Skincare (15% OFF): https://brightgirl.com/discount/Drcam American Academy of Dermatology (Sunscreen Safety): www.brightgirl.com Facebook: @brightgirlbeauty/ Instagram: @brightgirlbeauty/ LinkedIn: @/angela-casey-md/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCz8_5HypUs0X2thsAzCN1ag TikTok: @brightgirlbeauty   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam   EPISODE CHAPTERS  00:00 – Why teen skincare is suddenly out of control 04:52 – The real dangers behind TikTok skincare 10:19 – The three-step routine every teen needs 17:44 – How early sun exposure leads to adult skin cancer 26:02 – What to avoid: acids, beads, scrubs, retinols 34:11 – How to talk to your teen about skincare without lecturing 40:08 – Bright Girl Skincare: Why it was created for teens   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. And remember—hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode!   ABOUT THE SHOW Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam is your go-to guide for raising today’s teens with more connection, confidence, and calm. Every episode brings expert insights and real-world strategies to help families thrive—not just survive—the teen years.   #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #TeenSkincare #BrightGirlSkincare

If homework has turned into an exhausting nightly standoff, this episode is for you. Dr. Cam and neurodivergent therapist Holly Blanc Moses reveal why ADHD teens aren’t “stubborn” or “unmotivated”—they’re stuck due to executive functioning challenges like task initiation, time blindness, working memory, and overwhelm. You’ll learn how shame and the expectation–capacity gap make starting feel impossible, and you’ll get brain-based, neurodiversity-affirming tools to move from standoff to small wins: time timers, body doubling, task analysis, and collaborative problem-solving. Walk away with practical scripts and strategies that protect your relationship while helping your teen start—and finish—homework with more confidence and less conflict.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why “stubborn” and "lazy" are the wrong story  5 neuroscience-backed strategies that end homework battles The 2-minute trick that finally got my ADHD teen to clean their room How to tell if you’re accidentally hurting your teen’s mental health (even good parents do this)   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? If this helped, share it with a friend and leave a rating/review so more parents can find it. Don’t miss an episode—subscribe!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Time Timer Flown (body doubling platform) The 135 School Accommodations for Autistic & ADHD Students (50% off)   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Holly Blanc Moses Website: hollyblancmoses.com/connect Practice (Raleigh, NC): crossvinecounseling.com Facebook: @hollyblancmoses Instagram: @hollyblancmoses LinkedIn: @holly-blanc-moses-378a78104 YouTube: @autismadhdtvwithholly FB Group for Parents: WiredDifferentlyGroup   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Why Homework Feels Impossible: Executive Functioning 101 12:29 The Expectation–Capacity Gap (and how to close it) 24:37 Motivation vs. Task Analysis: Mapping the first step 36:05 From Shame to Support: Language that lowers defenses 37:01 Co-Regulation and Trust: Teaching when your teen is stressed 41:42 Tools That Work: Time timers, body doubling, and collaboration   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #ADHD #executivefunction #homework

Struggling to connect with your teenager? You’re not alone. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, pediatric psychologist Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart shares transformative, brain-based strategies to help parents rebuild connection with defiant, distant, or disconnected teens. Learn why the phrase “I love my teen, but I don’t like them right now” resonates so deeply with parents—and how to move from constant conflict to calm, connected communication. Dr. Lockhart explains the neuroscience behind teen behavior, comparing the adolescent brain to the toddler years to help you understand why your teen’s reactions can seem “illogical and irrational.” Together, Dr. Cam and Dr. Lockhart unpack the emotional toll of disrespect, withdrawal, and conditional love, offering parents science-backed tools to restore trust and strengthen relationships. You’ll walk away with actionable steps to stop the yelling cycle, repair emotional wounds, and reconnect with your teen—without losing your authority or your sanity.     WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why your teen acts “irrational” (and what brain science reveals about it) How to stop the yelling and nagging cycle—and retrain your teen to listen The difference between conditional and unconditional love in parenting Simple, curiosity-based conversations that rebuild trust and connection How to repair a broken relationship—even when your teen won’t talk   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 📘 Love the Teen You Have by Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart (on Sale Now ) 📗https://read.macmillan.com/fib/lovetheteenpreorder/ (The Work Book)   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart 🌐 Website: www.anewdaysa.com 📸 Instagram: @doctor.annlouise.lockhart 🎥 YouTube: Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart     CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell 🌐 Website: AskDrCam.com 📸 Instagram: @DrCamCaswell 🎵 TikTok: @the.teen.translator 🎥 YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam 📘 Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – Introduction to Parenting Challenges with Teens 03:03 – Understanding Teen Behavior and Development 05:54 – The Importance of Connection Over Control 08:51 – Navigating Conditional Love and Acceptance 11:41 – The Impact of Parenting Styles on Relationships 14:35 – Repairing Relationships with Teens 17:30 – The Role of Humility in Parenting 20:30 – Breaking the Cycle of Miscommunication 23:16 – The Power of Apology and Accountability 26:08 – Creating a Supportive Environment for Teens 28:59 – Final Thoughts and Key Takeaways   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #parentingteens #parentteenconnection

Ever wonder why your teen’s backtalk or eye roll hits you harder than it should? 🧠 In this powerful episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam Caswell sits down with Shelly Robinson, certified conscious parenting coach and founder of Raising Yourself, to uncover why your child’s behavior often activates your deepest wounds—and how healing your own past can completely transform your relationship. Shelly shares her personal journey from reactive parenting and yelling matches to fostering calm, emotionally intelligent conversations with her now-15-year-old son. You’ll discover the link between your inner teen and your actual teen, learn to identify emotional triggers before they explode, and walk away with tools to break generational cycles of shame, guilt, and control. If you’ve ever thought, “Why do I lose it over something so small?”, this episode will help you find compassion for yourself—and create a more peaceful, connected home. 💛   WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE 🔍 How unresolved childhood wounds fuel conflict with your teen — and why recognizing your “inner teen” is the first step to calmer parenting 💬 The art of repair after conflict, including Shelly’s “No-But Apology Formula” that teaches accountability and emotional maturity 🧘‍♀️ How to recognize physical cues of emotional triggers (like that racing heart or heat surge) before they hijack your reactions 🌱 The self-compassion shift that transforms parent-teen communication, helping you raise emotionally intelligent, confident kids   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Shelly Robinson: About Raising Yourself Book Mentioned: Rewire (on neuroplasticity and changing thought patterns)   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Shelly Robinson Website: About Raising Yourself Instagram: @raisingyourself Facebook: @raisingyourself TikTok:  @raisingyourself       CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: askdrcam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Parental Triggers 02:45 The Journey to Conscious Parenting 05:46 Inner Child Work and Its Importance 08:43 Recognizing Emotional Triggers 11:31 Navigating Teen Behavior 14:31 The Cycle of Self-Criticism 17:27 Reparenting Yourself 20:10 Empowering Your Voice 23:12 Building Healthy Communication   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #consciousparenting #parentingteens  

When parenting teenagers becomes a battleground between parents, everyone suffers—including your teen. Dr. Cam and couples therapist Dr. Tracy Dalgleish tackle the common problem of parental division, where one parent becomes the “tough one” while the other takes on the “soft” role, creating conflict that teens often exploit. This episode reveals why parents frequently end up on opposite sides of the parenting spectrum, especially during the teenage years when stakes feel higher and emotions run deeper. The experts explain how family triangulation occurs—when relationship tension between parents gets redirected toward the teenager, creating dysfunction for everyone involved. Key insights include understanding that both parents typically share the same core values and goals for their children, even when their approaches differ dramatically. The solution isn’t forcing identical parenting styles, but rather establishing shared values while allowing different expressions of those values. Dr. Tracy emphasizes the critical importance of relationship repair—acknowledging mistakes and their impact—as a foundational skill for both marriage and parenting. Parents learn practical strategies for supporting each other even during disagreements, including validation techniques and behind-the-scenes communication that maintain unity. The discussion addresses common challenges like shame spirals, resentment over unequal parenting burdens, and interference from extended family members. Most importantly, parents discover that focusing on their own relationship with their teen—rather than trying to control their partner’s approach—creates more positive outcomes for everyone involved.   💡 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teen conflict often divides parents—and how to stop it How family triangulation quietly damages your family dynamic Ways to stay emotionally connected even when parenting styles clash Tools for rebuilding trust and communication with your partner   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Book: You, Your Husband and His Mother by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish Podcast: Dear Dr. Tracy (Top 100 Podcast   🤝 CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Tracy Dalgleish Website: drtracyd.com Instagram: @DrTracyD   👩‍🏫 CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ⏱️ EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Parenting Divides 02:51 The Impact of Parenting Styles on Relationships 05:59 Navigating Conflict and Communication 08:53 The Role of Self-Reflection in Parenting 11:49 Building a Stronger Partnership 14:22 Empathy and Understanding in Parenting 17:16 Addressing Shame and Responsibility 20:25 Aligning Values for Effective Parenting 23:10 Managing Old Patterns in Parenting 25:21 Navigating Disagreements in Parenting 29:20 Strengths and Teamwork in Parenting 30:19 Dealing with External Pressures 33:37 The Importance of Affirmation 37:45 Modeling Self-Reflection and Self-Care 42:02 Empowerment Through Acceptance and Control   🧭 ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #ParentingTeens #CoParenting #FamilyDynamics

Is your teenager melting down after school, snapping at you, or shutting down completely? You’re not alone—and it’s not “bad behavior.” In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam Caswell sits down with Dr. Jim Costello, creator of the Costello Method, to reveal why teen emotional explosions are actually neurological responses to overload—not disrespect. You’ll discover why “sit still and listen” makes things worse, how parents can become a safe haven instead of a trigger, and five body-based tactics you can use immediately to calm your teen, rebuild connection, and reduce household stress. 🧠 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why your teen’s after-school meltdown is a sign of nervous system overload—not bad manners How movement and co-regulation unlock calmer communication and emotional safety at home Simple joint-pressure and grounding techniques parents can use to defuse high-stress moments How to spot “neurological soft signs” like fidgeting or posture changes before a blow-up happens 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family. 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 📚 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Dr. Jim Costello’s Website The Brain Follows by Dr. Jim Costello The Costello Method – focus on developmental plasticity & primitive reflex integration 🤝 CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Jim Costello Website: DrJimCostello.com Instagram: @dr.jimcostello 👩‍⚕️ CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: askdrcam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell ⏱️ EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Teen Emotional Challenges 03:56 The Evolution of Teen Regulation 07:53 Understanding Emotional Dysregulation 13:54 Tools for Co-Regulation 18:39 Navigating Parent-Child Dynamics 24:15 Creating Collaborative Movement Routines 30:31 Reframing Behavior and Understanding Dysregulation 43:13 Key Takeaways for Parents   📌 ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenemotionalregulation #CostelloMethod  

If your teen feels distant, defiant, or shuts you out, you’re not alone — and there’s hope. In this powerful episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, foster and adoptive dad Peter Mutabazi shares life-changing strategies for reconnecting with even the most resistant teenagers. A survivor of childhood abuse and homelessness who’s since fostered 47 children, Peter explains why teens are actually “easier” to parent than younger kids and how shifting from an authoritarian approach to a mentorship mindset transforms relationships. You’ll discover practical, trauma-informed parenting tools that help you lower conflict, rebuild trust, and guide your teen without power struggles. Whether you’re overwhelmed by defiance, craving deeper connection, or simply want to better understand your teen, this episode gives you the roadmap to start fresh and help your teen thrive. 📚 WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How a foster dad successfully parents 47 teenagers using mentorship instead of control. Why your teen’s “acting out” isn’t about you — and how understanding hormones, trauma, and development changes your response. Simple daily habits that build trust and confidence in defiant or withdrawn teens. The “three-person approach” to teen behavior that makes even tough parenting moments feel manageable. 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 🛠 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE @fosterdadflipps Facebook: Foster Dad Flipper TikTok: Now I Am Known 🧑‍⚕️ CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: askdrcam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell ⏱ EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Parenting Challenges with Teens 01:20 Peter’s Inspiring Journey from Uganda 06:50 The Impact of Being Seen and Known 09:55 Navigating the Foster Care System 12:09 Building Trust with Foster Teens 13:35 Mentorship vs. Parenting: A New Approach 17:41 Understanding Teen Trauma and Behavior 20:21 The Importance of Not Projecting Past Experiences 23:50 Celebrating Small Wins in Parenting 28:14 Finding Time and Patience in a Busy Household 29:57 Using Social Media to Change Narratives 35:01 Finding Joy in Parenting 38:38 Key Takeaways for Parents 💡 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Start Fresh Daily – Treat each incident as new and avoid bringing up past mistakes. Celebrate Small Wins – Notice and praise even minor positive behaviors to build momentum. Schedule Individual Connection Time – One-on-one outings strengthen trust without distractions. Apply the Three-Person Approach – View your teen as a mix of hormones, trauma, and typical development to respond with empathy. Shift from Parent to Mentor – Guide rather than control, meeting your teen where they are emotionally and developmentally. 📝 ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #traumainformedparenting #teenmentorship    

Struggling with your teen’s hygiene habits? You’re not alone. Many parents face daily battles over showers, deodorant, and brushing teeth—leaving everyone frustrated. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I sit down with Carly Broderick, founder of Myles Personal Care, a gender-inclusive hygiene brand created just for teens and tweens. Carly shares how her own experience parenting through puberty inspired her to create practical solutions for families. We dive into the real reasons teens resist basic hygiene—from puberty’s “hurricane effect” to product sensitivities and even rebellion. More importantly, Carly provides science-backed strategies and her simple SSB routine that transforms daily fights into lasting healthy habits. Whether your teen is entering puberty or in the thick of it, this episode will give you compassionate, effective strategies to replace nagging and shaming with empowering routines that help your teen feel confident in their own skin.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why nagging and shaming actually backfire when it comes to teen hygiene The science behind why teens often don’t notice their own body odor Carly’s proven SSB routine that makes hygiene habits stick How to reframe hygiene as confidence and maturity—not just compliance 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Myles Personal Care Amazon Store – Use code DRCAMFAN20 for 20% off   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Carly Broderick Website: hey-miles.com Facebook: @hey.miles.teen Instagram: @heymilesbrand LinkedIn: Carly Broderick TikTok: @heymilesbrand Amazon Store: Myles Personal Care (use code DRCAMFAN20 for 20% off)   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Teen Hygiene Resistance 02:41 Creating Inclusive Personal Care Products 05:34 The Importance of Effective Deodorants 08:36 Navigating the Spectrum of Masculinity and Femininity 11:30 Building Healthy Hygiene Routines 14:18 Addressing Social Pressures and Body Odor Awareness 17:05 Encouraging Ownership of Personal Care 19:51 Simplifying Shower Routines 22:40 Final Thoughts and Practical Tips   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenhygiene #parentingtips

🎙️ Episode #258: How to Talk to Your Teen  About Porn Before the Internet Does Guest: Greta Eskridge 🎧 Episode Summary As parents, discovering that your teen has been exposed to pornography can spark fear, anger, or even shame. But here’s the truth: nearly every teen will encounter porn at some point—and how you respond matters far more than whether it happens. In this must-listen episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by Greta Eskridge, author of It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn, to break down the right (and wrong) ways to handle these tough moments. Greta shares her personal journey and explains why shaming or punishing kids backfires, pushing them toward secrecy and guilt. Instead, she equips parents with compassionate, practical strategies to build connection and guide teens through the challenges of today’s digital world. If you’ve ever worried about your child’s online safety or felt unsure how to talk about porn without making it worse, this conversation will give you the tools, language, and confidence you need. 💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why shaming your teen about porn often increases secrecy and risky behavior How to use the “Check Your Face” method to stay calm during hard conversations The best questions to spark open dialogue and build trust with your teen How to shift from being your child’s adversary to their trusted ally online 🎧❤️ Enjoying the Show? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 📚 Resources Mentioned in This Episode It’s Time to Talk to Your Kids About Porn by Greta Eskridge Adventuring Together by Greta Eskridge 100 Days of Adventure by Greta Eskridge 🔗 Connect with Our Guest: Greta Eskridge Website: @greta.eskridge Podcast: The Greta Eskridge Podcast 👩‍👧‍👦 Connect with Your Host: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell 📖 Episode Chapters 00:00 – Introduction to the episode 02:30 – Why parents fear talking about porn 07:15 – Greta’s personal journey and motivation 14:00 – Why shame backfires with teens 20:45 – Tools for calm and connected conversations 29:00 – How to rebuild trust when it’s been broken 38:15 – Resources and next steps 📌 5 Key Takeaways for Parents of Teens Shaming teens for looking at porn doesn’t prevent the behavior—it pushes it underground. Your body language and tone matter—practice “Check Your Face” to stay calm and connected. Replace lectures with curious questions that open the door to trust. Position yourself as your teen’s teammate in the digital world, not their enemy. Regular, nonjudgmental conversations about online safety prepare teens to make healthier choices. 📺 About the Show The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast delivers practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidently to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #parentingteens #teenparenting

PODCAST SHOW NOTES FORMAT Are you stuck in what feels like an emotional Groundhog Day with your teen—where the same arguments, defiance, and standoffs keep repeating? You’re not alone. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I sit down with therapist and bestselling author Kati Morton to uncover why punishment-based parenting fails with teenagers and how to finally break these frustrating cycles. Kati explains that adolescence is about independence-seeking, not rebellion—and when parents try to control teens with consequences, they often fuel the very behaviors they want to stop. Instead, she offers science-backed strategies that shift the focus from control to influence, using curiosity and connection to build lasting respect and trust. From handling risky teen behaviors to creating space for authentic conversations, this episode gives you practical tools and a fresh perspective. If you’re tired of repeating the same exhausting battles, this conversation will help you hit reset and start building a calmer, more connected relationship with your teen. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why punishing your teen often makes behavior worse, not better The game-changing shift from control to influence How to stay calm and use “wise mind” during heated conflicts Simple ways to spark honest conversations without forcing it 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Kati Morton’s upcoming book: Why Do I Keep Doing This? (Releases December 9) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT): Emotion Mind vs. Wise Mind Skinner Box research on punishment effectiveness Parts work therapy for emotional responses CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Kati Morton 🌐 Website 📘 Facebook 📸 Instagram ▶️ YouTube 🎵 TikTok CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Breaking the Emotional Groundhog Day Cycle 03:01 Understanding the Illusion of Control in Parenting 05:56 Navigating Independence and Communication with Teens 08:46 The Importance of Honesty and Vulnerability 11:44 Empathy and Understanding in Parenting Teens 14:50 Addressing Risky Behaviors in Teens 20:11 Understanding Risky Behaviors in Teens 21:27 The Ineffectiveness of Punishment 23:49 Curiosity Over Judgment 25:16 The Importance of Understanding Teen Behavior 27:09 Building Trust and Influence 29:21 The Role of Communication in Parenting 31:38 Repairing Relationships After Mistakes 38:40 The Power of Curiosity in Parenting ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #parentingteens #teenbehavior

Do you feel like you’re constantly walking on eggshells with your teen—afraid that one wrong word will set off an argument? You’re not alone. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I sit down with Dr. Jenny Hwang, a clinical psychologist and parent coach with more than 20 years of experience helping families navigate emotional chaos and conflict. Dr. Hwang reveals why traditional “boundaries” backfire with teens, the surprising truth about why parents end up feeling walked over, and how to set limits in a way that actually works. Her grounded, no-nonsense approach is a game-changer for parents who are tired of power struggles and ready for peace. If you’re ready to stop the exhausting cycle of battles and create a calmer, more respectful home, this episode is for you.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why most parents misunderstand what boundaries actually are The difference between rules that control vs. boundaries that empower How to handle disrespectful communication without losing your cool Why your teen’s push for independence isn’t rebellion—it’s healthy development 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Jenny Hwang Instagram: @ProjectParentCoach YouTube: @ProjectParentCoach   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – Understanding Boundaries with Teens 04:27 – Defining Boundaries: What Parents Need to Know 08:01 – Overstepping Boundaries: The Parent-Teen Dynamic 12:17 – Navigating Emotional Triggers and Responses 17:37 – The Importance of Mutual Respect 21:39 – Learning to Say No: Establishing Limits 25:45 – The Challenge of Control in Parenting 30:34 – The Power of Presence and Attention 35:08 – Social Media and Parenting: A New Frontier 38:43 – Key Takeaways: Empowering Parents to Set Boundaries   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenboundaries #parentingteens

If you’ve ever ended the day thinking, “Ugh, I was way too impatient… I didn’t handle that well… I need to do better,” you’re not alone. Parenting teens has a way of making even the most loving parents feel like we’re constantly falling short. But what if you could quiet that inner critic—even just a little—and start noticing what’s actually going right? In this heartfelt episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, counselor and author Erin Morrison—creator of @itsTheConsciousMom and author of Three Minutes for Mom—offers science-backed insight and deeply reassuring advice for parents who feel like they’re failing. We dive into why our brains focus on the negative, how to stop taking our teen’s behavior so personally, and what it really means to be “doing enough.” Erin also shares a simple 3-minute daily mindset practice that can help you reconnect with yourself—and your teen. If you’re constantly hard on yourself, overwhelmed by parenting pressure, or just tired of feeling like you’re not enough… this episode is your reset. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why your teen's boundary-pushing is actually a good thing The secret to feeling like a “good parent” again (in just 3 minutes a day) How to shift your mindset from constant criticism to quiet confidence What you’re getting right—even if it doesn’t feel like it 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Three Minutes for Mom by Erin Morrison (Simon & Schuster) “Catch Them Being Kind” 5-Day Challenge The “Friend Perspective” & “It’s Not Personal, It’s Developmental” reminders CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Erin Morrison Website: https://theconsciousmom.com Instagram: @itsthe.consciousmom CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 The Struggles of Parenting Teens 03:05 Reframing Our Perspective on Parenting 05:42 Recognizing Wins in Parenting 08:46 The Importance of Self-Recognition 11:24 Responding vs. Reacting to Our Teens 14:25 The Impact of Parental Self-Perception 17:28 Building Positive Relationships with Teens 20:25 Practical Steps for Self-Care 23:19 Finding Balance in Parenting 26:36 Grounding in Parental Truth 29:09 Tiny Shifts for Big Changes 32:35 Balancing Business and Pleasure in Parenting 35:40 Understanding Developmental Stages 37:59 Letting Go for Connection 46:20 Ownership and Independence in Parenting ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #consciousparenting #parentingfailnomore

Ever wish you had a pause button—for your teen or yourself? When you’re caught in a meltdown, shutdown, or power struggle, it’s easy to spiral into reactivity and regret. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Jennie Phillips—coach, fitness pro, mom of four, and author of Yellow Light Moments—introduces a science-backed framework that empowers families to slow down and reset before emotions explode. Jennie shares her 3-step “Yellow Light Moment” method (Yield-Listen-Move), giving parents the language, tools, and mindset shifts needed to manage teen stress, model emotional regulation, and create a calmer home. If your family is running on exhaustion and conflict, this episode will help you pump the brakes—with just a few intentional minutes that can shift everything.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE A 3-step process to prevent teen blowups before they start How to create shared emotional language with your teen (like “caterpillar” or “question quota”) Why your teen’s “laziness” might actually be healthy self-regulation How guilt around self-care is secretly sabotaging your parenting   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Yellow Light Moments Book YLM Toolbox for Teens   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Jennie Phillips Website: www.jenniephillipscoaching.com Instagram: @jenniephillipscoaching Facebook: Jennie Phillips Coaching LinkedIn: Jennie Phillips   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 The Need for a Pause 01:09 Introducing Yellow Light Moments 06:38 Understanding the Concept of Yellow Light Moments 12:27 The Importance of Pausing 20:24 Training Ourselves to Yield 25:44 Benefits of Taking a Pause 29:37 Modeling for Our Teens 33:56 Final Thoughts and Action Items   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenmeltdowns #parentburnout

Worried your teen might fall into the wrong hands online? You’re not being overprotective—you’re being smart. In this powerful episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by Nate Lewis, founder of The Innocent, a nonprofit on a mission to protect kids from trafficking, exploitation, and abuse right here in the U.S. A former law enforcement officer with 20+ years of global experience in anti-trafficking operations, Nate shares expert-backed, real-world strategies for protecting your teen—without shutting them down or locking everything down. If you’ve ever felt helpless watching your teen scroll through social media or worried about who’s DMing them behind the scenes, this episode gives you clarity and next steps. We dig into the grooming process, why emotionally vulnerable teens are at greater risk, and what subtle online red flags parents often miss. But most importantly, we talk about how to build the kind of connection that keeps your teen safe. Because the best safety tool isn’t an app—it’s trust. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The #1 predictor of whether a predator can gain access to your teen Why controlling devices can backfire—and what to do instead How to talk to your teen about safety without triggering defensiveness The role of male mentors and modeling in reducing vulnerability 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Nate Lewis Website: theinnocent.org Instagram: @theinnocent.usa LinkedIn: Nate Lewis TikTok: @theinnocent.usa CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: askdrcam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding the Risks of Online Predators 02:55 Nate Lewis’s Journey and Motivation 05:48 The Psychology of Grooming and Exploitation 08:45 Building Trust and Communication with Teens 11:31 Navigating Social Media Safely 14:35 Identifying Vulnerabilities in Teens 17:18 Empowering Teens Against Manipulation 20:09 The Role of Parents in Prevention 23:04 Modeling Healthy Relationships 25:55 Addressing the Issue of Consent 28:54 Supporting Teens After Trauma 31:56 Creating a Community Response 34:44 The Importance of Education and Awareness   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #onlinepredators #teensafety

Constantly clashing with your teen? It’s not the conflict—it’s how you handle it. But here’s the good news: conflict isn’t the problem—it’s how you handle it. Harvard Law negotiation expert Bob Bordone reveals how the same conflict resolution strategies used by world leaders can transform your parent-teen relationship. 🎧 In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, you’ll learn how to move from power struggles and emotional blowups to productive conversations that build trust, strengthen your bond, and teach teens lifelong skills. Avoiding conflict might feel easier in the moment—but it actually weakens your connection over time. Bob explains how to use everyday disagreements as opportunities to teach problem-solving, perspective-taking, and emotional resilience.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why avoiding conflict with your teen may hurt more than help The science of “affective labeling” to calm heated arguments How to stop power struggles and spark better problem-solving Why teens who know how to argue are more resilient and confident 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! 👉 Share your favorite episode 👉 Leave a rating and review 👉 SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! Your feedback helps other parents find the support they need—and helps me create even more practical tips for real-life parenting. 🙏💫   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Book: Conflict Resilience by Bob Bordone Research: Matt Lieberman (UCLA) on Affective Labeling Judd Brewer’s “Bigger Better Offer” (BBO) on Motivation Website: bobBordone.com Family Activity: Try reading Conflict Resilience as a family book club to practice conflict resolution skills together!   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Bob Bordone Website: bobbordone.com Instagram: @bobbybordone Facebook: facebook.com/bordone LinkedIn: Robert Bordone X: @bobbordone YouTube: Bob Bordone   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 – The Power of Conflict in Parenting 05:48 – Understanding Conflict Avoidance 11:35 – Reframing Conflict as Collaboration 15:41 – Effective Communication Strategies 20:37 – Navigating Technology and Boundaries 28:03 – Building Trust in Parent-Teen Relationships 35:37 – The Journey of Conflict Resolution   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenconflict #conflictresolution #parentingteens #teennegotiation #teentips #bobbordone #parentingstrategies #podcastforparents

Does your teen seem unmotivated, disconnected from school, or uninterested in college? You're not alone—and it doesn’t mean they’re lazy or doomed. In this powerful episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by Hannah Maruyama, founder of Degree Free, who’s helping parents rethink success and explore real-world alternatives to the traditional college path. If you're tired of power struggles, student loan fear, and outdated definitions of “making it,” this conversation will give you practical tools and a fresh perspective to help your teen find their way—without unnecessary debt, pressure, or burnout. Hannah breaks down why the college industrial complex is crumbling, how to spot smarter options, and how to support your teen in creating a future that fits them.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why pushing college as the only option is backfiring on many teens How to motivate your teen without using grades, guilt, or fear What the job market actually values (hint: it’s not always a degree) 5 alternative paths your teen can take to succeed without student loans 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Degree Free Website 5 Pathways to Great Work (YouTube Episode)   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Hannah Maruyama 🌐 Website: degreefree.com 📸 Instagram: @degreefree 🎥 YouTube: @DegreeFree 🎵 TikTok: @degreefree   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell 🌐 Website: AskDrCam.com 📸 Instagram: @DrCamCaswell 🎵 TikTok: @the.teen.translator 📺 YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam 📘 Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Rethinking Success: The Outdated College Path 01:28 Hannah's Journey: From College to Career Freedom 04:15 The Pressure to Conform: College as the Only Option 10:10 The Financial Burden: Student Loans and Their Impact 21:19 Changing Job Market: The Shift Away from Degrees 36:36 Strategic Career Planning 42:25 Navigating Career Choices 52:13 Alternative Pathways to Success   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. #degreefree #parentingteenswithdrcam

Think your teen is using weed because of peer pressure? Think again. In this powerful episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Dr. Jessica Willoughby and Dr. Stacey Hust from the WSU Media Adolescent Cannabis (MAC) Lab to unpack the real reasons behind rising teen cannabis use—and what parents can actually do about it. Backed by groundbreaking research, this episode explores how savvy marketing, social media influence, and misleading packaging—not just peer dynamics—are shaping teen decisions. If you've ever felt unsure about how to talk to your teen about weed, you're not alone. This episode gives you the insights, tools, and language to have real, meaningful conversations without losing the connection. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why peer pressure is notthe main reason teens are using weed today How marketing, packaging, and perceived norms shape your teen’s choices What THC-labeled gummies and “natural” branding are really doing to teen perception Harm reduction strategies that actually work when prevention isn’t enough    🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? If this episode gave you clarity, confidence, or just made you feel a little more understood, hit that ⭐️ and leave a review! Your feedback helps more parents find support and lets me keep delivering real-talk episodes that make a difference. 🔔 Make sure to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss an episode.   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE WSU MAC Lab SAMHSA National Helpline NIDA—Cannabis CDC—Cannabis and Teens Teens, Sex and Media Effects: Understanding Media's Influence on Adolescent Sexuality, Sexual Health, and Advocacy CONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS Dr. Stacey Hust Email: [email protected] LinkedIn: Stacey Hust BlueSky: [email protected] Dr. Jessica Willoughby Email: [email protected] LinkedIn: Jessica Fitts Willoughby BlueSky: @jwilloughby.bsky.social    CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Teen Cannabis Use 03:06 The Impact of Cannabis on the Adolescent Brain 07:30 Navigating Conversations with Teens 12:15 Harm Reduction Strategies for Parents 19:53 The Role of Marketing in Teen Cannabis Use 25:17 Addressing the Challenges of Edibles 30:29 Ethical Dilemmas in Parenting and Cannabis 32:28 Starting Early: Conversations About Cannabis   ABOUT THE SHOW Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam is your go-to podcast for real-world parenting strategies backed by psychology, neuroscience, and a whole lot of empathy. Hosted by adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam Caswell, each episode delivers practical tips and honest conversations that help you better understand your teen—and yourself. Whether you're facing eye rolls or emotional breakdowns, this show is here to help you parent smarter, not harder. #theteentranslator #teenweeduse #parentingteenswithdrcam

In this must-listen episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, adolescent psychologist and parenting coach Dr. Cam Caswell sits down with writer and professor Nancy Reddy, author of The Good Mother Myth, to unpack the crushing weight of unrealistic parenting expectations. Together, they explore how outdated beliefs about “good” parenting are fueling unnecessary guilt and stress—especially for moms of teens. You’ll learn the difference between helpful guilt and harmful shame, how to let go of perfectionism, and how to reframe your role as your teen grows more independent. Nancy also shares the liberating truth about asking for help and why showing vulnerability is one of the best lessons you can teach your teen. This episode is both a sigh of relief and a wake-up call. If you're tired of feeling like you're not doing enough, listen in. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How outdated “good mom” myths create toxic guilt for modern parents. The truth about your role in your teen’s happiness (and why it’s not what you think) Why modeling imperfection and asking for help makes you a better parent Practical tips to release shame, reclaim calm, and parent from your values 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Guilt ≠ Shame: Guilt can spark change, but shame keeps you stuck in self-blame Use a values check when guilt creeps in—what matters to your family, not to others Build a “friend family” of supportive adults to share the emotional and logistical load Ask for help—and watch how it gives your teen permission to do the same Focus on the relationship, not your performance. You’re a parent, not a perfectionist   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Good Mother Myth by Nancy Reddy Write More, Be Less Careful Newsletter Work Like a Mother by Laura Bazelon Unfit Parent by Jessica Slice Research by Erica Boothby on “the liking gap” Anthropological research by Margaret Mead   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Nancy Reddy Website: nancyreddy.com Instagram: @nancy.o.reddy Newsletter: Write More, Be Less Careful CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 The Pressure of Perfection in Motherhood 03:12 Navigating the Transition to Parenting Teens 06:05 Understanding and Overcoming Mom Guilt 09:01 The Myth of the Perfect Mother 12:03 Distinguishing Guilt from Accountability 14:48 Letting Go of Guilt and Embracing Trust 18:11 The Role of Community and Co-Parenting 21:22 Navigating New Motherhood and Guilt 24:38 The Role of Community in Parenting 26:10 Understanding Guilt in Parenting 30:09 The Importance of Asking for Help 33:11 Modeling Vulnerability for Our Children 38:34 Defining Values to Combat Guilt   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #momguilt #parentingteens #mentalhealthformoms #parentinghelp

Are you stuck in constant battles with your teen—no matter how many consequences you hand out? You're not alone. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I sit down with renowned psychologist and TEDx speaker Dr. Paul Sunseri, author of Gentle Parenting Reimagined. With over 40 years of experience, Dr. Sunseri offers parents a powerful shift: how to stay calm, set firm boundaries, and transform behavior—without yelling or giving in. If you’ve got a strong-willed or defiant teen, this episode will be a game-changer.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE What to do when consequences no longer work with your teen How to set effective boundaries without yelling or power struggles The difference between gentle parenting and permissiveness How to tie privileges (like screen time) to responsibility   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Shift from “Fixing the Kid” to Changing the Dynamic: Teen defiance is often about the relationship, not just behavior. Focus on how you respond. Speak Calmly and Clearly: Avoid emotional reactions. Use matter-of-fact requests to maintain authority without fueling conflict. Use Privileges Strategically: Tie screen time and other privileges to daily responsibilities—then follow through consistently. Expect Resistance, But Stay the Course: Change won’t happen overnight. Stay patient and consistent even when it’s tough. Believe in Their Ability to Grow: Set high (yet compassionate) expectations. Let them fail and learn—it’s how resilience is built.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! 🙏💫 🔔 SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Gentle Parenting When to Lean Out Instead of Leaning In – Psychology Today Consequences Don’t Work With My Kid – Psychology Today Gentle Parenting Deserves Another Chance – Today’s Parent   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Paul Sunseri Website: myIFFT.org Instagram: @dr_paul_challengingkids YouTube: Dr. Paul Sunseri   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Defiance in Teens 05:13 The Bi-Directional Influence of Behavior 10:05 Common Mistakes Parents Make 18:10 Navigating Emotional Regulation 28:03 Strategies for Managing Household Responsibilities 30:36 The Autonomy Dilemma in Parenting 32:26 Effective Communication Strategies with Teens 34:20 Flexibility and Boundaries in Parenting 36:12 Motivation and Homework Challenges 39:00 Understanding Teen Resistance to Homework 42:31 Balancing Privileges and Responsibilities 45:41 Negotiating Homework and Screen Time 48:56 Navigating Homework Expectations 51:17 Establishing Behavioral Habits 54:36 Setting Realistic Parenting Goals 57:38 The Importance of Limits and Expectations 01:01:29 Building Resilience Through Challenges 01:05:33 Parenting Across Generations   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #parentingdefiantteens  

When your teen falls in love for the first time—or goes through their first heartbreak—it can be emotional for everyone. You want to protect them, guide them, and maybe even stop them from getting hurt. But if you're not careful, your good intentions can push them away. In this episode, I’m joined by journalist, professor, and fellow mom Lisa A. Phillips, author of First Love: Guiding Teens Through Relationships and Heartbreak. Lisa shares powerful insight from her personal and professional journey helping teens—and parents—navigate the emotional rollercoaster of young love. If you’re wondering how to talk to your teen about dating, heartbreak, or those “red flag” relationships without causing shutdown or secrecy, this conversation is a must-listen.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teens hide their relationships—and how to keep the conversation open How to support your teen through their first heartbreak without minimizing their pain What to say when you’re worried about who your teen is dating How sharing your relationship experiences can actually help your teen make better choices   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Validation builds trust: When your teen opens up about a relationship, resist the urge to fix it. Just listen first. Judgment shuts teens down: Even one negative comment can drive their dating life underground. Ask, don’t assume: “Dating” might just mean texting or walking to class together—so ask what it means to them. Help them reflect, not rebel: Instead of telling them who not to date, ask how that person makes them feel. Model real-life lessons: You don’t have to be perfect—just honest. Your own dating history can be a powerful teaching tool.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support!   🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode!     RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE First Love: Guiding Teens Through Relationships and Heartbreak by Lisa A. Phillips 🛒 Use Discount Code: RLFANDF30 for 30% off 🔗 Buy the book here   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Lisa A. Phillips Website: lisaamyphillips.com Instagram: @lisaamyphillips18 Facebook: lisa.a.phillips.73 LinkedIn: lisa-a-phillips-978a78124   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam TikTok: @the.teen.translator Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating Teen Relationships: A New Era 02:57 Understanding Parental Fears in Teen Dating 06:03 The Importance of Validating Teen Emotions 09:09 Setting Boundaries: When Teens Want to Date 11:55 Over-Enmeshment: Balancing Relationships and Independence 14:50 Building Self-Worth Beyond Romantic Attention 17:56 Handling Unfavorable Partners: A Delicate Approach 24:22 Navigating Difficult Conversations with Teens 27:33 Understanding Teen Relationships and Parental Influence 30:19 Conflict Resolution in Teen Relationships 33:19 Coping with Breakups: Supporting Teens in Pain 36:59 The Importance of Reflection and Growth 40:19 First Loves: Shaping Future Relationships   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #parentingteens #teenrelationships

If setting boundaries with your teen feels like trying to nail Jell-O to a wall—you’re not alone. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I sit down with Matilda Gosling, social scientist and author of Teenagers: The Evidence Base, to break down the science behind boundary-setting that actually works. No more power struggles. No more guessing games. Just real, research-backed strategies to help you protect your teen and prepare them for the real world. Matilda brings both the data and the empathy, helping parents understand where to draw the line, when to back off, and how to keep the relationship strong while doing it. If you’ve ever asked yourself, “Am I being too strict? Too lenient?”—this episode is your answer. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why boundaries help teens feel safe, not smothered How to focus on the rules that really matter (and ditch the ones that don’t) The difference between control and influence—and why one actually works How to set your own boundaries without feeling guilty or selfish 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Prioritize the big stuff: Health, safety, and emotional well-being come first. Let go of the small battles. Your boundaries matter too: You’re allowed to have limits—and your teen needs to see them. Respect their privacy: Snooping leads to secrets. Trust builds openness. Explain, don’t dictate: When teens understand the why, they’re more likely to follow through. Mistakes are part of the process: Boundaries aren’t about perfection—they’re about growth. 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Matilda Gosling's Substack (Sign up to get a free PDF Q&A on teen mental health!) Book: Teenagers: The Evidence Base by Matilda Gosling Book: The Anxious Generation by Jonathan Haidt   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Matilda Gosling Website: matildagosling.substack.com Instagram: @matilda.gosling LinkedIn: Matilda Gosling X/Twitter: @matildagosling   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Teen Boundaries 02:59 The Importance of Independence 05:48 Defining Boundaries vs. Rules 09:04 Negotiating Boundaries with Teens 12:02 Common Mistakes Parents Make 15:02 The Role of Safetyism 18:08 Respecting Teen Privacy 20:56 Identifying Important Boundaries 23:46 Setting Parental Boundaries 27:06 The Importance of Modeling Behavior 29:57 Navigating Emotional Responses 32:49 Final Thoughts on Boundaries   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #parentingteenswithdrcam #teenboundaries #parentingteens

In this powerful and heartfelt episode, Dr. Cam sits down with three courageous moms—Heather, Lara, and Maria—who open up about the emotional rollercoaster of raising teens through tough issues like self-harm, emotional regulation struggles, vaping, and academic burnout. These women, all members of Dr. Cam’s Inner Circle, share what it was like before they found support, and how everything changed when they stopped trying to control their teens and started learning how to truly connect. If you’re feeling frustrated, scared, or unsure how to help your teen without pushing them away, this episode offers real hope and practical guidance from parents who’ve been there.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to reconnect with your teen when communication has broken down Why letting go of control can strengthen your relationship with your teenager The impact of emotional regulation challenges on teen behavior—and how to respond What a supportive parenting community can do for your confidence and peace of mind   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Letting go of control builds trust and makes space for connection with your teen Choosing one parenting value helps guide consistent, intentional responses Allowing natural consequences helps teens learn from experience without constant lecturing Empathetic listening without jumping in to fix builds emotional safety Having a parenting support group offers relief, encouragement, and real-life strategies   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Dr. Cam's Inner Circle - A weekly support group for parents of teenagers where they can share challenges, learn strategies, and receive guidance from Dr. Cam and other parents. Join us at: https://www.askdrcam.com/innercircle   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcam #parentingteensupport #reconnectwithyourteen

Worried about the impact your teen’s friends are having on them? You’re not alone—and it’s not as simple as “good” or “bad” peer pressure. In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I sit down with peer influence expert Dr. Brett Laursen to unpack how friendships actually shape teen behavior (often for the better!) and how parents can stay influential without being controlling. Dr. Laursen, who has decades of research tracking teen friendships across multiple countries, shares surprising insights that can help you guide your teen through the tricky world of social dynamics, middle school transitions, and online influence. If you’ve ever wondered, "Am I losing my teen to their friends?" — this conversation is a must-listen. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why peer pressure isn't always a bad thing and can actually drive positive behavior in teens How to stay relevant as a parent even when friends seem to have more influence What to do (and NOT do) if you're worried about your teen's friends How online and real-world friendships impact vulnerable teens differently 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Friendship first, influence second: Teens choose friends who are similar to them, not the other way around. Middle school changes everything: The shift from adult-centered to peer-centered social life demands a new parenting approach. Stay connected, don't compete: Your teen needs a supportive parent, not a rival for attention. Opportunities, not ultimatums: Help your teen find better friendships by fostering their interests, not forcing social changes. Humanize yourself: Teens respect advice more when they see you as a real person, not just an authority figure. 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Brett Laursen Website: https://www.fau.edu/science/psychology/laursen-lab/ Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Peer Pressure in Teens 03:01 The Dual Nature of Peer Influence 05:46 Navigating Friendships: The Parent's Dilemma 08:53 The Shift to Peer-Driven Social Structures 12:12 The Importance of Positive Relationships 15:10 Managing Friendships: When to Intervene 18:12 Supporting Kids Who Struggle to Make Friends 21:08 The Role of Online Influences 23:54 Building Trust and Communication with Teens 27:01 Humanizing Parental Relationships 29:55 Final Thoughts on Peer Influence and Parenting ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #teenpeerpressure #parentingteenfriendships

When you lose a child, everything changes. In this powerful episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, we meet Kristen Schindler, a courageous mother who shares her journey through the devastating loss of her 21-year-old son, Gavin, to suicide. Kristin opens up about navigating grief while parenting her other children, how undiagnosed physical and mental health issues played a hidden role, and the steps she’s taken to find healing, hope, and purpose. If you're a parent terrified of missing warning signs or struggling to support a grieving family, Kristen’s story reminds us that love alone can't shield our kids from life's hardest battles—and that healing, while messy, is possible. This conversation offers real tools, deep compassion, and hope for anyone touched by loss. Kristen Schindler is a passionate advocate for suicide awareness, a mother of faith, and a living example of resilience. Through her story, she helps other parents navigate the unimaginable with grace, honesty, and strength. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why even the most attentive parents can’t always predict or prevent teen suicide How hidden physical health issues (like undiagnosed heart problems) can impact mental health Why “grief masking” hurts more than it helps—and how to truly process loss How to create new family traditions that honor lost loved ones and foster healing 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS You can be a great parent and still face unimaginable loss: Kristen’s story removes shame and blame from grief. Physical health affects mental health: Undiagnosed conditions can silently worsen depression and anxiety. Grief isn't linear or tidy: Healing doesn't follow a timeline—and that's normal. "Grief masking" backfires: Hiding your pain for others' comfort only deepens long-term wounds. Honoring loved ones through new traditions brings hope: Small acts of kindness can keep memories alive and help families heal together. 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌 RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free Space for Grace Workbook Gavin’s Celebration of Life Tribute Watch on YouTube CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Kristen Schindler Website: www.kristenleeschindler.com Facebook: @kristen.schindler.3 Instagram: @all.the.things.kls LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-schindler-2a8b755/ YouTube: @kristenschindler9786e CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Navigating Grief: A Personal Journey 03:02 The Impact of Loss on Family Dynamics 06:04 Understanding Mental Health Challenges 08:58 The Role of Faith in Healing 11:59 The Complexity of Grief and Healing 15:00 Lessons Learned from Loss 18:14 The Importance of Open Communication 21:04 Finding Joy Amidst Grief 23:59 Empowering Parents in the Face of Loss 32:06 Navigating Grief and Loss 34:55 The Impact of Addiction on Families 37:04 Finding Purpose in Pain 39:54 The Importance of Community and Support 43:14 Transforming Grief into Empathy 48:00 Honoring Loved Ones Through Kindness 52:39 Lessons for Parents in Grief ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #grievingaparent #suicidelossawareness

Ever feel like your kids are growing up in totally different households—even though they share the same last name and dinner table? Your oldest follows all the rules, your middle child avoids conflict like it’s their full-time job, and your youngest? Total chaos with a side of charm. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Dr. Kelly Jameson, a therapist, speaker, and expert on birth order psychology and sibling dynamics, to decode what’s really going on behind your kids’ clashing personalities—and what to do when fairness feels impossible. If you’ve ever second-guessed how you parent each child (spoiler: you're not imagining it), this episode is packed with eye-opening truths and practical solutions.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How birth order shapes your teen’s personality and behavior Why sibling rivalry is normal—and how to handle it without picking sides What “fair” parenting really looks like (and why it’s not the same for every child) How to parent your firstborn, middle, and youngest without losing your mind 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Birth order isn’t just theory—it deeply influences how each child behaves, connects, and competes Sibling rivalry often stems from a fight for limited parental attention—not bad behavior Fairness in parenting means meeting each child where they are developmentally, not treating them identically Older siblings shouldn’t be forced to parent younger ones—it breeds resentment, not responsibility Creating rituals, one-on-one time, and shared experiences helps reduce tension and build sibling bonds 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Dr. Kelly Jameson’s Website   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Kelly Jameson Website: drkellyjameson.com Instagram: @drkellyjameson   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Birth Order Dynamics 06:11 Sibling Rivalry and Parental Attention 08:47 Navigating Fairness in Parenting 12:38 Intervening in Sibling Conflicts 18:05 Supporting Siblings Through Challenges 20:39 The Dynamics of Sibling Relationships 24:49 Navigating Sibling Rivalry and Conflict 29:36 Understanding Birth Order and Its Impact 32:35 Tailoring Parenting Strategies by Birth Order 39:45 Key Takeaways for Parents   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #birthorderpsychology #siblingrivalrytips

Tired of fighting over screen time with your teen?  Then this episode is for you. Dr. Cam sits down with digital wellness expert Nicole Rawson, founder of Screen Time Clinic, to tackle one of today’s biggest parenting challenges: teen screen addiction.  Nicole shares why traditional limits don’t work anymore, how to spot warning signs early, and what a real digital detox looks like (hint: it’s not just unplugging the Wi-Fi).  If you're ready to take back control, reconnect with your teen, and restore peace in your home, don’t miss this conversation. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How excessive screen time rewires your teen’s brain and behavior Why some teens are more sensitive to screen addiction than others What actually works when a teen is addicted to their phone or gaming How to do a digital detox with your teen instead of against them   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Complete digital detox is more effective than moderation for addicted teens Structure and planning are essential for a successful screen break Withdrawal is a red flag—not just “normal teen stuff” Parents must model healthy digital habits to help their teens reset Replacing screen time with meaningful, engaging activities is key to long-term success 🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Reset Your Child’s Brain by Dr. Victoria Dunckley ScreenTimeClinic.com Free Digital Detox Newsletter & Guide   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Nicole Rawson Website: ScreenTimeClinic.com Instagram: @screentimeclinic   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Screen Time Concerns 03:04 The Impact of Screen Time on Teens 05:53 Identifying Sensitivity to Digital Media 08:54 Implementing Digital Detox Strategies 12:00 Navigating Resistance from Teens 15:02 Recognizing Signs of Addiction 18:12 Healthy Coping Mechanisms for Teens 26:54 The Impact of Screen Time on Family Dynamics 31:10 Understanding Teen Addiction to Screens 36:49 Building Healthy Structures for Teens 41:54 The Role of Parents in Digital Detox   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #screentime #digitaldetox #parentingteens #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam

In this compelling episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, host Dr. Cam interviews Cam Adair, the founder of Game Quitters and a renowned expert in gaming addiction recovery. Drawing from his own experience as a teen who once played video games for 16 hours a day, Cam shares invaluable insights that every parent needs to hear. This episode tackles the pressing concerns parents have about their teens' gaming habits and provides practical, actionable strategies to help foster a healthy relationship with gaming.    WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Understanding the spectrum of gaming addiction and how it affects teens. Effective communication strategies to engage your teen about gaming. Practical tips for fostering a balanced relationship with gaming. The importance of family values in guiding discussions around gaming behavior.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Recognize Gaming Disorder: Understand the criteria defined by the World Health Organization to identify gaming addiction. Focus on Overall Functioning: Assess your teen's engagement in school, friendships, and family activities beyond just gaming hours. Create Safe Communication Spaces: Have important conversations outside the home or away from gaming devices to ensure openness. Educate Yourself on Games: Learn about the games your teen plays to set realistic expectations and boundaries. Facilitate Smooth Transitions: Allow your teen time to decompress after gaming before switching to other activities.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Game Quitters: A comprehensive resource for parents and teens dealing with gaming issues Cam Adair's TEDx Talk   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Cam Adair Instagram: @GameQuitters Facebook: Game Quitters LinkedIn: Cam Adair X: @GameQuitters YouTube: Game Quitters   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Understanding Gaming Addiction 03:01 The Spectrum of Gaming Behavior 06:00 Identifying Healthy vs. Problematic Gaming 08:58 Finding Balance in Gaming 11:59 Effective Communication with Teens 15:05 Navigating Power Struggles 18:08 Building Family Values Around Gaming 21:09 Collaborative Solutions for Gaming Limits 24:09 Setting Up for Healthy Gaming Habits 26:45 Transitioning from Gaming to Other Activities 30:00 Handling Meltdowns Over Gaming Limits 33:03 Encouraging Exploration Beyond Gaming 36:00 Modeling Healthy Tech Use 38:51 Resources for Parents and Final Thoughts   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #GamingAddiction #TeenParenting

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, college admissions coach Dyllen Nellis reveals the secret to crafting standout college applications—authentic storytelling. Forget obsessing over GPAs—top schools want students who can articulate their core values, intellectual curiosity, and unique experiences. Dyllen shares expert strategies to help your teen write compelling essays, develop passion projects, and stand out in a competitive admissions landscape—without parental hovering.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why authenticity matters more than perfect essays How to help your teen find their unique story The role of passion projects in top college applications The right way to support your teen—without taking over   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Story Over Stats – Grades alone won’t get your teen into top schools. Their story and values matter more. Authenticity Wins – Admissions officers can spot fake or forced narratives. Encourage honesty. Passion Projects Stand Out – Schools want students who create real impact through their interests. Curiosity is Key – Support your teen’s genuine interests instead of pushing “impressive” activities. Guide, Don’t Hover – Give your teen space to explore, make mistakes, and develop their own voice.   ❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share this episode and leave a rating & review. Your support helps other parents find expert advice to help their teens thrive.   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free Masterclass: The Top School Admissions Formula Dyllen’s Website: NextGen Admit   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dyllen Nellis Instagram: @nextgenadmit YouTube: Dyllen Nellis TikTok: @nextgenadmit LinkedIn: Dyllen Nellis   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:00.942) Hey parents, Dr. Cam here. College admissions are no joke, trust me. I'm right in the thick of it with my own teen and it is stressful. And if you're like most parents, you're probably think that the GPA and your test scores are the golden ticket to getting into the top school. But what if I told you they're not the most important things? In this episode, I'm joined by Dyllen Nellis, a college admissions coach and founder of NextGen Admin who helps students craft applications that make them stand out beyond just grades. After getting accepted to every single school she applied to, including Stanford, yes, parents, she now helps students around the world to do the same. So we're gonna talk about the number one thing that gives your teens a competitive edge. You wanna hear it? Keep listening, welcome Dylan.   Dyllen Nellis (00:52.595) Thank you for having me.   Dr. Cam (00:54.698) This is such a hot topic, especially now. I know right now my daughter's waiting back to hear back from school. She's hearing from schools and a lot of juniors are in that like frantic mode of, my gosh, grades, grades, grades, grades, grades, building my resume. Why are you telling us that's not the most important thing?   Dyllen Nellis (01:16.501) Well, I think people are so focused on grades, especially parents, you know, when putting a lot of pressure on their kids to do well in school. That's a very normal thing. And it is important, yes, to have good grades, but they are not the thing that's going to help you stand out at a top school, especially, you know, I know a lot of people are really excited about hopefully getting into a really competitive school. That's what I help people do. And what they have to understand is that the people applying to those schools will have those top grades and top test scores. Maybe not perfect, so you don't have to be ultra perfect in terms of grades and scores. the thing is, it's not going to be like, what's the difference between you and some other kid who has the same exact score? So the stats don't show the admissions officers who you are as a person or what you're going to contribute to their university. And that's what they want to know. So what I teach students is that their superpower is their story and it's their unique core values and how they can effectively articulate them in standout, powerful college essays.   Dr. Cam (02:40.396) Right? So now parents are going, okay, so how do I craft a great story for my teen? How do I make sure my teen has a great story? What do you say to that?   Dyllen Nellis (02:51.143) The first thing they need to do is understand who they are. A lot of students will think, okay, what do I write my college essay about? Let me just pick the worst thing that's ever happened to me and write about that. Or the parents will force something onto them and be like, well, you did that one leadership thing that one time, right? So shouldn't you write about that? I guess. And then a lot of times there's this, like, this force in a way that you try to contrive a narrative that doesn't quite express who they really are. And so that's why I say don't don't just start writing the essay, you have to do all of this work that comes beforehand. And so that work is first really sitting down and reflecting, reflecting on who you are, what makes you unique why do you do the things that you do? I think that's the most important part. Like I will get on a call with a student and they'll tell me they're interested in a certain major. And I'm like, okay, that's awesome. Why? Why are you interested in that? And they freeze and they have no idea what to tell me. And then sometimes they'll answer with like experiences that they had or clubs that they were in or things that they did. And I'm like, no, no, no, no, I'm not asking you what you did. I'm asking you like something much deeper, like what is it about this thing that makes you so excited, that makes you intellectually curious? So those are the questions we have to start asking. And that takes a lot of reflection that I think students at that age are not used to. They're not thinking about what are my values as a person? What's my identity?   Dr. Cam (04:42.606) They're trying to figure it out, they don't know yet.   Dyllen Nellis (04:45.873) Exactly. And especially like, it's really cool once they start to understand this, because when they see the patterns of like, all of my experiences in my life actually line up in a way that made me the way I am today. And that's super cool. And I help them identify those patterns and what the values are that like connect all of their experiences together. And then those values become the themes or their college essay. So that's something that I don't think is talked about enough, or like rarely at all, is that college essay should have a theme. Like every single essay needs to have a different theme and that theme is whatever the core value is or whatever the main lesson or you know, how their mindset shifted, how they grew. That is what the essay needs to focus on. So not entirely about a certain challenge that they went through or a certain experience. It's more about what they learned from it because those values and skills that they gained are the things that they are going to contribute to the university. So then the university is like, oh, that's how you're going to make me look good.   Dr. Cam (05:58.85) Right? I want to work backwards from this. So what you're saying is the essay and even the interviews, like my daughter has a lot of interviews, which I think is a similar thing, where they're asking her who she is, what she's passionate about, why she wants to go to that school. And the challenge that I'm seeing with a lot of the kids I work with is they don't know because a lot of them are going where they're supposed to be going and doing what they're doing because that's what they're told they should be doing. And that's what they, so they don't have an inner passion value, everything else. It's like the bottom line is cause my parents told me, right? So do you hear this? Do you see that answer?   Dyllen Nellis (06:31.146) Yes, and that's honestly the hardest part, like especially if they're a senior in high school, that's when things get really hard because we're trying to like pull from nothing, or not nothing, but like there's not much there. And of course, when I work with a student, I can only work with what is actually inherently there because I care a lot about telling authentic stories. So I think this is a really good point to mention, especially for parents of students who are younger, you know, like younger in high school, freshmen, sophomore year, it's important that they're doing things that they actually care about and that lights them up. Because yeah, as we see later down the line, if they don't have that like inner motivation or passion, then it's really hard to craft stories. I actually have an anecdote of this quite recently I worked with a student, she booked a call with me and she presented me her essay and I was like, okay, cool. Let's look at it. But I could tell something was off about the essay. was about like a leadership experience. But for some reason, the story wasn't quite, it didn't seem real to me in a lot of ways. And it didn't seem like we didn't get to those deeper core values as I've been mentioning. So I started asking her about it and suddenly she starts breaking down and crying in front of me and she's like, you know, I don't know like this wasn't a good experience at all for me. Actually, I didn't learn much and my parents just told me that I should write about this and I don't know what I should do. And I was just like, my gosh, it made me so sad. Honestly, I will say I don't think that students in that case are like a lost cause. We can revitalize it, we can fix it. And that's why it takes someone who can help them realize the amazing qualities that they do have, the amazi

Is your teen struggling in school, but you’re hitting roadblocks trying to get them the support they need? The IEP (Individualized Education Program) process can be overwhelming—especially for minority parents facing additional challenges. In this episode, I sit down with Maria Davis-Pierre, a licensed mental health counselor, autism advocate, and founder of Autism in Black. Maria shares her personal journey navigating the special education system for her neurodivergent children and exposes the hidden biases that often prevent Black and minority children from getting the right diagnosis and accommodations. She also provides practical strategies for parents to advocate effectively, empower their teens, and navigate the IEP process with confidence.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The biggest mistakes parents make when advocating for their child’s IEP—and how to avoid them Why Black and minority children are often mislabeled as behavioral problems instead of receiving proper support How to involve your teen in their IEP process and teach them self-advocacy skills The hidden biases in school support systems that every parent should know about 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Know Your Rights – Understanding the IDEA (Individuals with Disabilities Education Act) is crucial for effective advocacy. Cultural Bias Exists – Many minority children are misdiagnosed or overlooked, making advocacy even more critical. Empower Your Teen – Teens who participate in their own IEP process develop stronger self-advocacy skills for the future. Leverage Their Strengths – Connecting accommodations to your teen’s interests can make learning more engaging. Give Yourself Grace – The IEP process is challenging, but you are your child's best advocate.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Maria Davis-Pierre Website: autisminblack.org Instagram: @autisminblack   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding.   ✅ Follow for expert guidance on parenting teens   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating the IEP Process: A Personal Journey 02:49 Cultural Responsivity in Autism Support 05:52 Advocacy: The Unique Challenges for Minority Parents 09:04 Understanding the Special Education Process 12:00 Identifying Signs of Learning Difficulties in Teens 14:58 Overcoming Stigma: Supporting Teens with IEPs 17:52 Empowering Teens to Advocate for Themselves 20:54 Leveraging Interests for Learning 23:52 Finding Support and Resources 26:53 The Importance of Grace in Parenting   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:00) As a mom who's been through the school IEP process dozens of times at least, I can tell you it's quite overwhelming. Whether it's figuring out the process, understanding what support is available, or just trying to advocate for your teen or help them advocate for themselves, it's a lot. That's why I'm so excited for today's episode. I'm joined by Maria Davis-Pierre, a licensed mental health counselor, autism advocate, and the founder of Autism in Black. Her work has been featured in Forbes, USA Today, PBS and more. Today she's gonna do, give us the insight we need to navigate IEPs with confidence. Welcome Maria.   Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC (00:39) Thank you for having me. I'm so excited.   Dr. Cam (00:42) Me too. So especially as someone that's been through this process a lot, I know that is so challenging. But let's first start with you. Tell us a little bit about you and how you got into just autism and black, especially.   Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC (00:57) Sure. So our story starts with our oldest child, Malia, who is now 12, almost 13, my goodness. And it started when she was about 10 months. I started to see the signs of characteristics of autism in her. And I knew with my experience as a licensed therapist, I was like, we need to get you know, in front of this and my husband who is a internal medicine physician, first he was like, you know, keep that over there with your patients. Don't come over here and diagnose my kid. But we started the process, went to our pediatrician, went to early steps program, which you know, every state has just might not be called early steps. And then eventually went to the pediatric neurologist trying to get this diagnosis for her.   And it ended up with me actually boycotting in the pediatric neurologist office for a week because everybody was agreeing she was autistic, but nobody wanted to give her the official diagnosis because she was young. But we're all agreeing, we know it, we can't get certain services through insurance without this official diagnosis. And now you're saying wait a year and a half when we know she's still gonna be autistic. So boycotted in his office, he gave me the paperwork after a week of seeing him from the he came in to the time he left. And then, you know, started the service process. My colleagues start coming into our house and not understanding cultural responsivity, not understanding that you need to incorporate your client's culture into the work that you do. So it was, they were making it seem like we were resistant when in fact, they just weren't using interventions that were culturally responsive. And in talking to other individuals, we found that this was a norm, that we weren't the only ones experiencing this. So that's how we initially started Autism in Black. And now here we are, many years later with our podcast, our conference, our webinars and trainings. Now I have twins as well. have twins who are also neurodivergent and I got my own diagnosis.   Dr. Cam (02:49) It's a family affair that you have turned into helping everyone else, which I love so much that you take your own story and your own pain and frustration and you help other people with it. And I know, I mean, I just talked to so many people that are so frustrated, not only with the system, but just as you were saying, the diagnoses and knowing what to do and finding people that they relate to and understand. I'm curious too, let's just dig in a little bit. Like what do you see as some of the differences that we may not know? Because I know there's a lot of microaggressions, there's a lot of little things that people are just not aware of that people should be aware of.   Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC (03:52) One, when it comes to Black children in the school system, we are often not categorized as we should be, and we are deemed then a behavioral problem. So we are not even getting to the point to where we can get IUPs and 504s because it's not being seen as this child has a disability. It's more this child has behavior problems, they're bad, they're a bad seed type of thing biases that get in the way of thinking that black people can have disabilities, know, these children have disabilities that need supports in the school system. So that's one of the major factors as we see is that getting to the point to where we have the, can get the supports is a struggle.   Dr. Cam (04:46) Yeah, I think this is such a big thing and I see this across many different cultures, right, where we just, we look at the behavior and we're very quick to make an assumption that there's something behavioral really destructive about them and not that there's a learning need, right, or not that there's neurodivergence and the system's not working for them. I mean, again, I've been through this with my daughter too and it's hard as a parent because you're like, is this just behavior that I should be dealing with or is this something different that they need support that they need? So when you're in that line, even as a parent, you're going, I'm not sure either. How do you know or how do you move forward with just that uncertainty?   Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC (05:16) One, we have to advocate differently than the typical parent who isn't a minority, have to advocate completely different. That means we have to go above and beyond. Like me sitting in that office for a week, you know, to get the paperwork, you know, us constantly staying on the schools, making sure that, you're going through this process, reading the actual paperwork and looking for any of those kind of adjectives that describe our children in a manner that can then hurt them down the line, right? So we have to make sure that we are going above and beyond every step. For any parent in general dealing with special education process, you're advocating in a different manner. You're having to go in there. You add in intersectionality and it just makes that process much, harder. It makes the advocating much, much harder because oftentimes we're not understanding if it's racism or ableism that we're dealing with because they're so intertwined with us. So having to tease that back and know what point we're advocating from is also something that, you know, is a difficult process.   Dr. Cam (06:49) So you're

In this episode, Dr. David Yeager, a psychology professor at the University of Texas, shares groundbreaking insights from his book 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People. He challenges common misconceptions about teen motivation and presents research-based strategies for parents and teachers to encourage teens. Dr. Yeager explains how understanding the teenage brain, using autonomy-supportive language, and practicing "do-overs" can improve communication and motivation.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The science behind motivating teenagers and turning procrastination into action. Why the teenage brain isn't "incompetent" and how it responds to different stimuli than adults. How to use autonomy-supportive language to connect with your teen and boost motivation. The importance of aligning your arguments with your teen’s values. How to use “do-overs” to repair communication breakdowns and strengthen your relationship with your teen.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Motivate by understanding, not controlling: The teenage brain is wired differently but isn’t "broken." Understanding their perspective and values leads to better motivation. Autonomy matters: Teens need to feel in control of their choices, so use autonomy-supportive language to encourage responsibility. Teen emotions are powerful: Harness the intensity of teen emotions instead of fearing them. These emotions can be a source of motivation if managed well. Communication is key: When communication breaks down, practice “do-overs” to repair the situation and strengthen your relationship. Don’t fear the challenges: The struggle to motivate teens is not a sign of failure—it's an opportunity to connect and guide them more effectively.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 10 TO 25, the Science of Motivating Young People by Dr. David Yeager   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction: Unlocking the Science of Motivating Young People 03:41 Understanding the Teenage Brain: A New Perspective 06:27 Motivating Teenagers: The Power of Autonomy Support 14:44 Building Stronger Connections with Teenagers: Practicing Do-Overs   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. David Yeager Website: DavidYeager.com Twitter: @DavidYeager   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01.513) If you're like most parents, motivating your teen to do anything productive can feel like a daily struggle. But what if we could unlock the secret to turning procrastination into action, disinterest into engagement, and resistance into enthusiasm? That’s what we’re going to talk about today. I’m thrilled to be joined by Dr. David Yeager, a professor of psychology at the University of Texas at Austin, renowned for his influential research alongside esteemed colleagues like Carol Dweck, Angela Duckworth, and Greg Walton. In his latest book, 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People, Dr. Yeager dives deep into the science of adolescent motivation. He’s going to share some of his findings with us today. Dr. Yeager, welcome to the show! Dr. David Yeager (00:46.424) Thanks for having me. I was a middle school teacher right out of college, teaching sixth through eighth-grade English at a low-income school. I also taught K through eighth-grade PE, meaning I had seven or eight preps a day. I struggled with all the challenges you can imagine—everything from getting third graders to line up for dodgeball to getting seventh graders to read The Once and Future King and The Outsiders, and turn in essays on time. I felt frustrated by the advice I was given by the scientific community and research, which led me to want to do better research. I’ve spent my career trying to conduct applied research that provides parents and teachers concrete suggestions on what to say (and what not to say) based on rigorous experiments. Dr. Cam (01:49.151) You’ve definitely piqued everyone’s interest. I’m curious, what was the advice you received earlier that didn’t work? Dr. David Yeager (02:02.478) Think back 20 years. The big ideas around motivation for young people were about their traits—some kids are motivated, others aren’t. Some kids are helpless, some are extroverted, others are reserved. Yes, there are individual differences, but that’s not useful for me. I’m not going to give a personality test on the first day of class and say, “Okay, you’re the type who’s just going to sit there doing nothing.” The other advice was abstract and didn’t have experimental backing. It would say things like, “Set a mastery goal” or “Promote intrinsic motivation over extrinsic motivation,” but real life is more nuanced. For example, if someone asked me how to motivate an eight-year-old, I’d say, “I use a lot of Pokemon cards and candy.” With younger kids, you need something to get them over the initial hump. Once they realize success feels good, you can build intrinsic motivation over time. The advice I received was either too simplistic or not useful. I wanted clarity on what to say to make kids more intrinsically motivated or persistent, and that’s what we’ve focused on in our randomized experiments. Dr. Cam (03:41.47) I love this and can’t wait to hear more. Let’s talk quickly about why it feels so hard to motivate our teenagers in the first place. Dr. David Yeager (03:53.74) A traditional narrative is that something’s wrong with this generation—brainwashed by phones, distracted by political unrest, and so on. While there are differences compared to when we were growing up, I think a lot of the complaints are overstated. For example, think about how much more attention we can give now with technology—like when you’re driving, you don’t have to worry about getting lost because you have Google Maps. We used to spend so much time with physical maps or printing out directions from MapQuest, hoping the printer worked. Sure, there are distractions now, but we wasted a lot of time in the past, too. Dr. Cam (04:30.849) Thank God for that! I remember getting lost a lot more. Dr. David Yeager (04:51.212) Right? I think a lot of what’s happening now is a net even. Older generations have always complained about younger ones—this goes back to Aristotle and Plato. What I want to focus on is the timeless aspects of the adolescent brain that haven’t changed over the course of hundreds of thousands of years, and how they respond to cultural and technological shifts. Fundamentally, young people’s brains, from the onset of puberty, start craving experiences of status. The feeling of earning a prestigious reputation in the eyes of someone they care about has never felt as good as it does during puberty. On the flip side, the humiliation of being rejected or failing publicly at something important never feels worse. Given the intensity of these emotions, we as parents can’t just tell kids to “get over it.” We have to understand it and figure out how to harness it. Dr. Cam (06:26.913) I love this because it speaks to how parents often say, “Well, this is how I was raised, and it worked for me.” But 20 years ago, we didn’t know nearly as much as we know now about the brain and teen development. We know so much more now that can help us avoid some of the trauma many adults are still recovering from. If we can prevent that, why wouldn’t we? Let’s talk about the teen brain. I’m with you—evolution doesn’t change that quickly. The world around teens today has changed drastically, and they’re doing the best they can in this world we’ve created. Dr. David Yeager (07:42.146) The most important thing to keep in mind is that there are different metaphors for what the teenage brain is doing. The metaphor we choose shapes how we deal with it. One common view is that young people are neurobiologically incompetent—that the moment puberty strikes, they get a “frontal lobotomy,” can’t plan ahead, can’t reason logically, are short-sighted, impulsive, and selfish. That view goes back to Plato’s Phaedrus, where young people were compared to unruly horses needing to be controlled by a charioteer. Neuroscientists have used this view, partly because it has served as a convenient legal argument for youth offenders. It’s true that kids don’t always think about the lifelong consequences of their actions, but that doesn’t mean they aren’t thinking. They’re just thinking about different things, not long-term self-interest. The updated view is a neurobiological competence model. Teens are really good at some things—just not what adults expect. The teenage brain is like the R&D engine for our culture. As society and technology change, teens have to adapt quickly and figure out how to succeed in our world—and they do this far faster than adults. What adults may see as a short attention span is often the brain at the frontier of innovation. Think about it: The same adults who complain about kids loitering at the mall might be served by an excellent 16-year-old waiter without even noticing. The teenage brain is paying attention to different things, and once we understand what those things are, we can communicate more effectively, inspiring independence and motivation in young people. Dr. Cam (10:46.249): That’s fantastic. It’s so true. Their priorities are different from ours, but that doesn’t make them wro

In this episode, former CNN anchor Carl Azuz joins Dr. Cam to explore how to teach teens media literacy and critical thinking in today's news-driven world. Carl shares strategies for helping teens navigate bias, develop independent opinions, and manage anxiety caused by negative news. They discuss the importance of fostering open conversations, promoting respectful discourse, and exposing teens to diverse perspectives to encourage empathy and tolerance. Learn how to help your teen separate fact from opinion, engage in thoughtful discussions, and gain a broader understanding of the world around them.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to teach your teen to fact-check and recognize bias in media The impact of the news on teen anxiety and how to alleviate it Why open, respectful conversations about tough topics are vital The importance of exposing your teen to multiple perspectives to broaden their views How to shift the focus from negative news to solutions and positive stories   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Teach teens to seek information from multiple sources to avoid bias and develop critical thinking. Engage in open conversations, modeling respectful discussions and encouraging them to form their own opinions. Highlight positive stories and solutions to counteract anxiety from negative news. Expose teens to a variety of news topics and perspectives to foster empathy and understanding. Focus on starting with the facts, then exploring different perspectives without bias.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫  🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution—packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The World from A to Z with Carl Azuz   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 - Introduction and Carl Azuz’s Background 03:02 - Teaching Media Literacy & Critical Thinking 08:00 - Navigating Bias & Multiple Perspectives 13:04 - Open Conversations & Respectful Behavior 18:08 - Alleviating Anxiety & Fear in Teens 23:46 - Widening World Perspectives & Fostering Gratitude   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Carl Azuz Website: www.theworldfromatoz.com X (Twitter): @CarlAzuzCNN   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:02.039) Are your teens overwhelmed by today's chaotic news cycle? Do you wonder how to help them separate fact from opinion in a world full of bias? Today, we've got Carl Azuz, former CNN 10 anchor and new creator of the world from A to Z. Here to share how we can teach our teens media literacy, civil discourse, and critical thinking. So let's dive in. Carl, welcome to the show.   Carl Azuz (00:26.594) Hey, it's fantastic being here with you, Dr. Cam. Thank you for having me on.   Dr. Cam (00:30.161) Absolutely. let's start. You were on CNN for a while and then you have started the world from A to Z. Can you tell us a little bit about that first and how did that become in how did that come into reality?   Carl Azuz (00:43.022) Absolutely, I had spent my entire career at CNN up until about the fall of 2022. I was gonna say October is probably around September, October of 2022. I was recruited to work there right out of college. I'd studied video and film production, not specifically broadcast news, though the University of Georgia had a strong broadcast news major you could focus on. But CNN was recruiting.   And I went for it because I'd been familiar with the network. I'd watched at home as I was growing up and everything. And I'd started at the very entry level two days after I graduated college. In fact, Ted Turner, who founded CNN, spoke at my college graduation coincidentally, and I didn't attend it because I was moving back to Atlanta to work for that man two days later. So that was like my little Ted Turner story, but everybody had one in those days. that was up.   Dr. Cam (01:32.621) that's funny.   Carl Azuz (01:38.126) You know, that was my career. I got on the air there and spent about 15 years on the air hosting CNN student news. It rebranded to CNN 10 around 2017. Then left the network in the fall of 2022. I freelanced for a year working with Sunlight Homeschool Curriculum, working with the Poynter Institute as a media ambassador, media literacy being my focus and did some public speaking. And then in the fall of 23, we launched the world from A to Z. And it's such an exciting thing because   We are independently produced. We are able to cover the news. can cover whatever's happening, whatever the story of the day might be, whether it's here or abroad. We want it to be very international, because after all, it's the world from A to Z. But we are able to do that without any sort of partisan bias. And that's really my priority when covering anything controversial, anything political. I don't want the show to lean to the left or the right.   I'm not saying I'm perfect, but is my intention to be as perfect as we can in, know, treating multiple viewpoints the same way without prioritizing one side over the other, especially when it comes to politics.   Dr. Cam (02:49.543) imagine that's incredibly hard right now because everything is so completely at opposite ends. So how do you even do that? Where do you find middle ground? I don't even know where it is anymore.   Carl Azuz (03:03.566) It's a challenge and I'm grateful to have had, you know, so many years of experience when I was training to write. I remember I had a really good piece of advice. and this was, this is many years ago. This is before I was even on the air, but I remember that there was an executive who sat down with us and said, don't just make sure every story is balanced. Make sure they're weighted the same. If you give a minute, 20 seconds to one political party and 15 seconds to the other, you could argue that you had balance. had multiple perspectives.but you're not weighting them the same. And so in those days, the priority was to have balance and weight. And so those are things I look for, but you, I mean, you hit the nail on the head. I mean, these are incredibly divided times and you know, folks in media, and this isn't a knock on any one network. This is media wide. People are increasingly telling news through blue or red tinted glasses. And so for us, you're right, it is a challenge. It is more challenging to write. today than it was when I started in news because so much of this information is either one sided or it's favoring one political partisan viewpoint over another. And so for me, it's like, well, look, I have an audience of students. I don't assume they watch the news every day. So my first thing is what are the facts? Just glean the facts. What happened? Is there a new law? What is it? What does it say? And then after you've established what's going on, why people care about it, why it's making news, then we can get into the different perspectives if there's time to talk about, okay, well, this is why supporters of this new law say it's gonna be great. This is why opponents of this new law say it's gonna be awful. But to try to do that in a way that doesn't land on one side or the other, so often, if we're doing a story that has a political, if it's politically charged, if on Monday we cover this story and I say, well, Democrats say this, Republicans say this,   If we revisit that on Wednesday or Thursday, I'll flip the order so that no one party always has the last word. So they're all part of the strategies to start first with the facts, then get into different perspectives, but do so in a way that, look, I don't want people to think I'm leaning one way or another. The only way I can get our audience to trust this show and to back up what we say when we say we're nonpartisan is to make sure we're representing those different viewpoints in a way that doesn't favor one.   Dr. Cam (05:03.511) I think one of the things that's really hard too is we as adults and as parents have a very polarized view at this point, even if we think we're, I think I'm in the middle. I think I'm rational, but I know I'm not, right? I know for a fact that there's no way I am, right? You kind of pick your side, I guess. I feel like everything has a side, but then what you consume and how you consume it all is done in a way that's towards what you already believe. It's not something where we're open to understanding other sides, right? There's a big issue with that. So how is parents, when we are, even if we want to admit it or not, when we're biased, how do we teach our kids critical thinking and to come up with their own opinions, which again, I think is really hard for parents because they want their kids to have their opinions. There was a lot in there.  How do we teach our kids to think for themselves in a situation where it's very difficult to think for ourselves?   Carl Azuz (06:34.338) Well, I don't think there's, personally don't think there's something wrong in a parent sharing, you know, his or her opinion with the child. But that said, when it comes to media literacy, I always encourage our audience to have multiple sources and multiple credible sources. If you go to social media, you look at TikTok and Instagram, some of these folks are very gifted. Some of them, you know, could be journalists or reporters, but there are a lot of people, because anyone can say anything at any time on social media, there are a lot of people who are just, holding up a phone and spouting off a bunch of opinions or maybe some facts that line up on one side of an argument, but ignore the other. And t

Is your high-achieving teen secretly battling self-doubt? 😔 Mental health expert Jason Phillips joins Dr. Cam—The Teen Translator—in this powerful episode to decode the hidden struggles of perfectionist teens. Learn how to support your teen without adding pressure, embrace failure as growth, and balance achievement with well-being. Get actionable strategies to build their confidence and foster a positive self-perception, as Jason and Dr. Cam unpack self-doubt, academic pressure, burnout, and teen anxiety.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why embracing failure might be the best thing you can do for your teen’s growth. How you can support your teen’s drive for success without adding to their stress. What role parents play in teaching healthy self-care and boundaries to their teens.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Failure is a Key Part of Growth: Allowing teens to experience failure in a supportive environment helps build resilience and emotional strength. Model Healthy Boundaries: Parents need to show their teens how to balance work and rest to prevent burnout and foster healthy habits. Validate, Don’t Solve: Instead of offering solutions right away, parents should listen and validate their teen’s feelings, which builds trust and connection. Give Teens Agency: Empowering teens by encouraging them to make decisions and advocate for themselves promotes independence and self-confidence. Maintain Your Own Identity: Parents should avoid losing themselves in their role as caregivers and should continue pursuing their own interests and well-being for a healthy family dynamic.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫  🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution—packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free Confidence Guide: stepstoconfidence.com Podcast: Peace and Prosperity Podcast (available on Apple, Spotify, and other podcast platforms)   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Jason Phillips, LCSW Website: jasonlphillips.com Instagram: @JPhillipsMSW   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   EPISODE CHAPTERS:  00:00 Understanding Self-Doubt in High-Achieving Teens 05:09 The Role of Failure in Teen Growth and Resilience 10:38 Balancing Achievement, Rest, and Mental Health for Teens 15:06 Building Teen Confidence and Self-Worth: Practical Strategies 20:11 The Pressure on High-Achieving Parents and Its Impact on Teens 25:34 Navigating Parental Involvement in High-Achieving Teens’ Lives 30:20 Modeling Healthy Behaviors for Teens: Leading by Example 35:39 Encouraging Positive Self-Perception and Self-Esteem in Teens   About the Show: The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam: Welcome back, parents! Today, we're diving into how to support high-achieving teens through self-doubt and burnout. Many teens push themselves to the limit but still feel like they aren't measuring up, even though their parents see their amazing potential. It's frustrating when parents try to help, but their words seem to have the opposite effect. To help us unpack this, I’ve invited Jason Phillips, a therapist and mental health expert who specializes in guiding high achievers to overcome self-doubt and build real confidence. Jason has worked with Fortune 500 companies, law firms, and universities, and today he’s here to help us understand how to support our teens through perfectionism. Welcome, Jason! Jason Phillips: Thanks for having me, Dr. Cam. I'm excited to have this conversation! Dr. Cam: So, Jason, tell us about your journey. How did you end up focusing on helping high achievers? Jason Phillips: It really happened organically. After graduating from the University of Michigan, I worked with military populations at the Ann Arbor VA and later served as the clinic chief at Fort Bragg. Over time, I noticed that corporate executives and leaders were drawn to my approach because I specialize in helping them overcome anxiety. That led me to helping high achievers break free from self-doubt and build confidence. Dr. Cam: That’s amazing. It’s so ironic that high achievers often struggle with self-doubt. From the outside, they seem so confident, yet many of them are riddled with anxiety. I see this a lot with the teens I work with, too. They’re getting straight A’s and excelling, but they still feel like they’re not enough. Their parents tell me that no matter how much they express their love and support, it doesn’t seem to help. So, where do you think this drive for achievement comes from? Jason Phillips: A lot of it comes from external pressures—parents, teachers, peers. I can relate to that pressure myself. I was a high achiever growing up, constantly pushed to excel. While straight A's were celebrated, they came with their own anxiety, because I felt like I couldn’t ever drop below that standard. External pressures, even from well-meaning sources like teachers and family, can make teens feel like they have to be perfect. That’s often where the self-doubt begins. Dr. Cam: That’s such an important point. Parents want to encourage their teens and help them live up to their potential, but the way they say things can sometimes have the opposite effect. How can parents motivate their teens without adding pressure? Jason Phillips: The key is to make room for failure. When we constantly tell our teens how great they are, they might think anything less than perfection means they’re failing. Allowing them to fail is essential, as it helps them see that mistakes are just part of the learning process. They need to understand that not being perfect doesn’t mean they’re not enough. Dr. Cam: I love that. It’s one thing to allow failure, but I try to encourage my teen to embrace it. The idea is that failing at something difficult means you’re pushing beyond your comfort zone, which is where true growth happens. So, it’s not about being perfect; it’s about challenging yourself and learning from those challenges. What do you think about that approach? Jason Phillips: Absolutely. Embracing failure is one of the best ways to help teens develop resilience. By pushing themselves outside their comfort zone, they’ll encounter setbacks, but that’s where growth truly occurs. It’s about focusing on what you tried, not just whether you succeeded or failed. Dr. Cam: Exactly! And that mindset shift can make all the difference. Thanks so much for sharing this insight, Jason. It’s such a helpful perspective for parents trying to support their teens. Jason Phillips: I don't know if you're into exercise or weightlifting, Dr. Cam, but there's this term where you'll ask, how many reps are we doing? Ten, twenty? And sometimes it's until failure, which means pushing yourself until you can't anymore. Jason Phillips: Because we know that's when the growth happens. It's not in staying in a comfort zone. I want you to push yourself to failure until you just can't do anymore. Jason Phillips: And then we've got kids who are constantly pushing themselves and never feel like it's enough. How do we balance that, where it's okay to be just okay and not amazing at everything? How do we communicate that without making them feel like we just think they're okay? Jason Phillips: It goes back to balance. As much as we want to push to failure, we also need time for rest. We can't just go, go, go, or we'll get exhausted and burned out. We need to carve out time to relax, watch TV, play video games, or sleep in. Jason Phillips: Make sure you're not just filling your calendar with things you have to do. You can put so much on there and never feel done. Dr. Cam: I want to emphasize that because I see a lot of parents who don't understand why their kids feel that way, but when you look at their schedules, they're packed. Every time the kids try to relax or scroll through TikTok, they hear, "You're being unproductive." Dr. Cam: You can't do that. If you have time for that, you have time for this. You should be doing this, doing that. We have this belief that we need to be productive 24/7, and that’s exhausting. It leads to burnout. We need to prioritize sleeping in and taking naps. Why is that so hard for us to prioritize? Jason Phillips: For high achievers, it’s almost like feeling guilty—what am I missing or not doing? You're good at so many things, but just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. We need to incorporate rest, too. Parents need to be mindful and let kids pick a couple of things, but not everything. Jason Phillips: Parents really have to model that same confidence and boundaries. If mom and dad are constantly stretched thin, saying yes to everything, how can we expect our kids to do otherwise? When we model it, it's much easier for them to follow. Dr. Cam: Yeah, modeling

In this heartfelt and insightful episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and host of the "Just Breathe" podcast, to discuss the journey of parenting an LGBTQ+ teen. Heather shares her personal experience with her son Connor’s coming out at 16 and how it inspired her mission to support parents of LGBTQ+ teens. In this conversation, Heather offers valuable advice on how to navigate your emotions, avoid common pitfalls, and create a safe, inclusive space for your teen.   What You'll Learn in This Episode: Why your LGBTQ+ teen is often already sure of their identity when they come out—and what that means for you as a parent. The #1 question you should never ask your LGBTQ+ teen (and what to ask instead). How to support your LGBTQ+ teen through their coming out journey without unintentionally causing harm. Why your teen’s social media activity isn’t “influencing” their identity, but rather helping them find community and support. The importance of processing your own emotions with trusted friends or professionals, rather than relying on your teen for emotional support.   Top 5 Takeaways for Parents of Teens The most important thing parents can do is provide unconditional love and support, making home a safe space for their LGBTQ+ teen. Parents should process their own emotions and questions with professionals or trusted friends, not with their child. Social media isn't "influencing" teens to be LGBTQ+; it's helping them find community and understand themselves better. When you make mistakes (like using wrong pronouns), acknowledge them simply and move on without making a big deal about it. Focus on who your child is as a whole person rather than fixating on their LGBTQ+ identity   Enjoying the Show? Help others discover this episode by leaving a rating and review! Your feedback means the world to me and allows us to bring even more valuable insights to parents like you. Don’t forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫    Resources Mentioned in This Episode: Podcast: Just Breathe, Parenting Your LGBTQ Teen (available on all podcast platforms) PFLAG: https://pflag.org/ Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ GLAAD: https://glaad.org/ Connect with the Guest: Heather Hester: Website: https://chrysalismama.com Instagram: @chrysalismama TikTok: @chrysalismama   Connect with the host: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   About the Show: The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam   Chapters 00:00 Navigating the Challenges of Raising LGBTQ+ Teens 02:59 The Journey of Acceptance and Support 05:58 Understanding the Coming Out Process 09:05 The Importance of Unconditional Love 12:02 Addressing Parental Concerns and Misconceptions 15:03 The Role of Social Media in Identity Formation 17:51 Creating a Safe Space for LGBTQ+ Teens 21:03 The Path to Resilience and Acceptance 22:54 The Importance of Self-Education 25:04 Navigating Identity and Relationships 28:50 Understanding Loss and Expectations 30:32 Fluidity in Identity 33:14 Challenging Social Norms 36:01 Embracing Authenticity 39:12 Letting Go of Control 42:17 Supporting Resilience   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:02.402) Welcome back, parents. Raising a teen is tough, but raising an LGBTQ+ teen comes with its own unique challenges. How do you create a safe, supportive space where your teen feels seen, heard, and empowered? Today, I'm joined by Heather Hester, founder of Chrysalis Mama and host of the Just Breathe podcast. With two LGBTQ+ kids of her own, Heather understands the importance of showing up with love, unlearning bias, and embracing the messy journey of parenting with pride. Hi, Heather. Heather Hester (00:44.509) Hi, it's great to be here. Thank you for having me. Dr. Cam (00:47.016) Of course! I love starting with a backstory. What inspired you to support parents of LGBTQ+ children? Heather Hester (01:03.539) The short answer is having one, then two of my own. When my first came out, it was eight years ago—time flies. He was 16, the oldest of four, and we had no idea it was coming. The first 18 months were really rocky for him and for us. We struggled to find resources and support. Once we got through that, I realized that there were thousands of other families going through the same thing. I had to do something about it. So, I started a website to share the resources I found, like PFLAG, the Trevor Project, GLAAD, and others. From there, it grew. When he graduated and was about to go to college, I thought starting a podcast might help reach more people, and it’s been such a rewarding experience. Dr. Cam (03:14.955) That's amazing. Heather Hester (03:26.227) The podcast has allowed me to connect people with wisdom to an audience of parents and allies hungry for information. Dr. Cam (03:42.338) I love that. Turning your story into help for others is so powerful. What went through your mind when your son first came out? Heather Hester (03:57.507) It was a defining moment. My son came out in a dramatic way, running away while my husband and I were out of town. It was terrifying. I had been raised in a very conservative Christian home, so my initial reaction was, "There's no way my child is going to hell." That led to the realization that I had a lot to learn. The first thing my husband and I did was ask, "What does he need from us?" We had no idea where to begin. The first 30 minutes were a blur, and we realized we were completely underprepared. Dr. Cam (05:55.096) What advice can you offer parents just starting on this journey? Heather Hester (06:15.399) We tend to overcomplicate things, but the most important thing is to show your child unconditional love. They need to know we’ve got their back no matter what. Everything else comes from that space. Heather Hester (she/her) (15:03.131) Yes, that’s a very common concern. I have two thoughts on that. First, it’s great that our kids now have access to find their people. When we were growing up, the reason many of our peers didn’t come out was because they didn’t know where to find others like them. They didn’t know who was safe to talk to or come out to. Now, with social media, they have that access. Dr. Cam (15:38.51) All those connections. Heather Hester (she/her) (15:38.51) Exactly. It can be a double-edged sword, though. Yes, social media has its dangers, but this access allows kids to find the communities they need. It helps them connect with others who understand their experience, even if those connections are online at first. Dr. Cam (15:56.036) Right, and I think that fear parents have of social media influencing their child to "join a trend" is more rooted in a misunderstanding. It’s not about jumping on a bandwagon—it’s about their child coming to terms with who they’ve always been, just having the words or the space to express it now. Heather Hester (16:14.001) Yes, exactly. And it’s important to remember that when a child comes out, they’ve often been thinking about it for a long time. They’ve already processed it in ways we may not have been aware of. And when they finally open up, they’re not looking for validation or attention—they just want to be seen for who they truly are. Dr. Cam (16:28.365) Right. The idea of this being a "phase" can be damaging. It diminishes their experience and makes them question themselves. That’s why it’s so crucial for parents to approach this with openness, trust, and patience. Heather Hester (16:42.303) Exactly. The last thing they need is for us to minimize their experience. They’re already dealing with a lot, and our job is to support them, not make them feel like they have to prove themselves our kids are able to find community and they are able to look at others and say, like they see representation, they see themselves and they're like, that's how I feel on the inside. Like I'm not alone in feeling that way. And so it's very validating for who they are and it helps give them the courage then to come out to you, right? To come to you and say, this is who I am, right? I had another thought on that and now it's going away. I'll have to circle back to that.   Dr. Cam (16:35.182) One thing as you, yeah, one thing when you're thinking about that too, and I think we find, I actually think that's a bigger plus of the social media talking to teens. A lot of them have found that that has actually saved their lives because they have found community and support where they can't find it in real life. The other thing is from what I hear too is that it's not that they come to them and change their mind. It's that they find the people that they relate to and then explain who they are. And that's why they're drawn. So parents see it as a cause this way. And really it's a cause of I'm finding you because I already feel this way. And now you're explaining to me how I feel and showing that I'm not alone and that there's others like me. And so you're not changing me. You're helping me accept me. And that's what I see a lot. Heather Hester (17:05

In this powerful episode, Dr. Cam and Jamie Edelbrock explore the challenges of parenting teens, from managing anxiety and depression to overcoming parental guilt. Jamie shares her personal journey of advocating for her child, building trust, and embracing the power of connection over control. Discover practical strategies for balancing guidance with independence, prioritizing your own well-being, and creating a safe space for your teen to be their authentic self. This is the essential conversation every parent of a teenager needs to hear!   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to navigate your teen’s mental health struggles – Tips on addressing anxiety, depression, and the importance of support systems. The importance of building trust and communication – How to foster an open and trusting relationship with your teen. How to balance control and independence – Why letting go and empowering your teen is crucial for their emotional growth. The significance of self-care for parents – How focusing on your own well-being helps you better support your teen. Creating a safe space for your teen to be their authentic self – The power of authenticity in building a healthier relationship with your child.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Mental health challenges are not anyone's fault – Recognize that mental health struggles affect teens across all backgrounds, and it's essential not to blame yourself or your child. Parenting is about balance – Sometimes saying "yes" more often helps create a foundation of trust, making the necessary “no’s” more respected. Self-care is non-negotiable for parents – Taking care of your own mental health equips you to better support your teen. Empower your teen with autonomy – Give your teen the space to make decisions and take ownership of their actions, fostering independence. Worrying less about the future helps you enjoy the present – Instead of constantly stressing about your teen’s future, focus on building a positive, supportive relationship in the present moment.   ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family!    RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline If you're in crisis or need support, call or text 988 for confidential help. Available 24/7. Psychology Today Therapy Directory: www.psychologytoday.com/ Search for licensed mental health professionals, including therapists, counselors, and psychiatrists near you. National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI): www.nami.org/ NAMI provides a range of resources for mental health services and local support groups. Jamie's Books: Tangled Up: A heartfelt exploration of mental health struggles and the path to healing, designed to inspire families to stay connected during difficult times. Be the Sparkle: A guide for parents, offering practical strategies to help children feel empowered and spark their own resilience. The Adventure of Little Selfie: A children’s book that encourages self-love and mindfulness in young readers.   EPISODE CHAPTERS:  00:00 Introduction to Mental Health Advocacy for Parents 02:58 Personal Experiences with Teen Anxiety and Depression 05:59 Navigating Parental Guilt and Finding Support in Parenting 09:04 Building Trust and Effective Communication with Teens 11:51 Why Letting Go Is Crucial for Parenting Teenagers 15:00 Finding Joy and Fulfillment in Parenting Teens 18:02 Balancing Teen Freedom with Parental Responsibility 21:04 The Impact of Worry on Parent-Teen Relationships 24:00 Encouraging Authenticity and Self-Expression in Your Child 26:49 Trusting the Parenting Process and Letting Go of Perfection 30:49 Building Strong, Supportive Relationships with Your Teen 36:44 The Importance of Parental Self-Care for Mental Health 42:41 Empowering Your Teen Through Autonomy and Independence 48:56 The Power of Connection Over Control in Parenting Teens 55:57 Embracing Imperfection in Parenting Teenagers   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Jamie Edelbrock Website: www.jamieedelbrock.com Instagram: @tangledupbook Twitter: @TangledUpBook   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:02.259): Welcome back, parents. Today, I’m excited to speak with an amazing author, mental health advocate, and a dear friend of mine, Jamie Edelbrock. Jamie was my very first podcast guest back in 2019, pre-pandemic. We were both stepping into new chapters of our lives, feeling scared but ready to take the leap. Since then, Jamie, you’ve become a powerhouse advocate for children's mental health. You’ve published three award-winning children's books: Tangled Up, Be the Sparkle, and You and Me, The Adventure of Little Selfie. And on top of that, you’ve been raising your three teen daughters. So, let’s get started. What have you been up to? It’s been forever. Jamie Edelbrock (00:43.342): It’s been a ride. We lived overseas in Indonesia for several years. My kids grew up there, and that’s affected their mental health in ways I’ve learned so much from. I’ve become a strong advocate for mental health, focusing on anxiety, depression, LGBTQ issues, and autism. One of my kids was diagnosed with autism and ADHD, and now I’m working to become an RBT, doing one-on-one work with kids and families in ABA therapy. It’s been an adventure. Dr. Cam (01:50.053): The one thing I love about you, Jamie, is that whenever you face a challenge, you don’t just ask, "How do I survive this?" You think, "How can I become an advocate for this?" You embrace it, learn from it, and then help others. That’s so inspiring. Jamie Edelbrock (02:04.65): Yes. Dr. Cam (02:18.843): It’s amazing. You keep getting new challenges, and you handle them with such grace. How has your advocacy evolved over time? Jamie Edelbrock (02:31.725): Something I wanted to talk about today is a story I haven’t shared much. It’s about my daughter and her struggles with anxiety, depression, and suicide. She gave me permission to talk about it. She went through a very tough time in Indonesia, and as parents, we thought, "Why would they be depressed? Why would they be anxious?" But I’ve learned that anxiety and depression don’t discriminate. It doesn’t matter where you come from or what kind of life you lead—it can affect anyone. Dr. Cam (03:12.809): It’s so true. Jamie Edelbrock (03:37.718): We ended up leaving Jakarta early to get her the help she needed because the right mental health resources weren’t available there. I didn’t get to see my oldest graduate high school, and there were a lot of sacrifices. But the most important thing was getting her the help she needed. Dr. Cam (03:51.806): I’m glad you were able to get her the support she needed. Jamie Edelbrock (04:07.102): When we returned to the States, my daughter’s depression deepened. She ended up in the hospital, and she had to stay away from us for a while to get the help she needed. There’s nothing that prepares you for hearing your child say, "I want to die," or having them say, "She has to stay here and you can’t come get her." That experience was incredibly difficult, but it’s something every parent should know about—how to cope with that as a family. Dr. Cam (04:45.343): That’s so hard to imagine. Jamie Edelbrock (05:01.482): And it’s something I want to talk about because, as we’ve seen, anxiety and depression don’t discriminate. There’s no way to predict it. No matter how great your child’s life is, it can still happen. We’ve also dealt with suicide loss. My oldest lost a friend to suicide in 2020, and she ended up saving her best friend’s life from suicide in 2024. These experiences, though tragic, have deeply impacted us, but they’ve also shown me how crucial mental health advocacy is. Nothing prepares you for the weight of it when it’s your own child. Dr. Cam (05:44.549)  You spend your life advocating for mental health, focused on your children's mental health, yet you're not able to escape it. Parents feel guilty, shameful, like they're failing. But you're evidence that no matter what you do, We can't always avoid it. So what did you go through processing it as a mom? Jamie Edelbrock (06:22.614)  Automatically I thought, I'm doing something wrong. I know all the tips, tools, tricks. She has a good life. We have this set up for her to succeed. I'm doing something wrong. Then I started going back, mom guilt. Maybe I shouldn't have yelled, or done this. That's not the case. I think the first thing besides getting her immediate professional help was getting myself help and professional help and realizing that it's not my fault. I've learned that through therapy. It can be environmental, but it's usually brain chemicals. It runs in our family. While thinking, "what did I do wrong?" I talked to my aunt and learned it runs deep. That was an important key. It's not my fault. Getting her help says you're doing something right. We halted our world, got her what she needed, and got the help I needed. Then I started researching, knowing it's literally her brain chemicals. It's literally how her body and brain are working and something isn't right there. So realizing it's not our fault. We made changes in our lifestyle to help her and us. Dr. Cam (08:42.815)  My heart goes out to you. Parents start parenting from fear. They want to prevent their child from going through something, or they don't want anything to happen on their watch. They become hyper-vigilant, constantly asking, "are you okay?" Kids s

In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by parenting coaches Kyle and Sarah Wester to explore the challenges of co-parenting and the conflicts that arise from differing parenting styles. They dive into the importance of communication, understanding, and personal accountability, offering real-world strategies for resolving conflicts and strengthening family dynamics. The Westers share personal experiences on how external voices can facilitate change and how intentional conversations can lead to a more connected and harmonious parenting approach.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The hidden reason parenting conflicts escalate—and how to stop it Why your past shapes your parenting style (without you realizing it) The single most powerful shift that improves co-parenting communication How to stop blaming each other and start working as a team The surprising way external perspectives can transform your parenting approach   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Parenting conflicts often stem from unconscious beliefs and past experiences Open and honest communication is crucial to resolving disagreements Setting shared parenting goals creates a more unified approach Kids often feel responsible for their parents’ conflicts—without realizing it Taking personal accountability leads to positive change in family dynamics     🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Help other parents find the support they need! 🚀 Share your favorite episode, leave a rating and review, and let me know what topics you’d love to hear next. Your feedback fuels more practical, insightful episodes just for you! 🙌 🔔 Hit Follow so you never miss a solution-packed episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE FREE WORKBOOK: Parenting Together: artofraisinghumans.com/together    EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating Parenting Conflicts 04:37 Understanding Parenting Styles and Backgrounds 10:44 The Importance of Openness in Communication 16:02 The Role of External Voices in Parenting 18:43 Setting Goals for Parenting 23:20 Taking Accountability in Parenting 24:50 The Role of Encouragement in Parenting 27:00 Understanding Parental Roles and Expectations 29:40 Modeling Behavior: The Impact on Children 31:12 Navigating Conflicts and Differences in Parenting 33:41 The Importance of Open Communication 35:20 Taking Responsibility for Parenting Styles 36:38 Empowering Parents to Change 39:20 Overcoming Blame in Parenting 41:25 The Power of Personal Accountability 43:28 Embracing Change and Growth in Parenting   CONNECT WITH THE GUESTS: The Westers Website: Artofraisinghumans.com Facebook: @artofraisinghumans Instagram: @artofraisinghumans YouTube: @artofraisinghumans   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01) Hey, welcome back, parents. I'm looking forward to today's conversation because we're tackling a common challenge—getting on the same page as your spouse or co-parent. I talk to so many couples who have completely different approaches to discipline and communication, which, as you can imagine, creates resentment, frustration, and conflict—not just between the parents, but for their kids too. Today, I'm excited to introduce my guests, Kyle and Sarah Wester. They are licensed professional counselors, parenting coaches, and the founders of Art of Raising Humans, a podcast dedicated to parenting. They also have three preteens and teens, so they don’t just teach it—they live it. Welcome, Kyle and Sarah! Kyle and Sarah Wester (00:52) Thank you so much for having us! Dr. Cam (00:59) We love your dynamic. Tell us a little about how you got started with your podcast and The Art of Raising Humans. Kyle and Sarah Wester (01:07) Well, it really started with Sarah. She has an incredible way of helping kids and parents, and I was the one working with families daily in private practice here in Tulsa, Oklahoma. When I’d hit a wall with a parent, I’d come home, ask Sarah for advice, and she’d offer these brilliant insights. I’d take her suggestions back to my clients, and they’d say, "That was amazing! How did you come up with that?" Eventually, I started getting invited to speak at churches, schools, and events. I wanted Sarah to be part of it, but every time we tried speaking together, it was tricky—we kept stepping on each other’s words. That’s when I had the idea to start a podcast. We decided to record in our master closet, thinking, "Why not? Let's figure this out." Sarah Wester (02:03) It was a challenge at first because Kyle is so much more extroverted than I am, but we both have years of experience working with families in different ways. Our goal was to share our knowledge and support families in building stronger, more connected relationships. We also noticed that parenting conflicts were damaging relationships between couples. Parents were approaching situations differently, which makes sense because they’re different people. But instead of seeing these differences as opportunities to grow, they became sources of tension. We even struggled with this in our own parenting—questioning each other’s choices and feeling frustrated. Dr. Cam (03:08) Wait, you don’t have it all figured out perfectly? Kyle and Sarah Wester (03:24) Not at all! And it’s tough for kids too. No child wants their parents fighting over them. But so often, kids in therapy feel like they’re the problem because their parents are constantly arguing about how to handle them. Dr. Cam (04:13) I see that all the time—kids feeling responsible for their parents' conflicts. Opposites may attract, but when parents have opposite approaches to parenting, it doesn’t go well for anyone. I often feel like I’m doing marriage counseling rather than parent coaching! Kyle and Sarah Wester (04:19) Exactly. Every parent brings their own personality, upbringing, and automatic parenting habits into the mix—many of which are deeply ingrained from childhood. Often, parents don’t even realize how much of their parenting is on autopilot until conflict arises. This can create confusion for kids. They learn which parent will say yes and which will say no, which can lead to frustration and inconsistency. The household tension builds, and by the time kids are teens, patterns are already set. Teenagers are smart—they learn the "dance." They know how each parent will react and adjust accordingly. Parents often feel manipulated, but really, their kids are just figuring out the system. If they know Mom is more lenient about certain things, they go to her instead of Dad. It’s not manipulation—it’s intelligence. The challenge is that parents don’t always recognize these patterns until they’re deeply ingrained. The key is learning how to work together as a team, rather than feeling like you’re on opposing sides. Dr. Cam (05:45) Absolutely. So what are the most common parenting conflicts you see when it comes to raising teens together? Kyle And Sara Wester (05:59) Man, I wish I could have addressed this 10 years ago, but now we're dealing with it. The dance steps are so established among the couple and the family that it's hard to learn new ones. I don't think it's impossible, but one of the biggest challenges is that their brains have literally been wired to perceive the other person in the marriage or the child in a certain way. It's like those dance steps are just on autopilot. As soon as the conflict starts, it's like the music happens, and we immediately fall into those steps. Dr. Cam (06:30) Yeah, and then complain about it. "They always do this!" What I find is that each parent is determined to convince the other that they're right, rather than figuring out: What do I do that works well? What do you do that works well? And—most importantly—what works best with our teenager? Because that matters more than our parenting styles. We're coming in with different backgrounds and beliefs, fighting over this, fighting with our teens. We assume they're manipulating us because they're smart. But they can't manipulate us if we don't let them, FYI. So what's the first step? What do we do? Like, I'm right. How do I convince him that he needs to change? Kyle And Sara Wester (07:16) The first step is openness. If one of you is completely unbending, you've already hit a wall. Kyle uses this analogy a lot: open hand vs. closed hand. If I come in with a closed fist—believing there's no chance the other person is bringing value, that they're completely wrong, that my teenager is the one who needs to change—that's only going to lead to conflict. You have to come in with an open hand. What are they bringing to the table? What do I need to hear? What do I need to understand? I love this example because Sarah is not a yeller. But I definitely can be. In my home, yelling was completely normal. It was how we communicated. To me, not yelling felt like weakness. If you really care about something, you raise your voice. At first, Sarah was caught off guard by this. She didn’t expect it in our home. But what really helped shift me—this may not happen with everyone, so it’s not a magic wand—was that Sarah approached me with an open hand. She tried to understand that for me, raising my voice wasn’t about being aggressive or mean—it was a sign that I cared. Just like yelling for a sports team, right? Me yelling at the ref means I care about my team. It sounds silly, but that’s how I saw it. Dr. Cam (08:28) Weird. Kyle And Sara Wester (08:51) Yeah! But Sarah was able to say, "Okay, I can see that. I understand that’s how you think. But is there another way you could express that passion without yelling?" That opened my mind. I went from a closed fist to an open hand. I started to realize that my words had power—even when I didn’t raise my voice. In fact, my ki

In this episode, Dr. Cam Caswell and Lindsay Cormack discuss the challenges of engaging teens in political discussions, the decline of civics education, and the importance of fostering critical thinking and open dialogue. Lindsay, author of How to Raise a Citizen, shares her insights on how parents can guide their children through the complexities of political discourse and media literacy. They emphasize the importance of parents modeling engagement, curiosity, and empowering their teens to become informed, responsible citizens in today's fast-paced media environment.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to effectively engage your teen in political discussions and build open dialogue. Why civics education has declined and how parents can fill the gap in teaching their teens about politics and civic responsibility. The importance of critical thinking in the digital age and how parents can help their teens navigate information overload. How media algorithms impact teens’ political views and how parents can help their teens see beyond echo chambers. Practical tips for encouraging curiosity and helping teens develop a deeper understanding of political issues.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Engage in Political Conversations Early: Starting conversations with your teen about politics is essential for fostering critical thinking and helping them understand complex issues. Civics Education is Crucial: Civics education has been declining in schools, but parents have the power to teach their teens about the importance of voting and civic participation. Help Your Teen Navigate Information: Teens are bombarded with information on social media and news. By encouraging critical thinking, you can help them evaluate sources and form informed opinions. Model Political Engagement: It’s essential for parents to model curiosity and engagement in political issues. Your teen will learn by watching how you approach important topics. Practice Listening in Political Discussions: Active listening is a key component of meaningful political conversations. It’s important to not just talk but also to listen and understand your teen’s perspective   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Lindsay Cormack's book: How to Raise a Citizen How to Raise a Citizen: A Parent’s Guide to Teaching Political Engagement   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating Political Conversations with Teens 02:29 The Decline of Civics Education in Schools 04:32 The Importance of Open Political Discussions 06:31 Building Critical Thinking Skills in Teens 10:08 The Role of Media Algorithms in Political Views 12:49 Encouraging Curiosity and Open Dialogue with Teens 15:54 Essential Knowledge for Young Citizens 18:14 Fostering Critical Thinking and Listening Skills in Teens 21:21 How Parents Can Empower Teens to Engage in Politics   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Lindsay Cormack Website: www.howtoraiseacitizen.com Facebook: @lindsey.cormack Instagram: @howtoraiseacitizen LinkedIn: Lindsay Cormack X: @DCInbox   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01) Have you ever tried talking politics with your teen only for it to spiral into a heated argument or leave you wondering where in the world are they even getting these ideas? It's frustrating when their opinions feel so different from your own and you may worry that they are heading down the wrong path. But no matter how hard you try to tuck reason into them, nothing seems to get through. This sounds familiar, you're not alone, and we are going to talk about that I have Lindsay Cormack, an associate professor of political science with me today. And Lindsay specializes in helping teens think critically and engage thoughtfully with the world around them. She's even written the book on it, How to Raise a Citizen. Lindsay is here to share practical strategies to turn those tricky political conversations into meaningful and even peaceful discussions. Welcome, Lindsay. Lindsey Cormack (00:50) Thank you so much for having me. I'm looking forward to talking with you. Dr. Cam (00:53) Yeah, I'm happy to have you here. So tell us first of all, I love the backstory. What got you interested in talking politics, particularly with our kids? Lindsey Cormack (01:02) Well, I've been a college professor for 10 years and I work at a school that primarily serves engineering students called Stevens Institute of Technology in Hoboken, New Jersey. We do plenty of other things, but that's our general population. And so I have these students who are so bright and they're so good at doing school and they go on to like really great careers. But something that I've found as someone who teaches political science is that they come in really not knowing very much. They don't really understand how the government is set up. They don't know what their own powers are in it. And this is something where at first I thought like, you maybe that's just particular to engineering students. But, you know, after a decade of looking at that and talking with other people and doing research on, you know, how much our 18 year olds actually know, I've come to realize like it is a nationwide problem. We graduate most of our high school students without a rudimentary understanding of the government system that they're in. And so this became a project for me because I don't want college kids to feel not powerful. I don't want them to feel jaded already. I don't want them to feel turned off by a system because I know that say what you will about US democracy. It's one of the best decision-making frameworks that's ever existed in the history of the world. And our children will do better if they understand that system. So that's what got me inspired and involved to do it. I didn't know when I set out that this was going to be a parenting book. I thought this might be a book that was like, here's how some states do it, here's how other states do it. But in the course of researching it, I realized no state is doing it that well. And if we want to change things, we're really going to have to start in another level, and that's going to be in the home. Dr. Cam (02:24) Why do you think that kids aren't as informed now about, or have they ever been informed about how the government works? Lindsey Cormack (02:39) So it's a really hard question. It's not like there was this golden era of time where everyone was all conversant on how government ins and out were. That's not real. But it was the case that we did have more civics instruction time in our schools, and that has been decreasing over my lifetime, your lifetime, my mom's lifetime, and so it's been going down from the 1940s onwards. And so we are at this place now where if you look at test scores of eighth graders on their sort of like civic readiness, they are the exact same now as they were in 1998. And so the people who are in charge of parenting today are, you know, no smarter, no better. But I think a lot of us are all really frustrated and it's like, okay, well, if we haven't made any gains in how we're teaching you, we probably need to do something else because we see these same sort of results time after time where the adults in the room now, we can say we're going to prioritize this in a different way. So it is, it is the lowest that of all the classroom things, it is the one that gets the least amount of curricular time. And part of that trade off is STEM. Part of that is sort of this idea that we're going to be pushing other things into a day. And so it's not like there was a golden era, but we know that it's down versus the past and we were seeing the results in our indicators. Dr. Cam (03:33) Well, I'm wondering too, because the world obviously is very polarized right now when it comes to politics. And I know my daughter was talking about it she was taking a government class and she was so excited about talking. And my daughter is one of these kids that have been watching the news since she was like little. I don't even watch the news as much as she does, but she loves it. So she was so excited to go in and talk about it. And they would not talk about the current election going on right now because it was too politically divisive. And, you know, I think that right there is a signal of are we focusing on the wrong thing? Lindsey Cormack (04:32) Okay, so that is like something I hear all over the country is, and you know, and I kind of have a lot of thoughts on why that is the case, but here's the thing. We only get like four or five elections with our kids until they become voting eligible citizens themselves. And so we really only get like four or five windows of training opportunities. And if we say like, you can't talk about this, we can't learn about this, we can't think about this, then we're really sort of hampering their ability to do this when they're older. And we see this, we see this in sort of the data on like who's registered to vote, who turns out to vote, who sort of knows things. Everyone's playing catch up from the time they're like 20 to 60, and then they have 20 years where they're like in their like, you know, really powerful political place, and it probably shouldn't be like that. But I understand why schools have been hard sites to do this work in. I mean, part of it is to blame with ourselves. When we were doing the research for this book, we interviewed teachers in nea

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam Caswell and Dr. Jenny Woo explore the crucial role of emotional intelligence in parenting teens. They discuss how emotional intelligence influences relationships, communication, and teen development, and why it’s more important than ever in today’s world. Dr. Woo sheds light on the "emotional recession" affecting today's youth, and how technology, social media, and societal pressures contribute to emotional challenges. The conversation offers practical advice on how parents can model emotional regulation, resilience, and empathy to help their teens navigate their feelings, cope with emotional discomfort, and build stronger relationships.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The importance of emotional intelligence in parenting and how it shapes teen development. Practical strategies for recognizing, understanding, and validating teen emotions. The impact of social media and technology on emotional intelligence in teens. How emotional discomfort is necessary for growth and how parents can foster resilience. Why modeling emotional regulation is key for building a connection with your teen.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Emotions Are Data: Understanding your teen’s emotions can give you valuable insights into their needs and how to better support them. Recognize the nuances of emotions to improve communication. Validating Emotions is Key: Dismissing your teen’s feelings can lead to a breakdown in communication. Validation fosters trust and helps teens feel seen and understood, encouraging stronger connections. Resilience Through Discomfort: Letting your teen experience emotional discomfort helps them develop resilience and coping skills, which are essential for long-term emotional growth. Model Emotional Regulation: Parents need to model healthy emotional regulation. Showing your teen how to manage emotions effectively is the first step in teaching them to do the same. Empathy is Built Through Experience: Allow your teen to face challenges and even "micro failures." This builds empathy and teaches them how to navigate their emotions with greater maturity.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? If you enjoyed this episode, don't forget to share it with your friends and family! Leave a rating and review to help other parents discover these valuable parenting tips. Your feedback helps us continue providing actionable advice. 🙏💫   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – Navigating Parenting and Emotional Intelligence 03:07 – Understanding Emotional Intelligence and Its Role in Teen Development 05:53 – The Emotional Recession: Why Teens Are Struggling with Emotions 08:56 – Deficits in Emotional Intelligence Among Today’s Youth 12:10 – The Impact of Technology and Social Media on Teen Emotions 15:00 – Building Resilience: How Parents Can Help Teens Cope with Emotional Discomfort 17:52 – Modeling Emotional Regulation as Parents 21:41 – Walking on Eggshells: Understanding Teen Emotions Without Overprotecting 24:35 – Validating Feelings: The Importance of Emotional Acceptance 29:55 – Empowering Teens: The Necessity of Autonomy in Emotional Growth 31:46 – Building Empathy: How Experience, Not Just Words, Cultivates Empathy 35:42 – The Myth of Coddling: Why Validating Emotions Doesn’t Lead to Weakness 40:20 – Fostering Connection: How Empathy Strengthens the Parent-Teen Relationship   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Jenny Woo Website: Mind Brain Emotion Facebook: @mindbrainparenting Instagram: @mindbrainparenting Twitter: @mindbrainparent YouTube: @mindbrainemotion   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01) Parenting in today's world is not easy, especially when it comes to helping teens navigate their emotions and relationships. But what if we could equip our teen with a skill set that builds resilience, confidence, and stronger connections? That's where emotional intelligence comes in. In this episode, I'm joined by Dr. Jenny Wu, a Harvard-trained educator, EQ researcher, and the brilliant mind behind mind-brain emotion. Dr. Wu has spent her career bridging the gap between science and practice, creating tools like her award-winning card games, 52 essential conversations, and 52 essential coping skills used by families, schools, and workplaces worldwide. Dr. Wu's expertise has been featured in Forbes, PBS, Parents, and more. And she's here to share practical tips and proven strategies with us to help our teens thrive emotionally and… Socially welcome. Dr. Wu Jenny. How are you? Dr. Jenny Woo (01:00) I'm doing well! Thank you so much for having me, Dr. Kim! Dr. Cam (01:04) Absolutely. And I was just telling you, I love emotional intelligence and talking about this. Tell us first, how did you get into this? What inspired you to specialize in emotional intelligence? Dr. Jenny Woo (01:15) Sure, you know, I've always been passionate in human development and very much worked through that from what I call the toddler years to the twilight years, really started in adult development, training, recruiting, you know, out of school, college graduates, grad students, and even senior leaders in the workplace to really understand, you know, how can you get that promotion? How can you be a good leader? How can you get that on that career trajectory that you're passionate about? And from there, taught MBA students as well as undergrads. And then after having kids of my own, and that's also part of the reason why we're talking, right? Why I got into mind, brain, emotion, and emotional intelligence is really, realized, well, here I am teaching adults in the workplace, but realizing that myself, as a mom and at the time it was mom for three kids under three all in diapers, two are twins preemies. I realized, right? So Dr. Kam, when you mentioned, you know, we want to equip our teens with the skills, but we also want to equip ourselves in the context of parenting with these emotional fluency, awareness, intelligence, regulation skills ourselves. So then that really just educated myself at home and so I wanted to learn more, then really pivoted my career into education, was a Montessori school director for little toddlers, to working in K-12, to then teaching at University of California Irvine with undergrads and graduate students. So long story short, I think emotional intelligence is so important yet so tricky because It's different in different situations, but that's the fun part as well, right? Dr. Cam (03:11) Yeah. Yeah. And so let's get into, for people that aren't as like geeky about emotional intelligence as we are, how would you define it to people? What exactly is it? Dr. Jenny Woo (03:24) Yeah, you know, honestly, it's really about being smart with your emotions. But what does that mean, right? So it starts with being able to recognize our emotions. What are we experiencing? And by emotions, I'm not just talking about mad, sad, you know, but the nuances, the precision of what we're experiencing, because if we're feeling lonely, or neglected versus feeling hurt or inferior. Those are very, very different emotions, even though they all come up to feeling sad. So emotions are data. So understanding what that data is telling us, deciphering it into insights and regulating, taking action and addressing what our emotions are telling us is about being emotionally intelligent. And it's also about agility, right? You know, it's impossible to feel happy at all times. And our goal as parents is not to help our teens to be happy at all times, right? Dr. Cam (04:31) Exactly. That is a very unfair expectation. Dr. Jenny Woo (04:35) extremely unrealistic and unfair, and rather it's really about honoring these emotions and even the mixtures of conflicting emotions and regulating and, you know, also within ourselves and within others as parents or as teens with their peers and building those healthy relationship skills and boundaries, right? So that's what it is. It's knowing how to make emotions work for us and not against us. Dr. Cam (05:11) I love that because I think there's so much fear of emotions and I see a lot of parents because they create so much discomfort, their goal is always to get rid of the bad emotions and replace them with positive emotions. And I think we have this misunderstanding that emotional intelligence is always being okay. And what I love what you just said is it's information, it's data, it's really, it's understanding. Anger and sadness and embarrassment and all of these emotions that, like you said, there's such a wide range. And I think our emotional vocabulary is so constricted to like now it's just depression and anxious. It's all here. And there's so many more words that we're not utilizing and really defining to give us that insight in how we use it rather than trying to hide it. So tell me a little bit about how do you see right now the level of emotional intelligence in terms of just the new generation coming up. Dr. Jenny Woo (06:17) my goodness, I have so much to say. Well, you know, so I think, you know, think some of our listeners definitely have heard that we're in this epidemic of loneliness and isolation, right? But I would say beyond that, even before that, and this was just prior to the pandemic, I was really studying emotional intelligence in the academic world around, you know, the trends and the implications and how you can use it as a buffer for mental health. Dr. Cam (06:19) Good. Dang it. Dr. Jenny Woo (06:47) you know, problems. And even then there were meta analysis of studies showing that today's Western college students are less emotionally intelligent than they were a decade ago. And so you guys imagine this was pre pandemic. And so during the pandemic, we've done studies e

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam Caswell sits down with life coach and former teacher Kristi Simons to dive into the secrets of building teen confidence. They discuss why self-awareness is the foundation of confidence, how parents can encourage emotional expression, and why resilience matters more than confidence alone. Kristi shares powerful insights on shifting internal beliefs, fostering self-worth, and creating a supportive environment where teens feel seen, heard, and valued. If you're looking for practical ways to help your teen navigate self-doubt and embrace their full potential, this episode is for you.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The connection between self-awareness and confidence in teens. How to create a safe space for emotional expression. Why resilience is the real key to long-term confidence. The power of positive reinforcement in shaping self-esteem. Actionable strategies to help your teen overcome self-doubt.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Self-Awareness Fuels Confidence – Teens who understand their emotions and thought patterns develop a stronger sense of self-worth. Encourage reflection and emotional awareness. Emotional Expression Builds Strength – Suppressing emotions leads to self-doubt. Let your teen know it's okay to express how they feel without fear of judgment. Kindness is a Confidence Booster – The way you talk to your teen (and yourself!) influences their self-perception. Kindness and encouragement go a long way. Resilience Over Perfection – Confidence isn’t about never failing—it’s about bouncing back. Teach your teen that setbacks are learning opportunities, not defeats. Believe in Them First – Your teen mirrors your belief in them. Show them you trust their abilities, and they’ll start believing in themselves too.     🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – Unlocking Teen Confidence: A Journey Begins 05:54 – Understanding Teen Challenges: The Struggle for Self-Awareness 11:54 – Embracing Emotions: The Key to Resilience 17:52 – Reverse Engineering Confidence: Practical Steps for Parents 23:55 – Creating a Safe Space: Encouraging Open Communication 29:48 – Final Thoughts: Empowering Teens Through Kindness   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Kristi Simons Website: kristisimonscoaching.com Instagram: @confidentteenteacher   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   THE FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam Hey parents, are you ready to unlock the secrets to building your teens confidence? In today's episode, we're diving deep into how to help our teens tackle challenges with a strong sense of self, whether they're facing struggles at home or feeling the pressure at school. And we've got a special guest with us, Christy Simons, a former teacher turned teen life coach, who's on a mission to equip teens with the life skills she was she had growing up. Me too. Skills that build true confidence and resilience. So if you're looking for ways to help your team not only survive, but thrive, this episode is for you. Welcome, Christy. Kristi Simons (00:43) Thank you so much for having me. I'm so grateful to be here. These conversations energize me in the best of ways. So I just appreciate your time and the space to have them. Dr. Cam (00:53) Well, thank you for saying that. I appreciate that too. And I would love to start just by hearing your story. How did you go from a teacher to a teen life coach? Kristi Simons (01:02) Yeah, so I'll try to make this as short as possible. But what happened for me was my teen years is where all of, I would say a lot of my trauma was really rooted. And it wasn't something I realized until I became a mom for the first time. So that's when the shift really happened. I started to lean into things that I desired in different a different way of living, honestly, because I knew that a change needed to happen. And that change had to start with me. And I'm not even really honestly sure how I knew that but My son really changed everything for me, my daughter as well. After two mental health breakdowns, I finally decided that coaching was the right route for me. So I hired my own coach. I stepped into such an inspiring community with all of these incredible women. And I just looked around and I was like, my gosh, it's like there's a different way. And what started to come to me was that they were speaking like a completely different language. And it was this language of self-love, confidence and empowerment that I feel like I wasn't really surrounded by before. And so things slowly started to piece themselves back together. I mean, I really do feel like motherhood for me just shattered me into pieces. And there were pieces of myself that needed to fall away and others that were meant to stay. It's just, had to figure out how to put them back together. And so that's what coaching and community really did for me. And I found myself a little after four years starting my own podcast. And the reason that it ended up being, you know, teens specifically that I work with. Honestly, truthfully, I sit here today and I'm still like, how did this happen? Like to me, it's just, I look back and I can see all of the breadcrumbs. But honestly, I tell people like it just kind of happened organically. And there's something bigger at play here, I truly believe. But that's a different conversation. And so yeah, I started to initially help teens through the pandemic. A lot of them were just dropping out of high school for multiple reasons, mainly main one being like their mental health and just the way that they were actually feeling. And so I started helping them in that capacity. And then I realized how much coaching had changed my life and the trajectory of it. I became sober. I still am three years later. Like there's just so many shifts that have happened for me in such a positive way that I knew that I wanted to give back in that way as well. So I started doing like tutoring and life coaching, and now it's just moved into full life coaching. yeah. Dr. Cam (03:30) That's fantastic. And so what are some of the common, I guess, common challenges you're seeing that teens have today that is wearing on their confidence? Kristi Simons (03:43) You know what it is that I can see so clearly? Well, one, the first thing that's coming to me is just helping them to be more aware of what I am noticing, like helping them to recognize in themselves what's actually going on. But what I really see is they don't know how to reverse engineer how they actually want to feel. And they keep coming up against these blocks and these challenges in their lives that are really keeping them stuck where they are, because I hear that often from them. They do feel stuck. They feel like they need to constantly be comparing themselves to others. They're worried about others' opinions. So there's evidence just from the clients that I work with that there's people pleasing involved. So it's how do we now start to help them to understand that they are, in fact, their own person and that they can trust themselves. And so I would say a lot of it is that. It may seem like these external factors to them, but really what's happening is it's like the internal, it's the beliefs that they have about themselves. And so it's trying to get them to shift their perspective to that language of self-love, confidence, and empowerment that I feel like I learned later in life. But now that I know it, I feel like it's like my duty to teach it. So this is why I stepped out of the classroom to do this. And again, it's just to me, I'm still just like, wow, it's kind of like this like holy shit moment where I'm like, can't believe this is actually the work that I'm doing. Because you recognize like those qualities within yourself, like you can't do this work unless you actually have confidence and you feel empowered in your life, or at least you're moving in that direction. I mean, it's a constant evolution. And there's always going to be struggles and challenges. But you come to this place where you really do realize that you are like this machine that is capable of so, so much. Dr. Cam (05:06) And teaching teens how to embrace that when they're still in the process of like developing their self-confidence and developing those connections in their brains. Imagine if we can develop at the beginning their self-confidence built into their self-esteem or built into their self-concept because I do know a lot of adults that still mean like still struggle with confidence because our whole And as you said, as teens, we grew up with this belief that we weren't enough, and that was hardwired into who we think we are. And it's very difficult to change that once it's so set. It can be done. It's just a lot of hard work. So how do we as parents start building that foundation of confidence and positive self-esteem in our kids without the over because I know a lot of parents worry, my gosh, I don't want them to become egotistical. I don't want them to become narcissistic. I don't want them to become entitled. And so I think there's this fear of going there and we almost overcompensate for that fear. And I see a lot with parents where they're just putting their kids down a lot, but not because of that fear. Like they don't want their kids to have a false sense of ego. How do we balance that? Kristi Simons (06:41) Okay, so what's coming

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Elaine Taylor-Klaus to explore the challenges and strategies for raising neurodiverse teens. Elaine shares her personal journey as a mom of neurodiverse kids and how she became a coach to help other parents. They discuss the shifting perceptions of ADHD and autism, the increasing diagnoses, and why neurodiversity should be seen as an evolutionary adaptation rather than a deficit. The conversation focuses on collaborative problem-solving, trust-building, and fostering teen autonomy, as well as the role of medication in supporting neurodiverse youth.   WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to shift your mindset around ADHD and autism The benefits of coaching for parents of neurodiverse teens Why collaborative problem-solving builds stronger parent-teen relationships The role of medication in supporting neurodiverse individuals How to empower your teen by meeting them where they are   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF NEURODIVERSE TEENS Coaching empowers parents and transforms family dynamics. ADHD can be an advantage when understood and managed properly. Medication is a tool, not a solution—its role varies for each child. Building trust leads to better communication and cooperation. Understanding neurodiversity benefits all kids, not just those diagnosed.   ENJOYING THE SHOW? If this episode was helpful, share it with other parents and leave a rating and review! Your feedback helps us create more valuable content to support you and your teen. Remember to hit Follow so you never miss an episode packed with actionable parenting strategies!   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Neurodiversity and Parenting Challenges 10:03 Understanding ADHD in Today's World 21:01 Supporting Neurodiverse Teens: A Coaching Approach 29:57 Key Takeaways for Parents of Neurodiverse Children   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Elaine Taylor-Klaus Website: ImpactParents.com Instagram: @ImpactParents Facebook: @ImpactParents Twitter: @ElaineTKlaus LinkedIn: Elaine Taylor-Klaus Podcast: Parenting with Impact   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:00) Welcome back to the show. Today we're diving into a topic that's close to my heart, supporting our neurodiverse teens. If you're parent navigating the unique challenges of raising a neurodiverse child, you don't want to miss this episode. Joining us is the incredible Elaine Taylor-Klaus, a master certified coach and a mom of six in an ADHD plus plus family. We're gonna explain what that is. Elaine is a true thought leader in the field of neurodiversity, co-founding the first global coaching communities for parents of complex kids through Impact ADHD and ImpactParents.com. She's dedicated her career to educating and empowering parents like us, and her insights are invaluable. Elaine is here to help us understand how to nurture our teens so they can thrive. So if you're ready to transform the way you support your neurodiverse teen, stick around. This episode is going to be packed with essential advice you don't want to miss. Welcome, Elaine. Elaine Taylor-Klaus (she/her) (00:58) Thank you. It is great to be here. I love your energy. I'm excited. Dr. Cam (01:02) I'm so glad to talk to you about this and I want to first hear about your story. A mom of six neurodiverse kids. Did I get that right? Elaine Taylor-Klaus (she/her) (01:09) Not six, actually. I have three neurodiverse kids myself and my business partner Diane has three. And so I think that somehow got lost in the translation. Now that they're young adults and they each have partners, it feels like a mom of six. Dr. Cam (01:18) is this what got you into this field or what really inspired you to focus on this?   Elaine Taylor-Klaus (she/her) (01:29) Yeah, yeah, yeah, totally. This is what got me in. I was a mom of three complex kids under the age of 10. I didn't even know what that meant. I just knew that I was struggling. My eldest kid was really not an easy kid to raise, had lots of diagnoses, lots of health issues, medically fragile. It was complicated. And I remember going to my child's therapist, psychologist at about eight years old with this long list of like eight diagnoses and I'm crying. I'm like, what do I do? Where do I start? So she sent me to a nutritionist. said, with all this, you start with the metabolic. And so we were kind of getting a handle on that. went gluten free, had a huge impact. And somebody turned me onto coaching. And I was really struggling. There was a lot of support available for my kids and there was really nothing for me except for, you know, that five minutes with my hand on the doors, I'm walking out of the kids therapist office where I'm like, can I ask you one more thing? I like, it's so not fair. There was so little resource for parents at the time. And, and so the long story short, I was trying to go back to graduate school. took the GREs. I was going to go, you know, get a PhD and I discovered coaching and I fell in love. I I called my husband the first afternoon in tears and like, yeah, there were a lot of tears in those years. I found it. Like this is it. It was an empowering way to be. was, I had like used a midwife. I was all about wellness and health and, and, and I found that coaching gave me a framework for how I really wanted to be as a parent. I wanted to see them as whole and healthy and capable and not broken and needing to be fixed. And coaching was just, it was the answer for me. And so it really transformed me. which really transformed my family. Ultimately, my husband also became a coach. And when I asked him years later, like, what happened? He said, I just couldn't deny anymore that what you were doing was working. So I ended up kind of creating this, this new modality, blending coaching with neurodiversity awareness. And when Diane and I met, we had this similar experience, only I did have ADHD and learning issues that were diagnosed in my forties and she did not. And it worked for both of us. So we kind of knew we were onto something and it wasn't rocket science. We could teach it to other parents. So I started coaching and training parents of complex kids. And, you know, that was, that was a long time ago now. Dr. Cam (03:54) The rest is history. Do you see a change in what parents are coming to you about? Or do you feel like it's consistent?  . Elaine Taylor-Klaus (she/her) (04:19) Yes and no. Yes and no. mean, the world's changed a lot, you know, but by the time I started, we were already post 9-11, which is when I, and technology was already starting to become a part of the world. So I think that for me, part of what's changed is our understanding and awareness, the research, the clarity about ADHD, about executive function, about neurodiversity, mental health, that's shifted a lot in the last 20 years. So there is a little less stigma and a lot more awareness to the importance of really addressing these issues. I say a little less stigma, not as much as a little Well, there's less. But part of it is because the autism movement came in and autism kind of came in and said, we're not taking your stigma, forget that. And I really think it shifted people's frame of reference around difference and shifted because the autism movement really did say, I'm not coming to you, you got to come to me. And it changed. I think now that it's so interesting. One of the big things that's changed is in the early days, like when my kids were diagnosed and those days, the providers had to choose between an ADHD diagnosis or an autism diagnosis. You could have one or the other, but not both till about 2013. And so everybody wanted, you didn't want an autism diagnosis. That was like a death sentence in those days. Now a provider, first of all, a provider doesn't have to make the choice. Both can be diagnosed and are very frequently. The correlation is very high. But now a parent can get better services with an autism diagnosis than an ADHD diagnosis and better support and compassion from their peers and friends and family. So now you've got people seeking a diagnosis that they used that 20 years ago they were avoiding. And I was one of them, right? Dr. Cam (06:17) the avoider. What do you think is a stigma with autism? are people kind of feeling opposed to now?. Elaine Taylor-Klaus (she/her) (06:24) think there's less stigma with autism than ADHD now. mean, you know, nobody wants a diagnosis, but I think with autism, there's beginning to be an understanding that they can learn skills and tools and approaches and modalities, that they can learn how to adapt and modify and improve their capacity.because it's coming from a different part of the brain and it's a different, it's not as much about, if they don't have the overlapping ADHD, it's not as much about executive function. It's more about sensory and social. And you can actually, I think with people with autism, especially if you catch it early, you can really help them learn how to kind of integrate themselves into the world. With ADHD, there's still a lot, I think there's more stigma than anything in the ADHD space. Dr. Cam (07:17) I have some questions about that too, because one thing I've noticed is the diagnosis for ADHD seems to be going up and up and up and up. Why do you think this is? Please, I've got one too and I'm curious to hear what yours is since you're an expert in it. Elaine Taylor-Klaus (she/her) (07:29) Okay, here's my take on that. Okay, there a reasons. There are few reasons. One is that there is a lot more research. We understand it way better than we did. Like 30 years ago, ADHD only was hyperactivity in little boys. That is so not the case. Now there are all these adults who are not diagnosed and under diagnosed. So we understand what we're looking for better. The second is w

In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Dr. Fiona Ghiglione to dive into the complex world of teen girl friendships. They discuss the challenges of peer pressure, loneliness, and relational aggression, as well as how parents can help their daughters build healthy, lasting relationships. Dr. Ghiglione shares practical strategies for navigating friendship drama, understanding the "seasons" of friendships, and teaching girls to handle social struggles with confidence. The episode also explores the impact of social media on teen friendships and why parents should focus on empowerment over rescue.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why teen girl friendships can be so challenging How to help your daughter navigate friendship drama without taking over The impact of relational aggression and social media on teen friendships How to recognize the "seasons" of friendships and support your teen through them Practical strategies to build your daughter’s confidence and resilience in friendships   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Teen friendships can be tough. Many girls struggle with peer pressure, loneliness, and relational aggression. Middle school is peak friendship drama. Understanding these challenges helps parents guide their daughters effectively. Friendships evolve over time. Teaching your teen about the different “seasons” of friendships can help them navigate change. Create a safe space for open conversations. Encourage your daughter to express her feelings without immediately jumping in to fix problems. Empower, don’t rescue. Equip your teen with tools to handle conflict, rather than solving issues for them.   ENJOYING THE SHOW? Help other parents find the support they need! Share your favorite episode, leave a rating and review, and don’t forget to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free Resource: Download 10 Mindful Practices for Preteens PDF Exclusive Offer: Get €20 off your first mentoring session by emailing Fiona directly at [email protected]   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating the Challenges of Teen Friendships 03:59 Understanding the Dynamics of Friendship Drama 09:59 The Seasons of Friendships: Navigating Mean Behavior 20:06 Supporting Our Daughters Through Friendship Struggles 27:59 Empowering Girls to Build Healthy Relationships   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Fiona Ghiglione Website: MotheringGirls.com Instagram: @motheringgirls LinkedIn: Dr. Fiona Ghiglione   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   THE FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:02) Navigating friendships can be really challenging for our teen girls, right? As parents, it's tough to watch them struggle with feelings of loneliness, peer pressure, and the occasional friend drama or a lot of friend drama. All we want is for our daughters to feel happy, connected, and surrounded by friends who truly support them. I'm excited to introduce you to Dr. Fiona Giglione, an assistant professor, educator, and the founder of Mothering Girls.   Fiona specializes in coaching girls on building friendships, boosting self-confidence, and navigating the complexities of social media too. In our conversation today, we're going to dive into some effective strategies to help empower our daughters to build meaningful friendships, handle toxic friendships, and boost their confidence as a friend. Welcome Dr. Fiona, how are you?   Fiona (00:50) Very good. Thank you for inviting me today. It's wonderful to be here.   Dr. Cam (00:54) Absolutely. So Dr. Fiona, first start with how did you, what inspired you to start mothering girls?   Fiona (01:02) Well, my journey with mother and girls really started through my own experience raising my own girls. And there's one specific experience I had when my eldest daughter was nine and my youngest daughter was five. I was living in Singapore at the time and I just began noticing that the commentary and the way that people were interacting with our girls, my daughters and also their friends started changing quite radically. know, when they were five and six and they were running around in their frozen dresses, people's commentaries would be, aren't they wonderful? You know, I love her confidence and her spark or how wonderful is it to have girls? And I just found that when the girls started kind of edging towards the preteen years, so we kind of, eight, nine, sure, they had a bit more sass, you know.   But the commentary, just, was very aware of what people were saying and how it was changing. It was, it was kind of becoming more, you know, wait until she's in the teen years or, you know, girls are really emotional and, know, and I was hearing from boy moms saying, you know, I'm glad, glad I don't have boys, you know. And as a research psychologist, I suppose, like I,   I couldn't stop thinking about this. couldn't stop and wonder two questions in particular I had in my head. Like the first one was, what is this doing to our girls? Like our girls were hearing this, know, mom's talk in this way. And I'm thinking, what messages are they receiving from this? You know, about what it is to be a girl heading into these years, like you know what are the teen years going to be like, but also just their emotions, you know, is it safe to, you know, explore my emotions, say my emotions or not? Anyway, that was the first question. And then the second question that kept on my mind was, if we take this fear based approach, if we're really going into these years afraid and thinking they're going to be the worst, what's that doing to our relationship with our girls? I mean, we know about what happens in the prefrontal cortex or in our brains in general, when we are under, you know, a fear response, we close off, we change the way that we change what we're paying attention to. We change, you know, how we're feeling about each other and we're we're less curious. So I guess I just started leaning into this. started researching a little bit more and thinking about it a bit more and thinking we need a different way. We definitely needed a different narrative, but I wanted to be able to maybe fill the gap a little bit and help parents do it a bit differently and help, you know, kind of empower the girls. Yeah.   Dr. Cam (03:50) I love that. that's one thing too, Dr. Fiona, that I will talk about too, is that when we go into the teen years with this preconceived notion of what those teen years are going to be like, it's a self-fulfilling prophecy. Because we approach it already without understanding, we approach it with assumption, and it goes way south very quickly. So I love that you are out there correcting that assumption, changing that story so we don't approach it from that perspective and we give our girls a chance. That's amazing. So let's, today we really want to talk about friendships because I know this particularly is difficult for teen, tween and teen girls, especially middle school. Middle school is like friendship hell. Let's just put it real, right? This is where all the friendship drama comes. There's a lot of friendship, like emotional bullying.   Fiona (04:31) Yeah, absolutely. 100%.   Dr. Cam (04:58) My daughter personally went through a lot of drama and teen. She's 18. She's still traumatized by the experience of friendships and going bad. So first explain to us, why do friendships become so difficult at this age for girls?   Fiona (05:05) If we look at the research, there are a few things that we're seeing, okay. We're seeing, and some of them are quite concerning trends, I would have to say. We're seeing increases in relational aggression. We're seeing increases in a kind of narcissism, self-centeredness, increases in loneliness, and decreases in empathy, okay. So, when you put this all together and you put it in alongside the rise of technology, it makes for a very curious picture as to like, what is going on with our girls? And girls in general, like, they place a lot of emphasis on friendships. It's very important for them. And I think that there's all of that happening, but then there's also, when I'm talking to girls directly, girls want closer friendships. They want less drama. It's not like they want, you know, they're creating this because it's fun. So there's these two things happening in parallel. They want closer friendship, they want support, they want help, and they also want a good relationship with parents as well. It's hard to unpack exactly why this is happening. think technology is playing a big factor in it, in the way that it's changing relationships and the way that we communicate. But yeah, I guess alongside the challenges that we're facing, we also have girls who are willing to do it differently if they have the guidance and the support.   Dr. Cam (06:56) At this age too, the relationships become a lot more complex, right? It's no longer like, you like this toy and I like this toy, so we must be friends. The dynamics become much deeper and kids are trying to figure out. And as you mentioned, the need to belong becomes extremely important at this age. So making friends, basically kids look at them, their value based on do other people like me? And so when people, when they're struggling to make friends, they're getting this message, I'm not that likable. And so they kind of get deeper. But then there's also the kids. So we've got self-esteem issues there, but then we've got the kids, particularly the girls that are mean. Where does this meanness come from and this need to kind of gang up on other girls or to emotionally shut them out sometimes. Where does that come from?   Fiona (07:54) I just wanted to stop for a second and just say it is such a difficult thing to watch your child go through this. And heartbreaking almost

Dr. Cam and Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein take a deep dive into the impact of gender bias and sexism on young girls. They discuss how societal messages affect girls' confidence, self-worth, and opportunities. Dr. Finkelstein shares powerful insights on validating girls' experiences, teaching self-advocacy, and redefining their value beyond appearance. The conversation also highlights the importance of helping girls express emotions like anger, recognize microaggressions, and take up space in a world that often tries to shrink them. Plus, they explore how parents can raise empathetic sons who challenge gender norms.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How gender bias and societal expectations impact girls' confidence Why teaching girls to express anger and take up space is crucial The power of validating girls’ experiences and building self-advocacy skills How to raise sons who recognize and challenge gender bias Practical ways parents can help their daughters navigate sexism   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Girls receive constant messages of invisibility and unworthiness. Parents play a key role in reshaping these narratives. Validating girls' experiences is essential. It helps them feel heard and strengthens their self-esteem. Teaching girls self-advocacy starts early. Encouraging them to speak up and set boundaries builds confidence. Society often prioritizes masculine traits. It’s important to teach girls (and boys) that all traits have value. Empowering girls requires action. Parents must actively challenge bias, model emotional expression, and foster resilience.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode, leave a rating and review, and help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical, real-world parenting strategies. Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free Resource: Download 10 Mindful Practices for Preteens PDF Exclusive Offer: Work with Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein by visiting Jo-Ann Finkelstein   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding Gender Bias and Its Impact 06:05 Empowering Girls in a Biased World 14:10 Redefining Value Beyond Appearance 19:07 Building Confidence and Advocacy Skills 22:11 Empowering Girls to Express Emotions 25:00 Teaching Girls to Take Up Space 28:25 Recognizing and Addressing Microaggressions 32:49 Navigating Gender Bias and Self-Advocacy 37:11 Raising Empathetic Sons 42:24 Key Takeaways for Parents   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Jo-Ann Finkelstein  Website: Jo-Ann Finkelstein Instagram: @JoAnnFinkelstein LinkedIn: Jo-Ann Finkelstein   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   THE FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:00) In today's episode, we tackle a critical issue that affects countless young girls, sexism and gender bias. Did you know that as of 2023, women still earn about 82 cents for every dollar earned by men or that women hold just 27 % of executive positions in Fortune 500 companies despite making up nearly half of the workforce? The reality is that gender bias starts early and can significantly impact girls' confidence, opportunities and futures. That's why I'm looking forward to talking to Dr. Joanne Finkelstein, a clinical psychologist and author of Sexism and Sensibility, Raising Empowered Resilient Girls in the Modern World. Dr. Finkelstein is here to share practical strategies for protecting our daughters from these pervasive issues, fostering their resilience and empowering them to navigate a world where gender bias still unfortunately exists.   Welcome Dr.. Finkelstein.   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (00:59) It's so great to be here, Dr. Cam.   Dr. Cam (01:02) So good to have you. So this is such an important topic. Let's start first. Why are you interested in this? What kind of inspired you to talk about and help girls deal with gender bias and sexism?   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (01:16) I grew up in Canada. You know, I live in the States, but I grew up in Canada with three brothers. Canada, know, hockey is a national obsession. So I like to tell this story because it didn't make it into the book, but it has become family lore. And my family was really surprised that it didn't make it into the book. In any case. My three brothers, like they love to play hockey and I wanted to play too. So I asked my parents for, you know, a hockey stick. And to my delight, they bought me one. But to my horror, it was bright pink and looked like a toy version of my brother's. And by the way, you will find out along the way, I don't have anything against pink, but that is not what I was looking for, right?   Dr. Cam (01:47) But it was a big statement.   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (02:09) It was a big statement and I've worked with girls and women for the last 24 plus years in my private practice. And what I discovered is that my pink hockey stick is every girl's story, right? Girls constantly get messages that make them feel unseen, unheard, not taken seriously. And I witness, right, on a daily basis how harmful these messages are to my patient's sense of self and sense of potential. The messages aret hey seem small, right? But they're like tiny psychological paper cuts that accumulate and become these festering wounds of self-doubt over time. And growing up, when I would get upset about gender differences, people insisted that they didn't exist or they'd say, you're too sensitive or stop being so dramatic. And all your listeners out there, they know this, right? Because they're classic comments. But at the time, I didn't know that. So in any case,   Fast forward to avoid criticism, I learned to hide my feelings and it wasn't until years later when I was doing a master's degree that I really began to understand that experience. And it happened because I mentioned in a paper for my developmental psychology class that I'd been accused of overreacting when I felt demeaned. And the professor scribbled in the margins, that's what people say to talk girls out of their feelings. It was such a validating moment for me.   Dr. Cam (03:34) That's great.   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (03:35) So basically, to get to a long story, validating girls' experiences and opening parents' eyes to the effects of sexism and gender bias are why I wrote the book. There two reasons why I   Dr. Cam (03:50) I love that. And I think awareness is so important because I see even women being biased and sexist to other women because it is so great, you know, just pounded in our head. And I can remember, because I mean, anybody that is an adult woman has either experienced most likely a lot or knows people that have experienced extreme sexism and gender bias. And I remember pointing out at one point at a job that the traits of a leader as defined of what a leader is are traits that define the typical best traits of a man and what defines a bitch as a woman. You're, you, you have no chance. Yeah, you have no chance of being a leader because if you're a woman and have the traits of a leader, then you are disliked so much. So it's,   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (04:32) That is exactly right. And it's true. I mean, it's bears out in the research. Right, or if you do become a leader, right, you are jumping through so many hoops to not be perceived as a bitch and then often you are, are, you know, sort of like what's happening with Kamala Harris and, you know, people are saying you're too soft. So you really are stuck between a rock and a hard place.   Dr. Cam (04:49) I think calling attention to these and also calling attention and they've shown so many times that actually some of the traits that are typical, there are gender differences. We've got to be real with that. But I think what it is is what we value is more of the masculine and what we use is insults. Like you fight like a girl, you run like a girl, you do this like a girl. They're insults rather than showing some of the strengths that are typical feminine traits actually are amazing in different roles, but we undermine them. So let's start with, we've got our teen daughter and she's living in high school and she's getting these messages already. We already know that STEM is still something that girls are kind of looked over on. We know that, again, the sports are separated, everything like that. So how do we as parents start empowering our girls to see their worth?   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (05:42) That's a great question. And that's sort of my whole book. So let's unpack it. You know, I think the most important thing to remember is that we're playing the long game here. We can't just say, you know, the culture's broken, you're not broken. Right. But we we want them to understand that many of the messages that they're getting are informing their choices.   Dr. Cam (06:08) Good! Let's go! Read to us your book!   Jo-Ann Finkelstein, PhD (06:34) For instance, clothing. I know a lot of people are really interested when their kids are becoming teenagers about their wearing crop tops and showing a lot of cleavage and wearing heels before parents are ready for the kids to wear heels and all of that. And so we're trying to help them understand, we're between wanting them to make their own choices, feel good in their own bodies, embrace their budding sexuality, or at least be unashamed of it. But seeing themselves through a system that values them, that values women packaged for a marketplace of male desire leaves little room for pimples and tummy rolls. So we're trying to help them understand that As I once said to my daughter, a crop top or a cigar is just a cigar, but a crop top Brazilian wax and something else is, you know, not as free choic

Dr. Cam sits down with Leslie Cohen-Rubery, a clinical social worker, to tackle one of the toughest challenges parents face—handling teens with intense emotions. If you’ve ever felt like your child’s outbursts are out of control or completely illogical, this episode is for you. Leslie shares insights on emotional regulation, validation, and how to de-escalate heated moments. They also discuss why parents shouldn't try to "fix" their teen’s feelings and how reflection and repair after conflicts can strengthen your relationship. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why your teen’s emotions aren’t as irrational as they seem The biological and social factors behind emotional outbursts How validation can calm a crisis and improve communication The power of witnessing emotions without rushing to fix them How to repair after a conflict and strengthen your connection 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Your child's intense emotions aren’t a reflection of your parenting. Feeling guilt or shame doesn’t help—understanding does. Validation is a game-changer. Acknowledging your teen’s emotions without judgment helps them feel heard. Your teen's brain is still developing. Their reactions may feel extreme, but there’s often a biological and social reason behind them. Don’t rush to fix their emotions. Sometimes, just sitting with them in their discomfort is the best support. Conflict can lead to growth. Post-conflict discussions should focus on solutions, not blame, to strengthen your relationship.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Love this episode? Share it with other parents, leave a review, and help more families navigate the teen years with confidence. Your support means the world! 🙏💫 🔔 Hit Follow so you never miss a solution-packed episode!   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Understanding the 'Monster' in Our Teens 04:06 The Roots of Intense Emotions 09:45 Navigating Emotional Turbulence 14:00 Effective Strategies for De-escalation 20:01 Post-Conflict Reflection and Repair 30:09 Building a Strong Parent-Child Connection   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Leslie Cohen-Rubery Facebook: @lesliecohenrubury Instagram: @lesliecohenrubury YouTube: @lesliecohenrubury TikTok: @lesliecohenrubury   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   THE FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:01.902) Hey parents, if your teen is prone to outbursts or dramatic reactions, this episode is for you. Joining us today is the insightful Leslie Cohen-Ruberry, a licensed clinical social worker with 39 years of experience supporting families. Leslie is the creator of the podcast, Is My Child a Monster? Where she helps parents navigate the often rocky waters of parenting.   In this episode, Leslie is going to share some effective strategies for addressing our teens' monstrous emotions. Welcome, Leslie.   Leslie Cohen-Rubury (00:35.759) Well, hello, thank you Dr. Cam for having me today.   Dr. Cam (00:39.264) Absolutely, let's start with, I always like to start with the backstory. How did you come up with the title and the idea of, is my child a monster?   Leslie Cohen-Rubury (00:48.987) Well, it's very real. And that's actually a piece of advice I might talk about later when we talk about how to be with our kids. It's about being real. So parents would come to me and in that very first session, they'd sit down and they'd say, is my child a monster? Like they really were upset and it upset them to ask that question. They felt guilty, they felt shame. Sometimes it was even more extreme. Is my child sociopathic? And I'm like, my heart broke. And I said, no.   And that is what I say every time I have not met a monster, every time a parent comes into me and says, is my child a monster? So it was very real. I heard it over and over again. And then when I thought about doing a podcast, said, I can't do anything but that title because you know, it's so powerful. And what it is, it's no, your child is not a monster, but they may be misunderstood. And that's the whole premise behind the podcast. That's where it came from.   And that's what therapy is about. some parents don't feel like their child's a monster, but many, many parents worry about their child and they don't understand their child. So it includes really all parents, not just the ones who think their child's a monster.   Dr. Cam (02:01.482) I love that and I think that is this ongoing fear that parents have saying, my gosh, did I mess my kid up? Is there something wrong with my kid? Is this normal? What are some of the behaviors you see the parents group into the term monster?   Leslie Cohen-Rubury (02:08.15) Well, the biggest one is what you sort of announced in the introduction, which is these big, intense emotions. Like a child having, one of my episodes is where the child is having a meltdown because the parent threw away or lost their acorn. And so from a parent's mind is you've got to be kidding me. You're having a meltdown over an acorn where there's literally thousands outside, we can go get another. So parents would, it's that's very typical. So intense emotions, like you wanted to go see that movie, why can't, why are you having a meltdown before we go in? These are all examples from, you know, podcast is like, parents get confused over, it feels like illogical, intense reactions and intense behaviors. So throwing things.   You know, withdrawing, won't talk, won't, you know, anything like that. When we get to teenagers, the behaviors get a little more scary and so do the emotions. So we're talking about teens who may be self-harming, may be extreme in their language to the parent. These power struggles get very intense. So it's usually intense behaviors or intense emotion.   Dr. Cam (03:39.212) First of all, parents, if your kids are acting this way and you have this fear, which I know a lot of you do, take a deep breath. We're going to talk about it and there is an explanation behind it. And when there's an explanation, there are solutions. So let's start first with some explanation. Where are these big overreactions over something seemingly ridiculously small? Where are they coming from?   Leslie Cohen-Rubury (04:06.883) Well, that's a long answer, but the short answer is your child is in emotion mind. And much of the skills that I'm going to talk about today come from dialectic behavior therapy. I am an intensively trained dialectic behavior therapist. and these skills are incredible for regulating emotions and disray and, also behavior. So dial the first thing is we want to recognize when our child is in emotion mind, because in that moment.   When the child is feeling that they are an emotion mind, which is an illogical, intense, often hot, heavy, you know, kind of experience. For the question that's a little bit larger context of where is this coming from, we have both a biological makeup and an environmental or social component, which is, you know, who your child is when they're born. And that part, we don't change. That part, we need to accept that this is who they are. We're not fixing their biological makeup. So some children are born highly, highly sensitive. They feel things intensely, whether they notice someone crying three blocks away or, you know, at the other end of the room or in the classroom or something like that. They take on, they feel other people's emotions. get, they may get overwhelmed by stimulation, by just being in a crowded place, why are they hesitating to go to a birthday party that they really wanna go to or go visit their friend. And so there's the biological piece that parents often wanna change, but we really need to remember acceptance is one of the more important strategies to actually teach and use. And then there's of course the social environment. If your child, if you have one of these sensitive children and you're trying to get out of the house with your teenager and you're screaming at them, come on, I gave you 15 minutes, let's go, let's go. And you just like, there's nothing in your mind that says, why is this kid not getting out of the house? It's time to go to school. They're always late. When you get that kind of frustration and then you convey that because we're all human and it is frustrating. So when the parent is feeling that kind of frustration,   they may be conveying to the child unintentionally, you are bad, what is wrong with you? How come you can't do this? Or even if there's not that there may be a few siblings in the house and that child is the only one that's struggling. you know, everybody else is out the door catching the bus, whatever, they're there, they're doing it, they're struggling. And so they may think that they are a monster. They may think that they are bad. And that's the environment which is what does the fit look like between the environment and who this person is?   Dr. Cam (07:01.342) And Leslie, I think it's really important to point out that when we start reacting to our kids this way and they start responding this way, we start actually defining who they are and how they see themselves. And so when we act like they're a monster, we start feeding into them becoming and believing they're a monster, which just makes it worse. So I, right. So I think.   Leslie Cohen-Rubury (07:27.865) And it's behaviorism. It's reinforcing exactly what they see.   Dr. Cam (07:31.028) It is exactly what we're trying to stop. And I think a lot of parents do because they're trying to say, I'm pointing out what's wrong with you, so you'll fix it. And the problem is that's not how it works. Because if they could fix it, they would have.   Leslie Cohen-Rubury (07:48.943) Right? No one wants to be feeling this way. No one wants to show up like that. I mean, no, I was the one in my family having those ta

Tired of constant arguments with your teen? You’re not alone! In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with conflict resolution expert Hesha Abrams to reveal practical techniques for defusing conflict and improving communication with combative teens. Learn how power struggles fuel arguments, why emotional regulation is key, and how a simple “do-over” can repair relationships. If you’re ready to stop the battles and start connecting, this episode is for you! WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The surprising role power dynamics play in teen conflicts Techniques to calm heated situations before they escalate Why validation is a game-changer in communication How to redirect destructive behavior before it spirals The power of modeling emotional regulation for your teen 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Parenting is tough—grace and patience go a long way. Conflict is often about power struggles—understanding this can help. Teaching teens to manage big emotions is essential. Modeling good behavior is more powerful than lecturing. Perfection isn’t the goal—building a strong connection is.   🎧 ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating & review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes packed with practical tips for your family! 🔔 Hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Book: Holding the Calm: The Secret to Resolving Conflict and Defusing Tension by Hesha Abrams   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Conflict Resolution with Teens 03:35 Understanding Power Dynamics in Conflict 10:13 Navigating Teen Conflicts 20:54 The Importance of Modeling Behavior 32:52 Redirecting Destructive Behavior   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Hesha Abrams Website: www.holdingthecalm.com Facebook: @HeshaAbramsHoldingTheCalm Instagram: @holdingthecalmbook   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   THE FULL TRANSCRIPT   Welcome back parents, Dr. Cam here. And in today's episode, we are diving into the secret to defusing conflict with combative teens with a renowned conflict resolution expert, Haysha Abrams. Haysha is an international acclaimed attorney and mediator known for her success in resolving high profile cases with some of the world's biggest companies, including Google, Amazon, Facebook, and Pepsi. I've heard of a few of those.    She's also the author of the popular new book, Holding the Calm, the Secret to Resolving Conflict and Diffusing Tension. Today, Hayshia is going to share some practical, easy -to -use techniques to diffuse tension and resolve conflict, not just for our teens, but with anyone. Welcome, Hayshia. Thank you so much for joining us. Can you just start with your backstory? How did you get start in conflict resolution?   Hesha Abrams (00:48) My pleasure. Well, what I want to start with, especially for a podcast like yours, because I do business podcasts all the time. But what I tell people is I'm a lawyer, I'm a mediator. I've done multi -billion dollar disputes at the highest levels of industry. And the hardest job I've ever had, being a parent.   Dr. Cam (01:03) Yeah, that is so good to hear. Yes, good to hear. Good and not good. What did we get ourselves into?   Hesha Abrams (01:19) It is so, well, you live with a tyrannical roommate who doesn't pay rent, right? So, and part of the problem is we want them to like us. And that is really a very dangerous, dangerous thing. So it becomes a really hard needle to thread. And that's what I want to talk about because I've learned techniques. have, first of all, I have great relationships with all my kids and my in -law kids. So I think that gives me some kudos right there. The techniques I'm going to teach, I use on them. And I have nine grandchildren and I use these on them earlier. I'm smarter now than I was when I was young, because I didn't have a me putting out a book like Holding the Calm. I had a lot of the touchy feely books in my day that don't work. They talk about all this good stuff that should happen and they don't work. So, you know, I'm a lawyer. I do big, hard, difficult cases. What's the difference between somebody saying, I want a hundred million dollars and somebody saying, here's 10 ,000, go drop dead. Right? How do you get that settled versus a teenager going, I hate you. You don't give me anything I want. My friends do this. You make me study. You don't understand me. Or whatever other nonsense happens. It's all the same.   Dr. Cam (02:29) It's all emotion, right? It's that big fight or flight emotion place. So, and I have a lot of clients and I talk to people that do because we're teenagers are so emotional and they push our buttons and we get emotional and then we just got this huge blow up and we get stuck in this loop of just really negative interactions and kids can get nasty, they can get mean, they can even get physically violent. And I have parents that are scared of their kids. They don't want to make the problem worse. So they're kind of walking on eggshells around them, not wanting to get them upset, but it keeps getting worse. So we would love to hear from you on how do we start approaching, if we're there. A lot of what I do is preventing us from getting there, but if we're there. And we're in that moment where we're just butting heads and it's starting to get ugly and we don't know what to do. Hey, what do we do?   Hesha Abrams (03:35) Yeah, so let's talk about that. because I want everything I do is very practical. I'm not a kumbaya kind of gal. I'm not interested in what should work or is a cool idea or rise above it or all that kind of junk. What actually works when this thing's happened? And I'm sure on your show, you've already talked about amygdala, fight or flight response. So I don't need to go into that again. Okay. So everybody knows that. So I have a theory. I think that all conflict and tension of any kind with anybody at any age or any time has to do with power. Either you're taking it, you're giving it, you're trying to hold onto it, you're trying to take it from somebody else. When power happens, the amygdala gets triggered and that is just a very dangerous thing. But the easy magic bean answer is you give power, but you give it in small little unimportant things because that's what calms the amygdala down. So let's say, and what I want to do is divide up our conversation into dealing with younger children, dealing with teenagers, and dealing with adults. Because techniques work with all of them, but you have to feed it slightly differently on how you do it. Okay? So let's start with the young ones and then we'll work our way up. So with the young ones, you have more power. Up until they're about what? 10 or 11? You know, you can actually physically restrain them if you need to.   You have all kinds of privileges you can restrict. You have a lot more power up to about 10 or 11. Part of the problem is parents don't use that power. So if you don't use it when they're young, you have a hard time using it when they're older. It's much harder to break an old dog than to start with a new dog. So there's that old saying that if you don't make them cry when they're young, they'll make you cry when they're older is an absolute, absolute truism. So let's start with the young ones first.   You want to teach kids how to handle big feelings. They big feelings. They have big feelings. We're all hungry, tired, cranky, don't get our own way, didn't get enough sleep. Every one of us has that. So one of the parenting life skills you as a parent need to teach your children is how to handle that. Now, part of the problem is we as adults, I wasn't taught that by my parents. Okay, I had to learn this through lots of therapy and lots of work and doing this.   Dr. Cam (05:37) Or we're taught, just stop it. Don't do it, not how to work through it. So I think a lot of parents are uncomfortable with that. So I love this. Let's go into how, when we don't know how to do it, how do we help our kids do it?   Hesha Abrams (06:04) Exactly. So that's the first thing I do is first thing I say to all parents when I'm talking to them is grace. For God's sakes, this is the hardest job in the world to raise another human being. It is a thankless job. Give yourself grace. Okay. So the issue is not, not making mistakes. The issue is correcting mistakes. You are going to make a million mistakes. How do you correct it? So this is what I have found.   Dr. Cam (06:35) Absolutely.   Hesha Abrams (06:39) acknowledging your, what a lot of people think is as a parent, I have to be tough and strong and always write, no, that's a completely wrong approach because you're not teaching the kids how to be able to do that. So what you do is you do whatever it is you're going to do. And let's say it's going badly. Something's, you can tell something's going badly. Try it. Part of the thing about holding the calm is why I wrote this book is I've got simple little techniques to catch it earlier. The longer you let it go, It's like spaghetti sauce on the counter. It's wet, you wipe it up with a sponge. Overnight, you're scraping it off with a knife, right? So the earlier you catch stuff, the better it is. So if you can catch stuff early, you, who has the power in that interaction? You do. So stop. You're the older, you're the adult. Stop and say, I'm getting angry. I'm losing control.   We're going to take a moment. And that's why I call the book, Holding the Calm. You can say, take a deep breath. You could say, think of grandma. I you can do whatever you want. I find Holding the Calm works because it's such an interesting thing to say to your amygdala. It says to your amygdala, you got

Parenting teens is exhausting, overwhelming, and—let’s be honest—frustrating. But what if the key to handling it all isn’t about controlling their behavior? In this episode, Dr. Cam and Heather Chauvin dive into the power of self-care, emotional intelligence, and shifting your parenting mindset. Learn why focusing on your own growth and well-being can actually make you a more effective parent—and create a healthier, more connected relationship with your teen.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why parenting teens feels so overwhelming—and how to manage it The surprising link between self-care and parenting success How to stop perfectionism from sabotaging your parenting The game-changing shift from control to curiosity Simple strategies to strengthen your connection with your teen   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Parenting teens can be emotionally exhausting—taking care of yourself helps you show up better. You are more than just a parent—self-identity matters. Perfectionism is a coping strategy—not a personality trait. Let it go! Curiosity is key—observing instead of controlling leads to better communication. Self-respect influences how your teen treats you—it all starts with you.   🎧 ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes packed with practical tips just for you! Thanks for your support! 🙌 🔔 Hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 📖 Book: Dying to Be a Good Mother by Heather Chauvin   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Navigating the Challenges of Parenting Teens 02:58 Heather Chauvin’s Journey to Empowerment 06:11 The Importance of Self-Identity in Parenting 08:56 Managing Overwhelm and Perfectionism 11:58 The Role of Self-Care in Parenting 15:03 Shifting Focus: From Control to Curiosity 17:55 Energetic Time Management for Parents 20:53 Creating a Healthy Parent-Child Dynamic 24:01 Embracing Emotional Intelligence in Parenting 26:59 The Power of Self-Respect and Connection   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Heather Chauvin Website: HeatherChauvin.com Instagram: @HeatherChauvin_ YouTube: Heather Chauvin Podcast: The Mom Is In Control Podcast   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam Parents, let's face it, parenting teens can be emotionally and mentally exhausting. We're constantly juggling their mood challenges and the pressure of guiding them through some of the most difficult years of their lives and ours. The weight of always trying to say the right thing, keep the peace, and manage our own stress can lead of us feeling drained and overwhelmed. So how do we support our teens without burning out?   That's why I've invited Heather Chauvin to join us today. Heather is a leadership coach who helps successful women break free from the overwhelm and live, work, and parent with courage and authenticity. She's been featured in Forbes, Entrepreneur, and Real Simple Magazine. And she's here today to share strategies to help us lighten the emotional load, manage stress, and stay grounded so we can show up for our teens without losing ourselves in the process. Heather, welcome.   Heather Chauvin (00:56) I'm so excited for this conversation. Thank you.   Dr. Cam (01:00) Me too. So let's just start with your backstory. I love doing that. How did you get into leader leading women and getting into that?   Heather Chauvin (01:08) Well, it's actually funny and not so funny because teens, I have three boys, they're 19. Next month will be 15 and 12. And I'm incredibly passionate about raising this specific generation of teens because, or this age group. Because I was a teenager when I actually became a mother. I was 18 years old and that was my first cracking into personal development in my first moment as a mother, as a human, and as a small child or a young adult coming into the world, just with hitting that primal fear of not wanting to feel like I'm failing as a mother. And I remember looking at my son thinking, I don't want to become a statistic. I don't want us to become a statistic. And I need to do whatever I can in my power to become the adults that I most desire you to be. And the pendulum kind of swung where I was this overwhelmed, anxious teenager who wasn't behavioral. I didn't act out. I kind of retreated. And because I kind of swung the pendulum, of course, my nervous system was not regulated. And I started to become the overachiever. And I went and got a social work degree. I did all the things, I was checking the boxes. I was looking outside of myself for validation of like, am I good? Am I good? Is this what a good mother does? Is this what a good woman does? And internally, I felt like I was dying. Like I could just feel the burnout. I could feel the burnout and exhaustion, but I was like, this is not sustainable. And I knew that at a young age. And I had the whereabouts with me to ask for help, as we should. I went to therapy.   I went to the doctors and I started doing the traditional things and the feedback I was getting was like, like we were talking about the problem, but I wasn't getting like solutions to fix the problem or like I say fix, but like tools to implement and a strategy to physically like head in the right direction. I felt completely lost and like I was begging people to help me and the feedback was kind of like, this is adulthood, suck it up buttercup, you know, this is motherhood and But a part of me just wouldn't accept that. Fast forward, after leaving my corporate job as a social worker, I decided to really be the change I wanted to be in the world or make the change. And I started my podcast, started my business. And then I was diagnosed with a stage four cancer. My body was bleeding like please take care of yourself. I didn't understand the signs and symptoms and all the things. And that was, had nine years of personal development under my belt. I also had nine years of conscious parenting research and starting to help people see and understand their children's behavior. And it was, it was that moment where I was like, ladies, because I was primarily talking to women, like we need to stop just solely focused on the child and the child's behavior because we are part of the equation because at the moment I would hear feedback from my clients, cause I was a coach and they would say things to me like, I don't have time to implement this. My marriage is falling apart. My career is falling apart. I'm chronically overwhelmed. I'm feeling depleted. And I was like, okay, but we're focused over here. And then I was like, we need to look at both sides of the coin, both sides of the equation. And that was over a decade ago. Since then still helping women with the exact same issue, but at a different level and really supporting them to feel whole and fulfilled and alive and energized both at home and in their work.   Dr. Cam (05:11) I think a lot of people are going to be relating to this because that sense of overwhelm and needing to be perfect in every aspect of our lives. And women have so many different parts of their lives that they feel the need to be perfect in. And I think when it comes to parenting, especially with parenting teens, and all of a sudden we have the teen dynamics to deal with, a lot of us do feel like we're completely failing. And I see parents that will push that aside and just focus on what they're good at, right? So they just kind of blame the teen, go, that's the problem and I'm gonna focus here. Or they're so focused on trying to fix it and not being able to that they just start crumbling a little bit. So how do we get to a place, first of all, where we get into a good head space about who we are as a parent and what that looks like to be successful as a parent?   Heather Chauvin (06:11) Yeah, I think we need to stop labeling ourselves as mother or parent and start labeling ourselves as a human being because when we're putting them, we're over identifying with our labels and our roles and we're under identifying with who we are as a person and that we actually have basic human needs that are not being met to be seen, heard, love, understood. mean, freaking hydrated sunlight, like meals.Like the basics are not being met. And so I can identify with this in my own journey of like, who am I without being a mother? But the second your child turns a teen or you're starting to notice those hormonal changes, I mean, we had quite the time during COVID, like raising my oldest teenager, and it can be a shock to your system and you're gaining momentum, right? And you're like, what am I doing wrong?   And I think we have to stop making it about us and start being curious and observant as to what is actually going on in front of us. We take things so personal because we care so much. And I don't think we can argue with any parent that you don't love your children, right? Sometimes we have to learn how to manage that love because if we're not managing it or having boundaries with it, we're actually over -nurturing and over -compensating. And so whether it's overwhelm or perfectionism, so I always tell people like, write this down. Perfectionism is a coping strategy. It's not a personality trait. You don't say I'm a perfectionist. It's like you cope with perfectionism And when you can see you cope with perfectionism, you can see that as the blanket, as the mask. And then you begin to become curious as to why you do what you do. And again, overwhelm is a symptom. So if you are overwhelmed, that's a symptom. That's not a way of being. It's not a lifestyle. We do not need to accept feeling a certain way just b

Dr. Cam Caswell is joined by Mark Fussell to explore powerful strategies for supporting teens' mental health. Mark shares insights from his platform, Take Two Minutes, which focuses on boosting mental wellness through positive psychology. They discuss practical tools like gratitude journaling, grounding exercises, and breathing techniques to help teens manage emotions and anxiety. The episode emphasizes the importance of patience, kindness, and love in fostering a supportive environment for teens' mental health.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to support teens' mental health using positive psychology and proven techniques Effective strategies for managing anxiety, including gratitude journaling and grounding exercises The impact of gratitude on rewiring the brain for better emotional wellness Why patience, kindness, and love are essential when supporting teens' mental health Tips for fostering emotional resilience and helping teens bounce back from negativity   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Mental health is crucial for teens, and there are many ways parents can support their well-being. Take Two Minutes platform offers accessible tools for enhancing mental wellness through positive psychology. Gratitude journaling, grounding exercises, and breathing techniques are effective for reducing anxiety and improving emotional health. Support requires patience and the willingness to try different strategies that resonate with your teen. Positive reinforcement and kindness can help teens overcome emotional hurdles and thrive.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫  🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution—packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Take Two Minutes platform - Website Use coupon code "DRCAM" for 20% off Take Two Minutes platform.   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction to Supporting Teens' Mental Health 04:02 Tools for Managing Emotions and Anxiety 08:58 The Power of Gratitude in Rewiring the Brain 10:57 The Importance of Patience and Trying Different Strategies 12:32 Grounding Exercises for Calming Anxiety 18:31 Recognizing Positivity and Rebounding from Negative Experiences   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Mark Fussell Website: take2minutes.org Instagram: @take2min Facebook: @take2min YouTube: @take2min   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:02.636) Today we're diving into a topic that couldn't be more crucial, your teens' mental health. As parents, we all want our kids to thrive emotionally, but knowing how to support them can sometimes feel overwhelming. So we've got some game -changing proven strategies that we're gonna give to you so they're right at your fingertips during the tough times. That's why I'm thrilled to have Mark Fussell with us today. Mark is the founder of Take Two Minutes, a platform that's all about boosting mental wellness through the science of positive psychology. Mark is here to share actionable techniques that you can start using right away. Welcome, Mark.   Marc S Fussell (00:40.344) Thank you, Dr. Kam. I'm glad to be here. Thank you for having me.   Dr. Cam (00:43.248) Yeah, this is a very important topic and I know I talk to a lot of parents that just want tools or like just tell us what we can do. So before we even get going, I would love to hear what sparked the idea of the Take Two Minutes.   Marc S Fussell (00:57.229) It's interesting. It's actually my who now is my older son, but at the time he was much younger in 2015, my older son was in high school and he was struggling with what I call typical high school problems. And I say what I call because every everyone deals with things very differently. So when I heard of what was happening or what he was sad, depressed about in my mind, I was like, this is high school difficulties. And I decided to try to address it by something simple, which was sending him a message every day around noon. So in middle of his school day, letting him know he's loved, letting me know those people who care about him, just trying to lift his spirits. And that grew into me having a database of these positive messages. I'm a developer by heart. guess, you know, going back to my, my younger years, I was always a developer. So even when I was sending these messages to him, I was still in technology. And what I realized was every day when I wanted to send him a message, quite often I was in a meeting. I was doing something that was preoccupying my time. Further, most of my positivity was happening in the morning when I was either exercising or doing yoga or meditating. And around noon, as you may know, we have more stressful lives. And so I put together a little system that allowed me to write positive messages in the morning, put it into a document and the system would just take one out of the documents and send it to him every day. So yeah, they were still my messages. They were just being more automated sending to him. Well, that kind of snowballed into more people wanting to receive the messages. And I think at some point in time, I had 10, 15 people getting the messages and I didn't think anything else of it. thought this is kind of cool. People are reading my positive messages. So it's great. Well, one day I was in a coffee shop and someone behind me overheard me talking about it to the person who I knew is at the coffee shop. And they said, I get your messages too. And I had no idea that anyone else was getting them. And so I went and looked and there was about 300 people in the database who were receiving the messages. Yeah. So I was a little bit taken back and realized, I should probably do more with this because right now they're just my positive messages I've kind of made up. And not that I'm an expert, but I think they were good messages. So ultimately I reached out to my network of connections and learned that I had a connection with a doctor of psychology at Duke University. He was able to spend a lot of time on the phone with me, teaching me all about positive psychology, teaching me all about his studies. He had seven or eight years worth of studies he had done at that point around positive psychology and things that help people and really black and white data about how they help people. And so I started building out what's now Take Two Minutes. And that was probably in 2017, 2018, I started building Take Two Minutes.   Dr. Cam (03:33.034) That is amazing and it's so great to have used technology for good. There's a lot of things we can do with good. So I love this and having those positive messages. We know the impact when you get them on a regular basis can rewire the brain. So you're helping your teenager rewire their brain to be more positive, which is phenomenal. And now we are talking about tools that parents can have. And this that itself is a great one.  right, just sending those messages. But I have a lot of kids, especially once school starts, that really struggle to manage their emotions, that get very anxious about things, and parents want to help them and they don't know how. And so I'd love to provide some tools for them on what can they do when they see that their teen is struggling, what can they help them with.   Marc S Fussell (04:28.458) Right. So I think there's a lot of answers to that question. And I'm going to start with, there is no one solution for everybody, right? And let's just start there. And I think that's an obvious statement, but not everyone recognizes that. The goal is to keep trying until you find something that works for the individual. Take two minutes is one of the many things you can try. Obviously, I'm gonna talk about take two minutes because it's my, as you said, my passion, what I know a lot about, but ultimately I know about positive psychology and there are a lot of tools out there and you have to find the one that works the best for your children. So what take two minutes can offer is a few things. We have a few different activities I'm gonna talk about that could help children.   Also, you mentioned the positive messages. We still have positive messages. They have grown. So we actually have an entire subset of positive messages now that are meant for middle school and high school kids. were created, the little subset, when I say little, it's 400 messages. They were created by teachers, school counselors, and also regular counselors and therapists that are really more targeted at that younger age. They're shorter messages. They're not quite as in depth with some of the messages. And they were written by people who work with kids to help kids. So there's a whole subset of positive messages just for younger audience, we'll say. On and above that, within Take Two Minutes, a parent can sign up for Take Two Minutes and buy a license for their child or children or entire family.   And a neat feature we have is the ability for the parent to see what activities the children are doing. So can actually get a report showing if they have one or more than one kid, each child and what things they're doing. And they can look at the report on a day basis or a week basis or whatever. many of the activities we have allows the recipient to check in, like how are you feeling right now? And so as if a child does check in their mood,   A parent can see their mood even different times throughout the day, how they're feeling if they have checked in multiple times. That's something that's really good. And from advice and input from therapists and

Dr. Cam Caswell sits down with Stacey D. Stewart, CEO of Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), to discuss the critical issue of underage drinking and impaired driving. Stacey highlights the ongoing dangers of these issues and the devastating impact they can have on families. She emphasizes that parents play a key role in prevention through open, ongoing conversations with their teens. Stacey encourages parents to provide resources and information to help their children make informed decisions and understand the consequences of alcohol and substance use. Modeling responsible behavior and seeking help if a child struggles with substance use is also key.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The lasting dangers of underage drinking and impaired driving, and how parents can help prevent them. Why ongoing, open communication with teens is crucial for prevention. Practical resources and tips for parents to help their teens make informed choices about alcohol and substance use. How parents can model responsible behavior to reinforce the importance of safe choices. The importance of addressing mental health concerns and seeking help when necessary.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Underage drinking and impaired driving remain serious issues with severe consequences. Parents can prevent these dangers by maintaining open communication with their teens and providing educational resources. Modeling responsible behavior is essential for guiding teens toward making better decisions. Early conversations about alcohol and substance use should begin as early as elementary school. If a teen is struggling with substance use, parents should seek support and resources immediately.   ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share this episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create more episodes packed with practical tips to help you and your family thrive! 🔔 Be sure to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-filled episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE MADD's digital Power of Parents handbook   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 Introduction and the Importance of Prevention 03:39 The Disconnect Between Knowledge and Action 06:34 Starting the Conversation Early 11:31 Continuing the Conversation and Reinforcing the Dangers 18:39 Creating a Plan for Safe Transportation 26:27 Modeling Responsible Behavior and Addressing Mental Health   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Stacey D. Stewart Website: MADD Website Instagram: @MADDNational Facebook: MADD Official Facebook LinkedIn: Stacey D. Stewart LinkedIn X (Twitter): @MADDOnline YouTube: MADD YouTube Channel TikTok: @MADDNational   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:01.026) The thought of your teen making a life -altering mistake because of alcohol is terrifying. We know that underage drinking can lead to devastating consequences, from impaired driving accidents to the dangerous combination of alcohol with other drugs. But here's the thing, these tragedies are entirely preventable. To help us navigate these tough topics, I am joined by Stacey D. Stewart, CEO of Mothers Against Drunk Driving or MADD. Stacey is going to share how we as parents can address these fears take action and keep our teens safe from the dangers of drinking and driving. Stacey, welcome to the show.   Stacey D. Stewart (00:37.837) Thank for having me.   Dr. Cam (00:39.182) Absolutely, Kaso. I always love starting with a backstory. So what inspired you to get involved with MAD?   Stacey D. Stewart (00:47.544) You know, my whole career has kind of been defined by leading and working in organizations that are doing good in society and doing good for others. It's my career has gone everywhere from addressing affordable housing and homelessness to looking at the issues of public education to public health and maternal and infant health and this opportunity came up to come to MAD and I just thought it was an amazing opportunity. The organization has, you know, an incredible legacy, has done really phenomenal things and is on a journey to continue to address the issue of Indian Peer Driving. And I just jumped on the opportunity to come once it came my way and I've been excited to be a part of the organization ever since.   Dr. Cam (01:35.23) I love that. Thank you for everything you're doing. That's amazing. Making some serious change in the world. That's incredible. Tell me a little bit about what is the goal of MAD right now? Like what are your main things that you're trying to accomplish?   Stacey D. Stewart (01:51.034) So the main goal is to end impaired driving, meaning ending drunk and drug driving. And unfortunately for a lot of people, I think maybe because of some of the success that Matt has had over almost 45 years, a lot of people think that that issue has gone away or we've dealt with it. Some people say, well, we have ride share, we have Uber and ride share alternatives. So why would anyone get behind a wheel and drive? And unfortunately it still happens. In fact, based on the latest statistics,   Over 13 ,000 people died as a result of impaired driving crashes. And about every, almost every 90 seconds, someone is either being injured or killed in an impaired driving crash. And so we still have a major issue for, in this country. And in fact, even though we have seen a 50 % decline in fatalities from the beginning of MADS getting started until just before the...   Stacey D. Stewart (02:49.69) pandemic, during the pandemic, we saw an upswing. So from 2019 to 2022, we saw an increase in fatalities of over 30%. So we began going in the wrong direction. And that's why, Mad, we're, you know, very, very focused on doubling down to make sure that we build awareness around the dangers of, of drinking and, using substances behind the wheel. We also are making sure that young people understand the dangers of underage drinking because we know that underage drinking and substance use can lead to a greater chance of becoming involved in an impaired driving crash. So these are just really important issues that we have to continue to focus on and we can't let up the focus because, you know, frankly, if we do, more people die or get injured and none of us wants that.   Dr. Cam (03:39.638) Yeah, I think as parents, we're very well aware of this, right? And when our kids are going out and they're even before they're driving and their friends are driving, we're already terrified enough, right? I think our kids also know, but there's a disconnect between what they know and what they do. And there's also a disconnect of what we know and what our kids will hear from us, right? And what they believe from us.   So I think that's the biggest thing as parents that we're worried about is how do we convey the severity of it without terrifying them, but also how do we do it in a way where we're teaching them to make good decisions, even when there's peer pressure and they don't want to be the weird person that says, I'm not going to take the ride or no, I'm not drinking. I throw a lot at you because there's a lot.   Stacey D. Stewart (04:31.246) Right. No, that's it. Yeah, no, no, no. It's but you're you're asking all the right questions and touching all the right issues. And I think, you know, Ed Madd, one of the things that we do is provide a lot of information and resources to parents so that parents know how to talk to their kids around the dangers of underage drinking and substance use and then what that can mean in terms of becoming involved in an impaired driving crash. I think it's really important to level set, you know, about There are about 4 ,300 deaths attributed each year to underage drinking in this country. And when you look at, in fact, based on data as of 2021, about 27 % of drivers between the ages of 15 and 20 were killed in traffic crashes and had alcohol present in their system. And so it's really important to understand that these are really serious issues and that if we don't talk to our kids, as soon as we're ready to have that conversation and they're ready to have the conversation, which can be as early as even elementary school, middle school, but certainly by high school, we could be doing our kids a disservice because if they're not engaged in a very positive conversation with their parents, who we know parents are the most influential adults in a kid's life, they may being influenced by some of the wrong things to your point around peer pressure becomes very intense the older that young people get certainly through high school, middle school and high school and into college. so creating those healthy habits is something that's really important. And that's why we created the Power Parents Handbook which is available at mad .org our website. It's available to give parents those tools that they need to know how to talk to kids in healthy and positive ways so that kids understand how to make good decisions and how to make sure that they stay as safe as possible and keep others safe as well.   Dr. Cam (06:34.502) Yeah, I looked through that. It's beautifully done too. It's really, really cool resource. So I will put the link there and I encourage parents to look at that. Let's pull out a few things. Let's say we've got a tween now, right? So they're not driving yet. Hopefully, well, chances are now they might be starting to be introduced to alcohol. How do we start that conversation at that age? What are some things parents can say or do to really build so that we can build upon that. I'll take it older.   Stacey D. Stewart (07:06.426) So I think one of the things that the Hamburg tribes have point out is that it's not even what we say, it's also how we say it. So there are

If you're struggling to connect with your strong-willed teenager and every conversation feels like a tug-of-war, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with parenting expert Kirk Martin, founder of CelebrateCalm.com and host of the Calm Parenting Podcast. Together, they share practical and actionable strategies to turn defiance and power struggles into calm, productive conversations. You'll learn how to motivate your strong-willed teen, build a trusting relationship, and navigate these challenging years with more peace and understanding. Tune in to discover how changing your approach as a parent can transform your family dynamic and empower your teen to be their authentic self. Don’t miss out on these game-changing tips!   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to Build a Close, Trusting Connection with your teen to motivate them without using control or manipulation. Why Parents Should Focus on Changing Themselves instead of trying to change their teen's behavior. The Power of Bonding by sharing interests with your teen and asking them to teach you something they’re passionate about. How Releasing Parental Expectations can help your teen embrace their authentic self and take ownership of their actions. The Importance of Normalizing Teen Challenges by understanding that their behavior is often a reaction to their environment, not an attack on you.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? If you found this episode helpful, don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode with friends and family, and leave a rating and review to help other parents discover the support they need. Your feedback helps me continue creating episodes packed with practical tips for families just like yours! Thanks for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Don’t forget to Follow so you never miss another episode filled with solutions that make parenting teens easier! 🙌   TOP 5 TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Self-Reflection Is Key – Parents should focus on changing their own responses and mindset instead of trying to change their teen’s behavior. This shift can lead to better communication and fewer power struggles. Empathy Over Control – Building a strong relationship with your teen starts with understanding their world, not trying to control it. Listening and empathizing is more powerful than imposing rules. Bonding Over Shared Interests – Find common ground with your teen and engage in activities they love. Asking them to teach you something is a great way to build connection and show respect for their expertise. Release the Pressure – Let go of strict expectations about who your teen should be. Empower them by recognizing their natural gifts and talents, which fosters confidence and independence. Mentors Are Essential – Outside mentorship can provide your teen with additional support and guidance that may be more effective than what you can offer as a parent. Encourage them to seek out these valuable relationships.   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Calm Parenting Podcast   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Introduction: Effective Strategies for Motivating Strong-Willed Teenagers 01:22 Kirk's Backstory: How to Transform the Parent-Teen Relationship 03:12 Self-Reflection in Parenting: Why Changing Yourself Helps Your Teen 06:25 How to Build a Strong Connection with Your Teen 09:44 The Power of Listening: Acknowledging Your Teen’s Voice 12:55 How to Work with Parents to Facilitate Positive Change 17:21 Motivating Your Teen: The Importance of Releasing Parental Expectations 20:37 Empowering Teenagers: Helping Them Discover Their Authentic Self 21:13 Building a Strong Emotional Bond with Your Teenager 25:37 Identifying and Creating Opportunities for Your Teen to Shine 30:51 Normalizing the Challenges of Raising Teenagers 37:15 How Social Media Affects Teen Behavior: Understanding the Impact   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Kirk Martin Website: CelebrateCalm.com Instagram: @calmparentingpodcast Facebook: @CelebrateCalm   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01.646) Hey parents, if you're struggling to get through to your strong-willed teenager, feeling like every conversation turns into a battle, you're not alone. Today we're diving into three ways to motivate strong-willed teenagers. I'm joined by a special guest who's a game changer in this area, Kirk Martin. Kirk is the founder of CelebrateCom.com and host of the Calm Parenting podcast. He’s mastered the art of transforming defiance and power struggles into productive conversations. Today, he’s going to share practical strategies to not only get our teens to listen but also build a close, trusting relationship with them. Kirk, welcome to the show. Kirk (00:42.332) Dr. Cam, I'm super excited to be here! Dr. Cam (00:44.874) Yes, this is great. Let's start with your backstory. What inspired you to start working with parents and their teenagers? Kirk (00:53.02) Our own son. Our son, Casey, came out of the womb with boxing gloves on – that kind of strong-willed kid who fights you over everything. Like most parents, I parented like my dad did: fear and intimidation, yelling, and screaming. But with a strong-willed child, you know this – they’re fight-or-flight kids. You double down on your discipline, and your strong-willed child will push back even harder. Dr. Cam (01:22.375) Exactly. Kirk (01:23.644) So, I spent the first seven or eight years of his life trying to change him, thinking, "He just needs to listen to me." But then I realized, no, I need to change myself. I was yelling at my son, telling him to calm down, when inside, he was probably thinking, "Apparently, you haven't mastered that skill at 35!" Everything changed when I changed. I stopped feeding off my anxiety, control issues, and perfectionism as a parent. Then, we did something a little weird that my wife hated. I said, “I have an awesome idea—let’s bring in strong-willed kids, kids on the spectrum, into our home for something called Lego camp.” The idea was to teach impulse control, emotion regulation, and social skills in real-life situations, not in an office. And all the kids came, not knowing they were being worked on. It was kind of like play therapy, but outside of an office setting. We did that for a decade, and over 1,500 kids came through our home. That’s the backstory. Eventually, we started speaking, and I shifted from working with kids—which was the easy part—to working with the parents. You know this, Dr. Cam: we, as parents, bring so much baggage into it. But when I changed, everything shifted in the family dynamic. Dr. Cam (03:10.34) I love that. And I love how it started with your self-awareness because that’s the key to all of parenting—the ability to stop and ask, "What’s my part in this dynamic?" If we focus on changing our teen, nothing will change unless we're willing to change ourselves. Kirk (03:30.684) Yeah, that’s true. You know, when you're looking at that middle school child who's been in the same hoodie for 18 straight days, playing video games, and you start thinking, "Who’s going to marry this kid? Who’s going to hire this kid?" You start lecturing them, pointing out everything they're doing wrong. Dr. Cam (03:32.302) So, what’s the problem with that approach? Kirk (03:57.924) Eventually, they shut down or say, “Screw you” inside, thinking, “You're never happy with me.” The good news, though, is if our success as a family depends on changing our spouse or child, we’re in trouble. We can’t change another person. But if it depends on changing ourselves, we’ve got a shot. When you change yourself, it actually changes how your kids respond to you. Dr. Cam (04:32.164) 100%. And when you started working with parents, my whole philosophy is the same. Teens won’t change unless we work with the parents. Once the parents change, the teens usually come along, too. So let’s talk about that typical teen—the one wearing the hoodie, hiding in their room playing games, and giving one-word responses when we ask about their day. A lot of parents take that very personally. They feel like their teen is pushing them out of their life, so they try to insert themselves more and more. Or they demand that their teen come down and spend time with them, regardless of whether the teen enjoys it. Why don’t these approaches work? Kirk (05:27.516) Well, kids—especially teens—are supposed to be independent, right? It would be weird if a 15-year-old said, "Mom, I’d rather spend time with you than my friends." That’s the normal stage for them. With strong-willed kids, the more you push, the more they resist. For me, it’s about drawing them to me and leading. For example, when our son was a teenager, if he brought something up, I would think, “I have this lecture in my head about how to choose friends.” But instead, I’d say, “Hey, Casey, I have some thoughts on that, but I need to get started on dinner. I’ll be in the garage, and if you want to come chat later, I’d love to share.” I wasn’t forcing it on him. They won’t come to you and say, “Dad, you have so much wisdom, I’m ready to hear it.” They’ll probably say, “Okay, what are your dumb ideas?” But I don’t take it personally. Any positive interaction is a win. It’s all about resetting expectations. Dr. Cam (07:14.306) Yes! That’s such a great point. And honestly, that’s a sign of healthy development. It’s normal for a teen to be a little sassy. Kirk (07:18.908) Right! It would be strange if they weren’t a little sassy at 13 or 16. There’s a difference between normal sass and outright defiance. If they’re calling you names or saying, “I hate you,” that’s a different issue. But the normal sas

Helping your tween thrive academically isn’t just about grades—it’s about fostering motivation, independence, and a love for learning. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with JoAnn Schauf, founder of Your Tween and You, to discuss how parents can set their tweens up for success in school without constant battles over homework and grades. JoAnn, often called the Parent Whisperer, shares expert insights from her book Loving the Alien: How to Parent Your Tween. She provides practical strategies to help tweens develop strong study habits, take ownership of their learning, and build confidence in their abilities.   What You'll Learn in This Episode How to encourage motivation without nagging The best ways to help your tween set and reach academic goals Why focusing on strengths leads to better learning outcomes How to balance support and independence in schoolwork The role of technology in learning—and how to set boundaries   5 Key Takeaways for Parents of Tweens Collaboration boosts motivation – Involve tweens in goal-setting to help them feel invested in their education. Study habits matter more than grades – Focus on effort, organization, and progress rather than just report cards. Let them take ownership – Encourage problem-solving instead of fixing everything for them. Support, don’t micromanage – Guide your tween in developing independence rather than controlling their work. Praise the process, not just the outcome – Recognize hard work, consistency, and small wins to build confidence.   Enjoying the Show? If this episode helped you, please share it with other parents! Also, don’t forget to leave a rating and review—your support helps more families find practical parenting strategies. 🔔 Hit Follow so you never miss an episode packed with solutions!   Resources Mentioned in This Episode 20% discount for new coaching clients through September 15, 2024 at YourTweenandYou.com Episode Chapters 00:00 – Introduction and Background 03:01 – Encouraging Motivation Without Nagging 08:05 – Setting Realistic Academic Goals 13:56 – Balancing Support and Independence 19:01 – The Role of Technology in Learning 24:54 – Focusing on Strengths Over Grades 31:48 – Helping Tweens Build Study Habits 36:50 – Conclusion and Book Recommendation   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: JoAnn Schauf Website: YourTweenandYou.com Instagram: @YourTweenandYou YouTube: Your Tween and You Facebook: @YourTweenandYou LinkedIn: JoAnn Schauf   Connect with Your Host: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:00.762) Hello, parents of tweens and teens! As the new school year approaches, prepping our tweens for success is more important than ever. Today, we're diving into some of the biggest challenges parents face: balancing expectations, navigating social dynamics, and setting up accountability for academic success. Our special guest, JoAnn Schauf, is here to share expert insights. Often called the "Parent Whisperer," JoAnn is the author of Loving the Alien: How to Parent Your Tween and founder of Your Tween and You, a resource dedicated to supporting, empowering, and inspiring parents. She’s here to give us valuable tips and actionable advice to help our tweens have their best school year yet. JoAnn, welcome to the show! JoAnn Schauf (00:48.354) Thank you so much! It’s so fun to be here. Dr. Cam (00:50.444) It is! I love starting with the backstory. What inspired you to help parents and their tweens? JoAnn Schauf (00:58.872) This has been building for a while. I was a school counselor when cell phones first became a big thing, and parents were tearing their hair out. It was already tough—tweens were hibernating in their rooms, and parents felt lost because they weren’t as involved in middle school as they were in elementary school. At one point, I had more parents in my office than students because they didn’t know what to do with technology. Then I realized—it wasn’t just technology. There were so many things parents needed help with. So, I thought, They need a book. They need tools and strategies to understand what’s going on with their tweens. That’s how it all started. Dr. Cam (01:49.976) Such a big need! By the time this episode airs, school will be even closer, and parents are already starting to panic. What are some of the biggest challenges they come to you about? JoAnn Schauf (02:15.054) Technology is a huge one. It used to be recommended to keep the family computer in a shared space so parents could monitor usage. Now, we’ve gone from that to handing kids a smartphone with unlimited access, and no one knew the rules. Parents didn’t grow up with this either, so there wasn’t any historical guidance. We had to write a playbook to help them figure it out. Dr. Cam (02:54.042) Yeah, what specific challenges are causing the biggest struggles? JoAnn Schauf (03:01.422) Everything from stranger danger to video game addiction to kids staying up all night texting. Sleep is critical, and if they’re on their phones all night, it affects everything. Parents need to take control, but we also need to think about our own screen habits. If we’re on our phones constantly, we’re not setting a great example. It’s easy to fall into the “do as I say, not as I do” trap. Dr. Cam (03:48.629) All the time. Exactly. JoAnn Schauf (03:51.118) One little device has completely changed how we function as a society. Dr. Cam (04:02.274) It really has. And parents often see it as a negative just because it’s different from how we grew up. A lot of school-related conflict comes down to two things: pressure to succeed and battles over phone use. Parents expect straight A’s in every subject, regardless of a child’s strengths or interests, and they want them off their phones completely during homework. But many kids actually use their phones to help with schoolwork—whether it’s researching online or FaceTiming a friend for support. When we take the phone away, we might be removing their learning tools instead of solving the real problem. How do we find a balance where kids can focus without constant battles over technology? JoAnn Schauf (05:22.318) The key is to avoid turning it into a battle. The moment it becomes a power struggle, no one wins. I encourage parents to collaborate instead of just laying down the law. Saying, “You can only use it from this time to this time, and it stays in the kitchen the rest of the day,” creates a feeling of distrust. The stricter you are, the more they’ll resist. A better approach is to invite them into a conversation: “School’s starting soon. You’ve had a lot of freedom with technology over the summer. Let’s figure out a plan together so we’re not constantly fighting about it.” Dr. Cam (06:01.442) Yes! That’s not just teens—that’s human nature. JoAnn Schauf (06:17.592) Exactly. This approach gives them a sense of ownership. Instead of laying down rules, ask, “How can we set this up so we both feel good about it?” That way, it’s a collaborative solution, not a dictatorship. Dr. Cam (06:31.866) I love that. But let’s be real—many parents interpret “having a conversation” as “I’ll tell you the rules, and you’ll listen.” Why doesn’t that work? JoAnn Schauf (06:50.926) Because tweens don’t want to be bossed around. They’re figuring out their identity, what they believe in, and how they fit into the world. Two things they crave most are independence and autonomy. If you just lay down rules, they’ll resist—even if they agree with you. It’s part of growing up. Dr. Cam (07:31.696) And if they do obey, they’re either miserable or sneaky about it. JoAnn Schauf (07:36.526) Right. That’s why parents need to gradually let go of control so kids learn to self-regulate. By the time they’re on their own at 18 or 21, they need to know how to manage their time, their responsibilities, and yes—their screen use. Dr. Cam (08:12.016) Many parents worry that if they don’t enforce strict limits, their kids will be on their phones 24/7 and their grades will plummet. What’s your response? JoAnn Schauf (08:30.668) Collaboration is key. Say, “I don’t want to be the bad guy. I don’t want your phone to be the source of constant fights. How can we make this work for both of us?” If they feel involved in setting the rules, they’re much more likely to follow them. Dr. Cam (09:03.354) Absolutely. Tweens and teens know their phones are distracting. Sometimes, they turn to them because they’re bored—not because they don’t care about school. Removing the phone doesn’t make homework more engaging. And not all screen time is equal. JoAnn Schauf (09:44.206) Exactly! That’s why it’s important to define what’s allowed and what’s not. Tell them, “These are the apps I’m okay with. Since I’m paying for the phone, I need to see what you’re doing on it.” They won’t love that, but it’s about safety, not control. Parents aren’t spying—they’re making sure their kids are safe and using technology in a healthy way. Dr. Cam (10:39.854): Yeah, so I think this is one of those fine lines you have to walk carefully because I agree with you. However, how we do it makes all the difference. If it's "This is my phone, I get to take it whenever I want," that’s hard because you gave it to them, and they’re having personal conversations with their friends. A lot of the kids I talk to have nothing to hide, but they feel responsible for keeping what their friends say confidential. I’ve had this experience with my daughter, where I said, "I want to look at this," and she got really upset. I asked, "What are you hiding?" It turned out she wasn’t hiding anything. I trust her, but she was worried about her friends. So

Turning 18 is a significant milestone that brings up a whirlwind of emotions for both parents and teens. Parents often struggle with how much to loosen their grip, while teens may have unrealistic expectations of complete independence. In this episode, I’m joined by Joanna Lilley, a renowned Therapeutic Consultant and Wellness Gap Consultant, who specializes in guiding young adults through this critical transition. Joanna shares valuable tips on how parents can prepare their teens for adulthood by teaching skills and responsibilities gradually, modeling the behavior they want to see, and creating opportunities for teens to practice independence. The episode also touches on the importance of letting go, trusting that your teen will figure things out, and how to approach the tough conversations about expectations. The key takeaway? Don't let the 18th birthday drive fear and worry—prepare ahead of time and have open, honest conversations with your teens.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to prepare your teen for adulthood by gradually teaching essential skills Why modeling behavior is critical for guiding your teen The importance of creating opportunities for teens to practice independence How to let go and trust that your teen will navigate challenges Why open conversations about expectations are essential for a smooth transition   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Gradually teach teens skills and responsibilities to prepare them for adulthood. Model the behavior you want to see in your teens. Create opportunities for teens to practice independence. Let go and trust that your teens will figure things out. Have open conversations with teens about expectations.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Success Is Subjective Podcast: Listen here   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 - Teens Turning 18: A Significant Shift 06:13 - Preparing Teens for Adulthood 09:19 - Teaching Skills and Responsibilities 14:56 - Letting Go and Focusing on Self-Care   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Joanna Lilley Website: www.lilleyconsulting.com LinkedIn: Joanna Lilley Facebook: Lilley Consulting LLC YouTube: Lilley Consulting on YouTube   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam Hello parents, Dr. Cam here. Today we're tackling the significant shift when our kids turn 18. Teens are eager to embrace their independence. They're legal, right? But parents struggle with how much to loosen their grip, especially if they don't feel their teen is quite prepared yet to be an adult. So, it's a complex and challenging time to navigate. Joining us today is Joanna Lilley, a therapeutic consultant specializing in guiding young adults through this pivotal transition. Joanna is going to help us address our concerns about our teen's readiness for adult responsibilities and finding the right balance of support and freedom. Joanna, welcome to the show. Joanna Lilley (00:42.074) Thanks for having me. Joanna Lilley (00:50.202) Well, I’ll say this topic is pretty par for the course for me. What I enjoy about working with young adults is that they do have autonomy and agency, but there's still a significant level of dependence and skill building that's needed. I enjoy it because it’s the perfect storm of how do we collaborate in this transitional period of launching into adulthood? Dr. Cam (01:21.555) I love that, and I agree. It’s such a difficult thing to navigate for both teens and parents. It's funny, though, because when I work with a lot of kids—most of them are around 16 or 17—they envision that once they turn 18, they're completely independent. They think parents won’t have a say in what they do, and they’re free. Parents, on the other hand, think it's no different than when they were 16 or 17. As long as they’re under our roof, everything we say goes. When this time comes, those two very different views fuel a lot of conflict. So, let’s first talk about the teen's perspective. Why are they suddenly saying, “I’m free”—except for food, shelter, and all the things they still need from their parents? Joanna Lilley (02:18.778) I'm sure it has a lot to do with how they were parented and how involved their parents were in their lives. There needs to be balance. For young adults who feel like they were over-managed, they have this countdown until their 18th birthday, thinking, "Once I turn 18, I’m free!" But the reality is, as you said, they’re still very dependent on their parents. It’s a cognitive dissonance—their idea of independence versus the reality of needing support. Dr. Cam (03:06.547) Right. They see the freedom, but not the responsibility that comes with it. So, now let’s look at the parent's perspective. Why are parents often reluctant to let go when their kids turn 18? Is 18, other than being legally the age of adulthood, something parents should be concerned about? Joanna Lilley (03:36.794) There’s certainly a fear that once their child turns 18, parents will lose control or their advice will no longer matter. But the reality is, if they’re under your roof, if you’re providing food or paying for school, just because they’re 18 doesn’t mean you lose influence over what they’re involved with or how they’re cared for. As they launch into adulthood, there’s still a shift in parenting. Parents get very tunnel-visioned because they’ve been so involved in their child’s life. Then, when 18 hits, panic sets in. "Oh my gosh, I haven’t laid the foundation for everything they need before they turn 18." There’s a real fear that they don’t have the skills to survive in the real world. It also comes down to brain development—teens can make impulsive decisions. Parents worry about the choices their kids might make. It really depends on the parent-child dynamic, but most parents I work with are very involved, and when their child turns 18, they realize they may not have the skills to survive independently. Dr. Cam (05:33.459) Yeah, exactly. So, how do we start preparing our teens? Let’s be real—our number one job as parents is to prepare our kids to be independent, not to keep them dependent on us. I see some parents still wanting their kids to be dependent, or getting frustrated that their kids are still dependent when they’re old enough. How do we start preparing them to be independent but still want us, not need us? Joanna Lilley (06:12.954) I love the distinction between needing and wanting. We do want our kids to communicate with us, to call us and tell us what’s going on in their lives—not call us because they don’t know their social security number! There’s a lot of logistical information parents can start to infuse in their kids' lives. Things like scheduling doctor’s appointments, understanding insurance, medications, filling prescriptions, setting alarms, doing laundry. These are the basic skills they need to survive independently. We should start incorporating these into their high school years. If they’re not working, they can volunteer—teaching them consistency, routine, and responsibility. Just because they’re an adult doesn’t mean life is all sunshine and rainbows. In fact, adulting is often mundane and tedious. So, we need to take the shine off of adulthood and show them the real responsibilities that come with it. That way, when they turn 18, they won’t be let down by all the adult responsibilities that come with it. Dr. Cam (07:55.603) Right, and I can already hear some of my clients saying, “I would love to teach them these things, but they don’t listen. They don’t want to help around the house, and it’s just a constant battle.” How do we start teaching responsibility and these life skills if they’re resistant? Joanna Lilley (08:27.066) Such a great question. Well, first and foremost, keep listening to this podcast for tips on how to communicate better with your teen. There are also objective resources, like professionals, who can help—whether that’s putting a coach in front of your child or for you as a parent. It’s about learning the subtle differences in how to ask your teen to do things or how to invite them into these “boring” adulting tasks. We want to get them excited about it. If you communicate it as something that’s not just an obligation but a skill to help them become an adult, they might buy in more. And, honestly, there are professionals who can help you make those subtle adjustments in how you communicate. If your automatic response is that they’ll push back or refuse and it leads to an argument, then let’s shift that dynamic. The earlier you do this, the more prepared your teen will be by the time they turn 18. And as a parent, you’ll be in a better place with communication and your dynamic will feel more like a partnership. At that point, you’re not just parenting a child—you’re parenting an adult, and they’ll want to communicate with you, not because they need to, but because they want to. Dr. Cam (10:20.275): Yeah, I think that's so important, and getting there can be a struggle. One of the obstacles I see with a lot of parents is that we get very laser-focused on what our teen is not doing or what they're doing, and we think they just need to change. I keep reiterating to everyone: if your teen is not listening to you, if they're not respecting you, if they're resistant to

Parenting teens is a tricky balancing act—nurturing your child while letting them go. Every parent hopes their teen grows into a confident, capable adult who makes good choices and chases their dreams. But there's always the fear of them making big mistakes or getting hurt along the way. Esther Joy Goetz, author, speaker, and the force behind the popular Moms of Bigs social media community, is here to help us navigate this challenge.  Esther's insights will empower you to find that balance between nurturing and letting go, while focusing on long-term, healthy relationships with your teens. She’ll also share what inspired her to create the Moms of Bigs community—a lifeline for moms of teens and young adults who are facing similar struggles.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE • How to create a safe space that allows your teen to explore their individuality • Why healthy boundaries are key to building trust and respect • How to balance nurturing with letting go while maintaining a strong connection • Tips for connecting with your teen without expectations or pressure   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Creating a Safe Space – Give your teen the freedom to grow into themselves by providing a space where they can explore and make mistakes. Healthy Boundaries are Essential – Establish boundaries that allow both you and your teen to feel respected, loved, and valued without overstepping. Trust Without Expectations – Focus on connecting with your teen in an authentic way, free from strings or expectations, to build trust and open communication. Respect in the Parent-Teen Relationship – Modeling respect, being seen, heard, and valued are vital for a thriving parent-child dynamic. Long-Term Relationship Building – It's not just about today. Building a lasting, healthy relationship with your teen is key for their emotional growth and your connection as they become adults.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Esther’s eBook: Moms Never Stop Momming (Get 20% off when you sign up for her newsletter!)   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Introduction and Inspiration for Moms of Bigs 05:34 Navigating the Balance Between Nurturing and Letting Go 09:03 The Fear of Letting Go and Loss of Control 13:06 Creating a Safe Space and Setting Healthy Boundaries 23:12 Being the Bad Guy and Building Trust 28:41 Key Takeaways and Action Steps   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Esther Joy Goetz Website: Moms of Bigs Instagram: @momsofbigs Facebook: @momsofbigs   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01.297) Hello parents, Dr. Cam here. As parents, we hope our kids grow up confident and capable. We want them to make good choices and chase their dreams, but we’re also worried they’ll make big mistakes or even get hurt. That’s why I’m so excited to have Esther Joy Goetz here today. Esther is an author, speaker, and the force behind the popular Moms of Bigs social media community. She’s here to help us find that balance between nurturing our teens and letting them go. Esther, welcome to the show. Esther Joy Goetz (00:32.526) Thank you. I’m so excited to be here. And just when you said that, I thought, hmm, that’s the tricky tightrope of parenting teens. Dr. Cam (00:42.353) It really, really is. Let’s start with a quick backstory. What inspired you to launch Moms of Bigs? Esther Joy Goetz (00:52.942) Well, my daughter said to me, “Mom, you need to...” She’s so funny; she thinks that I have some wisdom. What really happened was, when she graduated high school, she said, “Mom, there are so many people out there that really don’t know how to do the mom gig well, especially moms of teens.” How can they know? I thought, well, I don’t know if I’m the answer to that, but I had two older friends who guided me along and continue to guide me. I realized there was nothing out there on social media for this stage—nothing. I couldn’t find a thing. I thought, “Why don’t I give out what I actually need?” A lot of times, our passion is born from what we needed. There’s plenty of advice on breastfeeding and how to handle toddlers, but once they hit the teen years, it’s sparse. Or it feels very formulaic—“Do these three things, and you’ll have a magic relationship with your teen.” I was like, “Yeah, I know.” I felt like my teens were some of my greatest teachers, and that’s the posture I wanted to take. Plus, all the mom emotions. You mentioned the big one—fear. No one was really talking about what to do with those emotions in the meantime. That’s really where I focused—on those motherhood emotions. Dr. Cam (03:03.665) I think that’s so important. I was finding the same thing. When parents are new, it feels comfortable to ask for advice. You go to a baby shower and people offer advice. But once you have teens, you feel like you should know, but it’s a whole new skill set. Plus, a whole new emotional package we don’t even know how to deal with. Fear and worry, I think, are two of the biggest ones. Is that what you’re seeing as well? Guilt—my goodness. Esther Joy Goetz (03:41.07) Guilt, fear, worry—and I think grief and sadness. Those are the three uncomfortable emotions. We have more comfortable ones too, like joy—watching them become their own people, having exciting conversations, and celebrating things like their sports achievements or academic success. But the uncomfortable emotions, like the letting-go process and anticipatory grief, come into play a lot. And I think with fear, it’s the loss of control. When they’re young, you think you can control them. But once they hit the teen years, the illusion of control disappears. You’re left with fear and worry. Dr. Cam (04:49.521) Yeah, I see this now with parents, especially with technology—GPS, tracking apps, all these things. Parents send their kids off to high school or college, but they’re still micromanaging, tracking everything. It’s all driven by fear and worry. How do we make sure our kids have the freedom they need? Because I think that’s where the biggest conflict comes from—parents holding on too tight. How do we navigate the balance between keeping them safe and giving them the freedom to experience life? Esther Joy Goetz (05:34.798) The good news is we don’t have to give blanket freedom immediately. We’ve been giving them little bits of freedom all along. When you experience that pushback, there needs to be a conversation with your child. Communication is key during the teenage years. They need to be part of the conversation, and they have a massive voice in their own life. My tagline is giving our kids the roots of unconditional love and the wings of freedom to be completely themselves. And the safety aspect—it’s something we have to come to grips with. Can we keep them “safe”? What does that even mean? You can keep them physically safe, but they could still be emotionally crippled. If we focus only on physical safety, we emotionally stunt them. My kids have told me this: “You’re emotionally stunting me. I can’t even make a mistake or figure out what I like or don’t like.” There are different kinds of safety we’re talking about here. My job is to be a safe space for them. Dr. Cam (07:23.825) What does that mean? Esther Joy Goetz (07:26.158) My job as a mom is to create a safe space. That means I create a physically safe home—no abuse, no bullying, no judgment. There’s empathy. It’s a place of unconditional love, no strings attached. That’s the “roots of unconditional love.” If I’m a safe space, I’m creating a soft place for them to land. But there’s also that idea I love where it says, “Ships are not made to stay in the harbor. Ships are made to go out—sometimes into beautiful waters, sometimes into treacherous ones. But the design of the ship is to manage all of that. They’re not designed to stay safe in the harbor.”   Dr. Cam (08:35.505) Right. They wouldn't have much of a life if their job is to make sure we feel that they're safe. If their job is to protect us from our fear and worry, that stunts them. I see that a lot without parents realizing it. The kids push back really hard, and parents see that as disrespect when, in truth, the parents aren't really respecting the kids' individuality. That's a tough one. Esther Joy Goetz (09:05.838) You said something key there: we are responsible for our own emotions. They are not responsible for ours. One of the interesting things that happened with my son, a senior, was that he didn’t want a curfew. I said to him, "Look, I'm afraid when you're out past midnight. I own that—you're not responsible for that, but I have to get up and go to work." Part of living here means this is going to be a conversation we have back and forth. It's about respecting me and the stage I’m in—I'm not there yet. I haven’t fully let go and allowed you to just run around the world. I want you to know the emotions I'm experiencing—you're not responsible for those, but I'm dealing with them myself, in fits and starts. For now, when you're in high school, we’d like you to come home by midnight. If there are any issues surrounding that, just communicate with us the same way I would if I wasn’t going to show up when I said I would. So we navigated my emotions and their freedom at

Is your bathroom a battleground when it comes to your teenager’s hygiene? On one hand, we struggle to get our teen sons to simply wash their face, while on the other, we grapple with curbing our daughters’ complex beauty routines (seriously, are all those serums necessary?). That's why I’m thrilled to have Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness with us today! Dr. Maguiness is a double board-certified pediatric dermatologist, a mom of two tween boys (so she gets it firsthand), and the co-founder of Stryke Club, a personal care and hygiene brand designed specifically for boys. Dr. Maguiness is here to help us navigate the often confusing and challenging world of teenage hygiene, giving us the tools to support our teens’ skincare routines and foster healthy habits.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How teenagers' independence and busy schedules impact their hygiene habits The essentials of a simple yet effective skincare routine for both boys and girls Why parents should model skincare habits to help their teens adopt healthy habits The truth about overcomplicating teen skincare, and how to simplify routines • How to use pimple patches to promote healing and prevent acne picking   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Teenagers often resist hygiene routines due to their desire for independence and packed schedules, so finding a balance is key. Modeling good skincare habits and offering the right products is one of the most effective ways to help your teen maintain their hygiene. For boys, a basic skincare routine involving a gentle cleanser, moisturizer, and sunscreen is all they need to keep their skin healthy. For girls, it's important to avoid overcomplicating skincare—keep it simple with a gentle cleanser, moisturizer, and sunscreen. Pimple patches can help teens avoid picking at their acne, promote healing, and are a helpful addition to any skincare routine.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens Stryke Club: Skin Care for Teens Basic Skin Care Products for Teens: Gentle cleanser (fragrance-free, hypoallergenic) like Cetaphil Face Wash Facial Moisturizer (fragrance-free hypoallergenic, non-comedogenic) like Neutrogena Fragrance Free Daily Facial Moisturizer Sunscreen (SPF 30 or greater) Cleansing Wipes like Stryke Club’s Wipe Out Extra Products That Won’t Harm Sensitive Teen Skin: Hyaluronic Acid Serum like Cerave Hypochlorous Acid Spray like Tower 28 SOS Daily Rescue Facial Spray for Sensitive Skin Acne Skin Care Products: Adapalene Treatment like Differin Acne Treatment Gel Benzoyl Peroxide Acne Treatment Medication like Neutrogena Rapid Clear Stubborn Acne Spot Hypochlorite-based cleanser like CeraVe Hydrating Facial Cleanser Hydrochlorite patches like Mighty Patch™   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Introduction and Background 02:53 Teenage Hygiene and Self-Care 08:21 Gender Differences in Skincare 14:41 Simplifying Skincare for Boys 25:21 The Benefits of Pimple Patches 29:47 Destigmatizing Skincare for Teens     CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness Website: Stryke Club Instagram: @strykclub Facebook: Stryke Club Twitter: @DrSheilaghMD   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:02.71) Hello parents, Dr. Cam here. Is your bathroom a battleground when it comes to your teenager's hygiene? On one hand, we struggle to get our teen sons to simply wash their face, while on the other, we grapple with curbing our daughters' complex beauty routines. Like seriously, are all those serums necessary? That's why I'm thrilled to have Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness with us today. Dr. Maguiness is a double board-certified pediatric dermatologist, a mom of two tween boys, so she understands the struggles firsthand, and the co-founder of Strike Club, a personal care and hygiene brand designed specifically for boys. Dr. Maguiness is here to help us navigate the often confusing and challenging world of teenage hygiene. Dr. Maguiness, welcome to the show. Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (00:48.077) Thank you for having me, Dr. Cam. We have a lot to talk about today. Dr. Cam (00:51.254) We do. So, I want to first get into the background. What inspired you to specialize in pediatric dermatology? Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (01:01.853) I always knew that I wanted to work with children. I'm actually Canadian. I grew up in Toronto. When I was in medical school, I was fascinated with dermatology, pursued it, but knew kids were where it was at for me. I found a mentor in pediatric dermatology, which led me to San Francisco to do a fellowship at UCSF. Then, I met my partner, and now we're in Minneapolis, where I have a large academic practice at the University of Minnesota. But yes, the skin of kids, I mean, what could be better? Baby skin all day, but not to discount the teens, because I love my adolescent patients too. Dr. Cam (01:46.422) Talk about skin issues. That's when it all goes awry, isn't it? Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (01:52.589) It is. All those surging hormones are changing everything, but the skin isn't quite fully mature yet. There’s lots to discuss, and it's a great conversation to have with your teen about hygiene and self-care to get those habits going early. Dr. Cam (02:10.678) I want to talk about this because you have two tween boys. You're in the thick of it. Why do they not like hygiene? I’m brushing with broad strokes here, but really, why? Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (02:21.677) My goodness. Teens are busy. They’re figuring things out and really want to assert their independence. Something you probably see a lot. Up until the age of six or even seven, it’s the parents telling them to take a bath, and helping them do it. The parents have control over the bathing routine. But suddenly, in those tween years, your child might skip a day or two because they have practice or are busy. Then, you say, "You need to take a shower tonight." But then, your child disappears into the bathroom, and you wonder, are they really clean? What’s happening in there? We don’t know. And that’s the case for all tweens and teens. There’s just this general desire for independence. But something interesting is happening. If you’ve been following the news lately, you’ll know that there's a growing trend where girls and boys are doing different things when it comes to skincare, hygiene, and self-care. I think these are topics we can really dig into today. Dr. Cam (03:41.238) Yeah, I mean, teens... what I see, and again, I don’t want to stereotype, but I see this so frequently that I feel comfortable generalizing. Parents come in frustrated because they have to nag their sons to brush their teeth, wash their face, take a shower. They smell, and the only thing they do is spray body spray all over themselves, thinking that’s cleaning. So now we have sweat mixed with Axe body spray, and... then their skin starts to break out. I know there’s a push for independence, but there's also this battle between parents trying to help their kids stay clean and not smell ripe, and the kids just... Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (04:14.605) And then a rash will start for sure. Dr. Cam (04:35.51) It’s almost like they fight back about it. Can you help us understand that a little better and how we can encourage them to stay clean? Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (04:45.837) I don’t think you’re stereotyping at all. This is something not only parents are noticing, but I’ve noticed it too in my own clinical practice. When kids come in with skin problems, and often it’s acne, the girls tend to be more compliant with treatments than the boys. So let’s unpack that a little bit. What’s happening here? Well, let’s think about your own home and what’s being modeled. A lot of times, it’s the moms who have their own skincare routines—cleansers, moisturizers, makeup, grooming. There’s a lot of modeling that moms do regarding self-care, which kids, both boys and girls, pick up on. But the girls, in particular, see this and start to understand it’s a normal, accepted behavior to care for your skin and hygiene. On the other hand, boys see their moms engaging in these self-care practices, but they may not see the same from their dads. There's a gap in what’s modeled for girls versus boys. I think it’s a great opportunity for parents to step in and open a discussion about hygiene and self-care for boys. We need to give them the tools they need and show them what to do. There’s been some stigma surrounding boys and hygiene, like they’re just supposed to know how to take care of themselves. But if you step back, girls are seeing this modeled by their moms. Maybe moms and dads haven’t had that same conversation with their sons. That’s how I’ve been thinking about it in the last few years, as I’ve seen these trends emerging. Dr. Cam (07:09.046) It makes so much sense. I mean, even just thinking about TikTok, you know, there are tons of TikTok creators showing makeup and skincare routines for girls. But I’ve never seen a single one for boys. That’s just not out there. Dr. Sheilagh Maguiness (07:25.581) Not really. There are some trends coming out, especially around fragrance. You mentioned Axe body spray. There’s this “smell maxing” trend, where boys really want to smell good and buy fancy colognes. But it’s a bit different from what we

Teen resilience is more important than ever. Between social anxieties, academic pressures, and the complexities of friendships, many teens struggle to navigate life’s challenges. That’s why I’m thrilled to welcome Jesse LeBeau, a nationally recognized youth motivational speaker and teen coach. With his powerful underdog story and proven methods, Jesse has inspired over a million teens to develop confidence, resilience, and a winning mindset. In this episode, he shares his game-changing approach—The Attitude Advantage—to help teens conquer adversity and thrive.   Key Takeaways Building self-esteem and confidence is essential for teens to overcome challenges. Setting boundaries and limiting screen time can reduce the negative effects of social media on mental health. Parents should prepare their teens for real-world struggles by allowing them to experience failure and growth. Finding a mentor can provide teens with valuable guidance and support.   Enjoying the Show? Help others discover this episode by leaving a rating and review! Your feedback means the world to me and allows us to bring even more valuable insights to parents like you. Don’t forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫    Connect with Jesse LeBeau Website: www.jesselebeau.com Instagram: @jesselebeau Facebook: Jesse LeBeau YouTube: Jesse LeBeau Channel LinkedIn: Jesse LeBeau   Connect with Dr. Cam Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   About the Show: The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your essential guide to navigating the complexities of adolescence with clarity and confidence. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist, the podcast provides practical strategies and expert insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional development. Whether you're an experienced parent or just starting your journey with teens, this podcast is packed with valuable information to help you thrive.   #TeenResilience #ConfidenceMatters #OvercomingAdversity #TeenMotivation #ParentingTeens #TheAttitudeAdvantage #RaisingResilientTeens #TeenSuccess #JesseLeBeau #TeenEmpowerment #GrowthMindset #MentalStrength #LifeSkillsForTeens #BuildingConfidence #TheTeenTranslator #DrCamCaswell

Did you know that 20% of adolescents in the U.S. experience symptoms of body dysmorphia or eating disorders? The pressure to achieve unrealistic beauty standards is stronger than ever, thanks to social media and diet culture. As a parent, you want to protect your teen from these harmful influences—but how? In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Dr. Kelli Rugless, a licensed psychologist, certified eating disorders specialist, and the Chief Clinical Officer at Project HEAL, a non-profit dedicated to making eating disorder treatment accessible to all. Together, they uncover the dangers of diet culture, the role of social media, and how parents can support their teens in developing a healthy relationship with food and their bodies.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How diet culture and social media impact teens' body image and mental health Practical strategies to help your teen build a positive relationship with food The truth about emotional eating—and why it’s not always bad How parental support can make a powerful difference in preventing eating disorders   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Social media plays a huge role in shaping teens' body image, often fueling insecurities and unrealistic beauty standards. Teaching your teen to have a balanced, non-restrictive approach to food can help prevent disordered eating patterns. Emotional eating isn’t inherently harmful—understanding its role can help teens develop a healthier mindset around food. Open conversations about body image and self-worth can empower your teen to reject toxic diet culture. Your connection and support as a parent are critical in helping your teen build confidence and a healthy self-image.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Project HEAL FREE clinical assessments   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Introduction to the Impact of Diet Culture and Social Media on Teens 02:33 The Scary Impact of Social Media on Teen Self-Esteem 06:12 Addressing the Prominence of Diet Culture and Thin Ideals 10:41 Navigating Unhealthy Relationships with Food and Body Image 29:11 Understanding Emotional Eating and Coping Mechanisms   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Kelli Rugless Website: https://www.drkellirugless.com Instagram: @drkellirugless LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kelli-rugless-psyd Project HEAL Website: https://www.theprojectheal.org   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell Newsletter: https://drcam.ck.page/newsletter   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam (00:00.454) Hello parents, Dr. Cam here. Today we're diving into a critical issue—the constant pressure of diet culture and its impact on our teens. Did you know a whopping 20% of adolescents in the U.S. experience symptoms of body dysmorphia or eating disorders? Is the unrealistic expectation bombarding them on social media to blame? Joining me to shed light on this topic is the amazing Dr. Kelli Rugless, a licensed psychologist, Certified Eating Disorder Specialist, and the Chief Clinical Officer at Project HEAL, a remarkable nonprofit fighting for everyone to have access to eating disorder healing. Dr. Rugless, welcome to the show. Kelli Rugless, PsyD (00:40.369) Thank you for having me. Dr. Cam (00:41.958) Absolutely. So let's start at the beginning. What inspired you to specialize in eating disorders? Kelli Rugless, PsyD (00:48.049) Honestly, I was not inspired by anything. Truthfully, I went into graduate school thinking that eating disorders were the last thing I wanted to work with. I think they get a bad rap. My first introduction was a teacher talking about how people with eating disorders really don't get better, they're really difficult, and it's a really hard population to work with. I remember thinking, I don’t want to do that. So my first thought was absolutely not—I never want to do that. But then, as part of my training, I had different rotations, and eating disorders were one of them. I began to see how much more they are about than just food. Food is what grabs everyone’s attention, but eating disorders are about so much more. Once I realized the different aspects they could involve—the intersection of mental health, physical health, and even social justice—it just felt like the perfect fit for me and my interests. So I wasn’t initially inspired, but once I had the experience, I saw the depth of it. Dr. Cam (02:05.222) Right. And then all of a sudden, it just sounded way more interesting and complicated. And they can be helped, correct? Because that started off like—wait a second! Yeah, they can be helped. One of the scariest things about social media—one of many—is the impact it has on our self-esteem, how we view our bodies, and how teens are growing up viewing their own bodies. I've seen this personally. I know a lot of parents are worried about this. First of all, is this something to be concerned about? Kelli Rugless, PsyD (02:50.161) Yes, we should all be very much concerned about the impact social media is having—not only on teenagers and their confidence and body image but on their mental health in general. Every single research study out there looking at social media tells us the same thing: people feel worse the more they use it. And it doesn’t matter how they use it. You could try to curate a page focused on positivity and growth, but the issue is that social media is a highlight reel presented as real life. You're only seeing the best parts of people's lives—or even the most curated parts of the bad moments. It’s a well-edited, well-produced version of vulnerability or sadness. It looks real, but it’s not. This makes it easy to believe your life should look like everyone else's and that your body should look like theirs. Not only is that unhealthy, but it’s also unrealistic. Dr. Cam (04:14.374) But here’s the thing, Kelli—social media isn’t going away, and our teens are not going to let go of it. It’s their entertainment, their social interaction, their connection to the world. So what do we do? Kelli Rugless, PsyD (04:30.193) The best thing we can do is model the type of relationship we want our children to have with social media. That means saying things like, I'm sure we're only getting half the story or I wonder what filters they used on that or We don’t see all of their life—just a small part. Keep reinforcing the idea that social media is entertainment, not reality. You wouldn’t look at a movie and think, That’s how my life should go. You’d understand there are editors, production, and scripts involved. The same thing applies to social media, but because it feels organic, we forget all the mechanisms at play. It’s also okay to set limits. Have house rules like no phones at dinner or no screens after a certain time when on vacation. These small boundaries help create a healthier relationship with social media. You’re not taking it away completely, but you are setting limits. Dr. Cam (06:12.39) That’s so important—for us as well. Because while we’re worried about our kids, I see the impact on parents, too. Parents start comparing their kids to others. Diet culture has always been a big deal, but now it's everywhere. Dangerous TikTok trends for losing weight are popping up constantly. How do we buffer against this diet-crazed, thin-is-best culture—especially when so many of us have already bought into it? Kelli Rugless, PsyD (07:11.985) That’s a great point. As parents, the way we influence our kids most is through how we talk about ourselves. You can tell your kids all day long that all bodies are beautiful, but if you’re looking in the mirror criticizing yourself, talking about needing to lose weight, or pointing out your flaws, that message will override everything else. Work on your own relationship with your body. Acknowledge that your body’s appearance is the least interesting thing about you. Your value is inherent—not tied to how you look. And your body does so much for you. Even if there’s something you don’t like about it, balance that with gratitude for what it can do. If you need to talk to someone to work through those things, it’s worth it. The impact on your kids, your family, and even your friends is huge. Dr. Cam (09:16.614) That was something I was committed to from day one with my daughter—never talking about my body in a negative way in front of her. It’s a struggle, but I didn’t want her to have the same struggles. Even with all of that, social media still bombards her with these messages. And sometimes, no matter how much we talk, what they see feels more real than what we say. So what else can we do? [10:49.233] Kelli Rugless, PsyD: One thing we can do is stay curious. Instead of saying, "That’s bad for you—don’t watch that," ask them, "How does this make you feel?" Rather than jumping in to fix it, validate their experience. If they say, "It just makes me feel terrible," resist the urge to say, "No, you’re beautiful!" Instead, say, "I get that. If I were in your shoes, I’d feel the same way." When they’re ready for reassurance, that’s when you say, "But you are so much more than your appearance. I love this about you, your friends love that about you." Let them lead. Be there to listen first, and the influence will follow. Our culture isn't right, but our goal is to talk to our kids and teenagers about the realities of accepting

In this powerful episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Sarah Bruno-Patrey to discuss the far-reaching effects of religious trauma on teens and how parents can help them navigate these challenges. Sarah shares her personal story of growing up within a religious youth program and the healing journey she experienced. If your teen is grappling with religious trauma or a crisis of faith, this episode will provide you with the tools to better understand and support them through these tough times. It’s a must-listen for parents looking to create an open, supportive environment for their teens, especially when faith and identity are involved.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How religious trauma impacts teens and how it can lead to feelings of isolation and shame Practical ways to help your teen through a crisis of faith How to recognize unhealthy religious experiences and protect your teen’s mental health The importance of open communication, mentorship, and empowering your teen to make their own decisions about faith   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Religious trauma can leave teens feeling emotionally isolated, and it’s crucial to recognize the signs early to offer support. Open communication is essential for helping your teen heal from religious trauma—letting them express their feelings is key. Supporting your teen through a crisis of faith is about being present, not imposing beliefs, and offering a safe space. Parents should focus on being mentors, helping teens navigate spiritual and emotional challenges without pressure. Offering your teen options and autonomy during this process can help them find their own path to healing and self-discovery.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 – The Impact of Religious Trauma on Teens 03:34 – Recognizing Unhealthy Experiences in Religious Programs   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Sarah Bruno-Patrey TikTok: @sarahbrunopatrey   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam As parents, we want nothing more than our teens to find their path in life. For many, religion offers a sense of belonging and purpose. But what happens when it leaves our teens feeling isolated, ashamed, or questioning everything they believe? Today, I'm joined by Sarah Bruno -Patri to talk about the impact of religious trauma on teens and what parents can do to support them. But before we dive in, I want to share that Sarah and I have known each other for years, and actually through church but I only recently heard about her experiences with this particular religious program, actually through TikTok, and talked to her and asked her if she would jump on, because I feel like it's really important for us parents to be aware of what's going on. So Sarah, welcome to the show. Thank you. So let's talk about, first of all, what was your experience because you did this as a teenager. So what was kind of the experience or the motive to go into this particular program and what was that program? Sarah Bruno-Patrey (00:59.19) Yeah, so I grew up obviously in the church and it was an amazing, beautiful experience. And I knew after I graduated high school that college was not like in the cards for me, at least immediately. And so my parents and I decided that I could take a gap year and they would foot the bill and I can just go find a program and go do that as long as I had a plan. And so I had been exposed to this organization called Youth with a Mission (https://ywam.org/> when I was actually in high school, I went with a couple of classmates to Kona, Hawaii, two summers in a row. And so I kind of had a sense of what this organization was. I knew that it wasn't exactly how I had grown up in the church. It was a little bit different with its theology and things like that. And I was like, it's okay, I'll put those things aside. And I decided to go to Australia. So I went to literally the farthest place that I could go from Washington DC. If you drilled a hole through the earth, it would come out in Perth, Australia, or at least around there. And I just wanted to get out of our town. And so that's where I went. And I was there for six months. I spent three months of it in Perth, Australia and three months of it in Asia.  Dr. Cam (02:16.742) At that time, and I know through the teen years, I know church paid a big and religion played a big part in your life. What kind of role was that playing for you or what kind of place was that filling for you? Sarah Bruno-Patrey (02:31.094) It was just like the big sense of community for me. I feel like going through school, like I had different friend groups, but then once I really found my community in my church and like other youth ministry organizations, it was like, these are my people. I had the support that I needed as a teenager and I had like the adults around me that I needed as a teenager because teenagers need a lot of adults. And so that was just like, I spent all my time with my religious community. And it was a great thing up until that point. It was like an amazing part of my life. So. Dr. Cam (03:06.278) That's what's really clear about this. We're not saying like religious groups are bad, you know, and we did. I mean, I was one of your youth leaders and it was an amazing experience. And we were able to really just connect and talk to kids on a lot deeper level. So then it went to this next phase. And I think one of the things the question is, how do we know when it is a healthy experience and when it becomes a toxic experience? Tell us a little bit about your experience there and when did you actually realize it might not be the healthiest experience for you. Sarah Bruno-Patrey (03:43.062) Yeah, so like I said before, I kind of knew what I was getting into wasn't exactly like how I had been raised in the church. I knew that things would be a little bit different. But like for some reference of it, it's a six month initially to like join this organization. You have to do a six month program. The first three months that I was in Australia was the discipleship training school part of it. So it was like the lecture phase is what they called it. And so that was you're in a classroom all week. And then you did the outreach, which was like the mission part. And it was pretty early on into it that I realized that this isn't, not only did I not like align with this in its theology, the things that I could kind of put aside, but just in like most aspects, it just wasn't a healthy organization. It was pretty like off the bat, a lot of comments about my faith and my spirituality growing up where I grew up that I didn't like see eye to eye was a lot bigger of a deal. And every week we had a topic and every Friday they called it like application Friday. So the first week was prayer. So we learned about prayer and then Friday we did something involving prayer like evangelism for example, we did Monday through Thursday we learned about evangelism on Friday we went out and evangelized. I think the big thing that sent sirens off in my head was the third week we did forgiveness and repentance. Where, you know, Monday through Thursday, we learned about sin and repentance and things that are biblical and good, like, you know, repenting from your sins, turning the other direction, walking away from it completely, things that are pretty standard. But then on Friday, when we had our application, we had to write a list of our sins down. Dr. Cam (05:08.774) Red flags, yes. Sarah Bruno-Patrey (05:38.134) Things that spanned from yoga, which I don't believe is a sin. I have never believed it was a sin. I remember like going on the phone with my pastor from home. I was like, is yoga really a sin? And he's like, no, that's a little ridiculous. Playing Dungeons and Dragons, things like that. Yeah, all the way to like sexual sin, things like that. We had to write a list and then on Friday morning, we started in the morning, we had to sit next to a speaker. Dr. Cam (05:41.446) Yoga! My goodness. Sarah Bruno-Patrey (06:05.11) We didn't really know in a classroom full of people that we've only known for a few weeks. And we actually combined with another classroom, so complete strangers at that point. And we had to sit up there, read our lists of sins, and then repent for it, ask for forgiveness from God. Again, things that are all biblical, if they're done correctly. So, you know, confessing to a friend, somebody you trust would be a very, like, good practice. But this was kind of distorted and sitting up there telling it to a group of people you didn't know, you didn't have like that relational currency with. Having to forgive for just crazy things and it lasted for 14 hours. We didn't, yeah, we didn't have, we missed our meals, everything. So that was when I was like, I'm not gonna just like sit here and do everything that they tell me to do. I am going to question some things and yeah, big red flags. they didn't like that. I didn't even want to participate in that particular activity. And I was kind of like getting the death stare from the leader at the time. He was standing right next to the door so he couldn't even like walk out. It's just a lot of very strategic things like that to kind of wear you down until you actually get up there and do it. And. Dr. Cam (07:06.918) How did that go over when you started to question things? No? Sarah Bruno-Patrey (07:30.454) the entire program

Is setting boundaries with your teen, especially around technology and social life, feeling like an endless battle? What if there was a way to establish clear expectations for screen time, curfews, and other hot-button issues without the yelling and power struggles? In this episode, Dr. Cam Caswell is joined by Tia Slightham, a teacher, entrepreneur, bestselling author, and, most importantly, a mom, who truly understands the challenges parents face. Tia shares proven strategies from her "Parenting With Purpose Method" to help parents achieve peaceful communication and cooperation with their teenagers. Together, they dive into setting clear expectations and boundaries in ways that promote mutual respect—no drama required. If you’re looking to strengthen your connection with your teen while navigating tough issues, this episode is for you!   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to establish clear expectations for your teen without causing power struggles Why understanding the root causes of behavior is essential for effective parenting Practical tips for setting boundaries that promote cooperation, not conflict The Behavior Needs Roadmap: A solution-focused approach to meeting your teen’s needs and teaching life skills   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Parenting is a skill set that can be learned and developed over time—it's never too late to improve your relationship with your teen. Understanding the root causes of your teen’s behavior helps you address the issue, rather than just punishing the symptoms. Setting boundaries with your teen in advance and involving them in the process leads to mutual respect and cooperation. Teens crave authentic connection and trust with their parents. Show a genuine interest in their lives, and you’ll strengthen your bond. Prevent power struggles by creating a respectful relationship where boundaries are clear and communication is consistent.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE FREE Guide: Connect in Just 10 Minutes a Day FREE Guide: How to Stop Yelling   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Parenting as a Skill Set 03:15 - Understanding the Root Causes of Behavior 07:39 - Setting Boundaries with Mutual Respect 10:46 - The Behavior Needs Roadmap 14:21 - Navigating Challenges: Phone Usage 27:20 - Engaging with Teens in Their Interests 31:37 - Building Trust and Connection through Small Conversations 34:07 - Preventing Power Struggles through Trust and Boundaries 37:40 - It’s Never Too Late to Make Change   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: TIA SLIGHTHAM Website: www.tiaslightham.com Instagram: @tiaparentingcoach TikTok: @parentingcoach YouTube: Tia Slightham - Parenting Solutions   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: DR. CAM CASWELL Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam   Hey parents, is setting and keeping boundaries with your teen a constant battle, especially around technology and social life? You're not alone. But what if there was a way to establish clear expectations for screen time, curfews, and other hot button issues without the yelling and power struggles? That's what we're talking about in today's episode. I'm joined by a leading parenting expert, Tia Slightham. Tia, a teacher, entrepreneur, bestselling author, and most importantly, a mom, understands the challenges parents face. She's going to share some proven strategies from our parenting with purpose method to help you achieve peaceful communication and cooperation from your teenager. Tia, welcome to the show.   Tia Slightham (00:41.153) Thanks for having me, yeah, mom of teens, so I definitely get it.   Dr. Cam (00:44.022) Woohoo! Yes, me too. So we live this every single day. I think it's important to know what people are going through. Not at all. So Tia, what inspired you to become a parenting coach?   Tia Slightham (00:48.545) Thank you. Yeah, and they're not alone. They're definitely not alone. I know, people ask me this all the time and it's so funny because we're talking to our teen boys right now who are 15 and almost 13. You know, what are you interested in? What do you want to be when you grow up? And to be honest, a lot of times we just don't know what we want to be when we grow up. And so when I was younger, I knew I always wanted to work with kids. I used to take my cabbage patch doll to the movie theater and feed it and burp it and need to leave the movie to go change it. My mom would have to get up with me so I could change the diaper. I mean, I was serious. I was dead serious about being a mom and working with kids. I just always loved kids. And so I started my journey as a kindergarten teacher. I had my master's in early childhood education and I absolutely loved it. I loved all those little five -year -olds and a lot of people hated being kindergarten teachers, but I loved it. And as time went on, I never knew that I would fall into this parent coaching role. It just happened. I ended up having kids of my own. I met my husband. I'm from the States. He's from Canada. I moved to Canada, I wasn't legal to work, so I could no longer teach, and then I ended up becoming a mom, and again was fascinated by the fact that I loved being a mom. I loved the baby stage, I loved the toddler stage, but those around me, just like the kindergarten teachers, were struggling. They didn't love it. They were exhausted, their kids weren't sleeping, there were tantrums and meltdowns, and everything felt really hard. And I really reflected on why classrooms fantastic year after year and why are my two boys so great to be around? What am I doing that other people aren't doing? And that's when I really realized parenting is so much a skill set and not something that's intuitive and you're not supposed to have it figured out. And if you don't have it figured out, it's okay. Don't beat yourself up, but you are capable of learning the skills. And I just became super passionate and I built my business and I love what I get to do every day.   Dr. Cam (02:53.462) It's so important to realize it is a skill set and just because we don't have them now doesn't mean we can't get them. And guess what? Raising a teenager is a whole new skill set. It is not. The skills we used and developed earlier on don't work anymore. In fact, they backfire. And so now we got a whole new skill set to develop.   Tia Slightham (03:15.777) Yeah, it's really understanding. I always say to parents why the behaviors are happening in the first place, whether they're toddlers or teens. If you don't know why they're back talking, why they're pushing back, why they're resentful or in revenge mode, and you're just trying to force them to stop doing those things instead of going to the root of the why, it doesn't matter the age of your child, you're always going to struggle. So learning that skill set to understand why is so critical.   Dr. Cam (03:44.15) Tia, let's get into this because I mean, I work with parents as well and it seems so easy to say to do that. And yet I see time and again, parents, even after we've had a whole conversation about it, fall right back into the blaming their kid, you need to do this, that attitude is bad, that's not okay, you just need to stop. And it just escalates so quickly. How do we change our mindset from a, I don't accept that behavior from my kid, that's not okay, I just have to put an end to it, to a, I need to understand this behavior if I'm actually going to find a solution to stop it.   Tia Slightham (04:26.145) I was actually just doing a training before this and we were talking about the idea that insanity, the definition is doing the same thing over and over, but it not working and not getting any different results. That's parenting. Literally we're just parenting, doing the same things over and over, hoping our kids are gonna change.   Dr. Cam (04:36.534) Yeah, that's also parenting. We do. Getting mad at them for not changing even.     Tia Slightham (04:47.905) Yes, and saying, I told you 92 times, you obviously speak English, we're both logical here, you know better, but they still don't do what you ask them to do. And what I always say to parents is that it's not about that simple tip or trick that you listen to on a podcast or a video or YouTube or in a parenting book. It's all the pieces of the puzzle. And so when we say, we go to bed at night in tears, tomorrow I'm not gonna yell, tomorrow I'm gonna be calm, tomorrow I'm gonna show up and really respond to my kids without reaction. You mean that, you want that, but it's not possible to do without all the pieces of the puzzle. And so inside, when I work with parents inside my coaching program, I've developed a system known as the behavior needs roadmap. And this is BNR for short, but it's helping parents differentiate and determine have I met the needs for my kids from a basic standpoint of sleep, nutrition, security, transitions? Have I met the needs from an emotional standpoint? Are my kids power and attention buckets or cups full each and every day? Do I know how to do that? And most importantly in the third box, do I have the skills needed to parent with discipline and not punishment? So, I know it's such a big one.   Dr. Cam (06:07.094) People struggle between even separating those two. I think we all, consequences too, like I feel like consequences is now this new word that we use to say we're not punishing it, but it's punishment. Let's be real, because

Is your teen's emotional meltdown leaving you feeling overwhelmed and powerless? You're not alone—73% of parents face this challenge. But what if you could learn how to de-escalate these situations and strengthen your bond with your teen? In this episode, I’m joined by Karleen Savage, a former hostage negotiator and conflict resolution expert. Karleen now helps parents like you master the art of diffusing teen meltdowns and creating calm, cooperative interactions. She shares proven strategies to navigate your teen's intense emotions with confidence, build trust, and create a positive environment that helps your teen thrive.   4 KEY TAKEWAYS FOR PARENTS: Learn how to de-escalate conflicts by understanding your teen's perspective and avoiding assumptions. Use open-ended questions and active listening to connect with your teen’s needs and emotions. Build a stronger relationship with your teen by showing empathy, owning up to mistakes, and fostering trust. Discover how parents can handle challenging moments with confidence, creating a respectful and supportive relationship.   ENJOYING THE SHOW? Help others discover this episode by leaving a rating and review! Your feedback means the world to me and allows us to bring even more valuable insights to parents like you. Don’t forget to hit subscribe so you never miss an episode. Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫    RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE FREE digital download of Karleen’s book, The Confident Teen Blueprint   Connect with Karleen: Facebook: @KarleenSavage Instagram: @KarleenSavage LinkedIn: Karleen Savage   Connect with Dr. Cam: Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your essential guide to navigating the complexities of adolescence with clarity and confidence. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist, the podcast provides practical strategies and expert insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional development. Whether you're an experienced parent or just starting your journey with teens, this podcast is packed with valuable information to help you thrive.   #TeenParenting #TeenConflictResolution #ParentingTips #TeenEmotions #ParentingTeenagers #DeescalatingTeenAnger #ParentingExpert #FamilyDynamics #TeenMeltdowns #ConflictManagement

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, we’re joined by Ali Flynn, the founder of Hang In There Mama. Ali shares invaluable insights on how moms can find peace and joy in their motherhood journey while overcoming feelings of guilt. If you're a mom feeling overwhelmed or guilty, this episode is a must-listen!   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to overcome mom guilt and unrealistic expectations Why self-care and self-love are crucial for moms raising teens Practical tips for finding moments of quiet and decompressing as a busy mom How to let go of excessive worrying and trust your teen’s abilities   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Moms often feel alone and not good enough, but remember, you're not alone—many other moms are navigating the same struggles. Guilt in motherhood stems from societal expectations of perfection, but it’s time to let go of comparing yourself to others. Prioritize self-care and self-love to feel fulfilled and be a positive role model for your children. Simple self-care activities, like deep breathing or taking a walk, can help you decompress and recharge. Let go of excessive worrying about your teen’s choices and trust in their ability to grow and learn independently.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Hang in There, Mama 6-WEEK GRATITUDE JOURNAL for MOMS RAISING TWEENS, TEENS, and YOUNG ADULTS!   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 - Finding Peace and Joy in Motherhood 04:34 - Overcoming Mom Guilt and Unrealistic Expectations 08:15 - The Importance of Self-Care and Self-Love 12:26 - Practical Tips for Prioritizing Self-Care 26:29 - Letting Go of Excessive Worrying   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Ali Flynn Website: Hang in There Mama Instagram: @hang.in.there.mama Facebook: @hangintheremama   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:00): Hey parents, ever feel completely drained like there's nothing left in the tank for you or your kids, but the idea of me time triggers guilt? You're not alone. A whopping 80 % of moms wrestle with this, but what if we could ditch the guilt and find peace and joy in motherhood? That's exactly what we're tackling today. I'm joined by Ali Flynn, the mastermind behind Hang In There Mama. Ali understands the unique challenges of raising teens. We're going to get into real actionable tips to help you ditch the guilt and carve out moments to recharge even with your crazy schedule. Because guess what? A happy, healthy you means a happier, healthier family. Allie, welcome to the show. Ali Flynn (00:41.198): Thank you so much. It's such an honor to be on with you. Dr. Cam (00:44.017): First I want to hear what inspired you to launch Hang in there, Mama. Ali Flynn (00:51.15): Honestly, it really came down to I wanted to share with people all of the encouragement and inspiration that I really wanted to hear myself, that I wasn't hearing all the time. I felt really alone at times in my motherhood journey. I felt really lost. I felt not good enough. I didn't sometimes know what I was doing, but I felt like we're in this perfection mode of being a mom and how do I actually offer that honesty up to people. And I just wanted moms to know that you are not the only one, you are not alone in this. We are all sort of struggling along this journey at times. And you know, you don't have to feel lost within it. Dr. Cam (01:35.665): Yeah, I think it's so important and I love that you're putting out there that support because you're absolutely right. And I think especially when our kids get into the teen years, we feel the most isolated because I think there's this belief that we should have it figured out by now. So we're afraid to ask for help, but raising teens is not raising kids. It's a whole new skill set. And so asking for help, I think realizing other people are struggling with it gives us permission to ask for help. Are you finding that? Ali Flynn (02:10.286): Exactly, exactly. And I feel like you're spot on with that in the sense of a lot of moms when they enter the teen years with their kids, they completely hibernate, they retreat, they stop sharing, they stop talking. Oftentimes, you know, it's that tween years of entering the middle school time where you're not at the elementary school anymore, you're not at the bus stop, you're not at the birthday parties. So you lose some of the engagement unless you have sort of created a sort of a basis of friends and a network that you can rely on. But then if you don't have that, you sort of feel alone, but you also don't feel comfortable sharing everything and being honest. And then you have sort of part two, which is as our teens grow up you want to give them their privacy, right? When they're little and they're not reaching milestones, you can sort of share that information. But now you have teenagers and what are parents going to maybe share with their teen and then it gets throughout the school. And so it just becomes this vicious cycle at times. So sort of knowing that other people are going through it and really believing that allows you to be more transparent and get the support you need. Dr. Cam (03:13.649): Absolutely. It’s a fine line because you do want whatever your team tells you and whatever's going with your team to be confidential between you and your team, but how do you get help that way? So how do you find a safe network of people that you can trust with that information that can give you that insight back that's not going to feel like you're betraying your teenager? Like it is, it's this whole complicated thing. What's interesting when you're describing what moms do, particularly, and we're particularly talking about moms, because I think we burden a lot of the guilt, which I'm still confused why we get more guilt, but I think that's just mom, women in general, like to take on guilt. But it's interesting the way you were describing what moms do is exactly how we describe what our teens are doing, where we're like hibernating and we're hiding, and it's that same sense of just protection. So. Ali Flynn (04:17.74): Exactly. Dr. Cam (04:18.673): Now we're going and saying, hey, you're not alone. That doesn't relieve our guilt and it doesn't make our lives less crazy so that we can take care of ourselves. So let's talk about first the guilt. Where does this guilt come from? Ali Flynn (04:34.926): I truly believe it comes from everything that we are being fed through society. We as moms are being fed that we have to be perfect. We have to have everything aligned. We have to know at all moments, every single day, 365 days a year, what we are doing and know with complete trust that we are doing the right thing. And it's just unrealistic. It's an unrealistic expectation on women, on mothers. It's an unrealistic expectation for our children to think that we're perfect. So I think it becomes this trap of we are fed this through what we read, what we see on TV, what we see in movies. So how do you get out of it? Right. And then you go down that path and that rabbit hole of comparing yourself to other moms, comparing yourself to what you see on social media as you're scrolling. And it just, it's such an unhealthy concept that we have to get out of. And I think the only way to get out of it is by really being open and honest with each other as moms and, you know, letting go of some of that protective barrier and saying like, this is what I'm going through or am I the only one? And see sort of what happens and sort of create that village for yourself of moms who are willing to be transparent. Dr. Cam (06:02.225): I think a lot of parents think that what they're going through is completely unique. And yet I'm sure you hear this too, but in what I do, I hear the same concerns and complaints and worries over and over and over again. And so because they are common struggles that we have at this stage because of the stage and because of just what you said is this view of what that's supposed to look like. And I think, I always talk about we're concerned about the impact of comparison and social media on our kids. And I keep seeing that. I think it has more negative impact on us as parents on our expectations down to our kids. Because I have parents all the time tell me, well, everyone else has a, no, they don't. They do not have it figured out. But then we put down those expectations and expect our kids to be a certain way which then changes how we parent because we don't have the ability to be as compassionate because we're more fearful. Do you see that as well? Ali Flynn (07:04.558): Right. You know, and I see we're comparing ourselves in so many ways, just like our teens are doing, right? So moms are comparing what we look like to how we're behaving, to what vacations are we going on? How are we incorporating fun into our kids' worlds, right? But we're forgetting that this is just a presence. This is not reality. This is what people put out there isn't truth all the time, right? So why are we sucking down that trap that we don't want our kids to go down, right? So it's sort of like we need to get our self together and recognize this so we can model it for our own kids. Dr. Cam (07:39.409): I think the other thing that we juggle is this, you know, this good enough mom, which I think there's this falsehood that that just means we kind of just give up in a way. Like we're just going to, this is

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, we’re diving into the exciting world of the all-new Digital SAT and how it’s changing the college admissions process. Dr. Shaan Patel, founder of Prep Expert and a Shark Tank success story, joins us to break down everything parents need to know about the new SAT, scholarships, and how standardized tests can still be an advantage—even at test-optional colleges. With over 20 years of experience in SAT prep and helping over 100,000 students succeed, Dr. Patel offers priceless insights to empower both teens and parents on the road to college success.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE Why the Digital SAT is a game-changer and how to prepare for it The importance of standardized tests in 2024 college admissions and scholarships How taking the SAT or ACT boosts college acceptance rates and scholarship opportunities Why motivation is key in test preparation and how to keep your teen on track How to widen your teen’s college options and increase their chances of merit-based financial aid   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS The new Digital SAT offers significant changes that students need to understand in order to succeed. Test scores matter—taking the SAT or ACT can increase your teen’s chances of receiving merit-based scholarships and getting into top colleges. Over $7 billion in merit scholarships are available annually, and many require standardized test scores for consideration. The growing importance of SAT and ACT scores at top universities highlights the need for careful test prep. Helping your teen identify their motivation is essential for boosting their test prep success and keeping them focused on their goals.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Download the Prep Expert Digital SAT "Mini" Playbook   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Introduction to the New Digital SAT and Dr. Shaan Patel 03:38 The Importance of Taking the SAT or ACT 06:12 The Resurgence of Standardized Testing Requirements 09:17 Preparing for the Digital SAT: Tips and Strategies 14:08 Understanding the Adaptive Nature of the Digital SAT 23:02 The Importance of the PSAT and National Merit Scholarships 25:17 The Role of Test-Taking Strategies in SAT and ACT Success 29:00 Motivating Students to Study for Standardized Tests 32:20 Broadening College Applications for Merit-Based Financial Aid   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Shaan Patel Website: www.prepexpert.com Facebook: @PrepExpert Instagram: @prep_expert LinkedIn: Prep Expert Twitter: @Prep_Expert YouTube: @PrepExpert   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01.732) Is the new digital SAT stressing you out more than your teen? Feeling lost in the college admissions scramble? Forget the worry and listen up. In this episode, we're going to crack the code on the all-new digital SAT. We're joined by the amazing Dr. Shaan Patel, founder of Prep Expert, the company that's helped over 100,000 students conquer standardized tests and land in top colleges. Dr. Patel is also a Shark Tank success story with over 20 years of experience cracking the SAT code. Dr. Patel will break down the digital SAT, college admissions in 2024, and your teen's scholarship options. Get ready to take notes. I know I’m going to because I have a teen going into college too. So, Dr. Patel, welcome to the show. Shaan Patel (00:32.614) Hi, Dr. Cam. Thanks for having me. Happy to be here. Dr. Cam (00:50.244) Absolutely. So, there are so many questions I have, including Shark Tank, which I love, but let’s just start with your backstory. How did you get into college admissions and testing? Shaan Patel (01:00.806) Yeah, great question. So, I never thought I’d be the owner of a test prep and college admissions company. That was not in the game plan. What happened is I kind of stumbled into it through my own experience. I was a good student in high school but not a great standardized test taker. I had a lot of test anxiety, didn’t know anything about test preparation, college admissions, or scholarships. In the first SAT I ever took, I barely got above average. I spent hundreds of hours studying in the library and raised my score from average to perfect. My score increased by 640 points, which opened up a ton of opportunities for me. I got into some of the nation's best universities, received half a million dollars in scholarships, and won some great awards. When I got to college, I wanted to help other students improve their test scores the way I had. I had unique strategies and methods to share. So, I put together a book proposal for the first SAT prep book by a perfect score student. Unfortunately, I got 100 rejections. If anyone knows the publishing world, it’s tough. So, I took all that material and started Prep Expert. In the first six-week SAT course I ever taught, my students had an average score improvement of 376 points, which is the equivalent of moving from the 50th percentile to the 90th percentile. That led to more demand for courses, and I began training other instructors. Over the past 13 years, we've helped over 100,000 students improve their SAT and ACT scores and secure over $100 million in scholarships. Dr. Cam (03:38.372) You’ve piqued my interest as a mom of a junior looking into expensive colleges and who also struggles with standardized testing. So, let me ask you, first of all, how important is it that kids take these tests? Because not all schools require them now. Shaan Patel (03:39.942) Yeah, there's been a lot of confusion over the past few years about whether students should take the SAT or ACT due to test-optional college admissions policies. There are three major reasons your student should still take the SAT or ACT. Higher Acceptance Rates Even at test-optional colleges, many studies show that students who submit test scores are often accepted at higher rates. This shouldn't be the case, but the data shows that acceptance rates are often two to three times higher for students with test scores. This is because, with grade inflation, it’s hard to differentiate students based on GPAs alone. Scholarships Over $7 billion in merit-based scholarships are awarded annually, and many of these scholarships consider test scores in the selection process. This includes full and half-tuition scholarships from universities and private companies like Coca-Cola, Toyota, McDonald's, and more. Universities Requiring Scores Many top universities have reinstated SAT and ACT score requirements. Schools like Harvard, Yale, MIT, Dartmouth, Brown, Caltech, University of Texas at Austin, Georgetown, all Georgia public universities, and many universities in Florida now require SAT or ACT scores. You don’t want to be caught in your senior year scrambling because your dream university suddenly requires the test. Dr. Cam (06:12.388) Why is there a resurgence? Why is it coming back? Shaan Patel (06:16.07) One of the main reasons is grade inflation. Universities are bombarded with applications, and when a school like University of Texas or Harvard gets 50,000 or even 100,000 applications, it’s hard to differentiate students without test scores. Extracurriculars are another factor. As research shows, valuing extracurriculars can disproportionately favor wealthier students who can afford to participate in elite activities like starting nonprofit organizations or playing expensive sports. Dr. Cam (07:40.388) Right, exactly. And even preparing for it, there’s always an imbalance. I think equity is a big issue, and I like that they’re trying to find more equitable solutions. But it’s still going to be a constant struggle. What are we seeing now? Shaan Patel (08:03.302) Yeah, many listeners may think test prep is unfair due to its cost. That’s a fair point, but there are so many free or low-cost resources available now, such as Khan Academy and College Board’s free practice tests. I even have a book, Prep Expert Digital SAT Playbook, available for $9.99 on Kindle. You can learn elite test prep strategies at a low cost. While one-on-one tutoring may be more expensive, I’m a great example of someone who raised my score with just books from the library. So, I think that’s more equitable than valuing extracurriculars, which often cost far more than any test prep course. Dr. Cam (09:17.572) That’s very true. You’ve said "discipline" a few times, and I think that’s worrying parents. Getting their kids to be disciplined enough to study for this is a real struggle, which is why outside accountability helps. Do you have suggestions for those parents? And then I’d like to get into the digital test, but in terms of encouraging kids to be disciplined? Shaan Patel (09:48.71) Yes, we cover self-control, delayed gratification, and discipline in our courses and books. You’d be surprised that those are actual strategies in a test prep book, but they are crucial. It’s important to turn off distractions—no TikTok, no social media. Focus, study, and practice self-control. Preparing for any exam requires discipline. You have to delay gratification, fail, and improve from it. These are great life skills. What we do in test prep can transition into life prep, helping students develop the habits they need for success in the workplace. Dr. Cam (11:04.132) Those are huge. So, let’s talk a little bit about the digital SAT. What’s changing

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, Dr. Cam Caswell is joined by Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart, a seasoned pediatric psychologist and parent coach specializing in supporting parents of highly sensitive teens. Dr. Lockhart, also a mother of teens herself, brings invaluable insights into the unique challenges faced by sensitive teens—such as emotional regulation, peer relationships, academic pressures, and self-esteem.    WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to identify and understand your highly sensitive teen’s unique emotional needs The power of co-regulation: lending your calm to help your teen stay grounded Why building a safe space for emotional expression is key to a strong parent-teen connection Practical strategies to handle meltdowns, test anxiety, and emotional overwhelm in sensitive teens   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Highly sensitive teens are deeply in tune with their surroundings, requiring a heightened level of understanding from parents. Co-regulation is crucial—parents must model calm and self-awareness to help their teens cope with emotions. Creating a safe emotional space for teens allows them to express themselves without fear of judgment. Changing your mindset: See your teen’s sensitivity as a strength, not a weakness. Validate and empathize with your teen’s feelings, joining them in their struggles rather than dismissing them.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Follow so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Dr. Lockhart’s Parenting Your Highly Sensitive Child course – 50% Off Coupon Code: SENSITIVE-CAM (Expires: 6/30/24)   EPISODE CHAPTERS 00:00 - Introduction to Highly Sensitive Teens 06:01 - Understanding Highly Sensitive Teens 09:23 - Co-Regulation: Lending Calm to Highly Sensitive Teens 13:55 - Building Resilience in Highly Sensitive Teens 20:08 - Regulating Emotions and Problem Solving 24:01 - The Role of Parents in Improving the Relationship with Highly Sensitive Teens 29:13 - Understanding the Challenges and Diagnoses of Highly Sensitive Teens   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Ann-Louise Lockhart Website: www.drannlouiselockhart.com Instagram: @drannlouiselockhart   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #highlysensitive #parentingstrategies

Raising teens who can handle setbacks, stay confident, and push through challenges isn’t easy. In this episode, Dr. Cam sits down with Chad Metcalf, former Navy SEAL, entrepreneur, and author, to share powerful, real-world strategies for helping teens develop grit, confidence, and resilience. Chad knows what it takes to stay mentally tough—and he’s here to help parents pass those lessons on to their kids. From handling failure the right way to fostering a strong growth mindset, this episode is packed with practical, no-fluff advice that will empower you to raise a teen who can take on life’s toughest challenges.   WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE The #1 mistake parents make when trying to build their teen’s confidence How to help your teen turn failure into fuel for success Why letting kids struggle (the right way) is key to mental toughness How to model resilience—even when you feel like giving up   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Resilience starts with failure. Let your teen struggle, but provide guardrails to help them learn from it. Competence builds confidence. Encourage skill-building activities that help teens discover their strengths. Your reaction to failure matters. Recognize and celebrate effort and persistence, not just results. Model mental toughness. Show your teen how to push through challenges with resilience and determination. Teach smart goal-setting. The urgent-important matrix can help teens manage priorities and stress.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Help other parents by sharing your favorite episode and leaving a rating & review! Your feedback helps us bring more expert-backed strategies to families like yours. Thank you for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 5x Your Productivity   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 Introduction: Building Resilience in Teens 02:55 The Importance of Allowing Kids to Fail and Learn 06:03 Modeling Resilience: The Role of Parents 10:00 Discovering Strengths Through Skill-Based Pursuits 14:24 Supportive Responses to Failure: Building Resilience 23:42 The Failure Hack: Embracing Failure as a Learning Opportunity 28:13 Acton Academy: Encouraging Self-Discovery and Mastery-Based Learning 36:31 The Urgent-Important Matrix: Prioritizing Tasks and Goals   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Chad Metcalf Instagram: @chad__metcalf Facebook: @chadmetcalf251 LinkedIn: @chadmetcalf251   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:01.662) Hello, parents. You've likely heard that building resilience in your teen is crucial. It's not just about protecting them from mental health challenges but also setting them up for success and happiness. In this episode, we have a special guest joining us, Chad Metcalf. Chad is not only an entrepreneur and author but also a former Navy SEAL who understands the essence of mental toughness. He's going to give us parents some practical strategies to nurture our teens' resilience, confidence, and other skills essential for navigating life's challenges. Chad, welcome to the show. Before we dive in, can you share your backstory? How did you start focusing on mental toughness and resilience? Chad Metcalf (00:33.757) Thanks for having me. For me, one of the reasons I got out of the Navy was my three young boys. I wanted to be around to see them grow up. I had done 12 and a half years, so I was at that point where I had to decide—do I do another 10 or 15 years, or do I get out and do something else? It was a hard decision. I'd spent my entire adult life in the Navy, and as crazy as it sounds, that felt like the safe thing to do. The thing we know is what feels safe to us. Dr. Cam (01:12.542) Exactly. Chad Metcalf (01:12.947) I wanted to see my kids grow up. I wanted to coach baseball and flag football and do all the dad stuff. I was going to play college golf, but 9/11 happened, and I joined the Navy instead. After getting out, I had this idea that I could make the PGA Tour and somehow convinced my wife it was a good idea. I went for it, but after three years, I realized it wasn’t working out. I was really good in the last six months, but after running out of money for the third time, I knew I had to do something else. During that time, I coached my kids in judo, jiu-jitsu, baseball, and football. I've coached all my kids in at least one sport. Right now, I’m coaching my 10-year-old’s Little League baseball team. I've been around people with extreme resilience, mental toughness, discipline, and focus my entire life. To me, that’s just normal. But I realized that not all kids and parents get it. For example, a 10-year-old kid comes to practice and says, "Coach, I want to pitch." I give him a shot in the game, and he expects to be perfect his first time. But that’s not how it works. He gets nervous, and his parents don’t understand why. I tell them, "He’s nervous because he cares." When I started SEAL training, I was nervous. When I played golf, I was on the first tee, palms sweating, hands shaking. I thought, "This is ridiculous—I’ve been in combat, but I’m nervous at a golf tournament?" Dr. Cam (03:18.906) Right. Hitting that ball is probably harder than some of the things you did as a SEAL—at least when I play. Chad Metcalf (03:29.761) Anytime you step into a new environment, you’ll be nervous. Excitement, anxiety, and fear are all about perception. When a kid is on the mound, I tell him, "Of course, you’re nervous. Everyone is watching you. Why wouldn’t you be?" Then I say, "Just throw one 10 feet over the catcher." He’s surprised, but I tell him, "Who cares? Just throw it as hard as you can and see what happens." Then I ask, "If you walk the batter, what happens to your life tomorrow?" He realizes it’ll be exactly the same. "So just have fun and work on getting better." Parents often try to help their kids too much, especially in sports. A kid steps up to pitch, and their parents start coaching mechanics—release points, positioning—right there in the game. But game day isn’t for fixing things; it’s for doing what you already know. One of my golf coaches told me, "Competence breeds confidence, and confidence sets the stage for performance." You get confident by putting in the work and building your skills. Once you’ve done something a thousand times, you know you can do it. But then, you have to put yourself under pressure and practice with real stakes—whether it’s running a lap, doing push-ups, or some other consequence for failure. That’s how you learn to thrive under pressure. With my book, I teach five steps to build mental toughness. It works for anything. I used it for grad school, launching my book, and even monetizing my YouTube channel—which less than 1% of YouTubers do. But it wasn’t instant success. I made 100 videos in 100 days, and they all sucked. That’s part of the process. You put in the work, fail, assess why you’re failing, and then refine your approach. Dr. Cam (06:49.278) Let’s talk about how parents can do that. Most parents want to build resilience in their kids, but the approach often backfires. Some try to protect their kids from pain and step in too much. Others take the opposite approach and pile on difficulties, thinking it will toughen them up. Neither of those extremes work. Can you explain why? How do we find the middle ground where we build resilience while also supporting our kids? Chad Metcalf (08:07.201) Great question. I was actually talking about this the other day with a friend who runs Acton Academy Dripping Springs, where my youngest goes to school. The magic of that school is that it’s learner-driven. It’s about using systems to help kids find their own intrinsic motivation. I tell people this story: After high school, I tried to join the Navy but was disqualified because of a titanium plate in my arm. I was crushed. I tried college but couldn’t even get up for an 8 AM math class—my best subject! A year later, I made it through SEAL training. People ask, "How does someone who couldn’t wake up for a class become a Navy SEAL?" The answer: I wanted it. You have to struggle a little to figure out who you are and what you want. At a recent Acton Academy parent meeting, they showed a video of a baby learning to crawl. He was struggling to reach a toy, and everyone’s instinct was to help. But if you give the baby the toy, he doesn’t learn to crawl. He has to struggle, and after 45 minutes, he got it. That’s how kids learn. It’s often the kids who fail early and fast that go the furthest—if they learn from it. Kids who are naturally gifted but never struggle don’t develop resilience. I saw this in SEAL training. Some Olympic-level athletes quit in the second week. They were physically gifted, but they had never learned to fail and keep going. I don’t think we have to add negativity. I try not to. I have three kids—18, 15, and 10—and I’m a different parent now than I was with my oldest. You learn. You adjust. We try to give them freedom within guardrails—enough to let them fail in a way that’s safe but still teaches them valuable lessons. For example, one of my teenagers recently fell for a scam—someone promised him $200 to deposit a check. I had talked to him about this before, but he still did it. Now, he’s mowing yards to cover the loss. It’s not the end of the world, but if he learns the lesson, it’s worth it. That’s why I read, seek advice, and learn from others. I got tired of learning the hard way. As parents, we have to let our kids struggle enough to grow, but not so much that it destroys them. Dr. Cam (13:27.326) I think the big difference too is when that happens. First of

Are you feeling helpless as your teen struggles with anxiety, mood swings, and impulsivity? If you’re looking for solutions but don’t know where to start, this episode is for you. Today, we’re joined by Dianne Kosto, founder of SYMMETRY Neuro-Pathway Training and author of From Trauma to Triumph: One Mom’s Mission with Neurofeedback. Dianne will unpack how brain-based strategies like neurofeedback can help teens tackle mental health challenges linked to nervous system dysregulation, including anxiety and impulsivity.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Neurofeedback as a tool for managing anxiety and impulsivity: Learn how neurofeedback helps teach the brain to produce healthier patterns. The impact of brainwave dysregulation on teen behavior: Understand how imbalances in brainwave activity lead to mood swings, anxiety, and impulsivity. Neurofeedback as a non-invasive and accessible solution: Discover how teens can benefit from this technique, even remotely. Brain-based strategies for holistic mental wellness: Understand the power of holistic methods like neurofeedback to promote long-term mental health. How to foster self-regulation and resilience in your teen: Learn how you can support your teen’s growth and confidence through neurofeedback.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE 10% discount on neurofeedback services when you mention Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam   EPISODE CHAPTERS: 00:00 – Intro and Overview 03:15 – Dianne’s Story and the Origins of SYMMETRY Neuro-Pathway Training 10:45 – The Science of Neurofeedback for Anxiety and Impulsivity 18:30 – How Neurofeedback Can Be Done Remotely 24:00 – The Future of Neurofeedback and Mental Health 32:00 – Final Thoughts and Resources   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dianne Kosto Website: SYMMETRY Neuro-Pathway Training Instagram: @symmetry_neuro Facebook: @SYMMETRYNeuroPathwayTraining LinkedIn: Dianne Kosto YouTube: SYMMETRY Neuro-Pathway Training Channel   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam #NeurofeedbackForTeens #MentalHealthStrategies

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, we dive deep into the challenges that working moms face in balancing personal goals with raising teenagers. Dr. Cam is joined by Heidi Schalk, a business strategy coach, author, and speaker who specializes in empowering women to achieve their goals while maintaining family life. Heidi shares her inspiring journey as a single mom, entrepreneur, and podcaster, and she offers powerful insights on creating a team environment within the family, building mutual trust with your teens, and handling the pressures of both parenting and pursuing your dreams. If you're a mom feeling overwhelmed by the demands of raising teens while juggling your own aspirations, you're not alone. With 60% of working moms feeling guilty about time spent with their children, this episode is packed with practical strategies to help you build stronger connections with your teen while also honoring your personal goals.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to create family goals and foster a team mentality within your household Simple and fun ways to support your teen's mindset and development The key to building communication and trust with your teen How to balance being a present parent while pursuing your personal dreams   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Creating family goals helps develop a team atmosphere, making everyone in the household feel involved and valued. Supporting your teen’s mindset in simple, fun ways can lead to greater emotional growth and connection. Building trust with your teen starts with communication and vulnerability — they need to know they can trust you to open up. Work-life grace, not balance, is the more realistic approach for managing parenting and personal goals. Asking for help and creating a support system is crucial for both personal and family success.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don't keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode!   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Podcast: Be She Podcast   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Heidi Schalk Website: https://www.heidischalk.com Instagram: @heidischalk Facebook: @Heidi Schalk LinkedIn: @Heidi Schalk YouTube: Heidi Schalk   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: askdrcam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam

Parenting is tough enough without the weight of unhealthy generational patterns. In this episode, we're joined by Cari Fund, an expert in breaking the cycle of toxic parenting. Cari shares powerful insights on how harmful parenting habits can be passed down, often unknowingly, and how to take the steps needed to break free. If you’ve ever felt trapped in negative patterns that affect your relationship with your teen, this episode is for you. Cari’s approach is not just about improving the parent-child relationship—it’s also about personal transformation. Tune in to learn how to create a healthier, happier family dynamic.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to identify toxic parenting patterns passed down through generations Key strategies for breaking the cycle of toxic parenting The importance of self-awareness and healing in parenting Why setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care is vital for effective parenting How to communicate with your teen in ways that nurture a healthier relationship   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Toxic parenting patterns can be broken—self-awareness and healing are the first steps. Prioritizing self-care and setting boundaries is essential for preventing burnout and becoming the parent you want to be. Vulnerable, open communication builds stronger connections with your teen. Teach your teen about resilience, self-worth, and the importance of grace. Progress is more important than perfection—embrace the process of healing and growth.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? If this episode resonated with you, please share it with others who might benefit! Leave a rating and review to help more parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical advice for you and your family. Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Don't forget to hit Follow so you never miss an episode packed with valuable solutions! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Cari Fund’s FREE Guide on Toxic Parenting Traits - Learn more about toxic parenting and how to begin the journey of healing.   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Cari Fund: Website: Cari.Fund Instagram: @Cari.Fund   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together.   #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam

Are you struggling to connect with your teen? It might feel like your efforts to build trust and communication are falling short. In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Kristen Duke, a trusted mentor who specializes in helping parents navigate the challenges of raising teens. Kristen shares valuable insights into common pitfalls parents face in their relationships with teens and provides practical strategies for building trust, fostering open communication, and strengthening the parent-teen bond.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to foster trust with your teen and rebuild a stronger connection Key mistakes to avoid when trying to communicate with your teenager Why focusing on your growth, rather than your teen's behavior, is the key to earning their trust Simple, actionable steps to improve your relationship with your teen today   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Focus on building trust by connecting with your teen on a deeper level. Understand the importance of controlling your reactions to strengthen the parent-teen bond. Recognize your blind spots and how they affect your ability to connect with your teen. Communication strategies that promote openness, vulnerability, and mutual respect. Practical ways to nurture the relationship while still maintaining healthy boundaries.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit Subscribe so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE FREE Guide: Connection Playbook with 10 intentional ways to connect with your teen   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Kristen Duke Website: KristenDuke.com Instagram: @kristendukechats   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   TRANSCRIPT SUMMARY   Dr. Cam introduces Kristen Duke as a trusted mentor specializing in supporting parents through the challenges of raising teenagers. Kristen will discuss common pitfalls in parenting relationships and share strategies to foster trust and strengthen connections with teens. Kristen Duke shares her inspiration for becoming a mentor, noting that she saw a lot of pain in mothers and wanted to address the gap in conversations about raising teenagers. Dr. Cam asks about the biggest struggles parents face with teenagers. Kristen believes it's the conflict between parental expectations and what teenagers actually want to do. Kristen emphasizes the importance of the relationship with the teenager and the goal of helping parents become more trusted. She explains that parents can often feel when they are crossing a line with their teens by observing their reactions, like cold shoulders and eye rolls. While there's an element of typical teenage behavior, parents' reactions can escalate issues. Dr. Cam uses the analogy of "quicksand" to describe how trust can quickly erode with teens. Kristen's mission is to help parents shift their perspective and avoid this. Kristen talks about how parents sometimes assume their teens will trust them based on past relationships, but teenagers' desire for independence changes this dynamic. Dr. Cam and Kristen discuss the concept of a "gentler" or "intentional parenting" approach, clarifying that it is not about being a doormat but rather the opposite of being harsh. Kristen identifies with the idea of being a "trusted" parent, where the ultimate goal is for the teenager to feel safe talking to them and open to their advice. Dr. Cam asks about specific things parents do that unknowingly push their teens away and erode trust. Kristen refers to these as "parenting blind spots." Kristen shares examples of her own "freak-out" moments, like reacting negatively to her son's frustrations with a friend or her daughter's social anxiety, which closed off communication. She realized these moments were breaking trust. Kristen highlights the importance of asking teenagers if they want advice before offering it, as giving unsolicited advice can damage trust. Respecting their "no" is crucial for building trust. Another blind spot Kristen mentions is "shoulding" on teenagers—using the word "should" in directives or suggestions. Kristen emphasizes that "feedback is a gift" and encourages parents to be open to hearing their teens' perspectives. Consistency in changing behavior is key to rebuilding trust. Forcing or trying to convince a teen to trust you is ineffective. Instead, parents should try to understand why their teen doesn't trust them. Apologizing is another important aspect of building trust. Parents don't need to apologize for having rules but can apologize for their own reactions. Kristen stresses the importance of trying to understand the reason behind a teen's behavior rather than just punishing it. Punishing without understanding creates disconnection and frustration. While Kristen focuses on parents of teenagers, she wishes preteen parents would also take notice of these principles, as it can create a smoother transition. It's never too late to build trust, though it might take more effort in challenging situations. Kristen clarifies that while she generally advises against excessive rules and punishments, there are situations—like dangerous behavior—where intervention is necessary. However, even in those cases, the focus should eventually shift towards teaching and understanding. Kristen and Dr. Cam discuss how the "rebellious teenager" stereotype is not the only path through adolescence, and positive relationships are possible. Often, defiance is a reaction to how the teen is being treated. Kristen's goal is to have a relationship with her children where they feel safe and trusted, even if they make choices she doesn't agree with. A trusted relationship allows teens to feel safe even when they mess up. Kristen challenges the parental goal of just wanting their child to be "happy," suggesting it puts a lot of pressure on the child. She also highlights the disconnecting phrase, "I'm just trying to help." Instead, she suggests focusing on wanting them to live a fulfilling or authentic life that normalizes difficulties. Kristen shares her Instagram handle (@KristenDukeChats) and information about her monthly membership, Team Trusted, and her free intentional connection playbook with 10 ways to grow connection, including the "Rosebud and Thorn" family dinner discussion. Kristen emphasizes normalizing challenges and responding to them without "freaking out." She also suggests simple connection activities like watching TV together without pressure to talk.   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam

In today’s high-pressure world, teens are expected to excel in academics, extracurriculars, and beyond. Parents, driven by love and fear, often take on their children’s stress in an attempt to ensure their success. But what if this well-intentioned involvement is actually doing more harm than good? In this episode, Dr. Cam welcomes bestselling author and renowned speaker Julie Lythcott-Haims to explore the dangers of overparenting and how parents can foster independence and resilience in their teens. Julie, former dean of freshmen at Stanford University, shares insights from her acclaimed book, How to Raise an Adult, and her viral TED Talk with over 7 million views. WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How overparenting hinders teens' independence and problem-solving skills The key differences between supporting and controlling your child Why failure is an essential part of a teen’s growth (and how to let them experience it) Practical steps to shift from overparenting to empowering your teen   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Overparenting stunts development. When parents do too much, teens miss out on learning essential life skills. Fear and societal pressure drive overparenting. Many parents micromanage out of anxiety about their child’s future rather than their immediate needs. Failure is crucial for growth. Allowing teens to struggle helps them build confidence and resilience. Parents must regulate their own fears. Managing personal insecurities helps create a healthier parenting approach. Balance support with autonomy. Providing guidance while letting teens make their own decisions fosters true independence.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫   🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Julie Lythcott-Haims Ted Talk: How to Successful Raise Kids--With Over-Parenting Julie’s Parent Resource Recommendations   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Julie Lythcott-Haims Website: julielythcotthaims.com Instagram: @jlythcotthaims Facebook: @jlythcotthaims Twitter: @jlythcotthaims LinkedIn: Julie Lythcott-Haims   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   TRANSCRIPT   Dr. Cam: She sparked a national dialogue challenging conventional parenting wisdom in her acclaimed book, How to Raise an Adult, and her TED Talk, How to Raise Successful Kids Without Overparenting, boasting over seven million views, many of which are mine. Welcome, Julie. First, share a bit of your backstory with us. What inspired you to focus on overparenting? Julie Lythcott-Haims (00:53.853): Well, thank you for having me, Dr. Cam, and everyone listening to us. I hope you get something useful out of this. Pay attention to what comes up in your body because that's a clue that maybe there's something that you want to pay attention to. I am the author of How to Raise an Adult, which Dr. Cam mentioned, and I wrote this having been the dean of freshman students at Stanford University for 10 years. As a college administrator in the early 2000s... Dr. Cam (07:35.812): It really is. And then doing that is going to send our kids to therapy too. So keep going. Julie Lythcott-Haims (07:41.113): Well, I would just say, you know, I've been there. I have a 24-year-old and a 22-year-old, and I'm the expert, so to speak. And yet, turns out I was overparenting. My son, who's 24, came home for what I now call bonus years—mental health crisis in college right before the pandemic, left college, things got worse, came home to shelter in place, really depressed, finally got great therapy. We went into family therapy. Julie Lythcott-Haims (21:15.881): I hope you get some downtime. I'm in the other room if you need me. Like, I love you. You know, like the warmth and the juice and then walk away so the kid can be like, okay, right. I am responsible. So the more we hound them and we're on them and we act like, "I have to hound you because you won’t do it unless I make you," the more they're like, "Screw you. You can't make me," right? Or, "Fine, you are making me." In fact, Dr. Cam, I had a call from a mom who  Julie Lythcott-Haims (21:45.545): ...point you've been making about the harmful effects of nagging and reminding. She said, "I got two sons. I got a biological son who's 17 and an adopted son who's 15. My bio son has had a lot of struggles. He's in a residential boarding school in a different state. We have family therapy on the phone once a week. And in family therapy this week, he said, 'Mom, every time you ask, Have you done this? When are you going to do this? Why haven’t you done this? Don’t forget to do this. Oh, I think you should do this…'" Julie Lythcott-Haims (22:43.449): My adopted son—I am more loving toward my adopted son because she worked it out. So I tell parents, maybe you don’t have the A/B test of your adopted kid and your biological kid, but think about how you are with your nieces and nephews and best friends’ kids. You are that loving adult who doesn’t judge, who doesn’t act like it’s yours to fix. Like when their kid comes home, when you’re at their house, you know, you’re the aunt or the uncle or the best friend of the family. It’s Friday afternoon, their kid comes home... Dr. Cam (24:55.058): Doing less but still showing how much we care. Julie Lythcott-Haims (25:00.989): Well, part of it is listening to a great podcast like this where we try to say this, right? But I think this is where I said the definition of love has become like, "I do everything for you," instead of creating the conditions under which you can do. And this goes back to our own ego. Like, I feel needed and useful when I’m doing more as opposed to, "I am creating the conditions under which my kid can thrive." So one hack for this is... Dr. Cam (26:43.194): Please do that. Yes, get off that. It's the worst invention. It's terrible. Julie Lythcott-Haims (26:50.833): But it's evidence that you are so wrapped up in this person's existence that you're hitting refresh to calm your own dysregulation, right? Let me give you another story. Can I give you another story? All right. My son—24. I have a great daughter too, 22, but my story is, he's the one that lives with us still, so I got more stories right now. In the pandemic, it was 2021, George Floyd had been murdered nine months earlier, we’re a Black family... Dr. Cam (28:27.153): I'll write you a script. Julie Lythcott-Haims (28:43.985): Yeah, sweetie, that does sound hard. And then I paused, and my little heart is fluttering because I don’t want my kid to feel anything is hard. And then I looked at him and said, "But you know what? You do hard things." And I kind of stayed—I didn’t get all up in his face. I was like, "You do hard things." Smile. Confidence. And his eyes flew open, and he was like, "I do hard things." Dr. Cam (30:05.74): That is a good point. Julie Lythcott-Haims (30:08.781): It’s just a different type of doing, right? Instead of doing the thing, the fixing, the handling, the arranging, it's, "Okay, my job is to work on myself to not need to do the thing so that I don’t deprive my kid." My kid needs the opportunity to do the thing. We need to flip the language—it needs to be like, "Why would I deprive my child of the chance to learn in this moment?" Dr. Cam (30:29.742): The deprivation—I love that, because it does change it to, it’s not that I’m not helping him, it’s that I’m giving him the opportunity. I’m going to let him have this one; I’m not going to take it for myself. And I think that’s a language that might help us. Julie Lythcott-Haims (31:42.141): So let me say this, and this is for your producer to edit out. I am supposed to be on a call three minutes ago, which I didn’t realize. So I do need to wrap. Okay. Dr. Cam (31:49.467): Oh, we can go. Julie Lythcott-Haims (31:49.467): Sure, absolutely. Let’s do this. And I just want to do one golden nugget to give the listeners to walk away with. The golden nugget is your child is actually a separate person from you, and they are a gift from the universe or God or however you believe we all get here. Your job is not to live their life for them, but simply to prepare the conditions under which this precious gift will become themselves. They are a wildflower. You don’t even know what they’re going to look like or be like. You just create the right conditions where this wildflower can become their glorious self. Dr. Cam (32:41.074): I love that. What a great place to close. Thank you, Julie, so much for joining us. Julie Lythcott-Haims (32:45.937): Thank you, Dr. Cam, and to everyone who listened. Hope you got something good and useful out of it. Appreciate you. ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together

In this crucial episode, Dr. Jessica Rabon, a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric psychology, joins Dr. Cam to discuss an incredibly important topic: spotting teen suicide risk. With suicide being the leading cause of death for youth ages 10-24 in the U.S., this episode will help parents recognize warning signs, have open conversations with their teens, and understand how to provide critical support. If you're a parent worried about your teen's mental health, this episode is a must-listen.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to identify warning signs of teen suicide and differentiate them from normal teenage behavior The importance of having a direct and compassionate conversation with your teen about suicide Effective crisis management techniques when your teen is at risk Practical steps to support your suicidal child and where to find the help they need   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Spotting Warning Signs: Learn the behaviors and shifts that signal a potential suicide risk in teens. Understanding Suicidal Ideation: Understand the difference between passive and active suicidal thoughts, and when to seek help. How to Talk About Suicide: Discover the best ways to approach your teen and ask about suicide without judgment. Responding to a Plan: Know what to do when your teen has a suicide plan—stay calm, stay with them, and seek immediate support. Building Trust: Learn how to maintain a trusting relationship, so your teen feels safe reaching out when they’re struggling.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Psych Talk Podcast Welcome to Group Therapy Podcast   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Jessica Rabon Website: JessicaRabonPhD.com Instagram: @JessicaLeighPhD Facebook: Jessica Leigh PhD YouTube: Jessica Leigh PhD TikTok: @JessicaLeighPhD   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam

In today’s episode, we dive deep into Teen OCD with Natasha Daniels, an experienced anxiety and OCD therapist who has been helping families navigate these challenges for over two decades. Natasha is also the creator of AT Parenting Survival and the host of the AT Parenting Survival Podcast. With both her clinical expertise and personal experience raising three kids with OCD, Natasha offers invaluable insights on supporting teens with Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder. If you're a parent wondering how to spot OCD in your teen, what steps to take, or how to avoid common pitfalls, this episode is a must-listen.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to Spot OCD in Your Teen – The common signs and how OCD can look different in adolescents. OCD Myths Busted – Natasha tackles common misconceptions about teen OCD and its impact on their lives. The Worst Things Parents Can Do for Their Teen's OCD – Learn about parental responses that can unintentionally strengthen OCD behaviors. Effective Strategies to Support Teens with OCD – What to do instead, including practical advice for early intervention.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Recognizing OCD Symptoms in Teens OCD in teens often shows up in subtle ways, like appearing distracted or engaging in repetitive behaviors such as hand-washing or checking things multiple times. Look for signs of intrusive thoughts or anxiety-driven actions that persist despite logical explanations. When typical curiosity or behavior becomes obsessive or interferes with daily functioning, it might be a sign of OCD. How to Approach OCD Without Shaming or Enabling Parents often unknowingly make mistakes like rationalizing OCD behaviors or giving in to compulsions. Instead, avoid shaming or minimizing their struggles. Acknowledge the OCD without reinforcing the compulsions. Approach your teen with empathy, understanding that their actions are driven by anxiety, not willful behavior. The Power of Psychoeducation for Teens One of the best ways to help your teen manage OCD is by educating them about the disorder. Help them understand that their obsessive thoughts are not a reflection of who they are, but a part of a brain glitch that gets stuck. Normalizing their experiences makes them feel less isolated and better equipped to fight back against the disorder. The Importance of ERP Therapy for Teens with OCD Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy is the gold-standard treatment for OCD, and it's essential for teens struggling with this condition. ERP helps your teen confront their fears by gradually exposing them to their anxiety triggers without allowing them to perform their compulsions. Working with an OCD-trained therapist who specializes in ERP is crucial for success. The Role of Parents in Fighting OCD Together As a parent, it's vital to separate your teen from their OCD. Frame it as a battle you're both facing together. Support your teen by creating a plan of action to address OCD behaviors and stick to it, even when it's tough. Show them they are not alone in this struggle and that you’re in it as a team—this can be one of the most powerful tools in overcoming OCD.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Free online course for teens on understanding OCD   EPISODE CHAPTERS: [00:00] Introduction to Natasha Daniels [05:00] Understanding Teen OCD [10:00] What to Do and What Not to Do as a Parent [20:00] How ERP Therapy Can Help Teens [30:00] Key Takeaways and Closing Thoughts   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Natasha Daniels Website: AT Parenting Survival Instagram: @atparentingsurvival YouTube: @Natasha Daniels OCD Therapist   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   ABOUT THE SHOW The Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Podcast is your go-to resource for navigating the challenges of raising teenagers. Hosted by Dr. Cam Caswell, an adolescent psychologist and certified parenting coach, this podcast offers practical parenting strategies, expert advice, and real-world insights to help you build a stronger relationship with your teen and support their emotional growth. Whether you’re struggling with teenage behavior or looking to improve communication, each episode provides actionable tips to make parenting teens easier and more rewarding. Perfect for both new and seasoned parents, this podcast helps you build the confidence to handle teen challenges and thrive together. #theteentranslator #drcamcaswell #parentingteenswithdrcam

Ever wonder why your once bright and enthusiastic child now seems overwhelmed, stressed, and constantly down on themselves? You're not alone. Research shows that nearly 80% of teens struggle with negative self-talk, and it affects their confidence, academic performance, and overall well-being. In this episode, we chat with school psychologist and teen coach Natalie Borrell, the founder of Life Success for Teens, who shares powerful strategies to help your teen silence their inner critic and thrive with confidence. Tune in to learn how to break the cycle of negativity and cultivate a growth mindset for success.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How to identify the signs of a critical inner voice in your teenager Practical tools and techniques for challenging negative thoughts The importance of self-compassion and building lasting confidence Why teens need to hear support from more than just their parents   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Negative self-talk can easily turn into negative beliefs, affecting your teen’s confidence and success. Silencing your teen's inner critic is possible by taking action and addressing the root of the issue. Sometimes, your teen needs to hear encouragement from a new voice—a mentor, coach, or trusted adult. Self-compassion is crucial to breaking the cycle of negativity and building a healthy mindset. Time management and confidence are closely linked; addressing both helps teens thrive.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE • Life Success for Teens - Masterclass: 5 Step Strategy to Transform Your Teen CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Natalie Borrell Website: LifeSuccessForTeens.com Instagram: @LifeSuccessForTeens   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam Facebook: @DrCamCaswell   FULL TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:00.602) Ever wonder why your once bright and enthusiastic child seems constantly stressed, overwhelmed, and down on themselves? You're not alone. Studies show nearly 80% of teenagers experience negative self-talk, impacting their confidence, academic performance, and overall well-being. In this episode, we dive deep with school psychologist and teen coach Natalie Borrell to explore strategies to help your teens silence their inner critic and cultivate a growth mindset for success. Natalie, welcome to the show. Natalie Borrell (00:40.59) Thank you so much, it's an honor to be here. Dr. Cam (00:41.872) It's great to have you. So tell us a little bit, what's the quick story that inspired you to start working with teenagers and helping them with life success? Natalie Borrell (00:53.614) Well, I have been a school psychologist for 17 years. And while I love that work and I work with amazing people, what I've realized is that when you work in public education, there is a lot of red tape and a lot of hoops that have to be jumped through in order to get a student what it is that they need. So about seven years ago, I started doing a very official Google search on what else I could do with my school psychology degree, because I felt like I wasn't having the type of long-lasting impact that I wanted to have on teenagers. I started the company seven years ago, and it used to be just me, but now there's a team of 15 of us that all have different areas of expertise and backgrounds and work well with different types of teenagers. I get to play matchmaker when I talk to families and connect them with a coach that is really going to meet their student's needs and be a great match as far as personality. So that's the work that I'm doing now, and I just absolutely love it. Dr. Cam (02:17.872) I love it. I'm going to ask you real quick to step a little bit back from the camera because we're not able to see your eyes. Yay. Okay. And just up a little bit. I want to make sure... there we go. I want to make sure we can see your whole face. Cool. So let's talk about a little bit. What do you see that comes into your coaching practice? What are some of the biggest obstacles kids are facing when it comes to feeling successful and being able to succeed? Natalie Borrell (02:23.726) Great question. So the first thing that comes to my mind is that a lot of parents come to me for support with their teenager's time management skills. Balancing all of the things they have to do in school—assignments, upcoming tests and quizzes—knowing what is due when, and kind of managing all of that. But also using their time effectively and efficiently. So time management is probably the most common thing that parents initially reach out to me for. But it's interesting because when I have a conversation with a parent and we start talking about time management, inevitably what also comes up is my teenager needs more confidence. They need more motivation. The time management and study skills—those are all tangible things that we can teach to help them be successful in school. But it's interesting because there's always this underlying question about their confidence, and that's half the battle as well. Dr. Cam (09:21.872) How do I help them change this negative self-talk? What do we need to do? Natalie Borrell (09:29.886) Yeah, I mean, as a parent, you're probably saying all of the right things—the encouraging things, the things that you want to say to boost their self-esteem and help them see all of the amazing things in their teenager. But the problem is, you have to say that because you're their parent, right? Sometimes, it has to come from another voice. Whether that is a teacher, a family mentor, a coach, an accountability partner, another student. It almost doesn't matter who it is. Of course, you want to keep saying those things as a parent, and I think it's great to continue. I would never recommend stopping. But I think it has to come from a different voice in order for your teenager to believe it and internalize it. Dr. Cam (10:15.024) The other thing, I learned a little trick with my daughter. She's 18 now, but I always liked having her overhear me say something positive about her to somebody else, which almost gave me another voice. So it added credibility because she's like, "Yeah, you have to say it to me, but man, if I overhear you saying it to somebody else, then that must be true, and you must really think that." I use that trick a lot. Natalie Borrell (11:16.098) I mean, I think sometimes, to your point, it has to come from... Let me rephrase this. I think that—I'm going to have to pause and think about that for a second. How do I want to answer that question? Can you rephrase the question for me? Thanks. Dr. Cam (11:31.566) Yes, so a lot of times, we are giving, you know, directly to our kids. We're saying, "You're smart, you got this," but a lot of the kids don't believe it. And one of it is because, yes, we're their parent. But also what I hear from teens is, "I don't believe them because they may say it here, but they're saying all these other things over here that say it's something different. So what am I to believe?" So what are some of those things. One example is I'll ask parents, you know, they say grades don't matter, and I say, well, what do you do when they get an A? Well, we celebrate. Well, what do you do when they get a C? Well, we talk about what they can do better next time. And they said, well, that very action is telling them that grades matter. So what are some other things that parents may be doing that we don't realize we're doing that might be undermining our attempts to build up their self-esteem?  How do we as parents start addressing that? Natalie Borrell (14:55.742) Yeah, you know, the first thing that I do when I'm talking with teenagers about their inner critic is to recognize that it is absolutely normal. It's an absolutely normal part of being a human to be critical of yourself or to not feel confident in certain areas of your life. So the first thing is to normalize it and to say, "You know, everybody has an inner critic. It's not about not having one because that's not reality." No, oh, absolutely not. No, I mean, it's a repetitive thing. It's like planting a seed. You have to keep planting the seeds. Like a strong oak takes a long time to grow, right? We have to keep planting those seeds even if it feels like they're not listening to you or they're tuning you out or they give you feedback or resistance to it. It doesn't matter. You still have to plant the seed. You still have to model it because now if mom says it and then somebody else around me says it... Dr. Cam (18:14.128) Okay, what do we need to do? Natalie Borrell (18:42.686 Okay, now it must be true, right? But it has to come from several different places in order for that to stick. So parents keep saying it. Hopefully, we can shift that mindset of your teenager, but then when they also hear it from other people—teachers, athletic coaches, mentors—then it starts to click like, "Oh, maybe that is true." Dr. Cam (19:02.736) A lot of times the way we want to approach it is we just say, "Oh, that's not true. Don't think that you're this." And the reason that doesn't work... Tell us why that doesn't work. Natalie Borrell (19:16.318) It doesn't work because you have to say that as their parent. I mean, there's no... You just have to say that. You're their parent. That's your job to build them up. Dr. Cam (19:25.712) Yeah, and it's not changing their belief system either. I think a lot of times what we're doing is just saying, "We're

Are you struggling to raise a teen who can cope with life's challenges? In this transformative episode, Dr. Caroline Leaf, a clinical neuroscientist, bestselling author, and expert in mental health and resilience, shares invaluable insights into how to build emotional resilience in teens. Dr. Leaf is the host of the popular podcast Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess and the author of 18 books, including Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess and How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess. She’s dedicated her career to understanding the mind-body connection and empowering families to nurture emotional wellness. In this conversation, Dr. Leaf introduces a practical, science-based process that helps teens (and their parents) overcome obstacles with strength, clarity, and hope.   WHAT YOU'LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE How the mind-body connection shapes our resilience and why it’s unlimited. The Neurocycle process Dr. Leaf developed to help build emotional resilience. Why resilience isn’t a limited resource—and how to tap into it effectively. The importance of modeling resilience for your teens instead of "fixing" them.   5 KEY TAKEAWAYS FOR PARENTS OF TEENS Model Resilience for Your Teen Dr. Caroline Leaf emphasizes that teens are more likely to follow your example than your words. Show them how you handle challenges with resilience, so they can learn from your actions. Use the Neurocycle to Reorganize Experiences The Neurocycle method can help your teen process their emotions and experiences. Dr. Leaf shares how parents can guide teens to recognize the "signals" of their experiences, dig into them, and reframe their thoughts. Avoid Pathologizing Your Teen’s Struggles Instead of labeling your teen’s emotional struggles as mental health problems, focus on helping them reframe their experiences as opportunities for growth. This helps them see challenges as normal parts of life, rather than something to be "fixed." Create a Safety Net for Your Teen Dr. Leaf recommends "safety net parenting," where you support your teen through their failures, instead of trying to prevent them from making mistakes. This allows your teen to learn resilience and face adversity without fear of judgment. Embrace the Power of Neuroplasticity Help your teen understand that their brains are capable of change. Dr. Leaf shares how the Neurocycle, used consistently over time, can rewire negative thought patterns, leading to long-term emotional growth and resilience.   🎧❤️ ENJOYING THE SHOW? Don’t keep it to yourself! Share your favorite episode and leave a rating and review to help other parents find the support they need. Your feedback helps me create even more episodes filled with practical tips for you and your family! Thanks so much for your support! 🙏💫 🔔 Remember to hit SUBSCRIBE so you never miss another solution-packed episode! 🙌   RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Neurocycle App (20% off with code NEUROCYCLE20) Book: Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess Book: How to Help Your Child Clean Up their Mental Mess Book:Think, Learn, Succeed Podcast: Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess   EPISODE CHAPTERS: [00:00] – Introduction to Dr. Caroline Leaf’s Approach to Mental Health [03:15] – Resilience: Beyond What You’ve Been Told [06:45] – Why Building Resilience in Teens Requires a New Approach [10:30] – Modeling Resilience as a Parent [14:00] – The Power of Neuroplasticity in Teen Brain Development [18:30] – Overcoming Trauma: A New Way of Thinking [22:00] – How Parents Can Use the NeuroCycle to Build Resilience [26:15] – The Science of Emotional Healing: 3 Steps to Rewire Your Teen’s Brain [30:00] – How Long Does It Take to Build Resilience in Teens? [33:45] – The Importance of Taking Action: Changing the Way You Respond [37:30] – Toxic Positivity vs. Healthy Emotional Support for Teens [41:00] – Do You Want to Change? How to Make Lasting Emotional Change [45:00] – Conclusion: Building Resilience and Navigating Parenting Challenges   CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST: Dr. Caroline Leaf Website: DrLeaf.com Instagram: @DrCarolineLeaf YouTube: Dr. Caroline Leaf Facebook: @drleaf   CONNECT WITH YOUR HOST: Dr. Cam Caswell Website: AskDrCam.com Instagram: @DrCamCaswell TikTok: @the.teen.translator YouTube: Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam   TRANSCRIPT Dr. Cam (00:00): Today we're embarking on a transformative journey with a true expert in the field of mental health and resilience, Dr. Carolyn Leaf. Dr. Leaf is not only a communication pathologist, audiologist, and clinical neuroscientist, but also a pioneer in the study of the mind-brain connection. With her extensive background in psychoneurobiology and metacognitive neuropsychology, Dr. Leaf dedicated her career to understanding how our thoughts and emotions shape our brains. As a host of the podcast Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess, and the author of 18 bestselling books, including Cleaning Up Your Mental Mess and How to Help Your Child Clean Up Their Mental Mess, Dr. Leaf is a leading voice in the field of mental wellness. Join us as we learn from Dr. Leaf's wealth of knowledge and experience gaining insights into how we can raise emotionally resilient teens in today's challenging world. Dr. Leaf, welcome to the show. Caroline Leaf (00:08.91): Thank you so much, Dr. Cam. It's lovely to meet you and lovely to be with you today. Dr. Cam (00:29.602): Dr. Leaf is a leading voice in the field of mental wellness. Join us as we learn from Dr. Leaf's wealth of knowledge and experience gaining insights into how we can raise emotionally resilient teens in today's challenging world. Dr. Leaf, welcome to the show. Caroline Leaf (04:12.374): I, as I practice for 25 years and I've been doing research for 38 now, and I don't practice anymore because I decided I'm going to have more impact taking what I'm doing in my research and my clinical practice and putting that into accessible tools. We have a mental health technology platform, web and iOS and Android, which we're constantly developing and growing, where we are trying to empower an individual as well as teams of people. But people, every single human needs to know how to understand. Caroline Leaf (07:06.18): I'm so glad you asked that question because, as you and I both know, that is such a common word used everywhere. It's on book covers, it's in conversations, it comes out all the time. And so it's something that we instinctively know as humans is important for us. And what we've been told in the last 30, 40 years, which has actually been disproved, is that we have limited supplies of resilience, that we run out of resilience. But that's not actually the truth because your brain I was explaining this to someone the other day and it really worked. So let me use it like this. And this is an analogy in a book that I'm actually currently writing at the moment. So you're getting a sneak preview of my next book. Think of a door and a doorway that opens. And that doorway that opens into just infinity. You know, we've seen images of that. We've seen movies with that kind of analogy. You see, you can, you know, just that feeling of this door. Now, that's what resilience is like. It's when you open it, there's unlimited supply of resilience. If you have any kind of trauma or any kind of anything at any stage of your life that disrupts your functioning, that you basically are reducing your resilience. It's getting less and that you're broken forever and that because you're broken forever, you need a label, you need a diagnosis, you potentially need whatever. And this is what our teenagers are growing up with. This is what our alpha are growing up with. This is the messaging. Dr. Cam (17:03.426): I love the whole rewiring and neuroplasticity and how do we as parents use this knowledge? And we've already talked about, we want to build resilience. A lot of what we're doing to build resilience based off what you just said is actually making them less resilient because we're trying to fix them, right, to build them. So what do parents do to help build up our children's resilience or open up that door wide open for them? Caroline Leaf (17:38.468): Three parts to that answer. It's a great question. It's a great question. The first thing is we model it for them because our children and our adolescents will really do what we do. It's easy to say something. It's much more difficult to model it. So that's very, very important. I often get asked this question and they say, what would you do for this current crisis, which has also been mis-explained. Application, we constantly upgrading that all the time. Even have a neuro. Explain something and answer questions. In other words, that's how, because people say, okay, that's great. I need the knowledge as a parent. I need to model, but what do I do? So the second part of the answer is these are, I've got the tools, the Neuropsycho. We can even talk a bit more about what that is. I'm happy to explain it. And then what... Dr. Cam (23:03.298): Right. Worst-case scenario. Caroline Leaf (23:18.596): That if you help a person with a traumatic brain injury, you can actually help them transform their life. So I work with people that were, that were, had shortly come out of comas, that were non-functional, and quite extreme changes happened in sort of, under 12 months, they would go from like a... They would go from, let's say, there was the one case was a 16-year-old who had basically sort of lost all functionality and was like functioning at about a second-grade level. Within 12 months, caught up with a peer group, went on to get degrees. How often, how long, and the bottom line, and we still do research, we've just done another study, I've published papers, we had a paper coming out this month, and for this year, we're doing more studies, but basically it takes around nine weeks to rewire a network. So in the first three weeks of working da

Did you know that according to SAMHSA, over 1.7 million adolescents aged 12 to 17 in the US have a substance use disorder? It's a staggering statistic that underscores the critical need for effective interventions and support systems for our teens. As parents, it's essential to equip ourselves with the knowledge and tools to navigate this complex issue. In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Louise, a renowned family systems coach, interventionist, and trailblazer in the field of behavioral health and addiction treatments.  Dr. Louise provides us with invaluable insights and actionable steps to effectively intervene and support our teens.  Feeling lost in the sea of parenting advice? Wish you had a supportive community to navigate the ups and downs of raising happy, thriving teens? **Introducing Thriving Parent Academy! ** This online community equips YOU with the tools and knowledge to: ⭐ Foster strong parent-teen relationships ⭐Set clear boundaries and expectations ⭐ Navigate attitude and meltdowns with confidence ⭐ Raise kind, responsible humans   Join our amazing community of parents and: ⭐ Connect with like-minded individuals who "get it" ⭐ Learn from me through exclusive laser coaching sessions and master classes ⭐ Get personalized support and guidance tailored to your unique needs Stop feeling overwhelmed and start thriving! Limited spots available! Enroll now at thrivingparent.org. P.S. Share with any parent friends who might benefit!

Have you ever felt at a loss when faced with your teen's rude behavior? Moments where your requests are ignored, or they respond with sarcasm or eye-rolling? If this sounds all too familiar, this episode is for you. In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Brooke Romney (@brookeromneywrites), the best-selling author of 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1 and 2. Brooke sheds light on how we can foster mutual respect and maintain authority while still strengthening our connection with our teens.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Feeling lost in the sea of parenting advice? Wish you had a supportive community to navigate the ups and downs of raising happy, thriving teens? **Introducing Thriving Parent Academy! ** This online community equips YOU with the tools and knowledge to: ⭐ Foster strong parent-teen relationships ⭐Set clear boundaries and expectations ⭐ Navigate attitude and meltdowns with confidence ⭐ Raise kind, responsible humans   Join our amazing community of parents and: ⭐ Connect with like-minded individuals who "get it" ⭐ Learn from me through exclusive laser coaching sessions and master classes ⭐ Get personalized support and guidance tailored to your unique needs Stop feeling overwhelmed and start thriving! Limited spots available! Enroll now at thrivingparent.org. P.S. Share with any parent friends who might benefit!

Does your teen display repetitive behaviors like excessive hand washing or hair picking?  Are they battling against intrusive thoughts they can't shake off? If so, this episode is for you. These behaviors may signal Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder or OCD, a condition impacting around 1 in every 100 children and teens.  In this episode, I’m joined by Kimberley Quinlin, a therapist with extensive training in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Exposure Response Prevention (ERP) for OCD and OCD-related disorders. Kimberley is here to help us identify these signs in our teens and provide guidance for supporting them effectively.   Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode and think others would appreciate it too, please review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast Want to be alerted when a new episode drops? Follow on  iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify.   ABOUT THE SHOW: The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast is your guide to navigating adolescence without the drama. In each episode, your host, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam, is joined by a guest expert to provide invaluable insights and practical advice for building a closer relationship with your teen & finding joy amidst the challenges Whether you're an experienced parent looking to support your teenager's mental well-being or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.  

Are you one of the many parents grappling with the challenge of getting your teenager to sleep? You're not alone. Studies show that approximately 70% of teenagers are sleep-deprived. This lack of adequate rest not only impacts their academic performance but also their physical and mental health. To shed light on this issue, Dr. Cam talks with Dr. Angela Holliday-Bell, a Board-Certified Physician and Certified Clinical Sleep Specialist. Dr. Holliday-Bell shares her expertise and top strategies for ensuring our teens get the rest they need for optimal health and well-being.    Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode and think others would appreciate it too, please review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast Want to be alerted when a new episode drops? Follow on  iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify.   ABOUT THE SHOW: The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast is your guide to navigating adolescence without the drama. In each episode, your host, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam, is joined by a guest expert to provide invaluable insights and practical advice for building a closer relationship with your teen & finding joy amidst the challenges Whether you're an experienced parent looking to support your teenager's mental well-being or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.  

Are you feeling overwhelmed by the daunting task of navigating the college application process for your teen? Wondering how to find the perfect fit without breaking the bank? Then this episode is for you. Stay tuned as we dive into expert advice on finding, applying to, and paying for college.  Our special guest, Dr. Pamela Ellis, MBA, PhD, aka The Education Doctor®, is here to share her invaluable insights. Dr. Pamela has helped over 1,000 families successfully navigate this journey, with a whopping 95% admission rate to top-choice colleges and an average scholarship of $75,000. Are you ready to discover the secrets to college success?"   Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode and think others would appreciate it too, please review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast Want to be alerted when a new episode drops? Follow on  iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify.   ABOUT THE SHOW: The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast is your guide to navigating adolescence without the drama. In each episode, your host, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam, is joined by a guest expert to provide invaluable insights and practical advice for building a closer relationship with your teen & finding joy amidst the challenges Whether you're an experienced parent looking to support your teenager's mental well-being or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.  

In this episode we tackle a common challenge that many parents face: How to help our teens develop a strong sense of self-worth and confidence in a world that often seems designed to chip away at it? Dr. Cam is joined by Phinnah, a seasoned family coach with over a decade of experience transforming family dynamics by strengthening parent-child relationships. Listen in to hear her expert advice for navigating the delicate balance between supporting your teen's self-esteem and allowing them to face life's challenges independently   Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode and think others would appreciate it too, please review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast Want to be alerted when a new episode drops? Follow on  iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify.   ABOUT THE SHOW: The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast is your guide to navigating adolescence without the drama. In each episode, your host, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam, is joined by a guest expert to provide invaluable insights and practical advice for building a closer relationship with your teen & finding joy amidst the challenges Whether you're an experienced parent looking to support your teenager's mental well-being or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen. 

As parents of teens, we’re constantly dealing with a whirlwind of emotions, responsibilities, and expectations that seem to never let up. Whether it's the stress of school, the drama of social life, or just trying to keep their screen time in check, the struggle feels endless. That's why I'm really excited to have Sheryl Gould, the founder of the international organization Moms of Tweens and Teens, joining us today. She's got some fantastic tips and tricks to help us tackle our own overwhelm and support our teens through theirs.   Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode and think others would appreciate it too, please review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast Want to be alerted when a new episode drops? Follow on  iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify.   ABOUT THE SHOW: The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast is your guide to navigating adolescence without the drama. In each episode, your host, adolescent psychologist Dr. Cam, is joined by a guest expert to provide invaluable insights and practical advice for building a closer relationship with your teen & finding joy amidst the challenges Whether you're an experienced parent looking to support your teenager's mental well-being or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.  

As parents, we strive to equip our teens with the skills they need to thrive independently. But many of us worry that they won't learn to make wise decisions, regulate their emotions, or reach the necessary maturity needed to survive in the wild on their own.   Fortunately, we have Kim Muench, a certified Conscious Parenting Coach and founder of Real Life Parent Guide here to help us. Kim specializes in working with parents of emerging adults (ages 18-25). Kim is the author of  Becoming Me While Raising You – a Mother’s Journey to Her Self. She is also a sought after speaker on topics related to conscious parenting. In this episode, Kim shares her wisdom on nurturing independence and resilience in our teens, paving the way for a successful launch into adulthood.   Thanks for Listening! If you enjoyed this episode and think others would appreciate it too, please review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast Want to be alerted when a new episode drops? Follow on  iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify.

As parents, one of our biggest concerns is the impact of social pressures and expectations on our teens' body image. If you’re concerned about your teen’s eating habits, self-care, and self-esteem, you’re in the right place. In this episode we tackle this critical issue with Dr. Francis, a licensed professional Counselor and the founder and owner of Scottsdale Premier Counseling. Dr. Francis is a nationally recognized treatment specialist in body image and eating disorders. She shares her expert strategies for promoting a healthy body image and self-acceptance in our teens.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Do you have a teenager with ADHD? Are you concerned about their struggles with focus, impulsive actions, managing time, social interactions, and self-esteem? If these challenges sound familiar, you're in the right place. In this episode Dr. Cam talks with Dana Kay, a board-certified holistic health and nutrition practitioner, two-time International best-selling author and the visionary leader of the ADHD Thrive Institute. Dana Kay and Dr. Cam explore effective strategies to alleviate the symptoms of ADHD and help our teens to excel in their personal and academic lives.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Do you find your teenager's unpredictable mood swings challenging? One minute they're all smiles, and the next, they're storming off over the smallest things. If you're unsure about how to help them navigate these intense feelings and stress, then this episode is just what you need. In this episode I’m joined by master herbalist Sara Chana, who has been guiding teens towards a calmer, more centered state for over 30 years. You might know her from her book 'MOODTOPIA' or her various TV appearances.  In this episode, she shares some of her top botanical remedies for tackling stress and anxiety, paving the way for a more peaceful and healthy state of mind.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

SPONSORED BY: Pearson’s Connections Academy Did you know that by 2030, 85% of jobs that will exist haven't even been invented yet? How do you prepare your teens for a future filled with unknowns? In this episode, Dr. Lorna Bryant, head of career education at Pearson's Connections Academy, shares insights on preparing teens for success in a future filled with unknowns. The conversation covers various topics, including the pressure to succeed, redefining success, balancing future preparation and present needs, developing skills and seeking opportunities, changing views on careers and work-life, work ethic and priorities of younger generations, defining success and prioritizing well-being, recognizing the value of diverse interests, navigating career changes and quitting, and encouraging exploration and finding passion.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Ever find yourself in a communication standoff with your teenager? They seem to have their minds made up, and nothing you say can change it. Sound familiar? In this episode, bestselling author and change navigation expert Michael McQueen shares insights into understanding and influencing teenagers. He discusses the reasons behind teen stubbornness and the mistakes parents often make when trying to persuade their teens.  McQueen emphasizes the importance of empathy, curiosity, and open communication in building trust and grace with teenagers. He suggests strategies for negotiating with teens, setting boundaries, and problem-solving together. McQueen also highlights the significance of vulnerability and honesty in creating authority and respect.  The episode concludes with a practical takeaway of engaging in activities side by side with teens to foster connection and understanding.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Mindstuck: Mastering the Art of Changing Minds FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In today's hyper-connected world, children are more exposed than ever to extremist ideologies that can profoundly influence young minds. There has been an enormous uptick in groups ranging from white supremacists to religious extremists who are aggressively targeting children as young as 11 on platforms popular with teens. For example, a neo-Nazi organization recently ran a social media recruitment campaign using gaming imagery and memes that received 800,000 views from boys aged 12-15. In this episode, Dr. Emily Bashaw, a clinical psychologist and expert on radicalization, discusses the alarming trend of extremist groups targeting teenagers on social media platforms. She explains the concept of addictive ideologies and how vulnerable individuals can be influenced by propaganda and tribal beliefs. Dr. Bashaw emphasizes the importance of building resilience and critical thinking skills in teenagers to protect them from extremist influences. She also highlights the role of parents in fostering open communication and engaging in difficult conversations with their teens.  The conversation concludes with a reminder to humanize others and promote acceptance while demanding personal growth.   KEY TAKEAWAYS Teenagers are vulnerable to extremist influences on social media platforms, and parents need to be proactive in safeguarding their children. Building resilience and critical thinking skills in teenagers can help protect them from falling prey to extremist ideologies. Engaging in open and non-confrontational conversations with teenagers can help them develop a broader perspective and resist extremist messages. Humanizing others and promoting acceptance are essential in countering extremist beliefs and fostering empathy.   Chapters 00:00 Introduction 01:03 Addictive Ideologies and Radicalization 04:07 The Influence of Social Media and Online Behavior 05:24 Impact on Teenagers 09:31 Signs of Targeting and Messages 10:42 Preventing Extremist Influences 13:48 Engaging in Difficult Conversations 15:05 Understanding Extremist Recruitment Tactics 18:36 Promoting Agency and Critical Thinking 20:45 Acceptance and Demanding More 25:49 Humanizing Others and Building Resilience 29:34 Engaging with Teens 31:46 Conclusion Resources Mentioned in This Episode Addictive Ideologies: Finding Meaning in Agency When Politics Fail You. Dr. Bashah’s FREE worksheets for parents. FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode we tackle a topic that often leaves parents feeling frustrated and helpless: communication with teenagers. Did you know that according to a recent survey, 78% of parents report feeling like they're constantly struggling to communicate effectively with their teenagers? And it's no wonder. Teenagers are going through a period of immense physical and emotional change, and they're trying to figure out who they are and where they fit in the world. This can make it difficult for them to open up to their parents, even about things that are important to them. So, how can we, as parents, encourage open and honest communication with our teenagers? Today, we're joined by Ruth Klien, author of Conscious Connection and founder of the nonprofit Universal Mom, to discuss strategies for overcoming communication breakdowns with our teens. The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast: Your Guide to Navigating Adolescence Without Losing Your Mind. Hosted by Cameron (Dr. Cam) Caswell, an acclaimed adolescent psychologist with over two decades of experience empowering parents and nurturing teen development. In each episode, she partners with a guest expert to deliver invaluable insights and practical advice for raising healthy, resilient teenagers.  Whether you're a seasoned parent seeking to enhance your parenting skills or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Many immigrant parents face the challenge of maintaining the traditions and expectations rooted in their upbringing while simultaneously adapting to the culture their teenagers are learning to navigate. This cultural dissonance frequently results in communication gaps, misunderstandings, and the potential for intergenerational trauma. Recognizing the need to address these challenges, Dr. Cam invited Amy Yip, a Somatic Life Transformation and Mental Fitness coach, to guide us in recognizing and healing from our intergenerational wounds. Amy helps us strike a delicate balance between respecting our heritage while embracing the ever-changing and, at times, overwhelming culture of today in order to create a more harmonious family dynamic.   The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast: Your Guide to Navigating Adolescence Without Losing Your Mind. Hosted by Cameron (Dr. Cam) Caswell, an acclaimed adolescent psychologist with over two decades of experience empowering parents and nurturing teen development. In each episode, she partners with a guest expert to deliver invaluable insights and practical advice for raising healthy, resilient teenagers. Whether you're a seasoned parent seeking to enhance your parenting skills or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Setting the Foundations Workbook: Begin Reconnecting with Your Parents. A beginners guide to start engaging with your own parents in deeper, more meaningful conversations FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you're concerned that your teen is struggling with addiction, whether it's technology, substances, or behavior, this episode is for you.   Dr. Cam is joined by the renowned Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist, Dr. Gayani DeSilva. Dr. DeSilva is not only a leading expert in the field, but she's also the author of two highly acclaimed books: "A Psychiatrist's Guide: Helping Parents Reach Their Depressed Tween" and "A Psychiatrist's Guide: Stop Teen Addiction Before It Starts." Together, they navigate the intricate terrain of teen addiction, and most importantly, uncover proactive steps that parents can take to protect their teenagers from this widespread threat. The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast: Your Guide to Navigating Adolescence Without Losing Your Mind. Hosted by Cameron (Dr. Cam) Caswell, an acclaimed adolescent psychologist with over two decades of experience empowering parents and nurturing teen development. In each episode, she partners with a guest expert to deliver invaluable insights and practical advice for raising healthy, resilient teenagers. Whether you're a seasoned parent seeking to enhance your parenting skills or a newcomer to the world of adolescence, this podcast is a must-listen.     Resources Mentioned in This Episode A Psychiatrist's Guide: Stop Teen Addiction Before It Starts A Psychiatrist's Guide: Helping Parents Reach Their Depressed Tween FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Ever look at your teen and think, "Why won't you just do as I ask without all the pushback?" Me too! But we're thinking about it wrong. We're thinking our teen is disrespectful and defiant when they argue. What we should be thinking is, our teen's reaction is a sign of healthy development and respect." What?! Listen to this episode and let Dr. Cam explain.   Connect with Dr. Cam www.askdrcam.com | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter | YouTube If you found this episode helpful, please LIKE, FOLLOW, REVIEW & SHARE. Thanks :)

In this episode, my daughter Alexa has agreed to join me to talk about the school year. She had a week to mourn not being able to go back physically (aka complain and sulk freely) and now we need to address her concerns and come up with a plan. We're going to do it in real-time so you can watch us. Not sure how it'll go, but here it goes...   Connect with Dr. Cam www.askdrcam.com | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter | YouTube | iTunes If you found this episode helpful, please LIKE, FOLLOW, REVIEW & SHARE. Thanks :)

How do you motivate an unmotivated teen? Many parents are struggling with this dilemma now that our kids are all learning from home. We've tried bribing, threatening, nagging, yelling...nothing seems to work. Today I pull some insights from Daniel Pink's book "Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us" and show you how to apply them to our teens.  Connect with Dr. Cam www.askdrcam.com | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter | YouTube | iTunes If you found this episode helpful, please LIKE, FOLLOW, REVIEW & SHARE. Thanks :)

As I wait for the results of the presidential election to come in, I realize there are two big lessons we can learn about this experience to help us with parenting teens: The power of the vote and the power of recognition. Both are quite effective ways to build our teen's motivation and self-worth. Connect with Dr. Cam www.askdrcam.com | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter | YouTube | iTunes If you found this episode helpful, please LIKE, FOLLOW, REVIEW & SHARE. Thanks :) 

In this episode, we turn the spotlight on a critical issue that demands our attention: Teen suicide. The latest stats are a stark wake-up call, revealing that it's the second leading cause of death among adolescents aged 10 to 24 in the United States. This underscores the urgent need for effective prevention and support. Joining us is Suzie Bartel, the visionary founder of the Ryan Bartel Foundation, a non-profit dedicated to providing proactive programs for teens and parents. Suzie enlightens us about the two vital factors that make a real difference in raising happy and resilient teens. Together, we're on a mission to prevent other families from enduring the pain associated with teen suicide.     The 'Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam' Podcast: Your Guide to Navigating Adolescence Without Losing Your Mind. Hosted by Cameron (Dr. Cam) Caswell, an acclaimed adolescent psychologist with 20+ years of experience in empowering parents and nurturing teen development. In every episode she is joined by a guest expert to help parents overcome the challenges and celebrate the joys of raising teens.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode The FORT: A community space where teens  Article: Acceptance Is a Gift That Gives Back FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

😤 Struggling to motivate your teenager to focus on what really matters? If so, this episode is a must-listen! 🎙️ Join me as I chat with Jason Cole, a seasoned author and a respected name in the sports world. With eight books under his belt, including the intriguing "Shut up Your Kid Is Not That Great" and firsthand experience raising two teen boys of his own, Jason's here to offer a candid take on how our well-intentioned parenting strategies can inadvertently smother our kids and hinder their essential skill development. 🚀 Don't miss this enlightening discussion! Tune in to discover better ways to support your teens and help them thrive. 🌟 #TeenParenting #MotivationMatters #TheTeenTranslator   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Shut up Your Kid Is Not That Great FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

🌟 Got a bright teen struggling in school? You're not alone! Many students have untapped potential, and it's frustrating for us parents to watch. 🚀 That's why we've brought in Sam Young, aka Mr. Sam, founder of Young Scholars Academy (@YSAENRICHMENT). Sam's on a mission to support twice-exceptional, differently-wired, and gifted students to thrive through strength-based education and a nurturing community. 💪 Join us as Sam shares how to help teens discover, nurture, and lead with their unique strengths and talents.   #TeenEducation #UnlockingPotential #StrengthsBasedLearning #teentranslator #drcam #ParentingTeens #TeenStrengths #GiftedStudents #TwiceExceptional     Resources Mentioned in This Episode Creating A Strength-Based Task Management System Joseph Renzulli - What is Giftedness? Howard Gardner’s Theory of Multiple Intelligences FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode we're unpacking a topic that's not just timely; it's absolutely essential: How to Raise an Antiracist. In an era where issues of race and social justice dominate headlines, it's crucial that we equip our teens with the knowledge and tools to be active participants in the fight against racism.  Joining me are the co-authors of the The Antiracist Heart: A Self-Compassion and Activism Handbook. Roxy Manning a clinical psychologist and certified Center for Nonviolent Communication (CNVC) trainer and Sarah Peyton a Certified Trainer of Nonviolent Communication and neuroscience educator. Together they will shed light on how we can guide our teens to become not just non-racist, but antiracist advocates who actively work towards a fair and inclusive world.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode How to Have Antiracist Conversations: Embracing Our Full Humanity to Challenge White Supremacy. The Antiracist Heart: A Self-Compassion and Activism Handbook Your Resonant Self book series Fierce Compassion Podcast: Embodying NonViolence in the Classroom with Mike Tinoco.  FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode we're diving into a crucial topic that's impacting teens across America. We're witnessing a concerning rise in anxiety, depression, and tragically, record-high rates of youth suicide. But what's really troubling is the relentless stigma that keeps so many teens from opening up about their struggles and seeking help. Dr. Cam talks with two fantastic guests today: Erin Gallagher, the Executive Director of This Is My Brave (@thisismybrave), and Beth Murphy, the founder of Principle Pictures. These incredible women are part of the team behind the eye-opening documentary, "Our Turn to Talk." (https://www.ourturntotalk.com/) This film follows several brave teens on their journey to shatter the mental health stigma by sharing their own stories – raw and unfiltered.    Resources Mentioned in This Episode Watch Our Turn to Talk Documentary on YouTube Our Turn to Talk This is My Brave Teen Mental Health Month info and resource:  Jay Walkers for Suicide Prevention Awareness  FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe fro

We talk a lot on this show about how critical it is to maintain a strong relationship with our teenagers to nurture their mental, emotional, and social well-being. It is also a protective factor against anxiety, depression, drug use, and so much more. But knowing it and doing it are very different things. Many parents tell me that they want to connect with their teens, but their teens don’t want anything to do with them. So what do we do? Today I’m joined by Meghan Leahy, a renowned parent coach and parenting columnist at the Washington Post. Meghan specializes in helping caregivers build and strengthen connections with their children, even when it feels incredibly hard.     Resources Mentioned in This Episode Meghan Leahy’s parenting column in the Washington Post FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode we dive into a concerning trend: teen school refusal. Following the pandemic, school avoidance cases have doubled, escalating into a crisis that affects families across the nation. If you're worried that your teen’s increasing absences will impact their academic performance, social development, and mental well-being, you’re in the right place. Joining us is an esteemed expert, Dr. Jennifer Bienstock. As a licensed psychologist and Director of Clinical Training at the Center for Anxiety & Behavioral Change in Rockville, MD, Dr. Bienstock is here to explain this concerning issue, and how parents can best support teenagers struggling with school avoidance.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you are worried or fed up with your teen’s digital addiction, this episode is for you. We are all painfully aware of the impact that excessive screen time and constant connectivity has on our teen’s mental health, focus, and resiliency. However, we also know that technology is tightly woven into every aspect of our lives and has transformed the way we live, work, learn, and connect. Our job as parents is to find the balance between embracing the benefits of technology and safeguarding our children’s mental and emotional well-being. Not an easy line to walk! In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by school principal Dr. Michael Gaskell to discuss how we can help our teens navigate through the digital noise and reverse its impact on their wellness, focus, and resilience.  Dr. Gaskell has written several articles on the topic of digital disruption and its effects on students. He has also discussed the importance of supporting teachers in dealing with the disruptions caused by technology and how administrators can help them in this regard. He currently writes a monthly column in ASCD Smartbrief, presents at national conferences, and has published three books: Radical Principals, Leading Schools Through Trauma, and Microstrategy Magic.    Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

To the horror of parents worldwide, human trafficking is a growing problem. According to the latest stats, 400,000 minors are trafficked annually. Those at most risk are adolescent girls who are craving attention or have low self-esteem. In this episode we talk about how to keep our daughters safe. Dr. Cam is joined by Dr. John DeGarmo, the founder and director of The Foster Care Institute. As foster parents, he and his wife have had over 60 children come through their home. He is also an international consultant to schools, legal firms, and foster care agencies and the author of several books, including The Little Book of Foster Care Wisdom. Dr. John has appeared on Good Morning, America, CNN, NBC, and FOX.  He and his wife have received many awards, including the Good Morning America Ultimate Hero Award. Dr. John tells us parents what we need to know about human trafficking and keeping our kids safe.    Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Do you dread your teen’s emotional outbursts? Is it difficult to calm them down once they get riled up? Do you want to end the exhausting fights and power struggles? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Lawyer-Turned-Peacemaker, Douglas E. Noll. Doug is the co-founder of Prison of Peace, author of several books including De-Escalate: How to Calm an Angry Person in 90 Seconds or Less, and the creator of the Noll Affect Labeling System. He currently trains inmates in maximum-security prisons to be peacemakers and mediators.  Douglas is going to teach us how to use his method with our teenagers so we can have some peace at home once and for all.    Resources Mentioned in This Episode FREE eBOOK: How to Listen Others Into Existence  FREE Guide: Dr. Cam’s 10 Pro Tips for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Although there is still a lot that we need to learn, societal understanding and awareness of nonbinary identities is improving. Nonbinary often experience a gender identity that falls outside of the male/female binary and may choose to use gender-neutral pronouns such as "they/them" instead of he/him or she/her. Teens who identify as nonbinary may experiment with different gender expressions, including clothing, hairstyles, and accessories, to find what aligns with their authentic selves. Research suggests that nonbinary teens may face higher rates of mental health challenges compared to cisgender (non-transgender) peers, including increased levels of anxiety, depression, self-harm, and suicidality. This has been attributed to high rates of societal discrimination, misgendering, exclusion, bullying, and a lack of supportive resources. Many nonbinary teens find solace and support within LGBTQ+ communities, online platforms, and youth organizations. They often engage in activism, advocating for their rights, gender equality, and inclusion in various aspects of society. In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with one of these brave advocates, Ivy, a college student and artist who also happens to identify as nonbinary. Ivy shares their story, explains what it’s like to try to be their authentic self in a world that’s not always accepting, and provides some insight into how we can best support our own children who may not identify with a traditional label.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Over the past decade, there has been a noticeable increase in the number of teenagers coming out as transgender. To skeptical parents, this is often perceived as a concerning trend fueled by social media and easily influenced teenage brains. To gender identity experts, it is attributed to increased awareness and understanding of gender diversity and the growing platforms that enable teens to find resources, support, and connections with others who have similar experiences. Regardless of what you believe, if your teen is questioning their identity, how you respond as a parent can have an enormous impact on their long-term mental health and well-being. In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Dr. Ronnie Gladden, an international speaker, actor, and tenured college professor who speaks regularly about identity, diversity, and inclusion for K-12 schools, universities, and nonprofits. They are also the author of White Girl Within: Letters of Self-Discovery Between a Transgender and Transracial Black Man and His Inner Female. Dr. Ronnie helps us navigate some of the complexities of gender identity and provides guidance on how to best support teens who identify as transgender. Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe

Teen’s are infamous for their risky behavior and questionable choices. It actually reflects healthy brain development (believe it or not). But when it comes to behavior that has serious repercussions like substance use, fighting, shoplifting, and truancy, we need to step in. Our instinct is to lay down the law and pile on the restrictions. But more often than not, that strategy backfires in the long run. So what do we do to keep our kids safe?  In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Bobby Huntley, the Superintendent and Pastor of Test of Faith Ministries in Virginia Beach. He served in the Virginia Beach City Public Schools for 19 years as a Security Assistant, In School Suspension Coordinator and Dean of Students / Work Adjustment Teacher. He was also the Director of The Gentlemen's Club, an after school mentoring program for boys. Bobby provides guidance for addressing risky teen behavior in a way that keeps them safe AND builds trust, connection, and respect.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it with a friend.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast right here on YouTube!

Is your teen’s self-esteem in the dumps? Do your attempts to build up their confidence often land flat? If so, this episode is for you. In this episode, Dr. Cam is joined by Dr. Shainna, a mental health counselor and the author of The Self-Love Workbook for Teens. Dr. Shainna is passionate about destigmatizing mental health counseling and helping individuals worldwide recognize the importance of fostering mental wellness. She has been featured on ABC, CBS, NPR, the Washington Post, to name a few. Dr. Shainna teaches us some strategies for cultivating our children’s self-worth.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode The Mental Wellness Practice podcast   The Self Love Workbook for Teens The Self Love Workbook  Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Does the amount of time your teenager spends on their phone, playing video games, or scrolling through Tik Tok drive you mad? Do they go ballistic when you try to pry them away or even hint at doing something different? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Amanda Giordano, Associate Professor of Counseling at the University of Georgia and author of A Clinical Guide to Treating Behavioral Addictions and Addictions Counseling: A Practical Approach. Dr. Giordano is a prolific scholar in the field of addictions counseling and currently has authored 58 journal articles and book chapters. In addition, Dr. Giordano frequently presents on topics related to behavioral addictions both domestically and internationally.  Dr. Giordano tells us what parents need to know about adolescent behavioral addiction and provides tips on how to address it. Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If your teen gets easily overwhelmed or freezes when they need to make a decision, this episode is for you. In this episode I’m joined by Dr. Juliana Negreiros and Dr. Katherine Martinez, psychologists and co-authors of Your anxious mind: A teen’s guide to anxiety and panic and Getting uncomfortable with uncertainty for Teens. We’re going to discuss how we can help our teens learn to manage their anxiety and stress through coping, problem-solving, and focusing on where they want to go.      3 Big Takeaways: Understanding that uncertainty takes the central stage of a teen’s life is key to helping them make room for and cope with it.  Teens need validation before we start problem-solving.  When our kids understand their passions, being brave and facing their fears becomes a lot easier Effective parenting starts with the end: we need to take the time to understand where we want our kids to end up so we can know where to begin.  Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Are you tired of being the warden of homework, screen time, and sleep? Would you like to spend less time nagging and more time enjoying your teen? Then this episode is for you. In this episode, I’m joined by The Parenting Mentor, Sue Groner. Sue is the author of Parenting with Sanity and Joy, 101 Simple Strategies, the host of The Parenting Mentor Sessions Podcast, and is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator. She is also a frequent guest expert on ABC, CBS, NBC, and Fox to name a few, and provides advice for many national publications and websites such as The Wall Street Journal, Parents, Real Simple, Today.com, HuffPost, and Katie Couric Media.  Sue provides us with some tips for guiding our teens without losing our own sanity.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you are one of the many parents who are laser-focused on setting your teen up for future success by prioritizing their grades and building up their resume in order to get into the right college so they can get a good job, you may want to take a moment to listen to today’s episode. In this episode I’m joined by Deepali Vyas, the founder and CEO of Fearless+. Deepali spent 22 years as an executive recruiter and leadership consultant, reviewing over 100,000 resumes, filling 40,000 executive jobs, and conducting C-Suite leadership assessments. Now, she is helping the next generation prepare for their future careers. Deepali and I talk about: The diminishing ROI of college and how parents can prepare their kids for the workforce How to build Soft Skills over the summer (and during the school year)  Why grit is the most overlooked ingredient in the recipe for success — and how your teen can demonstrate resilience during the interview process. Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode of Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam, I’m joined by father and filmmaker Olivier Bernier. Olivier and his wife Hilde created the award-winning documentary, “Forget Me Not: Inclusion in the Classroom,” which follows their journey as their son Emilio with down syndrome prepares to start school. The film aims to break down the social and systemic barriers that routinely segregate and hide children with intellectual disabilities from society. Olivier shares his story and provides guidance on how we can address the inequities in the education system for our own children.    3 Big Takeaways: Children with disabilities are being systematically segregated. Classrooms should mirror the society we want to live in and we all have a part to play. Everyone benefits from inclusive education- both neurotypical children and children with challenges.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Watch the Film: Forget Me Not: Inclusion in the Classroom Resources about Classroom Inclusion Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you want your teen to thrive within our current hypercompetitive culture and uncertain landscape, this episode is for you.    In this episode  I’m joined by Cindy Muchnick, Educational Consultant and author of The Parent Compass: Navigating Your Teen's Wellness and Academic Journey in Today's Competitive World, which Katie Couric selected as one of the top 11 fall parenting reads.  Cindy shows us how we can best support our teens without having to frantically tutor, manage, and helicopter them.   7 points to the Parent Compass Intact relationships Living a life with purpose Being confident and secure in one's capabilities Attending a "right fit" college Having a zest for exploration and developing insatiable curiosity Being able to self-advocate Embracing new challenges and the mistakes/failures/faltering that come along the way. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Buy the Parent Compass on Amazon Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

This is my 3rd anniversary episode with Jamie Edelbrock. Jamie was my very first podcast guest back in 2019. Pre-Pandemic! We were both just starting a new chapter in our life story and scared!  Since then, Jamie has become a prolific advocate for children's mental health. She’s published two award-winning children’s books: Tangled Up and Be the Sparkle, which shine a positive, hopeful light on mental health and therapy. She’s also raising 3 teen girls of her own. Jamie and I talk about what she’s been up to, lessons learned, and 9 powerful ways parents can Be the Sparkle for their teenagers. Be calm Believe them  Ask if and how you can help them  Leave them alone if they want to be left alone  Do not take their words personally  Validate their feelings  Have patience  Listen to connect with them  Talk to a professional if needed    Resources Mentioned in This Episode Buy Tangled Up Buy Be the Sparkle Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you want to prepare your teen to be successful in their careers or whatever they decide to do in the future, this episode is for you.  In this episode I’m joined by Michael Trezza, the Founder and CEO of Giant Leaps Learning, an online after-school enrichment program. Michael and his team help kids master the skills they’ll need become great leaders not just in the future, but right now.   Michael talks to us about the foundational routines and behaviors he believes are essential for setting our teens up to thrive.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Learn more about Gian Leaps Learning Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Do your teen’s erratic mood swings and emotional outbursts make you feel like you’re on a never-ending rollercoaster ride? Then this episode is for you. The challenge of dealing with teen emotions is difficult for parents and teens alike. Parents feel like they’re walking on eggshells unsure of what will set their teen off or what to do about it when they do. Teen’s feel overwhelmed by growing demands around school, grades, performance, and behavior and the expectation that they should be able to handle it all and still be pleasant to be around. Although it may seem like a lose-lose situation at times, there are things we can do to change the dynamic. In this episode, I’m joined by Gina Nelson a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and the creator of the 10-step method to Combating Teen Anxiety.   Gina teaches us how to help our teens manage their big emotions and have conversations about tough topics in a way that makes them feel safe and calm.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Combating Teen Anxiety free mini course Combating Teen Anxiety Teen-Parent Journal on pre-order at Amazon  Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

Are you baffled about why your teen is so anxious? Do you want to know how to help them? If so, this episode is for you. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, 32% of teens suffered from an anxiety disorder in the last year compared to just 19% of adults, and the numbers keep growing.  What’s going on?! In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Loretta Breuning, author of many personal development books, including Habits of a Happy Brain: Retrain Your Brain to Boost Your Serotonin, Dopamine, Oxytocin and Endorphin Levels. She is also the Founder of the Inner Mammal Institute which helps thousands of people make peace with their inner mammal. Dr. Breuning teaches us how anxiety shows up in the brain and how we can use that information to help our teens (and ourselves) manage anxiety more effectively.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Books by Dr. Loretta BreuningHabits of a Happy Brain: Retrain Your Brain to Boost Your Serotonin, Dopamine, Oxytocin, and Endorphin Levels Status Games Tame Your Anxiety: Rewiring Your Brain for Happiness The Science of Positivity Inner Mammal Institute Video Series Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If your teenager has low self-confidence or is anxious about being picked on, this episode is for you. 7 in 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school, and friendships.  Boys struggle with self-esteem almost as much. When teens feel bad about themselves, they may try to avoid normal daily activities like going to school, or often engage in unhealthy activities like cutting, bullying, disordered eating, and even losing themselves in video games.  What can we do? In this episode, I’m joined by Clinical Psychologist, Kate Lund, who has worked with major hospitals, schools, and hundreds of parents. Her international bestselling book Bounce is the ultimate guide to helping children build resilience and thrive in all areas of life.     Kate and I discuss: How to help your teens build resilience Common mistakes parents make trying to build their teen’s confidence The #1 thing parents can do to build their child’s self-esteem   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Kate Lund’s Website Bounce Help Your Child Build Resilience and Thrive in School, Sports and Life The Seven Pillars of a Resilient Child parenting course Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you’re worried your teen may be sending or receiving inappropriate snapchats, texts, and DMs, this episode is for you. According to the CDC sexting can damage a teen’s self-image, is linked to cyberbullying, increases rates of depression and other mental health issues, and may even result in felony charges. Yet, this activity has become somewhat normalized even expected among teens. Nearly 15% have sent an explicit or suggestive image or message, and one out of four teens have received one.  In this episode, I’m joined by Christy Keating, founder and CEO of The Heartful Parent, to discuss how to talk to our teens about consent, and what to do if we discover they’ve been sexting.    Resources Mentioned in This Episode The Heartful Parent website Parenting Outside the B.O.C.S. tip sheet Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you have a plus-sized teen struggling with their body image or not feeling accepted, this episode is for you. Thanks to media, advertisers, and the ever-growing weight-loss industry, we live in a society that believes the thinner the better. This has led to an increase in eating disorders for both women and men, which has the highest mortality rate of any mental illness. To counter this dangerous trend, many are trying to reignite the body positive movement that was first launched in the 60’s. The goal is to shift the focus from thin as the image of “health” to the acceptance and celebration of all sizes and weights. But we still have a long way to go! In this episode I’m joined by Pam Luk, the founder of Ember & Ace, an athletic wear brand exclusively for plus size kids (PSKs).  Pam and I discuss: The impact of today’s thin culture on our kids How to help children of all shapes and sizes develop a positive body image How to support and advocate for our children   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it with a friend.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast right here on YouTube!

If you know or suspect your teen is using drugs or want to prevent them, this episode is for you. More than half of teens surveyed said they have experimented with substances such as alcohol, marijuana, vaping, and prescription drugs. Some are able to stop easily, some are not, some have no interest in even trying.  In this episode I’m joined by KL Wells, the Founder of Voices InCourage, to help parents navigate teen drug use and addiction. In this episode we cover: What parents can do if they suspect or know their child is using. How to protect your teen from addiction.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Voices InCourage website  Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it with a friend.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast right here on YouTube!

The American Academy of Pediatrics recently declared adolescent mental health a national emergency, as rates of depression, anxiety, self-harm and suicidal thoughts continue to skyrocket. The pandemic brought this serious issue to the forefront, but this uptick started years before COVID arrived on the scene.   Sadly, and too often, the parents of these teens are the last to learn about their child's mental health struggles—and often too late to take action. In this episode, I’m joined by Elliot Kallen, the Co-Founder and President of A Brighter Day, a nonprofit organization dedicated to preventing suicide by helping teens manage their depression and stress. Elliot is going to teach us what warning signs to look for and what we can do to protect our teens from the number one preventable cause of death.   Key Takeaways Warning signs: drastic change in behavior patterns (sleep habits, eating, socializing)  Redefine what failure means to remove implicit stress What we want for our child may not align with who they are and what they need. What parents can do: Listen! Cell phones create a highlight reel of everyone else’s life. Makes it seem like everyone else has a better life than they do. They feel like a victim Make dinner a cell phone free environment - for EVERYONE -- and talk. Ask questions: What are their favorite classes and why? Favorite activity and why? To make room for all the things we pack into our child’s life to ensure they succeed is often at the expense of the most important thing - time to build a connection with us. You can’t depend on the schools to care for your child’s mental health. They don’t have the training or the bandwidth. You need to take it into your own hands.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Text "BRIGHTER" to 741741 for 24/7 mental health support Parent Survival Toolkit and a Teen Survival Toolkit Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it with a friend.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast right here on YouTube!

If you’re uncomfortable or unsure about how to talk to your teen daughter about periods, sex, or personal hygiene this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Dr. Jennifer Lincoln, a board-certified OB-GYN who is passionate about helping girls, women, and those assigned female at birth understand their bodies and feel empowered to advocate for themselves. Dr. Lincoln is going to help us tackle “the talk” and other tough health conversations with our teens. Resources Mentioned in This Episode Let's Talk About Down There: An OBGYN Answers All Your Burning Questions Without Making You Feel Embarrassed for Asking Dr. Jen’s YouTube playlist for parents Girlology Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If your teen is a target of bullying, the instigator, or even a witness to bullying, this episode is for you. One out of every five students report being bullied based on their physical appearance, race/ethnicity, gender, disability, religion, or sexual orientation. In other words, prejudice. The bullying behavior can range from verbal and physical assault to casual, yet hurtful comments. In all cases, it has a negative impact on the mental health of everyone involved: the bullied, the bully, and the bystander.  We know from research that ignoring the behavior or trying to stop it, only makes it worse because it doesn’t address why the behavior exists. So, what do we do instead? That’s what we’re going to talk about in this episode. Today I’m joined by Deanna Singh, founder of the Flying Elephant, who is on a mission to empower marginalized communities.     Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it with a friend.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast right here on YouTube!

If your teen is involved in sports, this episode is for you. We encourage our children to get involved in sports for many reasons: have fun, meet friends, get exercise, and learn valuable skills like teamwork, perseverance, and sportsmanship. Unfortunately, there is also an epidemic of abuse as well—not just at the Olympic and college level, but in our middle and high schools too. In this episode Dr. Amy Saltzman shares tips on how to spot and stop our own children from being abused and what we can do to create a safety net of prevention, healing, and protection to end this epidemic.  Key Takeaways Overt emotional abuse involves yelling and screaming and is easy to detect. Covert emotional abuse is subtle and often extremely hard to detect. Often looks like generosity at first with love bombs (special treatment, praise, gifts, and friendship). Builds trust.   The four primary patterns that covert emotionally abusive coaches weave together to create the web of covert emotional abuse: tangling feelings of specialness and fear, controlling the environment, isolating victims, and distorting the truth.  If child resists going to practice, get curious.  To keep our children safe, we must not only dismantle the spider’s web (the abuser), but also create a safety net of prevention, healing, and protection. Enacting policies that protect children on a national level is crucial to ending the epidemic of abuse and beginning cycles of healing.  If coach is abusive, report them. May also consider pulling child from team.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Dr. Saltzman’s article See It. Stop It. Heal It:  Ending Cycles of Abuse in Sports and Society Spot a Spider videos Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

This week, in recognition of pride month, we’re talking about how to better understand and support our non-binary and transgender children.  Although the LGBTQ+ community has gained more acceptance and support over the years, statistics show that most remain closeted in fear of discrimination. They are also at far more serious risk for depression, suicide, and victimization. My goal is to answer questions, clear up misconceptions, and put some fears to rest so we can show up for our children the way they need us to. In this episode I’m joined by my nephew, Matthias, to talk about gender identity, what it means to be non-binary, and how to best support our children as they transition. Matt is also an LGBTQ+ Tik Tok advocate at www.tiktok.com/@matthiaussy.    Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

This week, in recognition of pride month, we’re talking about how to better understand and support our non-binary and transgender children.  Although the LGBTQ+ community has gained more acceptance and support over the years, statistics show that most remain closeted in fear of discrimination. They are also at far more serious risk for depression, suicide, and victimization. My goal is to answer questions, clear up misconceptions, and put some fears to rest so we can show up for our children the way they need us to. In this episode I’m joined by Camden and his dad David to talk about the transgender experience, coming out, and how to best support our LGBTQ+ children.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you’re worried about what your teen is doing online, concerned they’ll fall prey to predators, and can’t seem to get through to them how dangerous the internet can be, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Safety and Security Influencer Cathy Pedrayes to share tips for keeping our teens safe online.    Resources Mentioned in This Episode Get Cathy’s free ebook: The Mom Friend Guide to Everyday Safety and Security Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

If you’re frustrated because your teen refuses to talk to you, wants little to do with you or the rest of family, or snaps at you when you provide guidance, this episode is for you. I’m joined by former middle school teacher turned coach Elise Knox. She shares tips on how to connect with our teens with her three steps to listening without judgment.  Key Takeaways If we haven't healed our past traumas or relationship issues, we project that onto our kids.  Be aware of your face, body language, and energy. They pick up on that. If you shut them down and judge them enough times, they will stop coming to you. CBA of listeningClarity:  What do they need from you? Advice or empathy. Breathe: Open your body language, open your mind, and calm your nervous system, so that you can be that open space for them to come and share Accept: Understand that they're learning how to process things in different ways. If you’re shocked by what they say or don’t’ know what to say, ask, “tell me more.” This puts the ball back in their court and gives you time to compose yourself to process whatever they've said. Beware of futurecasting, which is thinking if they’re doing this now, they’ll always do it. They're never going to get a job. They’re never going to talk to me again. Parenting teens can feel isolating. See outside support and help. You’re not alone.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Elise’s free communication guide: https://www.eliseknox.com/communication  Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others would appreciate the guidance and encouragement, please take a quick moment to rate and review. Reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode, I answer the following parent question: Nothing we do makes our daughter happy. Why can’t she just accept a comment, advice, suggestion without complaining and pushing back? How can I make her listen and accept what she is being told without an argument?    Key Takeaways Allow them to voice their opinions without retribution.  Rather than getting mad that they are resistant, get curious and find out why.  Model what it looks like to listen, by listening to them first.     Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to my podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please take a moment to rate and review.  This helps parents like you find the show. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.

In this episode, I provide tips for  addressing teen anger. This is in response to the following parent questions:  What is the best way to diffuse a teen who is in the middle of a temper flare-up?  How should a parent respond in the moment of frustration (both on the part of the parent and teen)?   Key Takeaways Your teen’s emotions/meltdowns are a response to their brain’s fire alarm alerting them that they are not safe and need to protect themselves. Understand the situation from their perspective. Why are they upset? Proactively decide how you are going to response in a way that brings the temperature down and clears the smoke. Find ways to prevent the need for blow ups and teach them strategies to express emotions more effectively and respectively.  Next time your teen’s fire alarm goes off, respond calmly and focus on what they need to feel safe.   Have a Question for Dr. Cam? Submit it via email. Send me a message on Facebook or Instagram.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please take a moment to rate and review.  This helps parents like you find the show. Review on iTunes.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.   Schedule a FREE consult with Dr. Cam Want to know how Dr. Cam can help your family thrive? Grab a time at www.calldrcam.com.

In this episode, I’m joined by Jeff Otis, the founder of the personal leadership platform, Project OTY. Jeff is going to clue us in to why teens may resist taking accountability, how to encourage them to take more accountability, and how to help them uncover a sense of purpose and own their future.   Key Takeaways The three O’s: Own your time, own your education, and own your organization We need to acknowledge that we've got a generation of young adults growing up in a world that none of us have experienced. The speed at which information is coming at them is off the charts. It's becoming more difficult to take ownership and make decisions when it feels like the future is fuzzy and unsure. Help them build their roadmap to create their purpose. Shift the focus to what they want their world to look like five years from today. Define success. Create a visual representation of what success looks like. If you can see it, you start to believe it, and then you start taking those steps to achieve it.   One of the challenges we see in education is that it is very career focused. I think we're doing a disservice to young adults and teens by talking about picturing the rest of their life. That feels overwhelming.  Change doesn’t happen overnight, be a little bit patient. You're in the middle of what's happening and often you can get caught up reacting to what's happening. When it becomes frustrating, this is an opportunity to pause for a moment, step back and look at why it's happening. When we start to unpeel, we see the uncertainty and fears that need to be addressed.  There are four stages to learningUnconscious incompetence: You don't know what you don't know Conscious incompetence: You realize you don't know what you need to know. Conscious competence: You know what to do, but you still must think about it for a little bit. Unconscious competence: Everything's on a reflex.  Start exploring opportunities that are in alignment with your child’s unique strengths. Introduce them to different solutions and help them acknowledge and understand what their unique strengths are and how to leverage then today to move themselves forward. We encourage young adults to reach out to 10 people that they trust to be honest with them, and ask them, “How would you describe my unique strength?” What strengths above all others seem to come effortlessly for me? This does a few thingsIt’s an immediate confidence boost for the young adult.  They'll see strengths they may not have recognized in themselves.  They're developing a list of strengths they can leverage going forward.   New strengths are going to develop as we experience new things, but at every given point a young adult needs to be aware of what strengths they can leverage right now.  Accountability starts with young adults identifying their unique strengths and how they can leverage them. When they can imagine a future they are passionate to go build, they will start getting out of bed a lot earlier on their own.   “As a parent, it's vitally important to be aware that your child is a unique individual.”   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it using the social media buttons on this page.   Do you have some feedback or questions about this episode? Leave a comment in the section below!   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast on iTunes, YouTube, Google, Spotify. You can also subscribe from the podcast app on your mobile device or listen LIVE in my Private Facebook Group.   Leave an iTunes Review Ratings and reviews from my listeners are extremely valuable and greatly appreciated. They help this podcast rank higher on iTunes, which exposes the show to more awesome listeners like you. If you have a minute, please leave a review on iTunes.

Episode Summary In this episode, I’m joined by sleep physician and youth psychiatrist Dr. Cara Ooi. Dr. Ooi is going to clue us in to why the teen years are a perfect storm for insomnia, the most common mistakes parents make when trying to get their teen’s sleep back on track and the three things we can do instead.     Key Takeaways The teen years create the perfect storm for insomnia. There is a natural delay in their body clock, which makes it difficult for them to fall asleep; they aren’t coping well with stress, which makes it challenging to unwind at night; they spend a lot of time hanging out on their beds, which creates an association with an awake alert state. Common mistake #1: Insisting teens get to bed too early. Their bodies aren't ready for sleep until 12 or one. If their bedtime is before that, they end up spending 2-3 hours in bed not sleeping. This can snowball into more anxiety and frustration and strengthens a negative association with their bed, which makes it even more difficult to sleep.  Common mistake #2: Don’t start by taking screens away. This creates conflict right before bed, which disrupts sleep more than the screens do. It also erodes connection, which means they’ll dig their heels in more. Common mistake #3: Trying to convince them by telling them the benefits of sleep. This tends to be counterproductive Tips to reset your teen’s sleep: Delay their bedtime to better match up with when they are actually sleepy, to retrain their association with their bed to being in calm, sleepy state and good sleep. Create a cozy nook. A place that is separate from their bed but provides the same comfort and privacy. This can be a fun project to do together.  Create a sleep kit to put next to their bed so they don’t default to staring at their phone if they wake up. Can include notebook and pen, book or magazine, coloring book. Minimize the amount of light in the room as much as possible. The darker the better. Meet your teen where they’re at. Find a reason to get better sleep that is important to them. For example, if they love video games, better sleep can improve their reaction time.   If you want to reset their sleep schedule, make small incremental changes to give their body the opportunity to adjust.   Resources Mentioned in This Episode Learn more about Dr. Ooi on her website and snag her free resources: The Parent’s Jumpstart Guide to Help Your Teen Sleep Better and I'm Exhausted but I Can't Sleep Webinar Tune into her podcast series: Find the Eight You can also connect with Dr. Ooi on Instagram + Tik Tok @decodeinsomnia I’d love to hear from you too! Send me a message on Facebook or Instagram.   Thanks for Listening! Thanks so much for listening to our podcast! If you enjoyed this episode and think that others could benefit from listening, please share it with a friend.   Subscribe to the Podcast If you would like to get automatic updates of new podcast episodes, you can subscribe to the podcast right here on YouTube!

Disrespect, backtalk, and lying are just a few of the problematic teen behaviors many parents are trying to deal with. What do you do when you’ve tried everything, and nothing seems to work? That’s what we’re going to tackle in today’s episode. I’m joined by Kimball Lewis, the CEO of EmpoweringParents.com (@ParentingAdvice). In addition to his leadership and management roles, he contributes as an editor, a homeschooling expert, and a parent coach. Kimball is frequently interviewed by CBS News in Tampa Bay, Florida, for his expert parenting advice FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips Coupon code CAM10 good for $10 off the first month's subscription of The Total Transformation Online Package.   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Navigating divorce and stepparenting is challenging for everyone involved, but statistics show it’s particularly difficult for teen-aged children. Fortunately, there are things we can do to ease the transition and even thrive. Today I’m joined by authors of @ourhappydivorce Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond. Although their marriage has been over for nearly a decade, Nikki and Ben have learned how to create a happy life with each other and their new families. They are sharing their story in hopes of empowering and inspiring people to think differently about divorce, co-parenting, step-parenting, and what it means to put kids first. FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Is your teen’s fear of being around a lot of people, getting called on in class, or having to talk to someone new making it feel impossible to go to school or out in public? Are you worried that they are becoming too isolated but don’t know how to help? Then this episode is for you. I’m joined by Mark Metry, a 24-year-old mental health advocate, Forbes featured TEDx keynote speaker, host of the Social Anxiety Society podcast, and author of "Screw Being Shy.” Mark’s Kick Social Anxiety program helps people break free from anxiety by rewiring their brain, and today he’s going to give us some tips on how to best support our socially anxious teens. FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Did you know that almost half of our kids have been exposed to sexting by the time they were 14 and that number continues to grow? As a mom of a 15-year-old daughter that scares me. That’s why I’ve invited Sean Clifford, CEO and Founder of Canopy to join me today. A father of 4 young children, Sean founded Canopy in 2019 to protect children from pornography and help families take advantage of what’s good about the Internet without the bad. In this episode, Sean is teaching us how to help our teens navigate technology safely. FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If your teen is miserable and making everyone around them miserable and you don’t know how to break them out of it, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Chris DT Gordon (@chrisdt.gordon.5), an international speaker, teacher, and survivor of the flesh-eating bacteria necrotizing fasciitis. After his recovery, this teacher from Minnesota chose to rise above his circumstances to help others. He created The Attitude of Gratitude (TAG), which helps people overcome their own “personal bacteria,” increase their positivity and resilience, and improve the lives of those around them. Chris strives to share TAG with young adults all over the world so they can achieve greatness on their own terms. FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you have an overachieving, stressed out teen who is crumbling under the weight of their own high expectations and self-inflicted pressure, this episode is for you. Today I’m joined by Teen Takeoff Coach Donovan Dreyer, who specializes in preparing highly driven teens to accomplish their lofty life goals. Through his organization Get Ready Coaching, Donovan helps overachieving students get clarity on what they truly want and minimize their constant need to be perfect at EVERYTHING. FREE STUFF! Talking to teens about their lofty goals: https://www.getreadycoaching.com Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Secrets for Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

I’ve been inviting several experts on recently to talk about Teen Anxiety. It’s something I see a lot in my practice, and the statistics support the growing problem. According to Pew Research three-in-ten teens say they feel tense or nervous about their day every or almost every day. Seven-in-ten say anxiety and depression is a major problem among people their age in the community where they live. And the #1 cause of teen anxiety according to teens is pressure to get good grades. Today I’m joined by Parent and Teen Coach, Dana Baker-Williams. Dana specializes in ADHD and Anxiety, which are often linked. Today Dana is going to provide us with some tips for helping us help our teens manage their stress and some strategies for fostering self-confidence and independence - the antidotes of anxiety. FREE STUFF! Mental Health Resources for Teens & Their Families: https://drcam.ck.page/mental-health-resources 8 Coping Skills to Mitigate Anxiety: https://www.parentinginreallife.org/anxiety   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Did you know that one out of three kids between the ages of 13 and 18 will find themselves in an abusive relationship this year? That statistic is terrifying to us parents, which is why I’ve invited Nenia Corcoran (@neniacorcoranauthor) to teach us what we need to know about Teen Dating Violence. Nenia combines her own experiences as a sexual assault survivor with her decade of training as a police officer to empower and educate young adults on toxic relationships, dating violence and consent. She also writes young adult fiction novels focused on raising awareness surrounding difficult topics teens often struggle to deal with. Today Nenia is going to provide us some tips and insight to help us protect our teens from dating violence and empower them to recognize abusive relationships and break free. FREE STUFF! Mental Health Resources for Teens & Their Families: https://drcam.ck.page/mental-health-resources If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If your teen is stressed out trying to do it all but struggling to stay focused and motivated, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Oie Dobier, the founder of Project Who Am I (@projWhoAmI), is a mom of 2 teenagers and a nature loving, bubble tea fanatic. Her mission in life is to help people pay attention to their true self so they can intentionally fill their day with things that leverage their natural talents AND things that align to what’s important to their life. In this episode, Oie tells us how to prevent our perfectionist teens from falling into the “Stay Busy” trap and help them find their true passion, purpose, and focus. FREE STUFF! From Oie: Downloadable Career Ideas Guide: www.projectwhoami.com/career From Dr. Cam. 10 Secrets to Raising Teens: https://www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you or your teen experiences days filled with anxiety and overwhelm, this episode is for you. I’m joined by George Kalantzis (@Theartoftoughtransitions), author of NOWHERE TO GO, combat veteran, coach, and dad. He empowers people to overcome the toughest days of their lives. Outside of coaching and writing, you can find him hiking and eating ice cream with his daughter. Today, George is going to help us better understand how anxiety works and teach us some ways to get over our overwhelm under.

If your teen is struggling with poor body image, body dysmorphia, or an eating disorder, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Jillian Walsh, the founder, Clinical Director and Nova Scotia Team Lead at Change Creates Change Eating Disorder Care (@changecreateschange). Jillian is both a Registered Dietitian and a Registered Psychotherapist. For the past 8 years, she has been helping children and adolescents living with eating disorders and supporting parents through their children’s eating disorder recovery. Today, Jillian is going to tell us how to detect if our child has an eating disorder and how to model a positive body image and relationship with food for our teens FREE STUFF! From Jillian: Webinar for parents who are worried that their child may have an eating disorder. November 9th at 7 pm EST. Register at: https://landing.changecreateschange.com/webinar From Dr. Cam. 10 Secrets to Raising Teens: https://www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you’re struggling with your teen’s behavior and nothing seems to work, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Adele Spraggon, an award-winning author, a thought leader, international speaker and trainer. She has been awarded the 2020, Woman of Inspiration Award, and in 2021, she was recognized as the Top Behavioural Expert of the Year. Her book Shift: 4 Steps to Personal Empowerment has won three awards and is sweeping the globe, transforming how people are setting and achieving their goals with her repatterning technique. Today, Adele is going to teach us how to impact our teen’s behaviors (and our own) by upgrading the underlying brain patterns. FREE STUFF! From Adele. Get a copy of her book @ www.shift4steps.com  (just pay shipping). From Dr. Cam. 10 Secrets to Raising Teens: https://www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If your teen seems out of control and you’re worried about their risky behavior and questionable choices, this episode is for you. I’m joined by Michael Unbroken, author of the best-selling book Think Unbroken. Michael is a coach, mentor, and educator for adult survivors of child abuse. Michael also hosts The Michael Unbroken podcast, teaches at Think Unbroken Academy and is on a mission to end generational trauma. Today, Michael is going to give us a peak into the mind of a troubled teen and teach us how to connect with them in a way that helps them thrive. FREE STUFF! From Michael Unbroken. PDF copy of Think Unbroken: Understanding and Overcoming Childhood Trauma. From Dr. Cam. 10 Secrets to Raising Teens: https://www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Want to teach your teen how to speak up and advocate for themselves in a responsible way? Then this episode is for you. I’m joined by Adrienne Waller, the owner of Worldwide Educator, an education consulting company focused on empowering educators to own their instructional genius while activating students. For the past 15 years, Adrienne has been working with educators across the US and the world, including Qatar, China, and she’s currently an Assistant Principal in the Cayman Islands. Today, Adrienne is going to share with us how help our teens build self-advocacy skills. FREE STUFF! From today’s guest. Talking to teens: https://mailchi.mp/4f4d364bb201/conversations-with-teens From Dr. Cam. 10 Secrets to Raising Teens: https://www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you’re feeling disconnected with your teen this episode is for you. I’m talking Melanie Prather Studer the author of COLLEGE BOUND The Ultimate List of Conversions to Help Your Teen Through High School and the blog Parenting High Schoolers where she shares real world ideas and solutions for raising teens in today’s world. Today, Melanie is going to share with us how to create a stronger connection with our teens – even when it feels like they’re pulling away. FREE STUFF! From today’s guest: “Control What You Can" Printable. https://www.parentinghighschoolers.com/opt-in/podcast From Dr. Cam: 10 Secrets to Raising Teens. https://www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you fear appearing weak and vulnerable in front of people—especially your kids—this episode is for you. Today I’m talking with Fatima Oliver (@fatima.oliver.79656), wife, mother, and author of the newly released book "The Prescription is in the Dirt" As a Transformational Coach & Speaker, Fatima’s mission is to help people heal from childhood trauma, heartbreak, abuse, and horrible decision-making using her "Baby Step" approach. Today, Fatima is going to share with us the power of vulnerability and how it can make us stronger parents. FREE STUFF! Dr. Cam’s 10 Secrets to Raising Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this episode…If your teen is struggling in school or unmotivated to even try, this episode is for you. Today I’m talking with Dr. Norrine Russell (@drnorrinerussell) the founder of Russell Coaching. Dr. Russell’s passion for providing support to frustrated students and weary parents is fueled by her own experience of raising two neurologically atypical children with diagnosis of autism, mood disorders, ADHD, giftedness, and learning differences. Dr. Russell knows firsthand the exhaustion parents face as they seek solutions for their out-of-the-box children. In today’s episode Dr. Russell is going to give us some tips on how to best support and encourage our teens. FREE STUFF! Listeners who mention this facebook live segment will receive 20% off the first three months of student coaching with Dr. Russell. Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If your teen’s video game obsession is driving you mad, this episode is for you! Today I’m talking with Michael Chang, CEO and Founder @VGCDAcademy and author of the international best-selling book "Video Games Demystified: The Trifecta of Creators, Athletes, and Ecosystem in a Thriving Industry." As a former marketing leader at Electronic Arts and RockYou, Michael has managed video games generating over $250 million. His company, VGCD Academy, teaches young people the science and business of video games. Michael is going to teach us how to leverage the love of gaming to inspire teens to become leaders, entrepreneurs, scientists, mathematicians, artists, and more. FREE STUFF! The first 25 parents who visit Michael’s website (https://www.vgcd.academy/contact-us/) will get a FREE PDF version of his book. Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If your teen is struggling to cope and you’re struggling to help them, this episode is for you. Today I’m talking to Johnny Crowder (@johnnyxcrowder), Founder & CEO of Cope Notes, about how to combat compassion fatigue and connect with your teen more deeply. Johnny is a 28-year-old suicide/abuse survivor, TEDx speaker, touring musician, and founder of Cope Notes, a text-based mental health platform that provides daily support to users in nearly 100 countries around the world. Armed with 10 years of clinical treatment, a psychology degree from UCF, and a decade of peer support and public advocacy through NAMI, Johnny’s firsthand experience with mental illness equips him to provide insight into the pains of hardship with authenticity and wit. FREE STUFF! • Use coupon code TEEN10 for 10% off any Cope Notes gift subscription for your teen • Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you find parenting more frustrating than fun, this episode is for you. Today I’m talking with Joey Mascio, Teen Life Coach at Firmly Founded (@joey.firmlyfoundedcoaching) about how to improve your relationship with your teen without changing them and how find more joy together. Joey is a certified life coach who helps teens and young adults stop letting stress, procrastination, and self-doubt suck all the fun out of being successful. He is a former middle school teacher who spent four years in the on campus suspension room where he started coaching teens. He also has professional training in performance, improv, and comedy. FREE STUFF! 30-day free trial of the Firmly Founded Teen, a coaching membership designed just for teens @ www.firmlyfounded.com/teen Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

If you’re struggling to connect with your teen, you’ll want to listen to this episode. Today Raquel and I are talking about the three keys to connecting with your teen: communication, compassion, and listening. Raquel is the Founder of RAQVISION, Creator of Raq The Boat Show, Personal Brand Strategist, Mental Health Advocate and Youth Advocate. FREE STUFF! Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with Norman W. Holden, the Author of Do Better! How One Father Gained Wisdom from Texting His Teen Daughter. Norm is not a therapist, licensed professional or counselor. He describes himself as a down-to earth everyday man, husband, and father of two, who has earned his hard-knocks degree in parenting. Norm and I are talking about: How to use texting to connect with your teen. How dads can strengthen their relationship with their daughters. How to help teens navigate technology safely.   FREE STUFF! From Dr. Cam: Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!

Today I’m talking with Joy Marchese (@positivedisciplineUK), a global educational consultant, author, keynote speaker, parent coach, and emotional architect. For 25 years Joy has worked with thousands of children, parents, teachers, and professionals to help foster a happy and flourishing environment in the home, in schools, and in the workplace. Joy is the Founder of Positive Discipline UK and co-author of Positive Discipline for Today’s Busy (& Overwhelmed) Parent. She runs a successful global educational consultancy and coaching practice and develops SEL courses and products to teach social-emotional skills in homes, schools, and multiple organizations throughout the world. Joy and I are talking about: How to talk so your teens will listen The importance of Connection BEFORE Correction How to be kind AND firm at the same time   FREE STUFF! From Joy: How not to lose your SH*T with your kids https://www.joymarchese.com/get-the-guide From Dr. Cam: Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with bestselling author and executive coach Dr. Lois Frankel. The name Dr. Lois Frankel has become practically synonymous with empowering women in the workplace. She is the author of the bestselling business bible for women, Nice Girls Don't Get the Corner Office, and other books in the "nice girls" series. Lois is a pioneer in the field of executive coaching and a sought-after international keynote speaker. She has now turned toward helping parents to raise self-confident daughters and is working on a book on the topic. An avid photographer, Lois sells her work at her website www.loisfrankelphotography.com and gives the proceeds to a nonprofit she started that helps working women who live at the poverty level when they encounter medical challenges. Dr. Frankel and I are talking about: The key challenges facing parents raising girls today. Best practices for addressing those challenges. How to be a better role model for your daughter.

Today I’m talking with parent coach Patricia Wilkinson (@authorpatriciawilkinson) Patricia is a mom of two kids who had "challenges" they now use as strengths in successful relationships and careers. Founder of Brain Stages Parenting, coauthor of Brain Stages: How to Raise Smart, Confident Kids and Have Fun Doing It, veteran teacher, and science nerd, Trish shares kid-tested, research-supported tips to raise successful humans in our complicated world. Patricia and I are talking about how to problem solve WITH your teen to get buy in when an issue needs to be addressed. FREE STUFF! Free mini course: Enjoy Your Kids Through Problem Solving (use with coupon code: 2021BESTYEARYET) Dr. Cam’s Top 10 Tips for Parenting Teens: www.askdrcam.com/parentingtips   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with Dr. Tamara Soles, Child Psychologist and Parent Coach. Dr. Tamara is a psychologist, parent coach, and founder of The Secure Child Center for Families and Children She’s also the mom of twins who present everyday opportunities to live what she’s practiced with families for over 15 years- that harnessing the power of connection helps children thrive! Dr. Tamara is the creator of the online parenting course, No More Power Struggles which opens its doors again soon. Currently, you can hear Dr. Tamara on her podcast- This Hour has 50 minutes. Dr. Tamara and I are talking about… Why punishment/reward system doesn’t work and what to do instead How to encourage problem-solving and allowing the space for mistakes The importance of living by a set of defined values   FREE STUFF! 5 Hacks to Reset your Kid's Nervous System: https://drtamarasoles.com/hacks 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens: www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with intuitive life coach Murielle Fellous. Murielle was raised in France and now resides in Las Vegas where she raised three kids as a single mom. For years she coached people on relationships but bouncing back from depression when her kids became teenagers and started acting out was so painful that she redirected her focus. She is now helping single moms with teens to overcome their challenges and prevent the spiraling down into negative emotions, anxiety and/or depression.   Murielle and Dr. Cam talk about: How single moms can parent with more ease and less anxiety Regulating emotions with tapping How to lean into our power as a single mom   FREE STUFF! EFT Anchoring Points: https://www.coparentingwiththeuniverse.com/eft.html 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with Todd Nesloney (@toddnesloney), award-winning teacher, principal, and author of numerous books including Kids Deserve It!, Stories From Webb, Sparks in the Dark, and his newest book When Kids Lead. Todd is the Director of Culture and Strategic Leadership for the Texas Elementary Principals and Supervisors Association (TEPSA). He hosts the podcast #TellYourStory and has created two online courses about building Campus & Classroom Culture. Todd has been working his entire career to help grow students into leaders and world-changers. Todd and I are talking about: How parents can nurture their teen’s leadership skills What teens need most from us to succeed FREE STUFF! Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with THE MOST Freaking amazing life coach for parents of teens Ben Pugh. He told me to say that, but I agree he’s pretty awesome. Ben is a former teenage knucklehead who accidentally lit his school bus on fire. All the adults in his life told him he ruined his life. He went on to become a teacher, turn around high school principal for 5 years, a foster parent for 10 years, and is now changing the lives of parents and teens all over as the go-to life coach for parents of teens. Ben and I are talking about: The role of shame and fear in parenting and how to overcome it. The magic of leading by example and how to do it. FREE STUFF! Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Dr. Ian Chen (@chenmedimo), an adolescent medicine expert and researcher.  Dr. Chen’s research combines psychology, medicine, neuroscience and mathematical modelling together in order to understand the development of the adolescent brain and to help young people become more resilient. He continues to research brain maturation using EEG and brain imaging techniques as part of the research and development at the new mental health institution that he is heading, Chen Medimo Corp. Dr. Chen and Dr. Cam talk about: What brain imaging technologies show us about brain maturation The difference between mental health and mental performance  The impact of technology on the developing brain and its social ramifications. How to use this information to build resilience and detect warning signs.  FREE STUFF! Dr. Chen is offering a promotion to listeners on his website www.chenmedimo.org. Use promo code: CMCDRCAM Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Jesse Giunta Rafeh, international best-selling author of Life Launch: A Roadmap to an Extraordinary Adulthood. Jesse is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and certified success coach. She opened her private practice 15 years ago at age 26 working primarily young adults. Giunta is also a TEDx speaker. Her book, Life Launch, is a 360-degree guide to transitioning successfully into adulthood. It includes profound yet practical strategies for coping with anxiety and depression, creating an ideal career, and sustaining healthy relationships. Jesse and Dr. Cam about: How to be strategic about the timing of conversations. How to speak logically and succinctly. How to make it a negotiation not an ultimatum. FREE STUFF! Jesse Giunta Rafeh will offer free copies of her book Life Launch to the first 10 people who visit her website - https://www.jesse-giunta-rafeh.com/contact   Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with Susan Borison, the founder and editor of Your Teen Media (@YourTeen) Susan went to law school to prepare herself for negotiating with five teenagers. In the process, she needed to bolster her skills, so she founded Your Teen Media. In the past 14 years, YTM has helped countless parents also searching for the tools and advice to be the best parent they can be. Susan and I are talking about: How to find joy with your teenagers  How to develop more compassion for yourself How to learn what's worth the fight and what's worth turning a blind eye FREE STUFF! Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with author and leader in school reform, Dr. Megan Sweet (@Your3Eyes). Dr. Sweet has almost 30 years of experience as a classroom teacher and school administer and for the past 15 years has been a leader in system-wide school reform. Her book is “An Education Guide for Using Your 3 Eyes.” Dr. Sweet is also the cohost of the education-based podcast The Awakening Educator, which covers topics such as equity, trauma-informed approaches to instruction, school lunch programs, and more.  Dr. Sweet and I are talking about: How to address our worry about academics and grades How to help our teens process the constant changes How to help our teens thrive in the changing school environment FREE STUFF! Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this epsidode, Dr. Cam talks with Parenting Life Coach Deborah Ann Davis (@mommeetupforconfidentgirls) Deborah is also an author, certified personal trainer, teacher, and mother. Her job is to help you recognize what you’re doing right as a parent, and then add supplemental strategies. Here books, “How To Keep Your Daughter From Slamming the Door” and “How To Get Your Happy On,” are available everywhere.  Deborah and Dr. Cam talk about: How the teenage brain differs from an adult brain.  Why your teenage kids make the bad choices they do, and why we made bad choices when we were their age. How to deal with The Inevitables and The Non-Negotiables when parenting a teenage brain. FREE STUFF! Get a free digital copy of “How To Get Your Happy On” at www.DeborahAnnDavis.com Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this epsidoe, Dr. Cam talks with Wendy Weinberger, President & Co-founder of Illuminos Academic Coaching & Tutoring (@IlluminosCoaching) Illuminos is a passion project born from Wendy’s experiences growing up with numerous family members with ADHD. When a child close to her received the same diagnosis, she not only worked hard to help him overcome the many challenges but decided to bring her cousin Evan’s academic coaching business to the DC area to help students in her community with similar struggles.   Wendy and Dr. Cam talk about: How to help our teens prepare for the school year What executive functioning skills teens need to succeed How to help them establish healthy habits with minimal power struggles. FREE STUFF! Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens. If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with Jake Rubin, Co-Founder of MamaZen  Jake Y. Rubin, M.A, is a Board-Certified Hypnotherapist, a former university professor of psychology, and a recognized expert in hypnosis and hypnotherapy with degrees in Psychology from UCLA and the California School of Professional Psychology at Alliant International University. He is also the co-founder of the #1 Mindful Parenting app, MamaZen which he created to empower moms all over the world to be CALMER, HAPPIER & HEALTHIER and raise happier kids! Jake and I are talking about: The importance of staying mindful and calm as a parent. How to use hypnotherapy to stay mindful and calm. How to use hypnotherapy to calm our teens.   FREE STUFF! 30 days of free access to the MamaZen app (@mamazenapp). Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens.   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

Today I’m talking with Personal Transformation Coach and author of the “Calling All Heroes” series, Christian de la Huerta. With 30 years of experience, Christian is a sought-after spiritual teacher and leading voice in the breathwork community. He has traveled the world offering inspiring and transformational retreats combining psychological and spiritual teachings with lasting and life-changing effects. An award-winning, critically acclaimed author, he has spoken at numerous universities and conferences and on the TEDx stage. His new book, Awakening the Soul of Power, was described by multiple Grammy Award–winner Gloria Estefan as “a balm for the soul of anyone searching for truth and answers to life’s difficult questions.” Christian and I are talking about: The difference between egoic power (control) and soulful power (guidance). How we can use our power to connect with our teens and avoid power struggles. How to use our power to communicate more effectively with our teens    FREE STUFF! Get a free guided meditation, power practices, and a chapter from Christian’s book at https://soulfulpower.com/. Grab my free guide “7 Secrets to Motivating Teens” at askdrcam.com/motivateteens.   If you found this episode valuable, please take a quick moment to comment and share. This helps other parents like you find the show. Thank you!!

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Men’s Coach, David Maxwell David coaches men on how to live a life with purpose and passion using his 4 A proprietary process. He’s spent the last 25 years helping young men and teenagers feel confident in who they are and the decisions they make. He has been speaking in front of small and large audiences for over 30 years and hosts “The Confident Man Podcast” on all major podcast platforms. He’s also a dad of two. David and Dr. Cam talk about: How to actively show up as a dad. How to apply our leadership skills to parenting. How to turn listening into a full-contact sport. David is offering a replay of his free webinar to the dads of my audience at www.theconfidentdad.me

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Jason Reid, Founder of Chooselife.org Jason is a serial Entrepreneur whose companies employ over 2500 people nationwide. He is also a partner at CEO Coaching International where he coaches 15 CEO's across the world. In March 2018, Jason's world changed forever when his youngest son Ryan took his own life. Jason is the Founder of Chooselife.org an organization focused on ending Teen Suicide by helping parents "Own their children's mental health." Jason and Dr. Cam talk about: What parents need to know about teen depression, anxiety, and suicide. What signs parents should look for. How parents can own their teen’s mental health. Tell My Story Film - http://www.tellmystoryfilm.com/  Choose Life non-profit - https://www.chooselife.org/    If you want to find more mental health help, I created a printable list of 30 hotlines and resources for families with teenagers. You can download it at https://www.askdrcam.com/free-resources.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Career Strategist Tamara S. Raymond.  Tamara (@TamaraSRaymond) is Founder and President of Innovative Management Consulting, Inc, which specializes in professional, career and leadership development, including guidance for teens in determining their career paths. She authored the award-winning book Careering: The Pocket Guide to Exploring Your Future Career. Her goal is to help teens step up and take charge of their future in an accountable and responsible way while still making it fun and engaging. She hopes to offer a sense of ease and purpose and build a positive perspective about their future career. Tamara and Dr. Cam talk about: Why career exploration is important and how it can help motivation and perseverance. When kids should start careering. How parents can help their kids start careering in a way that encourages them rather than stresses them out. If you want to learn more about how to help your teens succeed feel free to grab my Free Guide: 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens at askdrcam.com/motivateteens.

Tricia Robinson (@triciarobinsoncoaching) was once a successful director in corporate America. After 17 years of attempting to be a “have it all” mom with two young kids, her body and mind broke down. Tricia quit her job and spent over five years recovering from multiple injuries. Now, she’s a triathlete and a NYC marathon finisher with a dream of becoming an Ironman athlete. As a wellness coach, she helps stressed out businesswomen who are tired of running on empty to focus on self-care so that they gain back their energy, fit into their clothes, and feel empowered to fulfill their dreams. In this episode Dr. Cam and Tricia talk about:  How a simple walk can help solve complex problems The power of taking little steps to accomplish big things The benefits of nature on our body, mind, and relationship with our teen Check out Tricia’s breathing technique to help you calm down. It's great in a high stress situation or when you want to get to sleep: https://youtu.be/SlV1D1SYhXA If you want to learn even more about how to strengthen your relationship with your teen, join me for my FREE 4-day Connect with Your Teen challenge July 12-15. You can sign up at https://drcam.ck.page/connectionchallenge. Finally, if you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Tricia shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. I encourage you to share it with a friend as well.    

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with special education teacher Laura Orlando. Laura, who is also a mom, started her business Gracious Adventures to give moms creative ways to connect with their tween and teen daughters as well as tools and strategies to help build up their confidence.  Laura and Dr. Cam discuss: Creative ways to connect with your teen.  Her game-changing idea to deepen your relationship. Tips for building up your teen’s confidence. You can download Laura’s free PDF “10 ways to boost your daughter's confidence TODAY” at https://wp.me/a6uQfS-1xN. If you want to learn even more about how to set your teen up for success both at school and in life, feel free to download my gift to you: 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens Finally, if you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Laura shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. I encourage you to share it with a friend as well.    

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with counselor Desiree Panililio (@encouragingteens). Desiree’s passion is working with hesitant teens who are seeking and struggling with framing who they are and defining a clear vision of their future. She helps them take action and move forward with purpose. Desiree believes communication is the key to any relationship and that we can all use support as we navigate the teenage years.   Desiree and Dr. Cam discuss: The impact overscheduling has on our teens and what to do about it. The importance of down time for you and your teen. How to connect with your teen even if they don’t seem to want to connect with you. Read Desiree’s article at https://www.encouragingteens.com/post/teenagers-and-parents-need-to-unplug If you want to learn even more about how to set your teen up for success both at school and in life, feel free to download my gift to you: 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens Finally, if you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Desiree shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. I encourage you to share it with a friend as well.    

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Emily Maze (instagram.com/emilymaze.motherhood) a Respectful parenting coach. Emily helps moms break the cycles of anger and overwhelm, establish routines, and get their kids to listen... without yelling. She developed the Aligned Motherhood Method to help moms provide holistic support in ALL the aspects of motherhood so that they can be the parent they want to be, heal from their pasts, find balance, and finally experience joy and ease in motherhood. In this episode Emily and Dr. Cam talk about What it means to be a respectful parent What you can do today to stop the cycle of yelling and fighting How to deepen your connection with your teen If you want to learn even more about how to set your teen up for success both at school and in life, feel free to download my gift to you: 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens Finally, if you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Emily shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. I encourage you to share it with a friend as well.    

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Advanced Certified Life Coach Diana Swillinger Diana helps women who have tried to do the right thing all their lives-be a good friend, a good mom, a good wife, go to church, volunteer, recycle-but they still feel stuck and miserable. She helps women stop sabotaging themselves from experiencing the joy, love, and contentment that they want so very much by managing their minds. In this episode Dr. Cam and Diana talk about: How to chill out and parent from a place of acceptance. The difference between being chill and complacent. How our own emotions and expectations impact how we show up for our teens. Diana is offering the free video course “How to Stop Worrying.” Sign up at: https://mailchi.mp/dianaswillinger.com/stop-worrying_video-course/ If you want to learn even more about how to set your teen up for success both at school and in life, feel free to download my free gift to you: 7 Secrets to Motivating Teens at www.askdrcam.com/motivateteens Finally, if you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Diana shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. I encourage you to share it with a friend as well.    

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with teen musician, Wim Tapley. At the age of 18, Wim is one of the most ambitious artists in the D.C. area. After growing up as a musician and songwriter, he honed his craft by playing live at all of the bars, restaurants, and small venues in his hometown of South Riding, VA, leading worship at his church, and producing his own music.  Wim and Dr. Cam talk about: How to find your passion as a teen Following your dream against the odds The benefit of supporting our teen’s dreams How parents can support their teen’s dreams (even if they scare them!) Learn more about Wim and listen to his music at https://www.wimtapley.com. 

Our teens LOVE their devices, but to us parents, they open up a scary world of bullies, creeps, and social distortion. How do we keep our kids safe AND allow them to explore and connect online? In today's episode, Dr. Cam talks with Online Safety Educator Fareedah Shaheed. Fareedah is the CEO and Founder of Sekuva, where she helps parents and caretakers protect their kids online. She has taught thousands of people online security & safety, has hosted lunch and learns, and has delivered keynotes on the subject. She is a Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree and is currently serving on the Forbes board for the Under 30 community. She has been named Cybersecurity Personality of the Year 2020. And her work has been featured in Cisco, NASA, FOX 25, FOX 46, FOX Carolina, The Grio, Yahoo!, AfroTech, TripWire, Infosecurity Magazine, Fareedah has a free guide on safer games for kids. If you’d like a copy go to https://my.community.com/fareedah and text the phrase: safe games. If you want to learn more from experts like Fareedah, join me Tuesday afternoons for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. It’s free! You can register at www.askdrcam.com/powerhour. Also, if you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Fareedah shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. As always, thank you for your support!

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with parenting expert and relationship coach, Aly Pain (@AlyPainStraightTalkFierceLove).  Growing up, Aly was the smart, fun girl on the outside and a frantic, anxious mess on the inside. She spent years healing the pain of dysfunctional family relationships, including eating disorders and a suicide attempt, to break the cycle raising her own teen boys. Her passion is empowering parents to build healthy, respectful relationships with their teens without giving up or giving in, even if they've tried everything and are at their wits end. Aly and Dr. Cam get real about: Common mistakes parents make with their teens. Your teen’s biggest fear and what’s really stressing them out. How to course correct if you’re at your wit’s end."

In this episode, Dr Cam talks with pediatrician turned life coach, Dr. Lulu (@Askdoctorlulu). Dr. Lulu, who is also a mom, specializes in coaching parents of LGBTQ Kids. She helps them learn to accept, protect, nurture, and support their LGBTQ children so they can flourish and thrive without limitations or judgment. Dr. Lulu and Dr. Cam talk about: When children start to identify their sexual orientation and gender identity. How parents can support their teens as they explore their sexual orientation and gender identity. What parents can do to ensure their LGBTQ children thrive.

Today on Parenting Teens with Dr. Cam I’m joined by Cathy Murphy.   Cathy is a Productivity & Healthy Living Coach. She helps caregivers create productive healthy living habits to achieve personal dreams, goals and aspirations while caring for loved ones. We’ll be talking about how to help our teens set goals and build respect through our own actions. If you enjoyed this episode and all the amazing nuggets that Cathy shared with us, please take a quick moment to comment, like, and share. This helps other parents like you find this show.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Juan de Dios Garcia (@Garciadancer). Juan de Dios is a ballroom dance champion, entrepreneur, and couple’s coach.  In order to show up as the parents our children need us to be we must make sure our relationship as a couple is healthy and that we’re parenting as a team.  Only when we’re on the same page, focusing on the same values and priorities can provide consistent, clear guidance to our teens. Juan de Dios is going to provide some tips on how to do that. Dr. Cam and Juan de Dios discuss: The three relationships everybody has. What to do if you feel like you’re parenting in opposition with your spouse How couples can feel more connected and better support one another as parents. Juan de Dios is offering a Couples Love Challenge from May 24-29. Learn more at www.coupleslovechallenge.com If you want to learn even more about how to connect with your teen and calm the drama, be sure to join me for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. I have an incredible lineup of experts ready to share their best tips and secrets—and it’s free. You can register at https://www.askdrcam.com/powerhour.  If you enjoyed this episode and all the impactful tips that Brenna shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. Feel free to share the love with a friend as well.     Have a peaceful, positive, CALM day.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Brenna Stull (@coachmombook) the Brand Ambassador for "Coach Mom" Brenna is a renowned speaker, mentor, pastor’s wife and mother of seven children. She has been mentoring women for 25 years and has spoken to hundreds of Mom’s organizations on the local level as well as the MOPS International Convention. She is the brand ambassador of “Coach Mom” which she launched in 2007 and does professional coaching to moms internationally in her Coach Mom Tribe membership group. Stull is the author of "Coach Mom: 7 Strategies for Organizing Your Family into an All-Star Team" an international best-seller in eight categories in five countries. Dr. Cam and Brenna discuss: The most powerful way to connect with your teen How to prioritize what will help your teen thrive  Tips for intentional public affirmations by the parent at key moments Brenna is also offering free copies of her book to the first 5 audience members that request it. Go to https://www.brenna-stull.com/contact If you want to learn even more about how to connect with your teen and calm the drama, be sure to join me for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. I have an incredible lineup of experts ready to share their best tips and secrets—and it’s free. You can register at https://www.askdrcam.com/powerhour.  If you enjoyed this episode and all the impactful tips that Brenna shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. Feel free to share the love with a friend as well.     Have a peaceful, positive, CALM day.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Deborah A Rosen and Lindsey Thoms the owners of The StudyPro. StudyPro (www.TheStudyPro.com) is an executive function and study skills center in McLean, VA. They work with students to help them better manage the “process” of school. This means helping students become better planners, time managers, initiators, organizers, and completers of work. Most students aren’t taught these skills, yet they are so deeply needed to be successful at school and throughout their careers.   Dr. Cam talks with Debbie and Lindsey about: How parents can best support their teens with their schoolwork. The role executive functions (EF) play in student learning. What parents want to stop doing to avoid unnecessary stress. If you want to learn even more about how to connect with your teen and calm the drama, be sure to join me for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. I have an incredible lineup of experts ready to share their best tips and secrets—and it’s free. You can register at https://www.askdrcam.com/powerhour.  If you enjoyed this episode and all the impactful tips that Debbie and Lindsey shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. Feel free to share the love with a friend as well.     Have a peaceful, positive, CALM day.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Giselle Mascarenhas (@theinstaprofessor) a branding coach, mom, and soon to be grandma! Giselle, also known as the branding professor, has been on a mission to empower women since 2009. Her superpower is helping those of us unsure about social media find out footing and learn how to extract our magic to create a purpose-driven brand and share in a way that our core clients can feel relief knowing we exist. She is personally responsible for encouraging me to do this show!!! Her unique perspective and talents have been featured in Yahoo.Finance, Thrive Global, and Buzzfeed. Giselle teaches on a global scale, including the women’s organization Femcity and has courses, programs, and tips at https://library.boldinstatute.com. Dr. Cam and Giselle discuss: The power of listening without offering a teaching moment. The power of including your teens in important decisions. The importance of validating what your teens are feeling to build trust and empowering them to be free to express themselves.   Connect with Giselle Mascarenhas Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | Twitter   If you want to learn even more about how to connect with your teen and calm the drama, be sure to join me for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. I have an incredible lineup of experts ready to share their best tips and secrets—and it’s free. You can register at https://www.askdrcam.com/powerhour. If you enjoyed this episode and all the impactful tips that Giselle shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. Feel free to share the love with a friend as well.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Aaron Wandtke, the Founder and President of Executive Staffing Solutions (ESS). Aaron also started Purpose and Wisdom Coaches, which is focused on entrepreneurs and leaders who want to impact their companies, teams, families, and communities. Most importantly, as a father of four daughters, Aaron wants to help us inspire our own daughters to be leaders and make their lives more purposeful. Dr. Cam and Aaron discuss: How addressing our limiting beliefs impacts our parenting skills. How to define our role as a parent. The importance of adjusting our parenting style for each child. Connect with Aaron Wandtke Website | Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn   Connect with Dr. Cam at www.AskDrCam.com/contact.   If you want to learn even more about how to connect with your teen and calm the drama, be sure to join me for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. I have an incredible lineup of experts lined up to share their best tips and secrets—and it’s free. You can register here.   If you enjoyed this episode and all the impactful tips that Aaron shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. Feel free to share the love with a friend as well.

In this episode, Dr. Cam talks with Scott Jennens from Resilient Youth Australia.   Scott has taught for over 30 years, primarily with students experiencing social, emotional, and behavioral problems. For the past 3 years, Scott has been the Partnerships Manager for Resilient Youth Australia. Resilient Youth Australia has conducted wellbeing surveys in schools and captured the responses of nearly 400,000 young people. Scott believes that being Connected, Protected and Respected is the key to developing resilience in young people. Dr. Cam and Scott discuss: How to help our teens become more resilient. How to best support a teen struggling in school. Why it’s important teens feel Connected, Protected, and Respected. Scott is offering a free 69-page eBook '101 Resilience Building Ideas, packed with practical tips to help improve resilience at school and home.   If you want to learn even more about how to connect with your teen and calm the drama, be sure to join me for the Parenting Teens Power Hour. I have an incredible lineup of experts lined up to share their best tips and secrets—and it’s free. You can register at https://www.askdrcam.com/powerhour.   If you enjoyed this episode and all the impactful tips that Scott shared with us, please take a quick moment to rate and review. This helps other parents like you find this show. Feel free to share the love with a friend as well.